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Each week Dr. Hanks coaches a real person through a common life challenge. Listen to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks for healing conversations that educate and empower women to prioritize their needs, revolutionize their families, and personalize their faith.

Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Dr. Julie Hanks

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.5 • 531 Ratings

Each week Dr. Hanks coaches a real person through a common life challenge. Listen to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks for healing conversations that educate and empower women to prioritize their needs, revolutionize their families, and personalize their faith.

    Bonus: Developing Confidence in your Sexuality with Bat Sheva, Sex Therapist

    Bonus: Developing Confidence in your Sexuality with Bat Sheva, Sex Therapist

    In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, who is an Orthodox Jewish therapist, writer, author, and speaker who specializes in sexuality. She is also the author of Sex Points.Though we come from different religious backgrounds, our faith traditions have many similarities, especially when it comes to talking about sex.
    Dr. Bat Sheva tells me about how sexuality was taught when she was growing up, how the teaching she learned about sexuality as a child affected her as an adult, how women can work through the messages that purity culture teaches, and more. We also discuss how important communication is, how to reduce sexual shame, and how to develop desire.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

    • 1 hr 3 min
    Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?

    Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?

    In this episode, I coach Amber and address the question, “Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?” Amber’s ex-husband is getting married and moving away at the end of the year. Her children are struggling with the fact that he will be spending less time with them, and Amber is feeling the stress of even more being put on her plate as her husband’s custody of their children will decrease.
    What initially started as a conversation about if her ex is doing the right thing becomes a discussion about how Amber can build support into her life. I invite her to look for ways to befriend her neighbors, to set up carpools, and to reach out to her friends. Her husband’s actions are out of her control, she has power over how she supports her children.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

    • 29 min
    How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?

    How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?

    In this episode, I coach Madeline and address the question, “How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?” Madeline shares that she struggles to make her voice a priority. Throughout her life she has placed great importance on other people’s approval, and because of this she feels guilt when she does set boundaries.
    I surmise that somewhere along the lines, Madeline got the message that the happiness of others means more than her own happiness. Now that she is wanting to do more to stand up for herself, she is faced with a great fear: do others love her for who she is, or for who she tries to be to keep others happy? I invite Madeline to talk to her younger self who learned this harmful message and keep setting boundaries, even when it feels scary.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.
    To learn more about this topic, please visit the following resources:
    Reparenting Yourself course

    • 16 min
    How do I do hard things when they seem too hard to do?

    How do I do hard things when they seem too hard to do?

    In this episode I coach Alison Faulkner, host of the Awesome with Alison podcast and author of You’re Already Awesome. Alison was getting ready to release her book when we talked, so I addressed her question, “How do I do hard things when they seem too hard to do?”
    Alison shares that when something feels hard, she often wonders if she’s doing it wrong. I reaffirm that she is doing things her way, and that’s the right thing to do. Some things in life are just really, really hard. It doesn’t mean that we’re wrong; it just means we’re human! We also talk about preventing burnout, the necessity of rest, and how important it is to keep moving forward. Whether you’re also releasing a book or just have something hard going on in your own life, this episode will have something you can relate to and learn from.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

    • 40 min
    My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go?

    My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go?

    In this episode, I coach Farrah and address her concern: “My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go?” Farrah feels she has comfortably lived in a gray area of the Church her whole life, acknowledging what she feels to be true and leaving behind the things she doesn’t agree with. Now, however, she feels like she needs to make a decision about if she will continue to stay in the Church.
    There is a lot of loss, devastation, and grief that comes when you feel your lifelong belief system is crumbling. I emphasize to Farrah that where she is right now in her journey is exactly where she needs to be. It’s okay to struggle and not know exactly what is going to happen. She will know when she are ready to make a decision. In the meantime, it’s okay to sit in discomfort because there is no shortcut to this difficult process.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.
    To learn more about this topic, please visit the following resources:
    Finding the Middle Ground in the LDS Church courseMixed-Faith Marriage courseTeaching Children the Difference Between Gospel and Culture course

    • 29 min
    How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?

    How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?

    In this episode, I coach Tanya and address the question, “How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?” Tanya has been feeling a disconnect between her values—particularly when it comes to views on LGBTQ+ matters—and Church culture. Though she doesn’t feel like she fits in, she has been looking for any possible way to stay.
    Tanya shares that she was taught she must be 100% in line with the Church or leave. I tell her that she gets to decide whether or not she wants to live that way. Who said that faith or Church involvement have to be an all-or-nothing matter? 
    Part of growing up is taking ownership of your life. As you claim personal power for your life, you get to decide what and how you want to believe instead of relying on others to tell you what you should be doing or feeling. I also share that as Tonya gains confidence to live more authentically, she will start attracting more people who think like her.
    Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.
    Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.
    If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.
    To learn more about this topic, please visit the following resource:
    Finding the Middle Ground in the LDS Church course

    • 18 min

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531 Ratings

Hallleeeyyy ,

Love her

Dr Julie Hanks is the best.

moondaughter22 ,

Grateful For Dr Julie!

My heart really hurts for those who have left unkind reviews, saying such ugly and untrue things about Dr Hanks. A few years ago, I might have left a similar triggered & negative review. That was before I sought help from a therapist to help heal from growing up with an abusive parent, in a home and family that appeared picture perfect to LDS culture. While healing from abuse and trauma… you learn a lot about the mind and body. It changed the way I saw my religion and now see so many harmful messages and cultural practices that exist in it. I’m still a member and trying to find where I fit in a church that doesn’t feel like a safe place to heal from abuse most of the time. Dr Hanks offers a safe, loving, and empowering space for people like me. I hope those LDS members who are leaving such hurtful reviews can get the help and healing they need and start helping our church be less divisive and prideful.

RivkahLivkah ,

Depends on what you’re looking for

If you are looking for someone who thinks the prophets are just average men, garments are just underwear, and your feelings should be your primary guide in life, then Dr. Hanks is the influencer for you.

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