The Naked Unashamed Life Lucy Rowett

How do you feel about porn? Is it something you enjoy, feel uncomfortable about, or have mixed feelings? I get it, because porn is a super activating topic, especially when we know the track record of the big porn companies and free tube sites aren't... brilliant. And yet, I'm always banging the drum that there is a whole world of alternative porn and erotica out there-- made by independent producers, with genuine care and concern for their performers, and catering to a different audience.

In this episode I'm so excited to chat with founder of female-focused, ethical porn company, FrolicMe, Anna Richards.

We cover:



Why she got into founding FrolicMe
Why FrolicMe is deliberately female-focused and focused on female pleasure
Her thoughts on the free tube sites and when they become dehumanizing
When shame is wrapped up in what you’re seeing
What she would say to women who feel concerned about porn and young people
The 50 Shades of Grey boom that got women talking about erotica
Why porn is brilliant for low libido in women
When couples get into porn together and how it can enhance their sex life
When you don’t like porn and what makes ethical porn different
Why not all women like the same thing
When consent gets to be sexy
Why not all women are into vanilla
When women think they’re sexually broken
Why most porn stars actually have normal lives
Why we all want the same things for young people
How to protect your kids so they aren't exposed to material before they are ready
Her thoughts on the upcoming Online Safety Bill in the UK
Infusing care, consent, and respect into porn, and into our intimate lives too

My favourite quote from her:
“Pornography is a chemical-free libido booster”

Find FrolicMe here: https://www.frolicme.com/

Follow Anna on Instagram
@frolicme_anna and
@frolicme_official

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Credits:

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Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

How do you market your work when you're a sexuality professional and constantly dealing with internet censorship?

What if the traditional marketing and business advice just doesn't apply to you because of the nature of what you do?

No we bloody well can't run paid ads easily, it's not just our mindset when we are always facing the very real possibility of our Instagram accounts getting banned with no warning, and our content usually performs less well than non-spicy content because of shadowbanning.

Or what if the very word "content" makes your bum clench in a non-consensual way and you don't want to be spammy?

Never fear, I've teamed up with my fabulous friend, colleague, and co-conspirator, Julian Marcus to explain how we do it.

He's a sexological bodyworker, bodyworker, and intimacy coach and also a brilliant videographer and website expert.

We're combining both of our different marketing expertise-- me with social media and writing, him with embodiment and videography-- to give our unique perspective on making marketing sexy again.

It's not about knowing all the keywords and performing the latest dance craze on TikTok, it's more playing to your own strengths and finding a creative outlet that works with your energy.

We're running the next content salon for spicy and censored professionals to help you find your own unique voice online to speak to the people you want to while it feeling like it's genuinely coming from you.



COME TO THE CONTENT SALON FOR SPICY PROFESSIONALS!

April 25th, 7-9pm BST/2-4pm EDT/11am-1pm PDT: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/content-creation-for-sex-pros-salon-tickets-877443586387?aff=oddtdtcreator



Learn more about Julian Marcus here: https://relationalbodywork.org/






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Credits:

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Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

How do you heal from purity culture? How do you get to a place where the shame no longer affects you? How can you recover your sexuality and know deep in your bones that it is something good?

Yes the title is clickbaity and this episode is full of caveats about what healing is and isn't.

In this long-form episode I give my take on healing (and why there are no rules to it and I absolutely do not have a 5-step formula), 8 or 9 practical tips, some brilliant resources, and changing your mindset around what, "fully healed" actually means.



Points I cover:



Why healing has no rules and it looks different to everyone


Why healing is messy and non-linear and it’s supposed to be that way


Stop putting healing on a pedestal outside of yourself


What if healing was thriving?


My best tips and things to try


Why you sometimes need to flip to the other end of the pendulum, but not always


Why you always get to be in choice


Trusting yourself to make your own decisions and your own mistakes


What if spirit just means your connection to yourself?


If something feels, “off”, in a spiritual setting, trust that!


Some great resources, people, and organisations I recommend



Links and people I mentioned:



My best reading list for sex, intimacy, relationships, trauma, and more:https://lucyrowett.com/best-books-sex-relationships-pleasure-trauma-embodiment/

The Rebloom Method by Rachael Maddox

Happy Whole Way: https://www.instagram.com/happywholeway/?hl=en

The Divorced Virgin Project: https://www.thedivorcedvirginproject.com/

Incarnation Institute: https://www.incarnationinstitute.org/

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Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant

Learn more about working together 1:1 here: https://lucyrowett.com/liberated-coaching-program/



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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

Yes I said it, I believe women and vulva havers in relationships should self-pleasure MORE! (And those not in relationships too)

Why? Because self-pleasuring/masturbating/w*nking is one of the most powerful acts of self love, self care, and self honouring you can do.

It's a gift you give to yourself that is separate from the intimacy you have with your lover, and in this episode I break it down.

If you want to learn how to do just that, then register for my next live workshop, The Self Loving Salon.



In this episode I cover:




The shaming messages about masturbation that I learned in Purity Culture
Why we all received similar messaging even if you grew up in a non-religious household
Common myths about masturbation-- like you only do it when you can't get the, "real thing"
Even if you don't believe the sex shaming messages, your body still remembers
"This feels like my body"Waiting for Prince Charming
Why nobody can "give" you an orgasm
Outsourcing your power and pleasure to somebody else
Why I believe masturbating is one of the most powerful forms of self care and self love you can do



The Self Loving Salon is a live self pleasuring workshop for women and vulva havers on February 27th. It's a Valentine's/Galentine's-ish workshop just for you.

⁠Get your ticket to The Self Loving Salon here.⁠



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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett (aka, moi!)

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett (moi again!)

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro (not me, I'm not that talented)

Do you wish you could just confidently ask for what you want in bed, but instead you freeze up? I've got you.

In this episode I cover the 5 main obstacles that women and vulva havers face in confident sexual communication that have nothing to do with being silly, a prude, or generally anything, "wrong", with you. And then I cover what you can do about them to make it easier.

Remember that sexual communication is like literally any other skill in sex and relationships-- a SKILL you need to learn and get better at, NOT because something is wrong with you.



The 5 mistakes are:


Not knowing what you want in the first place (or not feeling worthy of wanting.)
Worrying about ruining the mood
Perfectionism
Fear of being rejected
Fear of getting it wrong



Listen to this episode and start practising! And if you want to go deeper into getting more confident, you'll love my audio course, Mastering Sexual Communication.



Get Mastering Sexual Communication course here: http://lucyrowett.com/master-your-sexual-communication-audio-course/


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Learn more about working together 1:1 here: http://lucyrowett.com/sex-intimacy-relationship-coaching/



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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

Sex shouldn't hurt, and yet so many women and vulva havers suffer in silence about painful sex.

I spoke with April Maria aka Venus Libido about her own personal experience of having undiagnosed endometriosis, the frustration of battling the medical system, finding pleasurable sex on her own terms, and how you can still have great sex when you're experiencing pain.


We covered:


Her personal experience with painful sex and endometriosis, and not getting help in the medical world
The biggest issues people with sexual pain face
The lack of education and understanding from doctors about what she was facing
Not being able to communicate with your partner about sex hurting
The biopsychosocial model of pain
The impact of trauma on pain
Why pain is NOT in your head but pain starts in the brain
My own experience of recovery communities
When pain and chronic symptoms are perpetuated by the fight flight response
Interrupting the fight flight response
Myths about sexual pain
Feeling undesirable having sexual pain
Is it ever a good idea to try and push through sexual pain?
Exploring pleasure through pain
Why sexual pain CAN be an invitation to befriend your body
What April really wants all healthcare professionals to know about sexual pain
Why working with sexual pain must be a holistic approach
Different sex toys and aids for painful sex-- shoutout to the Oh Nut!



Find out more about April here: www.venuslibido.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/venuslibido/



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Want to connect more?

For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: ⁠https://lucyrowett.com/⁠

Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant

Learn more about working together 1:1 here: http://lucyrowett.com/sex-intimacy-relationship-coaching/



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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro