Your Intended Message George Torok

Write email that gets you the results you want.
Avoid sending email that shows up in the news, or in court
Episode 204 (repeat of #134, Liz is based in L.A.)
Listen to this conversation with Liz Danziger before you send that toxic email and save yourself grief.
 
About Liz Danziger:
Liz is the author of four books published by major publishers including business writing guide, Get to the Point! She is also a columnist on Inc.com

She has decades of experience in helping teams to write clearly and confidently. 
Her goal is to empower people to wield the power of words to create success.
To receive her monthly writing tips called Writamins visit www,WorkTalk.com
At the same site you can get your copy of Ten Tips for Communicating Effectively in a Fast-Paced World.
You can arrange a complimentary 30-minute call to explore communication issues in your organization. Select a time on her calendar
https://calendly.com/worktalk
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Excerpts from this conversation with Liz Danziger:
Mistakes that right off the bat, you could say, okay, stop doing this, this and this, and people's writing will dramatically improve?
Yes, one thing is that they could know their purpose before they start and know their point before they start. My view is that most writing problems happen before a person starts to write.
They happen in the thinking phase when people don't think about their purpose. And that's why I'm so pleased to be on this podcast, your intended message, because that's exactly what the worktop trainings are about is having people be clear on their intentions, and then target their readers.
And so the first thing is to know your purpose and your point. The second thing would be to think about your reader it astonishes me sometimes, how people will just sit down and they're just tap it, tap it tap, but they're writing away.
And then if I stopped them in coaching or in training, and I asked them, so what do you think your readers interested in? And they're like, oh, that's an interesting question. So they need to think about the reader and they need to use clear language.
And the last thing I will say is, people have to reread before they send. It's a common common error that people just tap it tap and send without proofreading. And they live to bear the consequences.
 
 
 
 

Do you have copycat competitors?
Does your message sound and look like everyone else?
Episode 203 (Daniel is based in Florida)
In this conversation with Daniel Den we explore:
How to be so different that they can even begin to copy you
What is the danger of looking like your competition?
How can you position yourself in your niche?
How to layer on more than one differentiating factor
How to turn your product into an experience
Why create a family of brands that support each other - like Apple
How to start defining your difference
How to describe your avatar to attract the right prospect
About our guest Daniel Den:
Daniel became fascinated with marketing and sales almost two decades ago. Today he is the co-creator of the X Factor Effect methodology where he and his team have helped over 20,000 students and clients grow their businesses. Daniel teaches that “Different is the new Better” and his framework includes nine pillars for differentiating your business so that you can become a market leader or category king or queen. 
Daniel Den is the author of the new book "Ideas That Influence," that was built to help business owners discover their own WILDLY SUCCESSFUL MARKETING IDEAS!
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Get your Big Ideas Box at 
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Excerpts from this conversation with Daniel Den:
If we are doing things exactly like our competition, then we end up becoming the average of our competition and the average competition goes out of business within about five years.
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And what we discovered is that if we take one big difference, but then stack that with another big difference, and then stack that with two or three big differences, additional differences, then you can get to the point where you become such a unicorn in your market, where the barrier of copy ability is just too high.
And where it would be laughable if somebody decided to copy you, after you had implemented all of those differences. And so amongst the nine different pillars that we've come up with, we help people become drastically different to the point where they are a unicorn inside of their market, where they can quickly become a market leader, or a category king or category queen.
And that makes all the difference that makes all the difference.
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We call it joining the age of experience. And the age of experience, what we've found, George, is that we all have enough stuff. We all are blessed.
Today, we all have lots of stuff. mass produced, we can pretty much get access to anything. And in today's world, stuff is not what people want anymore. What people want more, is a great experience, and they're willing to spend their disposable income on a great experience.
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Any damn fool can put on a deal. But it takes genius, faith and perseverance to create a brand.  Dan Ogilvy,
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Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self.
In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.
 
Your host is George Torok
George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.
 
Connect with George
www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/
https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills
https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/
 

Make PowerPoint Enhance Your Presentation
Don't be a PowerPoint Fool
Episode 202 (Ellen is based in Iowa)
In this conversation with Ellen Finkelstein we explore:
Common mistakes to avoid when presenting with PowerPoint
How to take a more productive approach to your presentation
How your words, slides and delivery contribute to your success
Why text on your slides stop people from listening
How non-designers can create attractive slides
The importance of practicing your presentation
Your secret helpers - Text Pane and Presenter View
Guidelines and tests for effective slide design
How to fix boring slides
About our Guest Ellen Finkelstein:
She's a PowerPoint MVP and has been one since 2010. That's a Microsoft award and it stands for Most Valuable Professional. There are only 18 in the United States.
Ellen has been training and writing about PowerPoint since before 1999, including several books (written quite a while ago) and her PowerPoint Tip blog.
She isn't a designer so she loves to help non-designers create great PowerPoint slides that communicate clearly, command attention, and help the audience understand and remember the message.
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The Techniques that Will Make Designing Your Slides EASY!"
https://www.ellenfinkelstein.com/pptblog/getstarted/
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And so that's what how you have to write the content. And I do recommend doing that outside of PowerPoint and it's thinking about what you're saying.
So number two, I'll just go really quickly on the slide poor but everybody knows what death by PowerPoint is there's just lots and lots of text on a slide, slide after slide of text.
There's a fair amount of research that shows that we can't listen and look at the same time. That research is why there are some states that have laws against even being on the phone while you're you're listening to someone and talking to somebody while you're driving.
Okay, because you can't really listen and see at the same time, probably what the person is saying on the phone is a lot more interesting than what's in front of you.
So when you put up a slide with a lot of text, people start to read it, we're more visual, the part of the brain that that takes in visual information is much bigger than the part that takes an auditory information.
People read it, but they can read faster than you could speak. So they read ahead of you, they're not listening. And then when they're finished, they go back to listening to you. And they see that, oh, I've already read that.
So why should I pay attention to the speaker?
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That image should help people understand and remember what you are saying.
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I mentioned that presenters screen which functions a little bit like a teleprompter, and so the audience doesn't see it, you see your notes that you've put in the Text Pane, but they just see the slides.
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Never make text move. So don't make text fly in or fly up.
It's almost always annoying to the audience. Because as the text is flying in, they see it and trying to read it, but it's moving.
It gives people a headache. It's not nice to the audience to do that. So I would say I almost always use either appear or fade, if I'm using it on text, you know, it doesn't move at all.
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Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self.
In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.
 
Your host is George Torok
George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended me

How to use Three-Box Storytelling to build Relationships
A simple method to frame and tell your stories
Episode 201 (Repeat of #68)
At the time of this interview, Graham Brown was based in Singapore
 
Highlights from this conversation about storytelling
 
The Heart as an Analogy (00:00:00)An analogy for the heart as a symbol of music, love, and relationships.
Introduction of Graham Brown (00:01:22)Overview of Graham Brown's background and achievements.
Introduction to Three Box Storytelling Technique (00:02:45)Explanation of the three-box storytelling technique and its application in business communication and sales presentations.
Three Scenes of a Story (00:04:03)Explanation of the three scenes in a story using the example of "A Christmas Carol."
Application of Three Box Technique in Sales Presentation (00:06:07)Demonstration of how a business leader can use the three-box technique in a sales presentation.
Transformation and Crossing the River (00:10:44)Discussion on the transformation journey in storytelling and the symbolism of crossing the river as a challenge.
Importance of Trust in Storytelling (00:12:22)The significance of establishing trust through commonality and backstory in storytelling.
Power of Analogies in Communication (00:14:52)Exploration of analogies as short form stories and their effectiveness in communicating unfamiliar concepts.
Creating Familiar Territory in Communication (00:20:04)Emphasizing the importance of finding familiar territory in introducing new ideas or technologies.
Behavior Change and Familiarity (00:21:48)Highlighting the role of familiarity in facilitating behavior change and acceptance of new concepts.
The familiarity part (00:22:56)Neuropsychological studies show the brain can't distinguish between past, present, and future, making familiarity crucial in storytelling.
Archetypes and plot lines (00:24:42)Joseph Campbell's hero's journey and the use of existing archetypes and plot lines in storytelling.
Podcast guesting agency (00:27:03)Graham Brown's agency, Podcast Guesting Pro, helps people get booked on podcasts and navigate the process.
Effective use of stories in sales presentations (00:29:52)Maya Angelou's advice on making people feel something, using the power of the backstory, and the importance of practice in storytelling.
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Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self.
In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.
 
Your host is George Torok
George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.
 
Connect with George
www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/
https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills
https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/
 
 

Why is listening a life saving skill in nature
Let's learn communication skills from the elephants 
In this enlightening episode, host George Torok chats with leadership consultant and coach, Hugh Coppen.
Episode #200 (Repeat of #57)
When he's not on safari in Zimbabwe, Hugh lives in California. 
Coming from a Zimbabwean farm, Coppen has a deep-seated love for wildlife. Now, as a leadership consultant, he channels his passion into valuable lessons for CEOs worldwide. His company, Tasimba, provides immersive safari experiences in Zimbabwe, creating a unique environment for personal and professional growth.
In this discussion, Coppin draws fascinating parallels between wild animal communication (especially elephants) and how we as humans can use similar communication methods. From understanding body language to acknowledging the power of silence, we explore lessons from the wild that can enhance our effectiveness in communication.
We delve deeper into 'listening' - not just to spoken words, but to non-verbal cues and our surrounding environment. Given their lack of speech, wild animals embrace body language and other communication modes that are insightful to us.
Coppen uses practical examples from the animal kingdom, like the positioning of an elephant's head or a flapping of the ears, to underline the importance of body language in effective communication and building listeners’ trust.
This episode, combining adventurous storytelling with critical leadership insights, is a must-listen for professionals looking to enhance their communication skills or anybody interested in learning from nature.
We also look at advanced communication skills in wilderness creatures like Rams and impalas,, especially during their mating seasons. These creatures have evolved complex vocalization methods and an astounding sense of sound, facilitating communication across great distances, safeguarding them from predators.
Another point of discussion is the intricate sub-aural communication method elephant families use. These communications, mostly unheard by humans and predators, help elephants coordinate complicated activities and respect for each other. The example of Cape buffalo herds coming together in large numbers during scarce resources is another humbling lesson to humanity.
Finally, we examine the immersive safari tours in Zimbabwe hosted by Tasimba. These tours provide a unique opportunity to understand nature’s wonders more deeply and learn valuable lessons about living harmoniously with nature. Many guests return with a renewed commitment to conserve wildlife and their habitats following these transformative experiences.
Consider the perspective of how observing wilderness communication can provide profound insights into better communication, collective living, and harmonizing with nature's wisdom.
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Enjoy the beautiful wilderness photos here.
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Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self.
In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.
 
Your host is George Torok
George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.
 
Connect with George
www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/
https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills
https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/
 

You can calm that angry person in 90 seconds or less
Treat anger as a normal emotional response that you can control
Episode 199 (Doug is based in California and this is a repeat of episode 117)
Why you need to listen to this episode now.
If you ever need to face angry people and want a better way to manage the situation, listen to this conversation to save the situation and relationship.
If you ever feel out of control from your own anger, examine this perspective to maintain your dignity while deescalating the situation.
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George Torok and special guest, Doug Knoll - an attorney turned peacemaker - explore the nuanced world of anger and its impact on both personal and professional environments. Focusing on de-escalation strategies and the key role of active listening, this podcast sheds light on how to manage one's emotions, particularly anger, in challenging situations.
Knoll provides a unique perspective on anger, viewing it as a response to boundary violations rather than labeling it as “good” or “bad”.
His de-escalation strategies have found success in the most unlikely of places, including maximum-security prisons, attesting to their effectiveness.
The takeaways from this episode can help leaders better understand their team's emotions, promote effective conflict resolution, and ensure a healthier, more empathetic workspace.
The podcast dives deep into the concept of triggers and their role in hijacking rationality, offering effective tactics to anticipate, understand, and respond to these emotional triggers.
The importance of self-awareness and self-regulation are highlighted, along with a novel approach to redirect the frustration caused by commonly-encountered triggers.
Transitioning into the more sensitive realm of emotional invalidation, the episode examines its harmful effects in personal and professional relationships.
The discussion is geared towards parents, teachers, team leaders, and anyone looking to foster emotional safety and create deeper, healthier relationships.
The importance of emotional validation is underpinned, coupled with practical techniques to effectively validate and address emotions.
Notably, this episode not only offers intellectual paths to managing anger but also guidance for those grappling with pervasive anger issues stemming from trauma.
Prepare to be drawn into a riveting conversation about controlling anger for personal growth and professional success as you tune into this podcast.
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About Doug Noll
Doug Noll is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker. In addition to his law degree, he has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies.  In 2000, he left a successful law practice as a civil trial lawyer to help people resolve conflicts without litigation or conflict.
Doug was born nearly blind, partially deaf, and with two clubbed feet. His disabilities were challenging to overcome….and he did
He’s a second-degree black belt and tai chi master, a certified ski instructor, an airplane and helicopter pilot, a white-water river rafter, and a jazz violinist.
Doug teaches people how to de-escalate angry people in 90 seconds or less. His fourth book, an Amazon bestseller, is called De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug has online video courses and provides workshops and coaching to individuals and organizations desiring to increase their emotional competency.
As a listener of Your Intended Message you are entitled to receive a free book, How to Listen Others into Existence.
Learn more Doug Noll here https://dougnoll.com/
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Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self.
In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversation