242 episodes

Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.



Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.



No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.



For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

Untoxicated Podcast Matt & Sheri Salis

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    • 4.5 • 86 Ratings

Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.



Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.



No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.



For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

    Ep243 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 2

    Ep243 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 2

    Listen to Teaubrian, Rich and Ben discuss their evolution of thinking and experiences in both personal and relationship recovery after beating alcoholism. This conversation is all about authenticity and awareness of themselves and the people around them. It's also about building something new.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you are a high-functioning alcoholic seeking sobriety, awareness and authenticity, we invite you to check out our SHOUT Sobriety program.

    • 1 hr 20 min
    Ep242 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 1

    Ep242 – Staying in the Relationship Roundtable, Part 1

    Listen to Jane, Karen, Nickie, Lori and Nicole describe their decision making and experiences staying in their marriages as they recover from the alcoholism of their partners. This episode is about individual growth and discovery just as much as it is about the changes in their relationships.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.

    • 1 hr 24 min
    Ep241 – Unrespected Advice

    Ep241 – Unrespected Advice

    After the chaos and trauma of active alcoholism, loved ones naturally lose respect for their drinkers. Advice from the recovering alcoholic is often not welcome, and can do serious damage to the relationship. On this episode, Sheri and Matt relate their personal experience with both unwanted advice, and regained respect.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Ep240 – Be Nice

    Ep240 – Be Nice

    During Matt's active addiction, Sheri and Matt had to try to run communication through a variety of contrived filters in order to be nice to each other. On this episode, the couple talks about the process they went through to get from artificial and occasional bouts of niceness to a genuine and consistent pattern of being nice. As is so often the case, sobriety is just the prerequisite.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.

    • 1 hr 4 min
    Ep239 – Impact of Alcoholism on Sex and Intimacy Roundtable

    Ep239 – Impact of Alcoholism on Sex and Intimacy Roundtable

    There are two things that can happen to sex and intimacy in a relationships suffering through alcoholism. On this episode, Sheri and Matt welcome Nikki, Rene and Nicole who share their experiences with both traumatizing outcomes.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.

    • 1 hr 16 min
    Ep238 – Origins of Anxiety

    Ep238 – Origins of Anxiety

    The chaos and trauma of active addiction is obvious. But what about before we acknowledge alcoholism? What about before we cross that invisible line? The efforts we make to manipulate our partners seem simple, even helpful, on the surface. But the partners of alcoholics often suffer from anxiety caused by not feeling worthy. When partners eventually lose respect for their alcoholic, they often find respect for themselves.



    If you are or were the partner of an alcoholic, please check out our Alcoholic Intimacy Survey.



    If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.

    • 59 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
86 Ratings

86 Ratings

Bethany Dettmer ,

So validating!!

Ever since the first episode, I have never looked back! LOVE this podcast! The ability to share the raw details and painful moments of the past in order to help others is SO commendable! Their hearts are in the right place and having both perspectives represented is unique and highly beneficial! I joined their programs and if you haven’t you need to! This couple is the real deal and you will be challenged as well as feel heard! Thank you Sheri and Matt!

Fun, easy ,

Episode 194: Vacations

Vacations are always tense. If he's not telling me he doesn't want to go as we are leaving the neighborhood:
--He thinks the hotel is "too nice" for him
--He has a panic attack (finally realized this after 30 years as they are not typical attacks)
--He drinks a lot, even though his DOC is cocaine, because he doesn't have it with him
--He drives like a maniac, even when sober
--He gets sunburned and ruins the next day
--He sleeps and sleeps
--He screams at me for trying to keep him on track
This isn't 100% and we have fun, but I have to be on my toes at all times.
--Etc. Divorcing him and look forward to fun vacations.

Tony Marie ,

Amazing

This podcast speaks to me on so many levels. The hosts are very relatable it’s like they’ve looked into my soul. My husband is a high functioning alcoholic,This podcast is so helpful for dealing with the day-to-day gut wrenching stress and sadness I feel.

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