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UNDERSTANDABLE Robert Siegers
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating.
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E211 - Fear of Commitment: How Complex Trauma (CPTSD) Causes Avoidant Attachment Style & Relationship Anxiety
Do you know that feeling when you're with your partner or someone you're dating and you feel constricted and too close?
Your mind wants nothing more than freedom. And to get it, you want to get away, be alone and not be attached to that person.
BUT you don't actually want to end the relationship. You want closeness, but then it's too much for you. You want to be with the person, but at the same time you have a bad feeling about the commitment.
Now today your eyes will be opened when you finally understand what’s actually behind that fear of commitment.
You will also understand which role complex childhood trauma plays in your relationship anxiety,
And you will learn what you can do today to finally break free from your avoidant attachment style.
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► Links and Resources:
Fear of Commitment: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_commitment
HSP + CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/gtWbS5LL984?si=DdrZCNpc4YTq7GD2
Cycle of Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/e0W9c_1lSHU?si=0z6rRJNgjqYoJ6g4
PVT Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=tm9HZ5DvHp9-YG33
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
2:39 My Own Story With Fear Of Commitment
04:35 What Is Fear Of Commitment?
7:00 How Fear Of Commitment Feels Like (Salad Metaphor)
10:17 The Infatuation Phase
10:45 The Fear Of Commitment Phase
13:15 The Meaning Of The Disgust-Response
18:00 The Connection With Complex Trauma
19:49 The Wounded Pathway
26:35 Complex Trauma And The Central Nervous System
30:38 Solutions And Treatment For Fear Of Commitment
38:41 Final Thoughts
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E210 - 10 Signs It's CPTSD (Even If You Think Your Childhood Was Great)
Today, I have 10 Signs for you that it's CPTSD, even if you think that your childhood was great.
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► Links and Resources:
Podcast mit Dr. Gabor Maté: https://youtu.be/gPU0JcjybkY?si=-RZ86fCA9NJ3z_D1
Unmasking Infatuation Episode: https://youtu.be/Uk27yW1ZXMA?si=Ytp2tCwON3RJ_Smv
Codependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=y2G9dj2nNB1B23ns
How To Find a Therapist Episode: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=4yFkoz0hZ0tWbGr3
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Trauma Sketch
0:44 Overview
2:00 What is CPTSD?
3:03 CPTSD vs PTSD
6:15 The Problem with CPTSD
9:15 CPTSD and The Central Nervous System
13:20 Sign 1) You Feel Angry & Distrustful Towards The World
15:00 Sign 2) You’re Hiding Side of Yourself
17:24 Sign 3) You Feel Best and Free When You’re Alone
19:50 Sign 4) When You Get Criticized You Fear Your Partner Will Leave You
21:49 Sign 5) You Avoid Relationships or Have On/Off-Relationships
23:40 Sign 6) You Feel Panicky About Commitment
25:00 Sign 7) You Have Unexplainable Somatic Symptoms
27:15 Sign 8) You Feel That Noone Understands You
28:50 Sign 9) You Struggle With Procrastination
32:11 Sign 10) Limerence and Obsessive Infatuation
34:54 Solutions for CPTSD
36:25 Final Thoughts
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E209 - BPD vs. CPTSD vs. ASD/ADHD: 7 Signs It's Borderline, Not Trauma or Neurodivergence
THIS is how the potential overlap between Borderline, CPTSD and Autism/ADHD might look like.
But even for health care professionals, it’s difficult to clearly diagnose them separately. So I tried to disassemble those big 4 conditions for you.
Today, you will understand what Borderline actually is,
You will learn about 7 big main differences in Borderline BPD, CPTSD and Autism/ADHD.
And you will recognize similarities and overlaps between these conditions.
► Links and Resources:
BPD Definition: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder
BPD Criteria: https://www.bpdfoundation.org.au/diagnostic-criteria.php
BPD Spectrum: https://youtu.be/1epFCooDOQU?si=f9fm3B9cC0q2ARoz
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:49 What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?
4:00 BPD Criteria vs CPTSD Symptoms
11:13 Autism/ADHD vs BPD
12:49 Borderline (BPD) vs CPTSD vs ASD/ADHD
14:15 7 Signs It's Borderline (BPD)
14:55 Sign 1 - Fear of Abandonment
16:50 Sign 2 - No Shame
17:40 Sign 3 - No Avoidance
19:30 Sign 4 - Rage & Anger
20:30 Sign 5 - Abrupt Personality Change
21:58 Sign 6 - High Suicidality
23:22 Sign 7 - Narcissistic Cover-Strategy
25:50 Overlap & Similarities of BPD, CPTSD & ASD/ADHD
27:50 Therapy & Treatment
31:10 Final Thoughts
Final Thoughts
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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E208 - Dissociation in CPTSD: How it Feels Like & How To Regulate Depersonalization & Derealization
Most of our lives we are able to think, feel and act out of clarity.
We can remember important things, know who we are and where we are.
BUT if we experienced trauma, we sometimes disconnect like we would suddenly go offline. We experience numbness and appear cut off.
Today, you will understand how dissociation actually feels like
You will learn how it protects you and where it comes from
And you will learn how to re-regulate, if you experience depersonalized or derealized states.
► Links and Resources:
3 Levels of Dissociation: https://youtu.be/kGlQ_ePWw28?si=-zIDNd_BBx9apfvb
What is Dissociation: https://books.google.de/books?id=LhhTXkSbFnAC&printsec=frontcover&hl=de&source=gbs_ge_summary_r&cad=0#v=onepage&q&f=false P. 105
5 Types of Dissociation: https://www.isst-d.org/resources/dissociation-faqs/
Ladder of the CNS: https://counsellinginhamilton.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Polyvagal-Ladder-NICAB.png
PVT Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=_8ymFxnlB1mdiMIQ
Therapy Episode: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=lUuezyeI-4L1OGsQ
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:30 What is Dissociation
2:37 The 3 Levels of Dissociation
5:22 Dissociation as a State of the Central Nervous System
8:22 How Dissociation Feels Like
10:00 The 5 Types of Dissociation
10:24 1) Depersonalization
11:33 2) Derealization
12:48 3) Dissociative Amnesia
15:30 4) Identity Confusion
16:20 5) Identity Alteration
17:40 Dissociation Treatment
19:39 5 Steps to Re-Regulate Dissociation
23:55 Final Thoughts
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E207 - Emotional Neglect & Complex Trauma: Healing From The Wounds of What Didn’t Happen
What is the first image, that comes to your mind, when you hear the word “Trauma”?
A car crash? Violence in a family? War?
These are severe and traumatizing events, for sure.
But, what if I’m telling you, that instead silent trauma causes many challenges we deal with, such as attachment & relationship-problems, constant shame and heavy emotional outbreaks?
What if I’m telling you, that your wounds from the past are not a result of the severe events, but of the things that didn’t happen, that should have?
Today, you will attain clarity what emotional neglect is
You will understand how emotional neglect from the past shapes our present and future and which challenges this means to us
And you will learn a process how to break free and relearn proper emotional processing in the here and now.
► Links and Resources:
Video - Cycle of Toxic Shame: https://youtu.be/e0W9c_1lSHU?si=FyQz6wGeaGLTobOS
Video - Emotional Dysregulation: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=AY-HwgqoU-YMxmL5
Video - Infatuation: https://youtu.be/Uk27yW1ZXMA?si=0dTj98d3O9sODHK7
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview Emotional Neglect
1:56 Trauma: The Definition Behind
6:00 Consequences of Early Emotional Neglect
9:17 Trauma vs. Emotional Neglect
11:15 Why are Emotions so Important?
14:15 How Does Emotional Neglect Shame Our Emotional World?
18:33 Mismatch: Inner Perception & Outer Perception
27:35 Adulthood Challenges Caused by Emotional Neglect (CEN)
35:00 5 Steps to Heal from Emotional Neglect (CEN)
43:50 Final Thoughts
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. -
E206 - How to Resolve Complex Trauma Symptoms as a Highly Sensitive Person: 6 Proven Ways
How to resolve complex childhood trauma symptoms can be answered in just one simple sentence:
Learn to unconsciously feel safe again (around other people).
BUT that is so much easier said than done for most of us.
We might rationally understand that there is no threat today, but deep inside on the level of our unconscious we feel unsafe.
We still don’t trust other people and we feel the need to hide behind a mask to protect ourselves.
Today I want to break down the challenge of complex trauma symptoms to the most fundamental and simple solution as possible.
I want to find answers to the question, whether there are overlooked ways, how we can directly reach out to our unconscious mind, where trauma memories are stored.
And we will see if there are practical ways to finally feel safe again.
► Links and Resources:
Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx
IFS-Therapy: https://www.therapywithalessio.com/articles/ifs-protector-parts-what-are-they
Hypnosis (Dr. David Spiegel): https://youtu.be/PctD-ki8dCc?si=-toj1pLr22JkzhSN
Reveri-App (non-sponsored): https://www.reveri.com/
Andrew Major Guided Hypnosis: https://youtu.be/cX47UAy4rmc?si=Zas6Wdoa7XCvhHry
Psychedelics: https://med.nyu.edu/departments-institutes/population-health/divisions-sections-centers/medical-ethics/education/high-school-bioethics-project/learning-scenarios/ptsd-treatment-psychedelics
Lucid Dreaming:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream
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► Episode Timestamps:
0:00 Overview
1:57 The 8 Big Trauma Symptoms
5:02 Adulthood "Flaws" as an Outcome from Childhood Trauma
7:04 The Most Simple Explanation of Trauma
8:50 The 2 Identities of Traumatized People
11:50 The Walls of Resistance
14:50 The Fundamental Solution to Resolve Complex Trauma
17:00 6 Proven Ways so Resolve Complex Trauma
17:22 1) The Long and Hard Way
19:55 2) Big Life Events
21:36 3) Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy
24:24 4) Psychedelics
26:50 5) Deep Meditation
27:40 6) (Lucid) Dreaming
29:28 Final Thoughts
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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating.