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In today’s episode, we cover how to become the super connector everyone wants to know. 
 
Super Connectors aren't born with some special talent. By understanding what others value from a connection, focusing on how each person can help the other rather than focusing on what's in it for themselves, and making sure all interactions leave both parties feeling inspired and motivated, super connectors make invaluable connections that open doors to success. In this episode we explore what makes a successful super connector as well as simple steps to get on track towards becoming one yourself.

What to Listen For
Introduction – 0:00


Adam Grant and the Secret to Effective Networking – 3:35

How do you amplify your social capital and build a high value network in five minutes?

What is the secret to making your networking efforts more effective?



Super Connector Toolbox – 28:40 

What is the best way to introduce two people you think will benefit from knowing each other?

What’s the best way to follow up with someone you meet at a networking event?



Keith Ferrazzi and Upgrading Acquaintances to Friends – 36:50

What are the 8 attributes of a high performing relationship?

How do you turn an acquaintance into a lifelong friend?


Building a high value network and amplifying your social capital need not be a long, drawn out process. Just five minutes a day can go a long way in making your connections more valuable and meaningful. Start by introducing two people that you think could benefit from knowing each other, as this is a great way to get the ball rolling. Following up with someone soon after meeting them at an event is important to foster a new relationship. Connecting on an emotional level, being sincere, and sharing your knowledge are all essential pieces for creating strong bonds with others. 
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In today’s episode, we cover how patterns from your childhood impact your current relationships with Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed family and marriage therapist, the author of the national bestseller The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love,
 
We all have behaviors that help and hurt us, but the behaviors that hurt us aren’t always obvious, so what can you do to identify the behavioral patterns that negatively impact your life and relationships and what can you do to overcome them so you can build confidence and long-lasting fulfilling relationships?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How do our childhood experiences create patterns in our relationships, behavior, and communication?



Identifying old wounds you don’t know about – 14:40

What are the obvious signs you have detrimental thought patterns left over from your childhood that are negatively impacting your relationships today?

How do you stop dating people who aren’t good for you?



Breaking patterns and healing old wounds – 29:00 

What steps can you take to break harmful patterns in yourself and heal the wounds that cause the patterns to keep repeating?



The value of grief – 39:50

What is grief exactly and why is it important to feel and process grief when we experience it?

How does dealing with your grief improve your relationships and prevent them from failing?


Breaking childhood patterns is something that can take time, but it is an important step for anyone in order to create relationships that are healthy and fulfilling. Whether you are trying to build healthier relationships with friends or a romantic partner, understanding your family system is key. Taking a closer look at the childhood patterns that show up in adult life can provide insight into how we interact with others and sabotage our social and romantic relationships. By implementing the four-step process laid out in this episode, you can start breaking these patterns today, pivot in directions that bring joy and confidence, and create more dynamic relationships as a result of it. After working through this process, you will be empowered by the new-found understanding of what brought you to your current reality - giving yourself permission to make different choices going forward will reward you mentally and affirmingly for many years to come.
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In today’s episode, we cover dating and building attraction effortlessly with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.

Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected, so why are we dealing with a pandemic of loneliness and what can you do to lift yourself out of it and create a vibrant social life?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Does the pandemic of loneliness affect men or women more and what can we do about it?

What 3 areas in your life is technology hindering you the most and what can you do to develop them, unlocking your true potential?



Go from Ordinary to Extraordinary – 13:02

What can you do to be extraordinary and remain authentic to who you are?

How do you learn to be funnier and more charming?



Building Rock Solid Confidence – 25:35 

How do you build confidence and why do you need to work on it in order to maintain it?



All Men Need a Vibrant Social Life – 35:23

Why is it important to have a vibrant social circle if you want to find a quality romantic partner?

How do you build a social life women will be excited to be a part of?


Loneliness affects us all. To conquer this sadness we need to work on ourselves and embrace technology but also find ways to have genuine human interactions. Begin by building confidence which comes from pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, openly expressing your feelings and striving to be the best version of yourself. Socializing with others is also essential for living a fulfilled life, as it helps you build connections and find prospective romantic partners. By being authentic, striving for excellence and working on self-improvement you can become an extraordinary individual while also valuing companionship without disregarding your independence. Start making connections today that will help you release the pandemic of loneliness in your life and boost your chances of living an enriching life full of quality relationships!
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In today’s episode, we cover the importance of improvising with Kelly Leonard. Kelly's career in the theater industry began by accident. He was hired as a dishwasher at Second City in Chicago, where he met John Favreau. He realized improv was not magic, but a skill that could be practiced and applied in business, parenting, and relationships. Kelly established himself as an executive producer for Second City, coordinating performances for generations of comics, actors, and writers. Kelly has written a book, "Yes, And," outlining how he believes the core principles behind improvisation can be applied to spark and drive collaboration.

In this episode of The Art of Charm, we explore the world of improvisation and its many benefits in communication, comedy, and creativity. From empathy and collaboration to resilience through failure, our guest speaker shares his experiences using improv to navigate ambiguity and uncertainty. We discuss the importance of listening, reframing, and storytelling, as well as the concept of post traumatic growth. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How did Kelly Leonard get started in improv?

Why is improv important for innovation?



The Core Principles of Improv – 10:58

What are the core principles of improv and why do they apply to many areas of life?

How do you lead a healthy conversation with someone you disagree with?



The Magic of Mistakes – 24:02 

How do we leverage mistakes to create success or make progress toward your goals?

What simple exercise can you use to reframe negative events in your life to be positive?



Creating Comedy – 42:30

How do you formally create comedy?

How do you give status to people you’re talking to?

What simple tool can you start using today to make conversations easier, engaging, and more fun for anyone involved?


Many of us are familiar with improv comedy but did you know the principles of improv can be used in business, parenting, and relationships? Every time you have a conversation with someone, you are improvising because you can’t predict what the other person will say and so you must improvise every time the other person responds to something you say. The best conversations are fluid and dynamic, making both people feel comfortable and natural. But to be good at improvising, you must practice it just like you would any other skill. 

Resources from this Episode
Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses "No, But" Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration by Kelly Leonard
Kelly Leonard on Twitter
Second City’s website

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In today’s episode, we cover harnessing the five senses to level up your life with Gretchen Rubin. Gretchen is an author and speaker who discovered the power of connecting with the five senses. After a visit to the eye doctor, where she learned she was at risk of losing her vision, she realized how much she took her senses for granted. Her epiphany led her to explore how we can use our senses to be happier and more fulfilled. Gretchen now shares her insights on how to pump up, calm down, get focused, get creative, and connect with others by tapping into the power of the five senses.

On this episode of The Art of Charm, we delve into the fascinating topic of how our senses shape our perception of the world around us. We learn that while preferences for taste are innate, preferences for smells are learned associations that vary by culture and personal experience. We explore how we can use our senses to improve our well-being, including listening better, using touch to calm anxiety, and substituting sensory stimulation to curb unhealthy snacking habits. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Why do we prefer certain senses (touch, taste, smell, sound, sight) over others and how do we tune into our neglected senses to get more out of life?

How do our senses help connect us with other people?



How your culture influences your five senses – 16:01

How does the culture you grow up in influence the way you perceive the world through your senses?

How do you use your senses to make time slow down so life doesn’t fly by so quickly?



Nurture neglected senses to get more out of life – 23:58 

What simple exercise can you do to make everyday experiences feel new and exciting again?



Use your senses to conquer weaknesses – 31:22

How can you tap into your five senses to overcome cravings for unhealthy foods?

How do you use your sense of touch to overcome anxiety?


Delve into the fascinating topic of how our senses shape our perception of the world around us. While preferences for taste are innate, preferences for smells are learned associations that vary by culture and personal experience. We can use our senses to improve our well-being, including listening better, using touch to feel calm, and substituting sensory stimulation to curb unhealthy snacking habits. We also delve into the power of our brains to recognize faces and the challenges of navigating open-plan offices. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on the role of our senses in our daily lives.

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Resources from this Episode
Gretchen Rubin’s website
Gretchen Rubin | Happiness and the Four Tendencies
Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World by Gretchen Rubin

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In today’s episode, we cover the most valuable lessons Navy SEALS have shared with us over the years.

Navy SEALS are some of the toughest guys on the planet, so what can they teach you about motivation, overcoming your deepest fears, rising to be the best leader you can be, and setting goals to help you achieve your dreams and unlock your potential?   

What to Listen For
Introduction – 0:00


David Goggins – 3:28

How did David Goggins find the strength and motivation to unlock his potential and overcome all of his limiting beliefs?

What helped David Goggins pull off superhuman feats like running over 70 ultra-distance races and doing 4000 pull ups in 17 hours? 



Rich Diviney – 21:30 

What’s the difference between anxiety and insecurity and what can you do to overcome both?

What can you do to feel more confident about the present and your future?

Why do we feel fear and what can you do to overcome your fears so you can unlock your potential?

How do you become a better leader?



Dan Luna – 47:25

What can you learn about goal setting from a Navy SEAL so you can achieve your wildest dreams?

How do you stop being so hard on yourself?


True confidence comes from knowing you can perform no matter what the environment is like around you. Fear is a combination of uncertainty and anxiety, but you can control both by asking yourself what you can control in the moment and taking action towards it. Exposure to fear helps train your brain to step through fear and get less afraid. Developing our attributes takes self-motivation, self-direction, and a willingness to step into discomfort and uncertainty. And remember, practicing stepping into fears can lead to greater confidence and resilience. 

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Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle?

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But there’s something you can do about it.

After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we’ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks.

We’ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023.

To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc

Resources from this Episode
Master Your Mindset with David Goggins (Episode 730)
Rich Diviney | 5 Navy Seal Attributes To Annihilate Any Obstacle
5 Tips To Lead Like A Navy SEAL In Any Setting | Dan Luna

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