The Golden Spoon

McCahill & Jeremy

The Golden Spoon is here to help anyone who struggles with the largest internal problems all the way down to small day-in and day-out bumps in the road. We are two guys who have come to the conclusion that everyone who has a heart beating inside them deserves to get all forms of mental help, counseling, and love, so pick up a tiny golden spoon and dig a little deeper with us on your journey!

  1. S17E4 - Happenstance

    5D AGO

    S17E4 - Happenstance

    Send us Fan Mail Unexpected events are viewed as opportunities for growth rather than disruptive setbacks. By cultivating curiosity, persistence, and flexibility, individuals can turn chance occurrences into meaningful life improvements, fostering resilience and reducing stress from rigid planning.  Reframing Setbacks: Instead of viewing unexpected career or life changes as failures, this perspective sees them as potential paths to more meaningful opportunities. "Sacred Happenstance": embracing unexpected events—even small ones—as having deeper significance can improve mental well-being by decreasing the need for total control and reducing anxiety. Action-Oriented Mindset: Developed by John Krumboltz, this theory encourages active exploration, suggesting that people can generate their own "luck" by engaging in new activities and remaining open to serendipity. Reducing Learned Helplessness: Shifting from a strict, premeditated life path to a "planned happenstance" model can counter the feeling that mental states are permanent, fostering a sense of agency. Overcoming Rigid Goals: It challenges the notion that one must follow a strict, linear path to success, which can reduce the pressure and anxiety associated with perfectionism. Cultivating Planned Happenstance Curiosity: Explore new learning opportunities. Persistence: Continue acting despite setbacks. Flexibility: Change attitudes to deal with unexpected situations. Optimism: View new opportunities as possible. Risk-Taking: Take action in the face of uncertain outcomes.  This week we would like to highlight Future Learn if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.futurelearn.com/info/courses/career-planning-and-your-degree/0/steps/229934 Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    43 min
  2. S17E3 - My Awareness

    APR 9

    S17E3 - My Awareness

    Send us Fan Mail Self-awareness is the conscious ability to understand one’s own emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and values, as well as how these are perceived by others. Key types include private (internal states) and public (social perception) awareness. Benefits include improved emotional regulation, better decision-making, and enhanced relationships.  Key Components & Types of Self-Awareness Internal Self-Awareness (Private): Understanding your own values, passions, aspirations, and reactions. External Self-Awareness (Public): Recognizing how others view you, including how your behavior affects them. Key Components: Components include emotional recognition, understanding behavioral tendencies, identifying values, and acknowledging "blind spots". How to Develop Self-Awareness Reflective Practices: Journaling allows you to write down and analyze thoughts, emotions, and experiences to identify patterns. Mindfulness & Meditation: Practicing meditation helps you observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Feedback: Actively seeking honest feedback from trusted colleagues or friends on how you are perceived. Ask "What" instead of "Why": Rather than asking "Why do I feel this way?", ask "What am I feeling?" or "What can I do differently?" to move toward solutions.  Self-awareness acts as a crucial foundation for both personal growth and professional development. This week we would like to highlight Become Brave if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.becomebraveenough.com/blog/self-awareness-the-key-to-thriving-personally-and-professionally#:~:text=Self%2Dawareness%20is%20the%20ability%20to%20see%20and,positive%20work%20environment**%20*%20**Build%20strong%20relationships** Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    46 min
  3. S17E2 - That Side Eye

    APR 2

    S17E2 - That Side Eye

    Send us Fan Mail Not looking back in recovery means focusing on present actions and future goals rather than being consumed by past guilt or mistakes. Recovery requires acknowledging the past to learn from it, but avoiding dwelling on it, which can trigger shame. Building a new, purposeful life requires, setting small, achievable goals today. Focus on the Present: Shift focus from past mistakes or future anxiety to the present, using techniques like mindfulness to stay grounded. Reframe the Past: Use past experiences as lessons on what didn't work rather than sources of shame, understanding that relapses do not mean total failure. Set Small Goals: Focus on manageable, daily goals, which creates a sense of accomplishment and builds motivation for long-term. Identify Triggers: Actively manage triggers and recognize early warning signs of returning to old habits. Seek Support: Utilize professional help, such as CBT, to process emotions and develop coping strategies.  Acknowledge without Blame: Revisit the experience only to identify what was learned, not for self-punishment. Journal: Write down thoughts to process emotions and recognize patterns of growth. Reframe Relapse: View setbacks as a part of the recovery process that provides valuable data for future success.  This week we would like to highlight Mental Health Foundation if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/blogs/moving-self-destruct-self-care Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    40 min
  4. S17E1 - At Camp Ft. Sam & Bailey

    MAR 26

    S17E1 - At Camp Ft. Sam & Bailey

    Send us Fan Mail Camping significantly boosts mental health by reducing stress (lowering cortisol), increasing serotonin and dopamine, and improving sleep by resetting circadian rhythms. Immersing in nature, a digital detox, and physical activity help manage anxiety, depression, and ADHD, offering a sense of calm, accomplishment, and presence.  Key Mental Health Benefits of Camping: Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Nature exposure reduces cortisol, lowers blood pressure, and activates the parasympathetic nervous system, helping to calm the mind. Digital Detox: Disconnecting from technology and social media reduces overstimulation and improves mental clarity. Improved Sleep: Sleeping in natural light, away from blue light, regulates sleep hormones, leading to better rest and more energy. Increased Mindfulness: The simple, present-focused nature of camping (setting up, gathering firewood) fosters mindfulness, helping to break obsessive thought cycles. Boosted Mood and Cognitive Function: Sun exposure and physical activity in nature help fight depression and improve focus and memory. Sense of Accomplishment: Overcoming the challenges of camping boosts self-esteem and builds resilience.  Tips for a Mentally Beneficial Trip: Unplug: Actively turn off phones and social media to allow your mind to fully relax. Start Small: If new to camping, try a, nearby campsite or even a backyard to reduce anxiety, says this Reddit user. Embrace the Silence: Use the quiet to meditate, read, or simply listen to nature, as mentioned in this YouTube video. Prepare Ahead: Knowing your gear and having a plan reduces anxiety about safety or comfort.  This week we would like to highlight ACA if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.acacamps.org/ Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    32 min
  5. S16E12 - What's The Purpose

    MAR 19

    S16E12 - What's The Purpose

    Send us Fan Mail Key Aspects and Examples of Purpose Life Purpose: An abiding intention to make a positive mark on the world, such as mentoring others, creating art, or pursuing a career in medicine. Daily Purpose: Smaller, intentional actions, such as "I am exercising today to improve my health" or "I am working on this project to learn a new skill". Functional Purpose: The reason an object exists, such as "the purpose of a knife is to cut". Interpersonal Purpose: Fostering meaningful connections, such as building a strong family or fostering community.  How Purpose Functions It Motivates: A sense of purpose fuels motivation, which increases energy and persistence in achieving goals. It Guides: It acts as a compass for making choices, helping individuals prioritize actions that align with their core values. It Provides Meaning: A life with purpose feels more meaningful, which is associated with higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress. How to Identify Your Purpose Reflect on What Matters: Consider what activities bring you joy, a sense of accomplishment, or a feeling of connection to something larger than yourself. Explore Your Strengths: Think about what you are good at and how you can use those skills to help others. Review Your Time: Look at how you invest your time, as this can indicate what you truly value. Revisit Regularly: Purpose can change over time, so it is important to renew it as you go through life's milestones. This week we would like to highlight 988CrisisLine if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://988lifeline.org/ Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    43 min
  6. S16E11 - Pick Your Hard: Psychedelic Medic Ft. Melissa Lavasani

    MAR 12

    S16E11 - Pick Your Hard: Psychedelic Medic Ft. Melissa Lavasani

    Send us Fan Mail Melissa Lavasani is Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Washington, DC-based Psychedelic Medicine Coalition, a national association committed to creating and protecting access to psychedelic medicines through advocacy and education on a federal level. Inspired by her own experience of a working mother using psychedelics to heal her severe postpartum depression, Melissa championed Initiative 81, the Entheogenic Plant and Fungus Policy Act of 2020, which broke records as the largest ballot initiative win in Washington DC's history with 76% approval. Through Psychedelic Medicine Coalition, Melissa educates lawmakers and advocates for policies that support research and safe, equitable access to psychedelics at the federal and state level. Melissa is also Founder and President of the Psychedelic Medicine Political Action Committee, a Founding Board Member of the Psychedelics and Healing Initiative at the Global Wellness Institute, and on the Advisory Boards of Drugs over Dinner and Universal Ibogaine. Born in Washington, DC to Iranian immigrants, Melissa has a Bachelor’s degree in Economics from Macalester College, a Masters degree in Management from the University of Denver, and a Masters in Public Policy from George Mason University. As a devoted wife and mother, Melissa cherishes her free time, which she spends playing with her children, fly fishing, and showering love on her beloved pit bull, Gus. Melissa's bold leadership and unwavering commitment to this cause make her an inspiring force for change in the world. With an emphasis on science and evidence-based research, Melissa's efforts are dramatically changing the way lawmakers view psychedelic medicines. This week we would like to highlight Psychedelic Medicine Coalition if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.psychedelicmedicinecoalition.org/advocacy Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    58 min
  7. S16E10 - Speaking In Absolutes

    MAR 5

    S16E10 - Speaking In Absolutes

    Send us Fan Mail Absolutes in mental health, or "all-or-nothing" thinking, are cognitive distortions using rigid terms like "always," "never," "everyone," or "totally" to view life in extremes. This black-and-white mentality is strongly linked to depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and personality disorders, as it ignores nuance, increases emotional distress, and fosters unrealistic expectations.  Key Aspects of Absolutes in Mental Health Definition & Examples: Absolutist thinking classifies experiences as strictly good/bad or success/failure. Common phrases include "I always fail," "No one likes me," or "I'm completely useless". Mental Health Implications: Research shows high frequencies of these terms in forums for depression and anxiety. It acts as a predictor for depressive relapse and is common in OCD and borderline personality disorder (BPD). Impact on Well-being: This thinking style reduces resilience, hinders problem-solving, lowers self-esteem, and increases feelings of hopelessness. Cognitive Distortions: It is a core component of "cognitive misers"—the tendency to simplify complex situations to save mental energy, often leading to inaccurate judgments. Overcoming the Trap: Identifying these words and challenging them with "gray area" thinking helps break the cycle.  Identifying Absolutist Language  Words: Always, never, completely, absolutely, nothing, everyone, total. Patterns: Viewing oneself or others as either completely perfect or a total failure.  By shifting away from black-and-white, individuals can improve their emotion regulation and self-compassion.Problems with Speaking in Absolutes Undermines Credibility: Because these statements are easily disproven by a single exception, they can make the speaker seem unreasonable or uninformed. Creates Conflict: Using "always" or "never" in relationships often leads to defensiveness. Limits Perspective: It promotes a rigid mindset, reducing the ability to see gray areas. This week we would like to highlight Recovery Can if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://recovery.com/ Please leave a comment and review our episode and give some feedback on what we can improve on! Thank You All For Listening and Downloading Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    35 min
  8. S16E9 - Adult Temper

    FEB 26

    S16E9 - Adult Temper

    Send us Fan Mail Temperament—innate, genetically influenced behavioral styles such as reactivity, sociability, and emotionality—serves as the foundation for personality and significantly influences mental health. Specific temperamental traits, such as high harm avoidance (anxiety), high negative emotionality, or unstable affective temperaments (e.g., cyclothymic), are strong predictors for anxiety, depression, and other psychiatric disorders. Affective Temperaments and Disorders: Unstable affective temperaments (cyclothymic, dysphoric, and volatile) correlate strongly with psychiatric symptoms. For instance, a melancholic temperament is associated with depression, while hyperthymic (high energy/positive) temperament may offer some protection against mental disorders, although it can be linked to bipolar disorder. Anxiety and Fearfulness: Anxious temperament, often linked to high harm avoidance, involves shyness, social discomfort, and fear of uncertainty, which are high-risk factors for developing anxiety disorders. Overcontrolled/Undercontrolled Types: Overcontrolled (OC): Characterized by extreme self-control, perfectionism, and inhibited emotions, often linked to depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. Undercontrolled: Characterized by low emotional regulation, impulsivity, and high activity, often linked to externalizing behaviors, such as ADHD or conduct issues. Risk vs. Protective Factors: High negative emotionality increases risks, while high "effortful control" (the ability to regulate attention and behavior) acts as a protective factor against both internalizing and externalizing mental health issues.  The Role of Temperament Temperament affects how individuals experience, interpret, and react to their environment, which in turn influences the development of coping mechanisms and personality. While temperament is mostly innate, it is not destiny; however, it shapes the likelihood of developing mental health conditions across the lifespan.  This week we would like to highlight Help Guide Can if you would like to learn more or donate click the link below https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/psychology/personality-types-traits-and-how-it-affects-mental-health Please leave a comment Support the show The 988 Lifeline 988 is now active across the United States. This new, shorter phone number will make it easier for people to remember and access mental health crisis services. (Please note, the previous 1-800-273-TALK (8255) number will continue to function indefinitely.) https://988lifeline.org/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/4lnQce2gqnZIjxzlvl5oSv?si=gdOehC20R-SPoUU4lafyRQ&utm_source=copy-linkFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086740326701&mibextid=ZbWKwYoutube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqEcbkA7c93lGKDaBBymG64tIWczQCLNJInsta - https://www.instagram.com/invites/contact/?i=k6aivqg2vlea&utm_content=pegvqopTwitter - https://twitter.com/1TheGoldenSpoon?t=iEZUUNh2TjeQzjuS6af-Hg&s=09Dicord - https://discord.gg/Te8Q6XYc

    40 min

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The Golden Spoon is here to help anyone who struggles with the largest internal problems all the way down to small day-in and day-out bumps in the road. We are two guys who have come to the conclusion that everyone who has a heart beating inside them deserves to get all forms of mental help, counseling, and love, so pick up a tiny golden spoon and dig a little deeper with us on your journey!