The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse Amie Woolsey Brainspotting Practitioner, ICF-PCC, CPC, APSATS-C, ELI-MP, C-DGS

We missed the July Live Q&A so today I am taking 2 listeners questions that are about anger and answering them today.

As Kim and I have been talking about anger I wanted to answer these questions to give you a more real life situations involving beautiful anger emotions.

Today’s Discussion Highlights:


Understanding the Roots of Anger: Explore why anger isn't just about the present frustrations but often about deeper, unresolved issues. We’ll look at how unrecognized betrayal, lying, and abusive communication can fuel our anger without us even knowing the true causes.


Shifting Reality Perception: Discuss the disconnect between what our body perceives and what our cognitive awareness can grasp, leading to intense reactions that seem disproportionate to the actual events.


Reclaiming Identity Beyond Anger: Learn how to recognize that being angry doesn't define you. We'll explore a pivotal moment of realization: recognizing that you are not inherently an angry person, despite the narratives imposed by others.



Listener Questions Addressed:


"How do I get over the anger? I'm not an angry person. I try to do all these things and they dont work and im exhausted. "


Understand that it's not about getting rid of anger but getting curious about why it’s there. Recognizing the underlying reasons can alleviate the exhaustion linked to misdirected efforts to simply suppress it.


"I find myself being angry over everything my ex does or doesn't do and especially with the kids, like- kids come home and he didnt feed them so now i have to put something together real quick- and now im soooooo angry i can hardly stand it. Will this ever stop?"


Focus on adjusting expectations and accepting the current realities of co-parenting. This includes planning for predictable shortcomings and deciding what you can realistically expect from an uncooperative ex-partner.



Steps to Practice This Week:


Pause and Reflect


Use the Feelings Wheel


Readjust Expectations


Empowerment Through Understanding

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Join myself and Kimberly Day again for our continued conversation around anger. We are touching more specifically on how anger can amp up after separation from the soon to be ex partner. We want to have a honest dialogue around this toic because so many of our beliefs change, emotions change and then the legal system, which is fundamentally flawed creates situation where anger can also be present.

The way you experience anger is going to be individual and yet it's part of the journey that can't be avoided.

Allowing space for this part of you will absolutely help it move through you. We talk about how to do that today as well as tools to support you in this space.

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

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What do YOU think about anger, your anger? How do YOU feel it? How do YOU avoid it? What do you make YOUR anger mean?

Join myself and Kimberly Day again as we do a 2 part series on ANGER!

Have you ever thought of your anger as beautiful? Listen today as I share with you why I all it beautiful and how you can better validate it and process your anger, and why it's VITAL to your healing journey.

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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In this episode, we delve into the crucial distinction between what is uncomfortable and what is intolerable in the context of healing from trauma and navigating an empowered divorce. Understanding this difference is essential for your healing journey and can significantly impact your ability to manage and process emotions effectively.

I discuss how in my brainspotting sessions, communication and partnership are key. We use the SUD scale (Subjective Units of Distress) to measure the severity of discomfort and ensure that processing remains within a manageable window of tolerance. This helps prevent the overwhelming flood of emotions that many clients fear.

We'll explore why it's important to lean into uncomfortable emotions as a means of expanding your window of tolerance. This process is essential for growth, resilience, and emotional maturity. By differentiating between discomfort and intolerable feelings, you can stay in control, make empowered choices, and avoid being overwhelmed.

Join me as we unpack practical strategies to discern and navigate these feelings, helping you to handle life's challenges with greater clarity and self-compassion. This episode provides valuable insights for anyone on a healing journey or dealing with the complexities of divorce.



"In the journey of healing, every step forward, no matter how small, is a testament to your courage and resilience. Trust your strength, embrace your growth, and remember that you have the power to create the path to your own happiness." Amie

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Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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HAPPY 4th OF JULY!!

This is one of my favorite holidays and as I know this is a time to celebrate our country's freedom, I love taking time to also celebrate the freedom that myself and so many women have also found in their healing journey.

I am sharing one of my favorite poems called, " The Journey" written by Mary Oliver and breaking it down to how this poem resonates with my journey and so many women that I works with- the journey towards healing, the journey back towards you and the journey towards freedom.



Here is the words to the poem:

One day you finally knew
What you had to do, and began,
Though the voices around you
Kept shouting
Their bad advice‚
Though the whole house
Began to tremble
And you felt the old tug
At your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
Each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
Though the wind pried
With its stiff fingers
At the very foundations‚
Though their melancholy
Was terrible.
It was already late
Enough, and a wild night,
And the road full of fallen
Branches and stones.
But little by little,
As you left their voices behind,
The stars began to burn
Through the sheets of clouds,
And there was a new voice,
Which you slowly
Recognized as your own,
That kept you company
As you strode deeper and deeper
Into the world,
Determined to do
The only thing you could do‚
Determined to save
The only life you could save.

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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Kim and I are back at it with part 2 of what does healthy look like but focusing on the physical domaine in the relationship. Primarily what healthy physical intimacy looks like. Join us today and we have a conversation around some key points to be aware of in this area.

Key Points Discussed:


Understanding Consent and Physical Presence:


Emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and being attuned to non-verbal cues within relationships, highlighting how physical comfort and discomfort can significantly impact one's feeling of safety and connection.


Personal Physical Health:


Discussing strategies for becoming more attuned to one's body, including gentle physical touch and acknowledging one's own physical presence, which can help in setting boundaries and enhancing self-esteem.


The Role of Physical Safety:


Exploring how physical safety is not merely about avoiding harm but also about feeling secure and relaxed in a partner’s presence, which significantly affects one’s psychological and emotional well-being.


Enhancing Personal Growth:


Encouraging personal development by understanding and addressing one’s physical responses in relationships, thereby fostering a healthier approach to physical intimacy and interaction.


Resources for Self-improvement:


Amy highlights her self-paced course on intimacy and other resources that aid in understanding and developing a healthy relationship with one’s body, which in turn can improve relational dynamics.

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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