The Beyond Belief Sobriety Podcast features the personal stories of people who have found a secular path to addiction recovery. We also post interviews with authors and experts in the science of addiction and explore all secular recovery options.
Podcast episodes are posted weekly and we live stream every Friday at 7:00 pm Central on YouTube and Facebook.
Episode 240: We’re Not All Egomaniacs – Adapting The Twelve Steps for Alcoholics with Low Self-Esteem
The book Alcoholics Anonymous written in 1939 describes alcoholics as power-driving egomaniacs who are self-centered in the extreme. The idea put forth in the book was that recovery from alcoholism would require crushing this oversized ego and learning to live with humility. This may have been an apt description of the less than 100 mostly men who were helping Bill put the book together, but is this the true picture of people with alcohol use disorder today, in the 21st Century? Beth Aich would answer, ” No, we’re not all egomaniacs.” and she wrote a book to help people with low self-esteem navigate their way through the Twelve Steps. That book, We’re Not All Egomaniacs: Adapting the Twelve Steps for Alcoholics with Low Self-Esteem serves as the topic for this episode.
What we discussed
* Beth’s story.
* A brief history of AA.
* The difference between egomaniacs and shame-based people.
* How childhood impacts self-esteem.
* Understanding our feelings.
* Navigating the Twelve Steps as a person with low self-esteem.
We’re Not All Egomaniacs: Adapting the Twelve Steps for People with Low Self-Esteem (paperback)
Episode 239: The Proactive Twelve Steps 6th Edition
Serge Prengel is a therapist and life coach, and co-founder of the Integrative Focusing Therapy Online Training Program. He is also the author of The Proactive Twelve Steps: A mindful Program For Lasting Change. The sixth edition of the book was recently published and Serge visited with me to talk about what is new and why.
What we discussed
* Why Serge wrote the book.
* How the steps become more meaningful when removing the supernatural language.
* How the Twelve Steps facilitate change.
* The new Step One getting rid of the notion that control is a negative word.
* Taking control of our own destiny but not with hubris.
* The impact of trauma on addiction.
* Mindfulness is the ability to be present.
* Searching for patterns in Step Four.
* How our behaviors and emotions are impacted by our biology.
* What Serge does as a therapist and coach.
* The collective trauma of the pandemic.
Buy the book on Amazon: The Proactive Twelve Steps
Serge’s website proactive12steps.com
Serge’s YouTube Channel: Active Pause
Beyond Belief Sobriety Episode 73: The Proactive Twelve Steps
Episode 238: Jan Winhall | Treating Trauma and Addiction With The Felt Sense Polyvagal Model
Jan Winhall is a Clinical Social Worker and Adjunct Lecturer at the University of Toronto in the Department of Social Work. She is also the author of Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model: A Bottom-Up Approach. In this episode, Jan explains how and why addiction becomes a way of coping with trauma and bridges the worlds of trauma treatment and addiction.
* Jan’s early work with a group of women who survived incest.
* How trauma enacts a process in the autonomic nervous system.
* Polyvagal Model and Felt Sense
* The need for safety and how we react when we don’t feel safe.
* The collective trauma of the pandemic and how people are reacting.
Jan’s website: janwinhall.com
Episode 237: The Road to Sobriety: A Personal Experience
Timothy Clancy is an independent Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Counselor who specializes in self-destructive behaviors such as substance abuse and eating disorders. He is a certified SMART Recovery meeting facilitator and the author of The Road to Sobriety: A Personal Experience. In this episode, Timothy shares his story and discusses alcoholism, treatment, and recovery.
What we talked about
* Timothy’s background
* Dealing with a learning disability and bullying as a child.
* The Stages of Alcoholism
* Having a predisposition to alcoholism.
* Other contributing factors to alcoholism.
* Timothy’s struggle with depression and a traumatic brain injury.
* How to stop enabling an alcoholic
* Is hitting rock bottom necessary?
* Goals in sobriety
* SMART Recovery
* AA vs. SMART
* Timothy’s book. The Road to Recovery: A Personal Experience
* SMART Recovery
Episode 236: The Fallacy of Secular Spirituality
In this episode, John Huey makes another appearance to talk about spirituality. Is there a place for spirituality in a secular recovery program?
Episode 235: Dr. Robb Kelly | Understanding and Treating Addiction
In this episode, we discuss the latest in the science of addiction medicine with Doctor Robb Kelly. Robb earned his Ph.D. in Psychology at Oxford University in 1984 and today lectures on addiction medicine at the University of Texas-San Antonio. He founded the Robb Kelly Recovery Group to help people suffering from addiction find recovery and purposeful lives, and his memoir Daddy, Daddy, Please Stop Drinking, chronicles his personal experience with alcoholism and recovery.
What we discussed
* The biological predisposition to becoming an alcoholic.
* Robb’s realization that alcohol wasn’t the problem, rather it was how he thought about alcohol that was the problem.
* Neuro-linguistic programming.
* Somatic experiencing.
* Brain spotting.
* Importance of community and connection.
* The role that trauma plays in addiction and recovery.
* Overcoming the stigma of addiction and recovery.
* Defining addiction.
* The difference between an alcoholic and a heavy drinker.
* Harm reduction.
* What’s behind the opioid epidemic.
* Services that are provided by the Rob Kelley Recovery Group.
* Robb Kelly Recovery Group
* Daddy, Daddy, Please Stop Drinking
* Give Dr. Kelly a call at 214-600-0210. He’ll give you a personal pep talk in 10 minutes to help motivate you into recovery.
Even better in 2021
John has really expanded his guests and is a really good interviewer. I only listen (don't watch) and it is very easy with his podcast. He delicately works with some guests like Huey who are "my way or the highway I know what is right" to allow his perspective to show as well.
I count listening to the show as a meeting!!
It not always easy to find skeptical AA views. This show hits the mark
Life Saving Podcast!
If you think your alone in seeking a secular recovey community and program, you ARE not and this podcast is for you! You'll feel at home as soon as you start listening! It's like an AA recorded meeting with out all the religious overtones! If I need a Recovery pick me up I simple hit play and soon I'm back in my sober happy place! We need more great secular podcasts like these!