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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

    Paul Bloom | To Live a Fulfilling Life

    Paul Bloom | To Live a Fulfilling Life

    In today’s episode, we cover the pursuit of meaning with Paul Bloom. Paul is Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Yale University, is the author of six books including his newest book, The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning.

     

    The pursuit of meaning is often overshadowed by the pursuit of happiness, but which one is more important to living a fulfilling life, how are suffering, meaning, and happiness related, and what steps can you take to pursue meaning in your life?

     

    What to Listen For
    Introduction – 0:00
    How does science define suffering and why is some good while some is bad?
    Why do we seek out sorrow, suffering, and pain in experiences like spicy food, roller coasters, scary movies, etc?

     
    Pursuit of Happiness vs Pursuit of Meaning – 11:40
    How does pain lead to an increased sense of meaning in life?
    How does money influence our suffering and happiness?
    Why are people in rich countries generally happy while people in poor countries have more meaning in life?
    What can you do to help your children understand the difference between happiness and meaning in life?

     
    A fulfilling existence is not just about positive feelings – 31:56 
    Why is it important to embrace painful experiences on a regular basis?
    How can you find meaning in life without thinking about it or intentionally seeking it out?
    Is there a link between chasing prestige, status, and meaning?
    What is the difference between pursuing pleasure and pursuing meaning?
    How can anxiety prevent you from finding meaning in life and what can you do to overcome it?

     

    It is unfortunate that we put so much effort into avoiding pain, discomfort, and suffering. It is understandable from a short term perspective because it is natural for anything that feels pain to avoid things that cause pain. But it is the pain, discomfort, and suffering in our lives that leads to us learning and becoming stronger, wiser, more competent humans. This is not to say you should go outside and break your arm, but that pain is inevitable, and if we can learn to embrace it and work through it, those efforts will pay off much more in the long run than simply trying to be comfortable and safe as much as possible.

     

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    Resources from this Episode

    The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning

    Paul Bloom’s website

    Paul Bloom on Twitter

    Master Your Mindset with David Goggings | AoC Podcast

     

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    AJ on Instagram

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    • 59 min
    Katy Milkman | How to Change Your Behavior

    Katy Milkman | How to Change Your Behavior

    In today’s episode, we cover how to change with Katy Milkman. Katy is a professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, host of Charles Schwab’s popular behavioral economics podcast Choiceology, and the former president of the international Society for Judgment and Decision Making.

     

    Making long lasting changes in our behavior can be difficult, so what mindsets help us to make changes, what can you do to overcome low confidence when making big changes, and how do you overcome procrastination so you don’t keep putting off the life you want? 

     

    What to Listen For
    Introduction – 0:00
    What mindsets are best suited to achieving long lasting results when attempting to change something about yourself?

     
    Overcoming low confidence when making big changes – 14:00
    What can you do if you don’t feel confident in your ability to improve yourself or make a big change in your life?
    What can you do to create accountability in you and your friends’ lives?
    What simple and powerful tip can you implement to make hard habits easier to form?

     
    Strategies for overcoming procrastination – 25:00 
    What strategies can you implement to overcome procrastination?
    How can you set up your life so it makes it easier for you to make better decisions for yourself?

     

    It’s not easy to make long-lasting improvements in our lives. Fortunately, there is plenty of science to show us different ways to make those improvements easier, whether it’s relying on friends for accountability, associating the behavior change with a positive activity you enjoy, or even different ways of punishing yourself for not following through with your commitments.

     

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    Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Katy Milkman’s website

    How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Katy Milkman

    Stickk website

    Beeminder website

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

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    • 48 min
    Brian Primack | Social Media Mental Health

    Brian Primack | Social Media Mental Health

    In today’s episode, we cover social media’s impact on mental health with Dr Brian Primack. Brian is the dean of the College of Education and Health Professions at the University of Arkansas, the professor of public health and medicine, and is the author of You Are What You Click: How Being Selective, Positive, and Creative Can Transform Your Social Media Experience.

     

    Science is showing us that social media use in any dose can have detrimental effects on our mental health, so what can we do to ensure we have a positive experience on social media and protect ourselves and those we care about its effects? 

     

    What to Listen For
    Introduction – 0:00
    What amount of social media use won’t increase the risk for mental health issues?

     
    Social Media vs Traditional Media – 11:37
    What does “You are what you click” mean?
    How are social media algorithms working against your mental health and what can you do about it?
    What are the two things we can control while using social media that limit the harm it does to us?

     
    Do different platforms have different impacts? – 21:47 
    Does the number of social media platforms you use impact your risk for mental health issues?
    What can you do to have a positive experience on social media so you’re not negatively impacting your mental health every time you log in?
    How much impact does social media use have on your quality of sleep and what can you do about it?

     
    The damage of constantly comparing yourself to others – 31:00 
    Why is it bad for you to constantly be looking at the highlight reels of other people's lives and what strategies can you use to overcome the harm?
    What effect do parasocial relationships have on your mental health?

     
    Social media, misinformation, and disinformation – 42:17 
    How do the algorithms used by social media lead to drastically different perceptions of who you know and the world around you?
    What can we do to guard our own mental health as well as the people we care about who aren’t aware of the dangers of social media use?

     

    The simplest way to prevent the harm done to us by social media use is to stop using social media altogether. But that’s easier said than done for many people, so what can you do if eliminating social media from your life isn’t feasible?

     

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    Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.

     

    Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    You Are What You Click by Brian Primack

    Brian Primack’s website

    You Are What You Click Personality Quiz

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

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    • 1 hr 6 min
    Peter Bregman | How to Get the Most Value Out of Your Team

    Peter Bregman | How to Get the Most Value Out of Your Team

    In today’s episode, we cover changing ourselves and others with Peter Bregman. Peter blends his deep expertise in business, leadership, and people to deliver quantifiable results in business, professional, and personal development, and is the bestselling author and contributor of over 18 books, including his newest book, You CAN Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game. 

     

    Changing other people is not easy, but there are steps we can take to make positive changes in other peoples’ lives and do so in a high value cooperative way, so why do people resist change so much, what are the four things anyone needs before they will change, and how do approach people about making a change without coming across as the critic or the bad guy?

      

    What to Listen For
    Why do we struggle so much trying to change people – 1:53
    Why do we readily accept changes we make for ourselves but strongly resist changes that other people try to make for us?
    What is the most important skill you can develop as a leader in your organization?
    What are the misconceptions we have about changing ourselves and people around us?

     
    The 4 things people need before they’ll change – 8:30
    What gets in the way of people making changes in their lives and how can we help them make the changes they want?
    What emotion do we experience that makes it so much harder for us to change?

     
    Strategies to manage emotions in high pressure situations – 30:31 
    How do you approach helping people improve themselves so you are viewed as a friend or ally rather than the enemy?

     
    Indicators of a thorough plan for implementing change – 46:13 
    What can you do to implement change in your organization if you are not yet in an official leadership position?

     

    Changing other people is not easy, and that’s a good thing. If it were easy to change other people, that would make it easy for other people to change you. As individuals, we cherish our autonomy. We value our ability to be ourselves and resist the changes other people want us to make. With that said, none of us is perfect and we all have areas in our lives that could be improved and make our lives better. But in order for us to be open to allowing other people to help change us, there are four things we need. Once we have all four, we can come up with a plan and be held accountable by someone other than ourselves.

     

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    Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    You Can Change Other People by Peter Bregman

    Bregman Partners website

    Peter Bregman on LinkedIn

    Peter Bregman on Twitter

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

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    • 59 min
    Toolbox | 7 Simple Ways to Identify Toxic Relationships and 5 Powerful Tips to Remove Them

    Toolbox | 7 Simple Ways to Identify Toxic Relationships and 5 Powerful Tips to Remove Them

    In today’s episode, we cover toxic relationships with AJ, Johnny, and Michael.

     

    Toxic relationships can suck the joy and satisfaction out of our lives, so what can you do to recognize the toxic relationships in your life, what can you do to remove them, and what traits should you look for when bringing new people into your life? 

      

    What to Listen For
    What makes a toxic person toxic – 0:00
    What one question can you ask yourself to determine if someone in your life is toxic?
    What situations draw out toxic people in our lives and how can we recognize them when they show themselves?

     
    Identifying toxic people in your life – 11:49
    What simple methods can you use to identify toxic relationships in your life?
    How can your own self-awareness help you recognize why you are surrounding yourself with certain people?
    What can you do to support friends and family who have different values than you?

     
    The 7 signs of toxic people  – 22:44 
    What are the 3 ways toxic people will try to control you and stop you from pursuing your goals?
    What are 4 ways your generosity can be taken advantage of by toxic individuals?

     
    The 3 high value traits of non-toxic people – 51:03 
    What traits should you look for in potential friends and professional connections?

     
    Removing toxic people from your life – 54:54 
    What are 5 ways to remove toxic people from your life?

     

    Loneliness and toxic relationships have been on the rise over the last couple of decades. But what does it mean for a relationship to be toxic? The easiest way is to ask yourself, “Is this person taking away happiness or purpose from my life?” Now, no one is perfect so there might be moments when you feel that way about a person, but if you feel that way consistently about someone, it’s time to see if their behavior is on our list of 7 traits of toxic people and then determine how you want to handle it.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.

     

    Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    The 7 Signs of Toxic People (Cheat Sheet)

    Michael Herold’s TEDx Talk

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

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    • 1 hr 6 min
    Dr. Wendy Suzuki | Take Charge of Your Anxiety Today Using These 5 Time-tested Tactics

    Dr. Wendy Suzuki | Take Charge of Your Anxiety Today Using These 5 Time-tested Tactics

    In today’s episode, we cover anxiety with Dr Wendy Suzuki. Dr Suzuki is a professor of neural science and psychology at the New York University’s Center for Neural Science, and the author of “Healthy Brain, Happy Life: A Personal Program to to Activate Your Brain and Do Everything Better” and her newest book, “Good Anxiety: Harnessing the Power of the Most Misunderstood Emotion.”

     

    Anxiety is typically something we try to avoid, but why do we avoid it, what does science tell us about anxiety, and how can we use anxiety to our advantage?

      

    What to Listen For
    Introduction – 2:35
    What is good anxiety and how do you recognize when anxiety is good or bad for you?
    How do you recognize when the anxiety you’re experiencing is bad enough that you should seek help?
    What behaviors might you be exhibiting that make your anxiety worse?

     
    Relationships and their impact on our anxiety – 11:32
    How do your relationships impact your anxiety and what can you do to mitigate that impact?
    What simple exercise can you do anywhere to get a handle on your everyday anxiety?
    How can you use small rituals and habits to stop your anxiety from ruining your daily activities and responsibilities?

     
    Conquering anxiety  – 27:12
    What can you do if your anxiety is stopping you from falling asleep at night?
    What simple mental exercises can you use to diffuse your anxiety so it doesn’t have such a strong influence on your life?
    How can you prepare for social events so your anxiety doesn’t ruin the event for you?

     
    Managing anxiety in loved ones – 39:30 
    What can you do as parents if you are concerned about anxiety in your children?
    What do many of us do to make our anxiety worse when we believe it’s actually making our anxiety better? 

     

    We tend to place anxiety into a category of emotions we try to avoid. While you can experience anxiety that is so bad it warrants professional help, the anxiety most of us deal with on a daily basis can be embraced for what it can teach us about ourselves and the people around us. If you want to better manage your anxiety, start by looking at it from a place of curiosity and creativity. Next time you’re experiencing anxiety, take a moment to ask yourself where the anxiety is coming from. The more you can look at your anxiety objectively, the faster it will subside and be manageable. 

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.

     

    Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Dr Wendy Suzuki’s website

    Good Anxiety: Harnessing the Power of the Most Misunderstood Emotion

    Healthy Brain, Happy Life: A Personal Program to to Activate Your Brain and Do Everything Better

    Dr Wendy Suzuki on Twitter

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

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    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
11.1K Ratings

11.1K Ratings

JStoneCo ,

Entertaining. Engaging. Educational.

The perfect blend of book smarts and humor. Jordan has a knack for interviewing people and getting them to open up and have real conversations. I tuned into the Noah Kagan episode (if you haven't checked it out you should) and I found myself rewinding multiple times because it was funny and very informative. I especially enjoyed when Noah shared his process for reverse engineering a desired result. It's a simple process that can benefit anyone in almost any situation. For example, Noah mentioned that he reversed engineered his clothing choices when he desired a particular response - and he wasn't talking about wearing anything weird or graphic. He also gave an example of how to create content that has a much greater chance of going viral. The alternative being content that gets little to no readership or views, and certainly no likes or shares.

I'm very impressed with the high level of content and the delivery.

If you're looking to improve your communcation in dating, business, networking, or in any other area this show can help you.

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Wow

These guys have an awesome show running. You will not be able to find a better regularly updated source for knowledge on the subject of social dynamics. They have big name guests, an awesome community forum on their website, and they host some really awesome events in various cities. Check 'em out!

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Awesome Hosts, Phenomenal Show

By far the best free source of information on social dynamics and the world of dating. AJ and Jordan's motives behind the podcast are purely altruistic, and it shows in every single episode. Not only do they really know their stuff, but they bring on a wide range of guests who have particular insights in specific areas of dating that have proved absolutely invaluable to me during my ongoing personal transformation. These guys rock!

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