The Codependent Millennial Podcast Sophie Shiloh

Love does NOT have to be ABOUT PAIN AND SUFFERING.

You don't deserve to suffer & self-sacrifice in your relationships.
It's that simple.
If this confuses you & if you need some CLEAR, practical instructions about how to make your relationships and your life less painful, this episode (and this replay of the workshop that I taught about this topic) will help you immensely.
In this episode of the podcast, I answer many questions that were submitted to me about this topic by my email & text subscribers.
These questions are deeply honest, vulnerable, brave, & relatable. The clarity you're looking for is waiting for you in the questions that I give you to reflect on during this episode.
Get the replay here for the “Stop Self-Sacrificing & Calling it LOVE” Class.
You don’t have to live another moment in agonizing confusion and chaos within your relationships.
You’ll walk away from this episode and the replay of this workshop knowing EXACTLY how to answer your own questions & be your own guiding light in the midst of painful relationship struggles.
You deserve happiness. It doesn't have to be so complicated.
Get the replay of the class HERE.
Get my free codependency cheat sheet here.
Take the free codependency quiz here.
 

Why do we put ourselves through so much pain and suffering all in an attempt to simply avoid feeling a painful emotion?

Think about it:  How much BS have you put yourself through because you were trying to avoid that nagging sense of shame, or that crushing feeling of loneliness, or the aching feeling of resentment, anger, fear?

How many destructive decisions have you made out of impulse or avoidance or acting out in response to an emotion that you didn't know how to handle?

We get ourselves deep into avoidance tactics and addictive numbing behaviors, completely avoiding the healing that is available to us when we stop running.

You don't have to do this anymore.

This episode will help you understand the difference between pushing your feelings down and actually feeling, expressing, and releasing them.
It will also detail specific actions that you can take to start creating a more emotionally stable and secure environment for yourself.

When you do that you'll start to become less emotionally volatile in general, let alone when you're trying to avoid a particularly painful feeling. In other words, you'll just start feeling better more of the time.

Minute 7:15 is especially important, as is 9:30-11:30. 

You can also find the transcript here if you'd like to read rather than listen.

There are specific instructions in this episode that you can follow. They are simple, free, and universally accessible no matter your situation.

Enjoy, love.

To schedule a 1:1 session with me, click here.

To apply for my group mentorship program, click here.

To get my free Cheat Sheet, click here.

Schedule a 1:1 session with me here.

Get the FREE Codependency Cheat Sheet here.
Learn more about how I help my clients heal their codependency here.
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I recorded this episode while on a wonderful & rainy walk this morning. Warning: it is RAMBLY. Very rambly. Also I'm out of breath. Enjoy.
I haven't uploaded a podcast in a very long time, and I wanted to share a little bit about why that is.
This episode will also help you check in to see how well you trust yourself.
It's important that you make sure that you're not relying on your coach or therapist to make your decisions for you.
Yes, it's helpful and important to learn information that helps you make better decisions.

But when it comes to the actual decision making, you  must develop the ability to do that YOURSELF.

Even when you try to get people to make decisions for you (we all want that sometimes, don't we?) it doesn't work.

Work on your own self trust & decision making skills with the info I share in the second half of this episode.
Enjoy!
For more personalized help with trusting yourself and making sound decisions without the approval/direction of other people, you can schedule a 1:1 session with me here.

(Links below) I hope you enjoy this tiny but mighty episode. We all complicate our healing sometimes. I want to remind you of some simple truths in this episode, and I also want to share with you my favorite way to bring myself back when I'm having a hard time.
You are amazing, brave, hilarious, sweet, trustworthy, capable, allowed, and good.
To learn more about coaching with me, click here. To get my FREE cheat sheet that will change your liiiiiiife, click here. To go to my Instagram, click here. To text me--for real and for free--click here. To get the replays of my most recent workshop (over 3 hours of extremely practical & helpful content) click here.

If you listen to one thing today, let it be A Single Revolution, Shani Silver's debut book. It is outstanding and while reading it you will have no choice but to become a fuller, more joyous, more alive version of your beautiful self.

Find her helpful, hilarious, excellent writing & her VERY valuable patreon podcast here.

Buy her book, A Single Revolution, here.

Register for the workshop & GET THE REPLAY at this link.

Yes, you can get the replay even if you find this link after the workshop took place.

You deserve to be entirely in love with your life.

That has been my mantra and my North Star ever since I started Codependent Millennial Coaching.
So many of our experiences in life make us forget that we do deserve to be in LOVE with our lives. Remember what you know, Sophie.
Have you lost the spark, joy, passion, direction, and power in your life?
It’s time to take it all back.

That’s what we’re going to do tomorrow at 2pm EST.
Join us for my Springtime Reset Workshop for only $36.
This price is quite frankly nuts, but I like it that way.
See you soon.

~Sophie
P.S. The only way to get the replay is to register.
Trust me; you’re going to want the replay.