27 episodes

Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

The Unburdened Leader Rebecca Ching, LMFT

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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

    EP 26: Leading an Integrated Life Over a Divided Life with Stasia Savusuk, Creator of The REVEL-YOU-TION

    EP 26: Leading an Integrated Life Over a Divided Life with Stasia Savusuk, Creator of The REVEL-YOU-TION

    It is time to stop living a divided life.
     
    When your life is divided between home and work, personal and professional, you're vulnerable to all sorts of relationship troubles and everyday friction.
     
    When you separate yourself from your values and see your business and life divided instead of integrated and unified by your purpose and values, you will break from the pressure of it all.
     
    You feel out of alignment with what matters most–your health, your values, your most important relationships–and feel at the mercy of responding to every need like it is an emergency, further sacrificing your clarity and confidence.
     
    My guest today has done the work to get clear on how she leads herself and others and not letting fear divide her from what she values and who she loves most.
     
    Stasia Svasuk (http://www.stasiasavasuk.com/) is an entrepreneur, mama, speaker, adventurer, thrifter, and science-of-style expert who thinks bodies are just about the coolest things on earth.
     
    She is the founder and creator of THE REVEL-YOU-TION (https://www.facebook.com/welcometotherevelyoution)––an online community of crazy-brave women who are using their closets to heal their shame, flex their brave muscles, cultivate their creativity, and create some wildly fabulous outfits while they’re at it.
     
    Stasia has inspired many thousands through her Tedx talk, her wildly popular (and now retired) Stasia’s Style School, her numerous podcast recordings and guest speaker gigs, and her ability to cultivate a community where collective braving and collective healing are the name of the game.
     
    We cover some incredible territory in this episode around work, life, and family integration.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How our closets are a Trailhead for doing deep, meaningful work about how you feel in your body
    * How Stasia realized that teaching women to turn down the temperature on their body shame wasn’t enough and how she’s changing her business to do it
    * How she’s learning to feel into her boundaries and take ownership of the consequences, good and bad
    * How her relationships with her clothes let her know when she’s out of alignment elsewhere in her life

     
    Learn more about Stasia Savasuk:

    * stasiasavasuk.com (http://www.stasiasavasuk.com/)
    * Instagram: @stasiasavasuk (https://www.instagram.com/stasiasavasuk/)
    * Facebook: @welcometotherevelyoution (https://www.facebook.com/welcometotherevelyoution)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources

    * A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided Life (https://bookshop.org/books/a-hidden-wholeness-the-journey-toward-an-undivided-life-with-dvd-9780470453766/9780470453766) by Parker J. Palmer

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    EP 25: The Boundary Barriers of Leadership with Psychologist and Author, Alison Cook, PhD

    EP 25: The Boundary Barriers of Leadership with Psychologist and Author, Alison Cook, PhD

     
    Boundary barriers become leadership barriers.
     
    What gets in the way of setting and maintaining boundaries gets in the way of leading well.
     
    Our polarized culture, along with so many demands on our time and energy, make it so important to get clear on what gets in the way of setting and maintaining boundaries…and what they are protecting.
     
    Do you know what your boundaries are protecting?
     
    You have to know why you are laboring through the work of setting and maintaining boundaries. Without this clarity and focus you will flounder and feel fed up–often giving up on your boundaries and yourself.
     
    We get so focused on when and how people violate our boundaries that we lose focus on the reason we are fighting for them. This leads to boundaries becoming barriers - no longer protecting what is important: our time, our relationships, our wellbeing.
     
    What helps you stay the course when you set boundaries? Your clarity of values and clarity on what your boundaries protect.
     
    When you are clear on what you are protecting and fighting for, you have more confidence in navigating the work involved in setting and maintaining boundaries.
     
    My guest today loves to teach and talk about boundaries.
     
    Alison Cook, MA, PhD (http://www.alisoncookphd.com/) is a counselor, speaker, and the co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul (https://bookshop.org/books/boundaries-for-your-soul-how-to-turn-your-overwhelming-thoughts-and-feelings-into-your-greatest-allies/9781400201617). For over 15 years, Alison has helped women learn how to heal painful emotions, develop confidence from the inside out, forge healthy relationships, and fully live out their God-given potential. Each week, she encourages over 30,000 subscribers to her email newsletter and blog at alisoncookphd.com (http://www.alisoncookphd.com/).
     
    In our conversation, Alison unpacks a powerful perspective on setting and maintaining boundaries.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * The ways navigating a blended family has influenced Alison’s leadership in all areas of her life
    * Getting clear on the stories that keep us from honoring our commitments to ourselves
    * The medical emergency that brought Alison to a deeper, stronger place in herself
    * And how bypassing short circuits the soul work of becoming a whole person

     
    Learn more about Alison Cook:

    * alisoncookphd.com (http://www.alisoncookphd.com/)
    * Facebook @alisoncookphd (https://www.facebook.com/alisoncookphd/)
    * Instagram @alisoncookphd (https://www.instagram.com/alisoncookphd/)
    * Boundaries for Your Soul (https://bookshop.org/books/boundaries-for-your-soul-how-to-turn-your-overwhelming-thoughts-and-feelings-into-your-greatest-allies/9781400201617)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources:

    * Internal Family Systems (https://ifs-institute.com/)

     

    • 1 hr 4 min
    EP 24: Leading With Visual Language featuring Social Entrepreneur and Author, Sunni Brown

    EP 24: Leading With Visual Language featuring Social Entrepreneur and Author, Sunni Brown

    Our capacities are at an all-time low.
     
    Between the pandemic and politics and injustice–not to mention our already overflowing lives and schedules–we have access to far fewer resources for staying calm, beating back anxiety, or holding space for others.
     
    It’s in times like these that leaders like you need to know what trips you up--so you can take better care of yourself and continue to lead those who depend on you.
     
    Knowing what trips you up requires a lot of curiosity and deep respect for feeling out of sorts, but so often, the message to keep cool and never let others see you struggle shuts down any curiosity about what is at the root of inner struggle.
     
    Staying calm and showing up with care is exhausting--especially when the world is on fire. You don’t want to stop… but it’s tough!
     
    Now, I know everyone is used to hearing about “triggers,” but I like to use a different term-- trailhead.
     
    Trailheads, according to the founder of Internal Family Systems (https://ifs-institute.com/) Dick Schwartz, are an emotion, image, inner voice, thought, physical sensation, or impulse that, when brought into focus and followed, often leads to a part of our inner system that is in distress.
     
    Understanding our triggers and trailheads is a path to knowing ourselves better and provides us with direction on what we need to create and informs our body of work.
     
    My guest today built an incredible career based on following her triggers and trailheads.
     
    Sunni Brown (http://deepselfdesign.com/) is a social entrepreneur, best-selling author, story architect, and book coach.
     
    Her TED Talk has drawn more than 1.5 million views and she is the author of Gamestorming (https://bookshop.org/books/gamestorming-a-playbook-for-innovators-rulebreakers-and-changemakers-9780596804176/9780596804176) and The Doodle Revolution (https://bookshop.org/books/the-doodle-revolution-unlock-the-power-to-think-differently/9781591847038), forthcoming book–Being Confident: In Any Situation and When it Matters Most.
     
    Sunni has developed a company that has a powerful cultural impact on how we learn and work. She has started this movement based on the data offered from her own personal triggers and trailheads.
     
    Sunni has redefined what it means to arrive as she deepens her awareness of her inner system.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * What the Doodle Revolution is and why is this type of visual learning so important
    * The impact doing this type of work has had on Sunni personally and what happened when she followed her rage
    * How she integrates Internal Family Systems into her visual and design work
    * And how to get curious and befriend your trailheads and triggers instead of shaming and exiling them

     
    Learn more about Sunni Brown:

    * Deep Self Design (http://deepselfdesign.com/)
    * Twiiter @SunniBrown (https://twitter.com/sunnibrown?lang=en)
    * Facebook @SunniBrownInk (https://www.facebook.com/sunnibrownink/)
    * Instagram @SunniBrown (https://www.instagram.com/sunnibrown/?hl=en)
    * Gamestorming: A Playbook for Innovators, Rulebreakers, and Changemakers (https://bookshop.org/books/gamestorming-a-playbook-for-innovators-rulebreakers-and-changemakers-9780596804176/9780596804176)
    * The Doodle Revolution: Unlock the Power to Think Differently (https://bookshop.org/books/the-doodle-revolution-unlock-the-power-to-think-differently/9781591847038)

     
    Learn more about Liisa Sorsa:

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    EP 23: Leading and Respecting Your Whole Self with Metalsmith and Founder of Artists & Profit Makers, Megan Auman

    EP 23: Leading and Respecting Your Whole Self with Metalsmith and Founder of Artists & Profit Makers, Megan Auman

    Too often, we exile the parts of us that hold complex emotions and difficult parts of our story at the expense of our wholeness. And not respecting our own wholeness in favor of living a compartmentalized life is perpetuated in the spaces we live and lead.
     
    So, we hide away the things that we’ve been taught to believe are not acceptable—and what we hide is often rooted from the soul of what makes us unique and feel most alive.
     
    Making space to lead complexity means signing up to navigate emotions, beliefs, and perspectives that do not fit into a tidy box.
     
    This is the call right now. To dig into nuance and hang out in this place of complexity requires awareness that cannot be put back into the proverbial toothpaste tube.
     
    This is super vulnerable.
     
    But remember, respecting the whole person still requires boundaries, honoring core values, and developing systems that move you and your business forward. The fear of chaos is more about the fear of change–and what that change means for our own safety and status.
     
    What we are seeing is how leadership that respects the whole person is rewriting the rules on what is professional and appropriate.
     
    Oh, the rules.
     
    You know the rules... the shoulds about what is professional and ok for business and work and what is not.
     
    These rules crush our souls along with our clarity of voice and desire to create. And they continue to dehumanize and marginalize.
     
    Approaching business and people with a perspective that values all parts of those they lead requires doing the inner work to navigate the complexity of emotions and lived experiences with compassion and curiosity instead of shame and correction.
     
    My guest today lives this work and this approach.
     
    Megan Auman is a jewelry designer, metalsmith, educator, and entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in selling art through a variety of channels.
     
    Currently, Megan is running her eponymous jewelry line and the online community Artists & Profit Makers for fellow creatives who sell high-end products. A best-selling CreativeLive instructor, Megan’s designs have been featured in Elle Decor, Better Homes & Gardens, Cooking Light and on top-rated blogs like Design*Sponge.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How Megan discusses how we can care but not be burdened by judgment–from ourselves or others. I love this insight she offered.
    * Listen for Megan’s discussion around shame, especially around our workspaces and what we charge for our services.
    * Notice how Megan approached her own rumble with anxiety that shifted so much for her.

     
    Learn more about Megan Auman:

    * meganauman.com (http://meganauman.com/)
    * Artists & Profit Makers (https://artistsandprofitmakers.com/#:~:text=Artists%20and%20Profit%20Makers%20is%20an%20online%20group%20coaching%20program,t%20working%20for%20creative%20businesses.)
    * Follow Megan on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/meganauman/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * thanks, mom - MEGAN AUMAN (https://www.meganauman.com/2012/05/thanks-mom/)
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    • 1 hr 12 min
    EP 22: Clear and Decisive Leadership with Founder of Frank and Eileen, Audrey McLoghlin

    EP 22: Clear and Decisive Leadership with Founder of Frank and Eileen, Audrey McLoghlin

     
    Never underestimate the power of your decisions.
     
    Especially the little decisions you make each day.
     
    How you go about making decisions offers so much data about you and what you believe about yourself and the world around you.
     
    Many of us second-guess our decisions because we're unsure of ourselves in the first place. Maybe you underestimate your ability to do hard things or give added weight to the judgement others might pass when they learn about your decision.
     
    Most often, I suspect you second-guess your ability to do hard things and feel hard things. Or maybe you question how those around you will respond to your decisions.
     
    If you are too protected from feeling vulnerable or your worthiness is wrapped up in metrics or the opinions of others, then you will be disconnected from your purpose and your courage
     
    More importantly, you will be disconnected from making the decisions that support the life you are building and those you are leading.
     
    My guest today never underestimates herself or saw a problem she could not tackle with zeal. Her sense of responsibility towards those in her charge combined with a deep, early born desire to never be beholden to anyone fuels her approach to the decisions she makes and how she problem solves.
     
    Audrey McLoghlin founded luxury clothing brand Frank & Eileen. Borrowing her grandparents’ names, Audrey sourced traditional suiting fabrics from the finest family-owned mills in Italy to reinvent the women’s button-up—a category that had previously focused solely on men.
     
    Frank & Eileen quickly became a favorite with cultural icons such as Meghan Markle, Oprah Winfrey and Kamala Harris, and is now a global retail brand. She is a four-time entrepreneur who has bootstrapped all of her companies, without ever taking outside funding.
     
    You are in for a masterclass conversation today. This may be a conversation for you to listen to on repeat—I know I already have!
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * Audrey’s mindset when the shutdown happened and how that helped her weather the storm of losing 11 million dollars in sales in two weeks
    * How the burdens she has carried fuels her resilience instead of taking her out
    * What Audrey says are the two most valuable commodities for an entrepreneur - and for all of us - and how she saw an opportunity on the other side of the triage from the crisis instead of being paralyed by indecision or waiting for things to go back to normal

     
    Learn more about Audrey McLoghlin:

    * Frankandeileen.com (http://www.frankandeileen.com/)
    * @FrankandEileen on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/frankandeileen/)
    * @audreymcloghlin on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/audreymcloghlin/)
    * @grayson on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/grayson/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * www.ifs-institute.com (http://www.ifs-institute.com/)
    * www.brenebrown.com (http://www.brenebrown.com)

     

    • 1 hr 12 min
    EP 21: Leading With Body Resilience with Co-Author of More Than A Body, Lindsay Kite

    EP 21: Leading With Body Resilience with Co-Author of More Than A Body, Lindsay Kite

     
    Caring about those you lead means caring about the harm you may unknowingly be doing.
     
    Many of us who fit western standards of beauty and live in conventionally abled bodies don't understand how our choices can cause pain. We've internalized ableism and fat-phobia to the point where we can't even grasp how our words & deeds cause harm.
     
    In particular, in the last year, and perhaps for a while longer, many of you have come to terms with the way you operate in the world and cause pain or harm in a way you have no idea.
     
    Talking about beliefs around body, health, size, and beauty can feel like a tenuous social quagmire. Perfectionism and shame love to hang out and have a party with both mindset and mental health when tackling nuanced and vulnerable topics like this one.
     
    We breathe in the many conflicting messages on what it means to be enough, to be strong, to be worthy. Our bodies carry the burdens of these messages and beliefs.
     
    Recognizing how collusion with systems and toxic beliefs affects too many means taking action   to alleviate this pain and suffering.
     
    Because accepting these standards unchecked and at face value is dehumanizing and devaluing.
     
    It’s time to choose the socially and morally responsible path to learn what it means to cultivate an environment that supports rathan than harms.
     
    While many companies and organizations are stepping up and making an effort towards this, my guest today shares how the good intentions are often missing the intended - and needed -  impact.
     
    Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the new book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. They both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy.
     
    Today, Lindsay and Lexie continue to help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their new book, their online Body Image Resilience course, social media activism, and regular speaking engagements for thousands of people of all ages.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * Self-objectification and body resilience: These are the game-changer in how you can change your outlook and approach to body anxiety.
    * Dr. Kite unpacks what gets in the way of how we see ourselves and how that impacts our courage and how we show up in work and life.
    * The call Dr. Kite puts out for all of us—especially those with privilege—to challenge our bias around body size personally and in our places of work.

     
    Learn more about Dr. Lindsay Kite:

    * Morethanabody.org (http://morethanabody.org/)
    * beautyredefined.org (http://beautyredefined.org/)
    * @beauty_redefined on Instagram (http://instagram.com/beauty_redefined)
    * Beauty Redefined on Facebook (http://facebook.com/beautyredefined)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA) (http://www.bedaonline.com/)
    * Binge Eating Disorder: The Road to Recovery and Beyond (Book) (https://www.amazon.com/Binge-Eating-Disorder-Journey-Recovery/dp/1138236934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1525978452&sr=8-1&keywords=amy+pershing)

     

    • 1 hr 8 min

Customer Reviews

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28 Ratings

28 Ratings

Miriam Schulman ,

My go to expert

Rebecca is my go to expert for all things managing the mental game of leadership, entrepreneurship and become your personal best

@schulmanArt host of The Inspiration Place podcast

Kelly Ferg ,

Intelligent and Refreshing

I love the topics Rebecca brings to the table. The interviews are thoughtful and relevant and I appreciate hearing her perspective on self leadership and the expertise she brings to the conversation with her education and training as a therapist.

NatalieKinSD ,

Say yes to wellness!

As a mother, business owner and chronic say yes to all the things type of gal, this podcast touched my soul. 🙌🏽 While listening I was tearing up because it is everything I have felt in my heart and head was all in one podcast. I have really been trying to spread the message (mostly to myself) that as a business owner I don’t have to be #1. I don’t have to hustle so hard that it compromises my health or the value I have in being with my husband and young kids. Whatever feels right to ME is truly enough. Thank you for normalizing wellness vs the constant pressure to climb to the top of the business ladder. Please keep this content coming. 💛

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