Waves of Joy Podcast Brenda Winkle

Alana Banana, aka Alana Gentry, is a music educator and songwriter that has been performing for kids and families for over a decade. She is the co-founder of Silly Monkey Productions, producing content for kids that includes live action, puppets and animation. With 3 children’s albums and over 50 videos on YouTube as The Alana Banana Show she shares her message to Be Kind • Be Creative • Be You. She’s a foster mama and host of the “Inspired Grownups” Podcast for parents.

Here are the takeaways...

Giving yourself a way to explore and experience a variety of things to decide what you really want to do can be really supportive in your decision making
There is no hierarchy in music. ALL music - including music for children - is valuable
 Music is a researched based way to help build memory around concepts. Putting words to music can help with retention. 
Kids hear orders all day long. Putting instructions and suggestions to music can be a way to lighten the mood, make things fun, and avoid the power struggle with young children. And it's fun!
 We aren't talking about fertility often, but it's something to consider normalizing in our conversations with our children and to each other
When someone is going through fertility treatments, it can be an emotional process. Offering simple support like invitations to spend time, letting someone know you care, and things like that can feel supportive.
There is a bigger picture, and often we can't see that when we are in a process. Giving yourself permission to take the next step that reveals itself. As much as you think you want to know it all, the delight is in the unfolding.
Sometimes if you hold on too tight, you won't get what you need. When you give yourself space and release the efforting, the answers will drop in.
 To get where you want to go, love where you're at

 

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 Kate Kripke a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Perinatal Mental Health Counselor (PMH-C) in the state of Colorado.

For over 20 years, Kate has focused her work on supporting the mental health of mothers as a therapist, coach, consultant, author, and speaker.  

She is the Founding Director of the Postpartum Wellness Center of Boulder, the author of the book Reinventing Supermom: Support Encouragement, and Strategies For New Moms Who Feel Lost, and a co-host on the podcast Motherhood Uncut. She is also the mom of two teenage daughters. She offers group and individual mental health coaching to mothers everywhere.

Here are the takeaways...

Maternal mental health is supporting the mental health of mothers while they parent. When mothers get the support they need, kids do better. 
Sustainable mental well-being does not mean being always happy or skipping over challenges. It means that you as a mom have the capacity inside of you to stay steady when there are bumps in the road, so you can feel good, access joy, and provide unconditional love so that you can be the secure parent for your kid.
There is SUCH an overlap between the mother's mental health and the child's mental health. It's your responsibility as a mom to take really good care of yourself. 
The systems for support are flawed. And there is still so much you can do to feel better regardless of the system.  Be compassionate with yourself, your feelings are valid and make sense. 
The emotional workload seems to fall on the birth mom. There is a possibility you are going to feel a load of burden your co-parent may not feel. Rather than resist it and get angry, it's worth considering what it would be like to accept it and learn the tools to manage it. 
 The starting point of mental well-being is self-awareness. From there you can set up habits and patterns that become your way of life.
 A really important question to ask yourself is, "What is the part I am playing in the things that aren't working?"
Even the toughest emotions last 90 seconds when you let them really flow through. The key is to allow yourself to feel the feeling and detach yourself from the thinking. 
 For adults, feelings never hurt anyone. The actions you take to avoid them or ways in which you take them out on other people can be very destructive. And very inconvienent.
Little children cannot metabolize big feelings on their own. It is harmful for a small child to sit with a big emotion on their own. They learn to "hot potato" their emotions and push them away. As adults, you now have the capacity in your physiology to metabolize emotions. 
If you grew up in a system or a family where emotion wasn't welcomed, or no one was around to shepherd you through tough emotions, or environments that were chaotic or abusive, you may be "hot potato" emotions and may be what is making you sick as emotions. GIve yourself grace and recognize you may need to learn (and be taught) how to have big emotions. 
Slowing down by breathing, noticing your feet on the floor, and other grounding practices can allow you to begin to feel those emotions in safe ways while creating neural pathways in your brain, increasing your capacity to experience emotions.
 Detaching yourself from pain means you've also detached yourself from pleasure. 
There isn't a specific age of mothering (or of kids) when things get difficult. When your child hits an age that was challenging for you as the mother, that's when things get difficult in mothering. That's often when you know you need to seek support.
We are often taught that good mothers do, do, do, do on behalf of their children. (dinner, signing up for the classes). Good mothering happens when we are being good to ourselves. If you are feeling love inside your body, you can't help but give it away. Same with patience, generosity, and curiosity. It starts with caring for yourself so that YOU feel good and have more to offer, and mother from there. That's when you

A common question I hear is "How do I set boundaries"? This podcast episode will help support you with some skills and strategies to not only set boundaries but to help support your own nervous system. 

As a highly-sensitive person, empath, people pleaser, perfectionist (and sometimes overachievers) it's easy to talk yourself out of setting boundaries before you ever try. 

A research study in 1997 revealed that 20-30% of the population is highly-sensitive, and has more neuro receptors to process sensory input in their brains. This is what we are talking about when we talk about highly-sensitive people. 

Here are the takeaways...

It's difficult for highly sensitive people to receive critical feedback. This means that as a child, if you identify as a highly sensitive person, you quickly learned to do things perfectly as a way to avoid criticism. That's where many hsp learned to be perfectionists.
 If you've never set a boundary, the people around you will need some time to get used to the new boundaries. That's ok.
Strategies to support you in setting boundaries:

Zip up your electromagnetic field by making a zipping motion from the base of your torso up over the top of your head.
Your central channel goes from the base of your spine to the top of your head. Imagine your energy focused on your central channel (up and down your spine) and grounding into the earth can be supportive. 
From that grounded and zipped up place... you can set boundaries without taking on the feelings of other people.


Adults and boundaries, use the 4 part boundary statement based on non-violent communication and the work of Teri Cole

I noticed...
I felt...
I'd like to make a request...
Can we agree that...


As parents, we want to set healthy boundaries with our kids so that they are safe, they have transferable social skills, and so that we can take care of ourselves and of them. This means there may be some non-negotiable things. It's ok if your kids are upset with you for setting a healthy boundary. (getting dressed for school, eating nourishing food)
Support for setting boundaries as parents include:

Boundaries help your kids feel safe
 You setting boundaries helps them in other settings
Gray Rock Method (from Love and Logic) - use a neutral tone of voice and a neutral facial expression while you become a broken record
Use one statement over and over after you've answered. For example, "I love you too much to argue".



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Meghan Thomas is a coach, breathwork facilitator, yoga teacher, and fertility coach. You can think of me as your emotional guide 
She believes that we can only be connected to others as deeply as we are to ourselves.

And it ALL starts with our emotions. We have to be able to name and identify what we are feeling to begin the healing process and the process of releasing emotions from the body. 

Because what she knows for sure is that trauma and emotions get stuck in the body if we don't release them. And we definitely don't want that!

Here are the takeaways...
 


There is always a contraction before the expansion. It requires a conscious choice to move through it. The first part of every journey is having enough courage to show up: to get on the plane, to sign up for a coach, to attend the retreat, to sign up for the class, whatever it might be. It gets easier the more you live at the edge of your comfort zone because the feedback loop gets shorter.
 The messages and sensations of hitting a limit come from different places whether it's in your body or your mind. No one is immune to the sensation of hitting a limit. Offering yourself immense compassion is a great way to allow these limits to exist and not stop you.
We put people on pedestals and sometimes we allow them to supersede our own knowing. Tuning back into our inner knowing, listening to the sentences and information that drop in can be literally life-saving.
 When you have the moment and thought "enough is enough" the magic happens. Be willing to listen and watch for the signs. The teacher appears, the book falls off the shelf, and someone will enter your life.
Question everything. It can be the way you can receive medical help and stay in your own power. The medical profession is a practice, and there is a reason it's called that. Give yourself permission to stop and ask questions. Ask yourself, is this the right more for me? 
Any of these challenging moments in life can be opportunities for our biggest growth if we let it by giving those challenges space.
We are all so much alike than we are different.
There is often a veil of secrecy around our cycles as women.  It's common to feel really alone. Finding someone you can talk to can be really helpful.
Every path to motherhood is sacred. 
You can't define the how, just take the next step in front of you. What is meant for you will never miss you.
 There is an arrival fallacy when people decide to wait to be happy until.... (x,y,z) is a way to lose out on your life. Be happy now.

 

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Here are the takeaways...

Resentment and shame turn toxic in our bodies
Your kids resonate off of your energy. That's why when you are calm, they are calm.
When you are a mom it's easy to get triggered because your kids can be a lot like you. That can bring up things you haven't paid attention to.
You are helping shape your kids, and they are also shaping you. It can be helpful to let them share what they see in YOU and be open to their suggestions to use coping skills. It's a way to open communication with your kids. Treating children of all ages as though they have something to offer is valuable modeling.
Denying what your children are experiencing (I didn't do that!) is a form of gaslighting.
If we as moms don't take care of ourselves, it's not good for anyone.
Aligning with what you know to be true and listening to your own heart, or asking yourself, "What would feel so good?" is a way to live in high integrity. You know you are in alignment when you feel good.
 Manifesting is feeling what it is that you want before you see evidence of it.

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A 1997 research study found that between 20-30% of the population is highly sensitive. This means that scientists can measure differences in the brains of highly sensitive people in regard to receptor sites. Highly sensitive people literally process information, external stimuli, and emotions differently. The term highly sensitive person came from this research. 

Here are some indications you or your children might be highly sensitive.
 


Sensitivity to sound
Sensitivity to light
Sensitivity to flavors or textures in food
Tactile sensitivity - sensitivity to touch, sensations, and fabrics on the skin
Emotional sensitivity - big emotions of your own or elevated responses to other people
Taking on or absorbing energy in a space
Sensitivity to fragrances or scents - strong likes/dislikes or even physical reactions
Taking on physical sensations, symptoms or emotions of other people in your body
You've heard you are too sensitive
Gravitating towards helping or supporting people or animals that need you because it's painful for you to see suffering
Feeling too open or too closed - picking up EVERYTHING or numbing out
Sensitivity to temperature... experiencing certain temperature ranges as intolerable or even painful

In this episode, I'll begin to unpack what high sensitivity can mean to parents and begin the conversation around how to navigate it.