51 episodes

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Eric Payne

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    • 4.8 • 55 Ratings

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

    Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    Episode 2 of Season 4 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide continues with the ongoing my ongoing post-divorce journey. Broken boundaries, the past, present, and an unconfirmed future relationship collide at a birthday party where my insecurities are running high.

    • 27 min
    Season 4: Episode 2 Teaser Trailer

    Season 4: Episode 2 Teaser Trailer

    The saga continues as I plot and plod my way through life after saying "goodbye" to forbidden love. While attending a birthday party I cross paths with my past but stumble upon something new. I push past my fear and shoot my shot, sort of.
    If you're new to this podcast, thank you for visiting and I hope you'll stay awhile! The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, https://www.datingafterdivorce.guide/episode/divorce-marriage-red-flags-in-a-relationship (Season One, Episode One). That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little later and everyone else is already dancing.
    Episodes are biweekly. See you again soon!
    Resources from the Episode :
    You are Beautiful, Inside and Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch (https://epayne.me/podmerch)
    Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care (https://epayne.me/self-care)
    Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA (https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA)

    • 2 min
    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    We're back like we never left! By we, I mean me because I really don't speak in the third person. Season Four kicks off with literally everything that could go wrong going full-speed into Wrong-Ville and Drama Town with a whole lot of texting and not enough talking.

    • 33 min
    The Season 4 Trailer: Growing, Living, Loving, Freeing

    The Season 4 Trailer: Growing, Living, Loving, Freeing

    "All my time has been focused on my freedom now. Why would I join 'em when I know that I can beat 'em now? They put their words on me, and they can eat 'em now…"
    Ms. Lauryn Hill has the right idea on the new track, NOBODY where she spits facts about her growth alongside Nas. There is nothing more joyful and liberating than learning and loving yourself along the way.
    Season 4 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide begins August 26, 2021. The escapades continue as does the growth, self-awareness, peace, and self-love that comes when you look inward versus outward when you are met with unexpected and often undesirable events.
    Stay tuned for a chance to join me live for an Episode One “After-Party”.
    And please follow the playlist so you stay up to date on all the music that powers the podcast here: https://epayne.me/playlist

    • 1 min
    The Lessons From The Messes

    The Lessons From The Messes

    The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of retired fatherhood blogger Eric Payne as he navigates the challenges of "starting over" after divorce.
    From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.
    The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is available on your favorite podcast platform. Subscribe today!

    • 1 min
    Love, Rain, Kings, and Queens

    Love, Rain, Kings, and Queens

    Acting on your emotions always feels good in the moment but rarely works out in the long run. Your host, Eric Payne, a.k.a. the Divorced Dillenger puts both his feet in a pile of you know what when he casts care to the wind (based on the events of Episode 5: A New Orleans Ghost Story) and backslides on his principles when it comes to who and how he dates. But don't lose hope! Things just may end on a high note in the season finale of Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide.
    EPISODE TOPICS:
    Why acting based on your emotions rather than sound judgment is never a good idea in any relationship.
    Why it’s okay to want what you want.
    That you can and in some instances should elevate yourself above your circumstances.
    Why it’s necessary to have “space” in relationships, no matter what.
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    Resources from the Episode :
    You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch (https://epayne.me/podmerch)
    Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating QandAs, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne (http://patreon.com/ericpayne)
    Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care (https://epayne.me/self-care)
    Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA (https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA)
    Get poems featured in Season 3 here: http://epayne.me/poetrybook (http://epayne.me/poetrybook)
    Episode 7 poetry is adapted from Love Rain by Jill Scott (Miss Jill)
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    Please subscribe on your platform of choice and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? 😃
    About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide
    Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

    • 38 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
55 Ratings

55 Ratings

It's time to get out there ,

Amazing storytelling

After just re-entering the dating world after being divorced for 4 years, I came across this podcast and was immediately hooked. Eric is raw, honest and hilarious. I love the male perspective and can completely relate to everything he speaks about, most of all being a foodie! Would highly recommend.

T-lake ,

Binge worthy!!!

There are probably only a handful of podcasts that I would label as binge worthy. This is one of them! The storytelling is fantastic, but it’s not just that. It’s this combination of storytelling from a real, sometimes raw, authentic way. But then he couples that with these life lessons and personal reflections that I think take the show to the next level. That’s something I haven’t come across before - and I listen to A LOT of podcasts. There’s a lot to rave about like the tone, timbre, production etc... but I invite you to check it out yourself. You will be hooked!

jeannixe ,

Creative, Relatable Storytelling

Eric is a great storyteller and it shows up in this podcast. What Eric shares is real, authentic and relatable.
Dating After Divorce is all at once vulnerable, engaging and funny and emotional. You get all the feels at one time, anticipating Eric’s next event/adventure/experience and before you know it you’re caught up and riding the wave with him. At the end of each episode, however, you’re left as a listener recalling, reflecting and considering your own experiences and seeing your own resolution as a possibility.

I’ve enjoyed every episode and am eagerly looking forward to Season 3.

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