It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

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Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life! Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way? In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid. And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.

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Welcome to It’s All Your Fault!

Welcome to It’s All Your Fault, the show about dealing with the High Conflict People in your life. The first episode drops in two weeks so subscribe now so you don’t miss any episode when they release! Episodes drop every Thursday during the season. We’ll be talking about all aspects of dealing with HCPs in your life, and we welcome questions! Please submit questions at our site using the link below. We just may be answering your question in an upcoming episode. Links & Other Notes Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at highconflictinstitute.com/podcast as well. (00:00) - Chapter 2

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11/13/2023

danger_ryan

As a person with difficult personalities in my life, this podcast has been very helpful on how to deal with them. Also it helps to know that it’s not your fault and not feel guilty when there are conflicts.
Kirk memorial???

Mar 20

Popcornyogi

It is a decent podcast with good information. However , when Megan shared she attended the Charlie Kirk memorial it says a lot about her values. I had to unfollow the show. Integrity matters.
Good but Be Cautious if Currently Being Narcissistically Abused

12/11/2025

Fool’s Errand

There is some excellent information here, for which I’m truly grateful. However, if you are in the middle of being abused, this can be a tough listen at times. The female host, Megan, has a tic of slightly laughing often during these conversations. While at best this is only slightly irritating, at worst it can be truly jarring and upsetting to hear someone laughing as they discuss extreme mistreatment by narcissistic people. In addition, the far-reaching and devastating impact of abuse on those being targeted by a narcissistic boss is often glossed over, even though the hosts say that most people find this podcast due to just this specific situation. Overall, more acknowledgment of, sensitivity to, and empathy for the victims of HCPs would make this more helpful for victims who are currently being tormented by these people. However, with those caveats, it’s still recommended overall for context and some actionable insights.
Nick Hartbauer

11/13/2024

Hartbauer

Why would you have an episode with a person who has been listed as a suspect in numerous domestic violence reports, kicked out of his specialized unit for misappropriating resources to violate people’s rights, and then fired from his police department for assisting a domestic violence suspect continue to terrorize his victim?

Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life! Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way? In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid. And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.