
83 episodes

Semi-Together Gillian Burgess & Melia Dicker
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4.9 • 30 Ratings
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Semi-Together is a podcast by sisters Gillian Burgess and Melia Dicker about having some of your life together all of the time. It’s about working on where you want to get it together, while giving yourself credit for where you’ve got it together. As we learn to live with more calm, joy, and authenticity, we share takeaways from our research and experience that you can use, too.
Topics: Perfectionism, self-compassion, personal development, anxiety, stress, coping skills, psychology, goals, authenticity, vulnerability, ADHD, optimism, happiness, humor, joy, evolving, self-care, gratitude
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Ep. 71: How to Feel the Feels, and Why It Matters
Our upbringing, culture, and traumatic experiences can disconnect us from our emotions and intuition. Many of us get stuck in our minds and stop noticing the pain or discomfort in our bodies, so we miss signals that are crucial to our well-being.
In this episode, we discuss why feeling your emotions matters and how to do it. We share practices that are teaching us to feel it all, and which you can use to do the same.
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com
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Ep. 70: Dealing with Disappointment
Wellllll 🤬🤬🤬
Sometimes things don’t go as planned. You realize that a situation is out of your control, there’s nothing you can do about it, and it just plain sucks.
This episode is unfortunately inspired by recent real-life events. We were supposed to meet in D.C. this month for some much-needed sister time, but the universe/ pandemic had other plans.
One of our coping mechanisms is thinking, “It’s all content,” when things don’t go our way. In that spirit, we share five strategies to help you deal with disappointment when reality falls short of your expectations.
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com
Resources:
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown
Unlocking Us podcast: Comparative Suffering, the 50/50 Myth, and Settling the Ball
Episode 44: Pressing the Reset Button
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Ep. 69: Get Out of Your Own Way by Knowing Your Enneagram Type, with Alicia Ross
If you’ve heard us refer to our Enneagram types in previous episodes (Melia is a 1, Gill is a 7) and wondered what the heck we were talking about, or if you are familiar with the Enneagram framework and want to learn more, this episode is for you!
We talk to our dear friend Alicia Ross, a certified Enneagram coach who is starting a new Enneagram training and coaching business this summer.
The pandemic has brought out the worst in most of us at some point – the way we act when we’re overwhelmed and scared. As challenging as this period is, it’s also an opportunity to look at why we do the things we do, even when we know they don’t serve us. Alicia shares:
How the Enneagram personality system can help us understand these patterns, give us more compassion for ourselves and other people, and open up the space to make a different choice.
Descriptions of the 9 Enneagram types in this context, highlighting what causes stress for each type, and how each can find more balance, peace, sanity, and connection.
For reference, we’ve included timestamps for each type:
Overview of the Enneagram: What is it, how it’s useful, and how it differs from other personality systems - 4:48
Type One, The Reformer - 22:59
Type Two, The Helper - 33:29
Type Three, The Achiever - 43:06
Type Four, The Individualist - 52:41
Type Five, The Investigator - 61:11
Type Six, The Loyalist - 70:17
Type Seven, The Enthusiast - 76:36
Type Eight, The Challenger - 86:20
Type Nine, The Peacemaker - 95:11
Learn more about Alicia Ross and her Enneagram workshops and coaching: https://www.enneagramgrowthpath.com/
Read more about each type on the Enneagram Institute website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com
Ryan O’Neal’s Sleeping at Last album of moving songs about Enneagram type: https://open.spotify.com/album/1R3C4VebWmWXFlbTSnnLql?si=WJstRap5SlKS0cwrFVeLaA
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether
Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com
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Ep. 68: How to Set Internal Boundaries
When we think about setting boundaries, many of us focus on external boundaries: the limits we set with other people around our time, physical space, privacy, etc. But internal boundaries – those we need to protect our inner worlds from outside influences – are just as important, and often more difficult to set and hold.
In this episode, we discuss what it looks like to have healthy internal boundaries that nurture our self-trust and confidence, and help us take responsibility for our actions and well-being. In our Get It Together / Got It Together segment, we each share the internal boundaries we want to strengthen, and the ones that we've done the work to establish.
Let us know how you manage your own internal boundaries. Which limits feel strong, and which are you still working on?
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether
Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com
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Ep. 67: Expanding the F**k It List
Heads up that this episode contains swearing.
Let’s revisit The F**k It List! We recorded an episode on this topic back in February 2021, a year into the pandemic, when we were reevaluating our priorities and deciding how we want to spend our precious time and energy going forward.
Making a F**k It List is a fun and liberating exercise. Think of it as the anti-Bucket List. Instead of “Things to do before you die,” it’s “Things to stop doing so you can fully live.”
The F**k It List can also be an alternative to short-term goal lists or resolutions. It’s a list of things that we may have done out of obligation, or optics, or in service of goals we used to have, but we are consciously letting go of, because we get to decide.
Tell us what's on your own F**k It List at podcast@semitogether.com.
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether
Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com
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Ep. 66: Poetry That Helps Us Feel It All
As National Poetry Month begins, we discuss the power of poetry to express emotion, read some of our favorite poems, and share what they mean to us. Become a patron of the podcast on Patreon (linked below) and read a couple of poems we’ve written that are close to our hearts.
Gill gives a health update and thanks our people for all of their loving support. Melia reveals what is helping her sleep better after many restless nights.
We’d love to hear your favorite poems and the role that reading or writing poetry has played in your life. Email us or send a voice memo to podcast@semitogether.com.
Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com
Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether
Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether
Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether
Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD to get things done in ways that work for our wild, creative brains: www.risingspiralcoaching.com.
Poems that have special meaning for us:
Ithaka, by C.P. Cavafy
[love is more thicker than forget], by e.e. Cummings
Sonnet XVII, by Pablo Neruda
The Dream Keeper, by Langston Hughes
The Guest House, by Rumi
Singsong, by Rita Dove
The Thing Is, by Ellen Bass
Phenomenal Woman, by Maya Angelou
Those Winter Sundays, by Robert Hayden
We Shake With Joy, by Mary Oliver
Don’t Hesitate, by Mary Oliver
This Be the Verse, by Philip Larkin
The Hill We Climb, by Amanda Gorman
Rollercoaster, by Jasmine Gardosi
Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver
Love Poem, by John Frederick Nims
[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in], by e.e. Cummings
[in Just-] by e.e. Cummings
“Milkshake” poem from the movie Before Sunrise
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Customer Reviews
Real talk, with warmth and wit
After a day of stress, sisters Gill and Melia give me the oasis of calm I need. They talk easily, but productively, about the challenges in their everyday lives, without sugar-coating them or making them feel hopeless. I walk away from their convos feeling a little bit lighter, armed with ideas on how to set goals or how to banish that insidious S-word — “should” — from my inner voice. It’s a reliable spot to learn and relax!
Amazing hosts, thoughtful conversations!
This podcast is everything that you need to calm your mind down when you’re anxious or worried about the tough situations in your life. The hosts will cheer you up and provide you tangible steps that you can take in your life to improve it. This is my favorite bed time podcast to listen to. Highly recommended!
Thoughtful and inspiring
I love how organized the episodes are and I’m grateful for the actionable takeaways they provide. It is so affirming to hear people talk about things I have struggled with for years. Thank you for putting so much dedication into this podcast!!