UNDERSTANDABLE Robert Siegers
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- Salud y forma física
► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating.
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E207 - Emotional Neglect & Complex Trauma: Healing From The Wounds of What Didn’t Happen
What is the first image, that comes to your mind, when you hear the word “Trauma”?
A car crash? Violence in a family? War?
These are severe and traumatizing events, for sure.
But, what if I’m telling you, that instead silent trauma causes many challenges we deal with, such as attachment & relationship-problems, constant shame and heavy emotional outbreaks?
What if I’m telling you, that your wounds from the past are not a result of the severe events, but of the things that didn’t happen, that should have?
Today, you will attain clarity what emotional neglect is
You will understand how emotional neglect from the past shapes our present and future and which challenges this means to us
And you will learn a process how to break free and relearn proper emotional processing in the here and now.
► Links and Resources:
Video - Cycle of Toxic Shame: https://youtu.be/e0W9c_1lSHU?si=FyQz6wGeaGLTobOS
Video - Emotional Dysregulation: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=AY-HwgqoU-YMxmL5
Video - Infatuation: https://youtu.be/Uk27yW1ZXMA?si=0dTj98d3O9sODHK7
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview Emotional Neglect
1:56 Trauma: The Definition Behind
6:00 Consequences of Early Emotional Neglect
9:17 Trauma vs. Emotional Neglect
11:15 Why are Emotions so Important?
14:15 How Does Emotional Neglect Shame Our Emotional World?
18:33 Mismatch: Inner Perception & Outer Perception
27:35 Adulthood Challenges Caused by Emotional Neglect (CEN)
35:00 5 Steps to Heal from Emotional Neglect (CEN)
43:50 Final Thoughts
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E206 - How to Resolve Complex Trauma Symptoms as a Highly Sensitive Person: 6 Proven Ways
How to resolve complex childhood trauma symptoms can be answered in just one simple sentence:
Learn to unconsciously feel safe again (around other people).
BUT that is so much easier said than done for most of us.
We might rationally understand that there is no threat today, but deep inside on the level of our unconscious we feel unsafe.
We still don’t trust other people and we feel the need to hide behind a mask to protect ourselves.
Today I want to break down the challenge of complex trauma symptoms to the most fundamental and simple solution as possible.
I want to find answers to the question, whether there are overlooked ways, how we can directly reach out to our unconscious mind, where trauma memories are stored.
And we will see if there are practical ways to finally feel safe again.
► Links and Resources:
Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx
IFS-Therapy: https://www.therapywithalessio.com/articles/ifs-protector-parts-what-are-they
Hypnosis (Dr. David Spiegel): https://youtu.be/PctD-ki8dCc?si=-toj1pLr22JkzhSN
Reveri-App (non-sponsored): https://www.reveri.com/
Andrew Major Guided Hypnosis: https://youtu.be/cX47UAy4rmc?si=Zas6Wdoa7XCvhHry
Psychedelics: https://med.nyu.edu/departments-institutes/population-health/divisions-sections-centers/medical-ethics/education/high-school-bioethics-project/learning-scenarios/ptsd-treatment-psychedelics
Lucid Dreaming:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:57 The 8 Big Trauma Symptoms
5:02 Adulthood "Flaws" as an Outcome from Childhood Trauma
7:04 The Most Simple Explanation of Trauma
8:50 The 2 Identities of Traumatized People
11:50 The Walls of Resistance
14:50 The Fundamental Solution to Resolve Complex Trauma
17:00 6 Proven Ways so Resolve Complex Trauma
17:22 1) The Long and Hard Way
19:55 2) Big Life Events
21:36 3) Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy
24:24 4) Psychedelics
26:50 5) Deep Meditation
27:40 6) (Lucid) Dreaming
29:28 Final Thoughts
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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E205 - To Anyone, Who's been Neglected, Abused or Abandoned as a Child...
1 out of 3 adults experienced some form of mistreatment by their parents or caretakers in their childhood. If you clicked on this video, you may be one of them.
BUT as children, we didn’t understand that our parents did mistakes.
As children, we thought, it’s our fault, that we got mistreated.
We concluded that we are wrong if we get neglected, abused or abandoned as a child.
Today’s episode is a reminder to wake-up from that illusion that we internalized for years and decades.
- Today, you will understand, that it wasn’t your fault, that you were neglected, abused or abandoned.
- You will truly feel, that you are beautiful, the way you are
- And you will learn how to break free from all the burden you might be carrying today
► Links and Resources:
Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx
ACE Study: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adverse_childhood_experiences#Adverse_childhood_experiences_study
Download the list of needs: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/feelingsneedslist-2.pdf
List of Needs Website:
https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-feelings-and-needs-list/
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:33 My Personal "Flaws" & Challenges
6:15 It's Complex Childhood PTSD!
9:05 The Big Misunderstanding about Trauma
11:20 Consequences of Childhood Trauma (ACE-Study)
13:00 Examples of Mistreatment in Toxic Family Systems
16:20 Adulthood "Flaws", Caused by Childhood Neglect, Abuse & Abandonment
18:00 The Big 8 Symptoms of CPTSD
18:20 1) Hypervigilance
20:00 2) Re-Experiencing
22:00 3) Altered Attention & Consciousness
23:18 4) Emotional Dysregulation
24:25 5) Interpersonal Instability
25:30 6) Affected Belief System
26:37 7) Somatic Symptoms
28:20 8) Avoidance
29:17 What to do, if you have been neglected, abused or abandoned as a child?
31:40 Are You the Manipulator today?
33:00 Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Shame & Guilt
35:30 Exercise: Meeting Your Needs
37:50 Final Thoughts
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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E204 - Emotional Dysregulation & Complex Trauma: Why You Feel Shame, Anger, Grief, Anxiety & Panic
Guess how many major triggers there are for emotional dysregulation.
Most of the time - Not more than 4.
BUT often people are not able to re-regulate themselves. They feel like they are at the mercy of their emotions.
This is why we today will explore what emotional dysregulation actually is
You will learn what the 4 big triggers and dysregulated states are
And in the end, I will present a 5-step solution path that you can do long term to not just re-regulate yourself better, but to finally resolve dysregulation and heavy emotional triggers before they even occur.
► Links and Resources:
Emotional Dysregulation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_dysregulation
Brain Scan: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41398-021-01666-3
Attachment in Adults: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults
PVT: https://counsellinginhamilton.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Polyvagal-Ladder-NICAB.png
HSP & Trauma vs. Autism/ADHD Episode: https://youtu.be/EHj_zYN-U_I?si=FFJZ9uVdqc8rdDs1
PVT-Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=6ywrlrG3K_8h_58F
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:33 What is Emotional Dysregulation?
4:00 Emotional Dysregulation & Central Nervous System
5:05 What is the Problem with Emotional Dysregulation?
7:27 What are the Causes for Emotional Dysregulation?
8:00 Two Example-States for Emotional Dysregulation
19:40 Trauma-Metaphor: A House with open Windows & Doors
21:38 The Two Big Wounds of Childhood
23:50 Blind Spots & Triggers, You don't Understand
26:50 The 4 Dysregulated States & their Triggers
34:10 5 Steps to Re-Regulate Acute Dysregulation
38:35 5 Steps to Resolve & Prevent Dysregulation Long term
46:56 Final Thoughts
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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E203 - To Anyone, Who's a Highly Sensitive Person or Neurodivergent...
If you clicked on this video, you most probably belong to the 20% of our population who is highly sensitive or has a neurodivergent condition like autism, ADHD or similar.
Still, most sensitive people have no clue that they are highly sensitive or those who know about it, feel miserable for having these traits.
A lot of HSPs and Neurodivergents seem to feel alienated, misunderstood and left out within a society that increasingly gets sicker.
But instead of taking the role of victim, I want to encourage you with this video. We can’t change being highly sensitive or neurodivergent. That’s correct.
But we can change the perspective and beliefs we have about these conditions.
So today you will see that being sensitive is an absolute gift.
- You will also understand that HSPs and Neurodivergents are just DIFFERENT, not better or worse.
- And you will understand how you can create a great and fulfilled life as a highly sensitive individual within a not so sensitive society.
► Links and Resources:
How I became Self-Employed Episode: https://youtu.be/5TnxoNyhYQo?si=QIRdq5i8PHNoFN3v
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 You Belong to the 20% of the Population, that...
1:45 Story: Why I always felt like an Alien
4:55 Being Highly Sensitive can be a Burden AND a Gift
7:40 10 Reasons, Why You're a Gift as an HSP/Neurodivergent
16:30 Being HSP/Neurodivergent is a Difference, not Worse/Better
20:30 5 Steps for a Better Life as a Sensitive Person in a not so Sensitive Society
28:45 Final Thoughts
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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E202 - HSP/SPS & CPTSD: The Cycle of Toxic Shame & Guilt (and how to Break it)
Can you guess how much % of people with complex trauma symptoms experience this cycle of toxic shame and guilt?
100 % of them. BUT many of them have no clue that they have a shame based identity.
Therefore, in today’s episode
You will experience the difference between shame and guilt
Will understand the shocking link between shame and complex trauma as a sensitive person
Will discover how guilt nurtures our shame within our relationships
And in the end I will show you at which position you can finally break the cycle to free yourself from toxic shame.
I was honestly really surprised when I found out how much shame there is in trauma and where to actually break the cycle.
► Links and Resources:
Tim Fletcher's Circle of Shame: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=5P9juq4DH9GuhDaq
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:40 Shame - A Hidden Topic & Sensation
3:12 What is Shame?
5:33 What is Guilt?
6:38 Shame vs. Guilt
7:28 Why are Toxic Shame & Guilt Crucial to us?
10:39 How Does Toxic Shame Feel Like?
13:43 The Origin of Toxic Shame
15:23 The Second Source of Shame
16:33 How Shame Manifests Through Our Lives
19:50 The Cycle of Toxic Shame and Guilt
26:46 The Circle of Shame by Tim Fletcher
28:50 How to NOT Heal from Shame
30:19 Where to Break the Cycle of Shame & Guilt?
33:40 The Cycle of an Authentic Self
35:40 Final Thoughts
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating.