60 episodes

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Eric Payne

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 69 Ratings

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    We're back like we never left! By we, I mean me because I really don't speak in the third person. Season Four kicks off with literally everything that could go wrong going full-speed into Wrong-Ville and Drama Town with a whole lot of texting and not enough talking.

    • 33 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    Episode 2 of Season 4 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide continues with the ongoing my ongoing post-divorce journey. Broken boundaries, the past, present, and an unconfirmed future relationship collide at a birthday party where my insecurities are running high.

    • 27 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Dad, You Can’t Date!

    From Paris to Atlanta: Dad, You Can’t Date!

    My family life and my dating life begin to intersect. My youngest is older and has some pretty strong opinions on how her mother and I should be conducting ourselves as single, dating people. I

    • 23 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF

    From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF

    Things don't always go as planned or envisioned. When this happens what do you do? Do you run away or do you stand and see your way through the mess? I experience this in grand fashion during Episode Four of Season Four.

    • 45 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!

    From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!

    The ability to choose is a powerful asset to have in your dating/love and happiness toolkit. In this episode, I share why it is of the utmost importance that YOU choose at every stage of the dating experience, most importantly, the beginning.

    • 42 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: What If?

    From Paris to Atlanta: What If?

    In Episode Six of Season Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, the question of “what if” comes up when I get triggered after stumbling upon an artifact from my past. This episode explores: why not having an opinion can be dangerous; what happens when a woman can’t rely on a man; why doing something is better than doing nothing when faced with a challenge; why the past and all its failures and shortcomings will always be a prison if you allow it to be; and how to spin “What if?” from a question that can imprison you in regret into a personal challenge that puts you in charge of your life.

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
69 Ratings

69 Ratings

sgarvey67 ,

Inspirational, witty and captivating

I’m was not much of a Podcast listener, but decided to look into information on how to deal with my separation (2 years ago). I could not get enough of listening to Eric. His stories of what he went through from a male’s perspective was not only inspiring, but it truly made me realize that it’s ok to feel the hurt and how we can jump back into a better version of ourselves, and while doing that, he was authentic and extremely funny. He allowed me to understand the true meaning of focusing more on me during the healing process and not to spend too much time sitting into the past, because, after all, that’s exactly what it was.
I started out all over the place with his stories, but recently went back and began listening from the beginning. I loved it just the same. I recommend this Podcast not only for those going through separation or divorce, but for those who just want to listen to a truly captivating, humorous, and very real conversationalist.

Freezy I.T. ,

So realistic and beautifully crafted

This podcast has been a blessing to me as an African-American male that’s currently going through a similar situation that Eric Payne so gracefully and verbally talked through. Eric provided his perspective on how to grow not only from marriage/relationship dilemma’s but any challenging situation and how to become the best version of ourselves moving forward as our past does not determine your future. Self-worth comes first. I listen to all four episodes, and I love every single podcast. I need more of Eric as his perspective has tremendously helped me understand how to navigate for a 52 year old man married for 22 years to move forward when adversity hits. Thank you brother.

Jessi Fenni ,

So good!

I love this podcast because it’s really interesting and gives great perspective to anyone in a co-parenting situation!!!!!!!!

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