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Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

Private Parts Unknown Courtney Kocak

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.4 • 285 Ratings

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

    I Got Married in Las Vegas, the Wedding Capital of the World: How to Plan a “Magical,” Yet Affordable Destination Wedding

    I Got Married in Las Vegas, the Wedding Capital of the World: How to Plan a “Magical,” Yet Affordable Destination Wedding

    For the 158th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak invites listeners inside her Elvis-officiated wedding at The Little White Chapel and gives her guide to wedding planning in Las Vegas, the self-proclaimed wedding capital of the world.
    That’s right, I got married last month in Vegas! Now, I’m not the kind of girl who ever dreamed of her wedding day — I just wanted it to be fun and easy — but unexpectedly, it was one of the best days of my life. My husband even called it “magical.” In this episode, I reminisce with my husband a few days after the ceremony, you’re going to hear some audio from the wedding ceremony and reception speeches, and then I’m going to give you my wedding planning breakdown, which you are free to steal.
    Our photographer was Keith Kaplan; check out his website at keithkaplanphotographylasvegas.net. For a full list of wedding vendors, subscribe to privatepartsunknown.substack.com — I'll be sending that out in an upcoming issue.
    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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    • 57 min
    Brutally Honest About Being a Teen Dominatrix, Pregnancy After ED & More with “Brutalities” Author Margo Steines

    Brutally Honest About Being a Teen Dominatrix, Pregnancy After ED & More with “Brutalities” Author Margo Steines

    For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story.
    In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more.
    Here's the description of Brutalities:
    Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and masculinity coalesce―and how far she could push her body toward the brink. With unflinching candor, Steines searches for the roots of her erstwhile attraction to pain while charting the complicated triumph of gentleness and love.
    For more from today's guest, Margo Steines:

    Buy Margo's book Brutalities: A Love Story


    Follow Margo on Instagram @redstateblues


    Follow Margo on Twitter @margosteines


    Check out Margo's website margosteines.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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    • 35 min
    Rethinking Your Relationship with Alcohol with "Dry Humping" Author Tawny Lara

    Rethinking Your Relationship with Alcohol with "Dry Humping" Author Tawny Lara

    For the 156th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Tawny Lara, sober sexpert and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, for a conversation that might have you rethinking your relationship with alcohol.
    We discuss Tawny's sobriety journey and why she decided to document it, sex with alcohol vs. sex without alcohol, the role liquid courage plays in our romantic lives, ideas for non-awkward sober dates, tips for dating someone who doesn't drink, what to do if you're reevaluating your relationship with booze, and more.
    For more from today's guest, Tawny Lara:

    Subscribe to Tawny's Substack, Beyond Liquid Courage https://tawnylara.substack.com/welcome


    Follow Tawny on Instagram @tawnymlara


    Buy Tawny's book Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze


    Check out Tawny's new botanical beverage (parentheses) https://www.drinkparentheses.com/



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off.

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

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    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 30 min
    How Gabrielle Stone Got Her Groove Back After TWO Devastating Breakups

    How Gabrielle Stone Got Her Groove Back After TWO Devastating Breakups

    For the 155th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Gabrielle Stone, author of Eat, Pray, #FML and host of FML Talk.
    If you've recently been dumped or are struggling to get over a past relationship, this episode is for you! This is the ultimate breakup recovery guide to help you not just survive but thrive after your breakup. No matter how desperate you feel or how embarrassing things have gotten with your ex, you CAN heal your heartbreak, and we'll tell you how.
    Gabrielle shares her incredible story with not one but two happy endings. We also discussed whether you should implement the no-contact rule, toxic relationships, love-bombing, the benefits of journaling through the pain, "the thought onion," why the length of your relationship doesn't always correspond to the level of post-breakup grief, and more.
    For more from today's guest, Gabrielle Stone:

    Check out Gabrielle's website eatprayfml.com


    Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestone


    Buy Gabrielle's books Eat, Pray, #FML and The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts.

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 39 min
    Stuck in a Sex Rut? Ian Kerner Helps Us Repair Our Love Lives with "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex"

    Stuck in a Sex Rut? Ian Kerner Helps Us Repair Our Love Lives with "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex"

    For the 154th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot.
    Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and the recently released So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were. 
    For more Ian Kerner:

    Order Ian's book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex


    Follow Ian on Twitter @IanKerner


    Check out Ian's website iankerner.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts.

    Flure is a dating app where fun, wild, and safe collide. Download the Flure app, set your relationship goals—whether it's a long-term thing or a rendezvous with a hot stud—be real, be shamelessly you, and I promise, you'll have a blast! flure.com


    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 50 min
    Pet Loss, Part 3: The Agony & Ecstasy of Animal Rescue & Saving Abused Dogs From Skid Row with Joey Tuccio

    Pet Loss, Part 3: The Agony & Ecstasy of Animal Rescue & Saving Abused Dogs From Skid Row with Joey Tuccio

    For the 153rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Joey Tuccio, president and CEO of Roadmap Writers, for the final episode in our three-part series on pet loss.
    Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here, and part two with Beth Bigler, listen here.)
    Joey Tuccio is heavily involved with animal rescue efforts, including saving abused dogs from Skid Row. Of course, we talk about pet loss and navigating the grief, but we also share how to get involved and make dogs' lives better, even if you can't take a dog into your home at the moment.

    For more Joey Tuccio:

    Follow Joey on Instagram @joey.tuccio


    Follow Joey on Twitter @joey_tuccio


    Check out the Roadmap Writers website roadmapwriters.com



    Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
    Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

    Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod

    STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.

    Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.

    Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Fleshlight is offering Private Parts Unknown listeners 10% off with code PRIVATE10. Go to ppupod.com, click Fleshlight, and enter code PRIVATE10 at checkout.

    https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds


    If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private 
    Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com
    Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 38 min

Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
285 Ratings

285 Ratings

Fancy1974 ,

Loving your podcast

I was expecting more about sex lol, which is what pulled me in. But I’m so glad to be here for all the many “parts” of life and relationships that you are highlighting. Keep it up! You’re doing a great job! Sincerely, The bored but so busy housekeeper !!

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Thought provoking coverage of taboo topics!

This podcast gets me thinking. She covers topics that aren’t mainstream, but in a sensitive, comprehensive and balanced way. It’s definitely the podcast that gets me and keeps me thinking, and I love discussing it with my partner!

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Fun, informative, interesting even if you’re more vanilla

This is honestly interesting and insightful. I enjoy hearing about other people’s experiences and getting a fresh perspective. While some things are definitely not my bag, I appreciate understanding how other people experience relationships

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