All Therapists are Jerks, and . . ‪.‬ E Ulland, MD

Jo and Ulland invite friend Kerrie Toole in a conversation reviewing some of the content presented at the annual DBT conference in Seattle.  If you are in Massachusetts and are looking for a therapist, consider Castlebrook Counseling Services, Inc. 

Jo and Ulland invite friend Kerrie Toole in a conversation reviewing some of the content presented at the annual DBT conference in Seattle.  If you are in Massachusetts and are looking for a therapist, consider Castlebrook Counseling Services, Inc. 

Ulland and Jo discuss how DBT is all about emotional processing while building capacity to live effectively regardless of emotional reactivity. 

Ulland and Jo discuss why apologies are often not helpful enough with conflict in relationships. They review what they mean by accountability and how it is different. Examples are given. Accountability has to do with looking for how we may contribute to how we may be perceived by important people in our life.

Ulland and Jo review the concept of fragilization.  They review how walking on eggshells with family members is generally not helpful, especially when both parties are walking on eggshells around each other.  Individuals in active passivity are more capable than we realize and need space to activate for themselves and build confidence.

Ulland and Jo review how parents can feel defensive in family work as though they are being blamed. They review how DBT is a no blame model and how family dynamics must be addressed. The biosocial theory suggests we learned from environments of origin and behaviors are maintained within current environments.   The idea of individual perception of past events may be more meaningful to relationships than focusing on the correct version "reality.” Individuals may see things differently. It is our individual perception of events, not necessarily the events themselves, that lead to our understanding of relationships and our lived history.