Conversations from the Heart

Yvette Erasmus
  • 5.0 (57)
  • Relationships
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A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.   Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection.  Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.

  1. 19h ago

    #159 - When Connection Strategies Backfire

    In this episode, we dive into those moments when we’re upset and reach for connection, but instead of closeness, we get distance, defensiveness, or overwhelm. And somehow, trying harder only makes it worse. We explore what’s really happening in those moments, and why our attempts at connection don’t always land the way we hope. This isn’t about doing it “right.” It’s about understanding the deeper patterns at play, and how to stay grounded when connection doesn’t happen the way we hoped. We’ll look at what it means to grow our capacity to stay with ourselves, even when others can’t meet us in that moment. Because real change doesn’t come from perfect communication. It comes from learning how to relate to ourselves and others with more awareness, steadiness, and care. Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  2. Aug 10

    #158 - The Trap of Being a "Good" Partner

    What if trying to be a “good partner” is actually hurting your relationship? In this episode, we explore a powerful and often invisible dynamic: how self-sacrifice, overgiving, and emotional suppression can quietly erode connection. When one partner takes on the role of “giver,” it can create a cycle of resentment, emotional overwhelm, and disconnection, despite the best intentions. In this episode's coaching conversation, we unpack: Why overgiving creates pressure, not connectionThe hidden cost of self-sacrifice in relationshipsHow to stay present with emotions without trying to fix or manage themThe difference between needs and strategies (and why it matters)What it actually looks like to stay connected to yourself in a relationshipThis episode is for anyone who feels like they’re “doing everything right" and still feels unseen or unmet. Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  3. Aug 3

    #157 - Can I Trust Myself When I Feel This Much?

    There are moments in life when our inner world gets so loud that we stop trusting ourselves. We feel everything (love, grief, longing, confusion) and instead of clarity, we find ourselves pulled in different directions. It's difficult to tell if our feelings are guiding us or misleading us. In this episode, I talk with Kate, who is navigating the end of a relational “pause” with someone she still deeply cares about. As the moment of decision approaches, she finds herself overwhelmed by conflicting emotions and unsure how to access her own discernment. What unfolds is a powerful exploration of: Why clarity becomes so difficult when emotions are intenseThe tension between wanting repair and wanting to move forward in relationshipsHow emotional flooding is often a sign of healing, not dysfunctionWhy learning to relate to your feelings is more important than trying to control or interpret themWe learn we don’t need to trust every feeling, but we can learn to trust our capacity to stay with ourselves inside our feelings. Read more on the blog.   Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  4. Jul 27

    #156 - How to Stay Open When You Feel Judged or "Fixed"

    Have you ever opened up to someone, only to feel corrected, advised, or subtly judged? In this episode, we explore why “help” can sometimes feel like disapproval, and what’s actually happening in our nervous system when we begin to shut down. Speaking with Nate, we unpack the gap between intention and impact, the protective patterns that get activated when we feel unseen, and how to begin finding our voice again in those moments. This episode is for anyone who has: Felt overwhelmed by unsolicited advice or fixingNoticed themselves shutting down in conversationsStruggled to ask for what they actually needWondered why certain interactions feel so activatingThis is an invitation to soften your inner world, strengthen your voice, and build relationships rooted in real understanding, not correction. Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  5. Jul 20

    #155 - Does Your Child Think You're the Problem?

    What happens when the behavior that triggers you most is something you recognize in yourself? In this conversation, we explore what it means to be on the receiving end of harsh criticism, and the shock of realizing we’ve done the same thing to others. This episode unpacks grandiosity as a protective strategy, how shame and powerlessness drive disconnection, and what it looks like to respond with clarity, boundaries, and care, especially as a parent. We'll Discuss: •Why grandiosity and criticism are often self-protection, not character flaws •How to respond when someone is attacking or diagnosing you •The difference between being “good” and being real in relationships •How to set boundaries without shutting down connection •Why your child (or partner) reflecting your past can be a powerful opportunity for healing Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  6. Jul 13

    #154 - The Cost of Being “Good”: Breaking Patterns of Self-Abandonment

    What happens when speaking up for yourself doesn’t just feel uncomfortable, but unsafe? In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of being “good”, when agreeability, accommodation, and self-sacrifice become survival strategies that disconnect us from our own voice. We unpack: •Why asking for what you want can trigger shame, fear, or collapse •How early relational dynamics shape patterns of self-abandonment •The difference between healthy negotiation and domination dynamics •How to recognize when someone is unable to meet you •What it means to stay with yourself in the face of pushback This is a conversation about reclaiming your voice, building self-trust, and learning to choose yourself, without losing your capacity for care and connection. Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  7. Jul 6

    #153 - When You’re Not Getting What You Need in a Relationship

    What do you do when someone you love can’t meet you in the way you need? In this episode, we explore the emotional and relational complexity of unmet needs, whether with a parent, a child, or someone close to us. Through two powerful real-life conversations, we unpack the difference between grief and control, the limits of communication, and the shift from trying to change others to relating to what’s actually here. In this episode, we explore: •Why unmet needs often lead to urgency, over-effort, and self-abandonment •The role of grief when connection isn’t available in the way we long for •How to shift from control and persuasion to invitation and choice •What it means to take responsibility for your side of a relationship This is a grounded, compassionate look at what it means to love without losing yourself. Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

  8. Jun 29

    #152 - When to Step In (and When to Let Go): When Someone You Love is in a Harmful Relationship

    When someone we love is in a relationship that’s causing harm, knowing what to do can feel incredibly confusing. Do we step in, or step back? In this follow-up conversation from last week, we speak again with Liza, who is now supporting her son through a relationship that is leaving him anxious, overwhelmed, and disconnected from himself. Together, they explore how to recognize when a relationship has crossed from challenging into harmful, and what it means to respond with both care and clarity. What you’ll learn: •How to recognize when a relationship is harmful (not just challenging) •When it’s appropriate to step in, and how to do it without controlling •The difference between support, rescue, and intervention •How to stay out of triangulation while still being deeply relational •Why the “net effect” of a relationship matters more than intention Read more on the blog. Want more direct access to me? I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.  Join regular live calls where students in the school bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human ConnectionHop on my free Wednesday live callFollow me on YouTube

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A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.   Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection.  Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.

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  • Creator
    Yvette Erasmus
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    161
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Conversations from the Heart
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    Conversations from the Heart

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