41 episodes
Conversations from the Heart Yvette Erasmus
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4.9 • 28 Ratings
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Listen to live mini-coaching moments focused on helping people connect with themselves and others by speaking their truth with kindness and compassion, and listening through new filters. Get new scripts for stuck situations, hear new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and become inspired to learn more about how tools like mindfulness, self-regulations, boundaries, nonviolent communication and empathic self-leadership can help you have more meaningful relationships with others.
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#40 - The Wisdom Behind Anger
It can be really valuable to talk about the difference between anger and aggression.
Although aggression can't exist outside of violence, anger can.
This week's podcast discusses some of the wisdom that can present itself alongside anger, such as clarity surrounding needs, understanding regarding self-worth, insight around boundaries, and awareness concerning relational patterns.
Interested in knowing more? We'll consider:
1:30 Unpacking "I don't want to go to school today."8:30 Responding to another's insistence and urgency18:23 Is my fear accurate?24:30 How can I untangle conflicting, overwhelming emotions?28:45 One definition for anger35:23 How can I work at loving myself?38:00 A recipe for gentle self-acceptance41:10 Confidence from the inside out
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#39 - A Roadmap for Discussing Differences
These days, it can be so difficult to discuss politics and religion.
Often, people tell me they just avoid those conversations. And honestly, I get it.
However, if we're invested in co-creating a relationship with someone we care about, exploring places where we hold different opinions and beliefs can be exactly the place where we build intimacy.
Looking for a roadmap on how to have conversations around different beliefs? Check this episode out!
We'll discuss:
1:17 I'm concerned about my fiancé's political views6:09 A roadmap for connection: begin with observations 12:01 Making our invisible lines visible for others 22:50 Ways to involve kids in the conversation about their behavior 26:22 A tip for helping a child choose healthy strategies39:06 When is it a boundary and when is it coercion?37:26 Prioritizing the relationship above the behavior41:23 What can I do when I'm frozen in an active power struggle?54:13 What about adults who throw tantrums like children?This episode references two of Yvette's best-selling courses: The Boundaries Masterclass and The Parenting Masterclass. Check them out for more helpful tips!
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#38 - How to Navigate Complex Family Dynamics by Checking for Alignment
This week's episode focuses on how to navigate complex family dynamics - especially when what has previously worked is no longer sustainable.
A common theme on this week's podcast is the importance of checking for alignment. If we're aligned in our needs and our wishes, then designing strategies to meet our goals is easier.
In question number one, a caller is rediscovering his sense of self and discovering the language needed in order to set new boundaries around old family dynamics.
Today's second caller longs for a deeper relationship with his adult son and we explore strategies to reconnect with someone who's choosing to stay distant.
If you're struggling with how to align with family members and reclaim your own boundaries and values in complex family dynamics, then this episode is for you!
We explore:
2:08 How do I stay true to what I need and stay connected with my family?6:23 Avoid parenting your spouse.9:48 "I had this delusion that my flexibility was building up some kind of credit."15:20 A script to help check for alignment of family goals24:34 How to pick up what the other person is saying so they feel heard26:54 My eldest child doesn't speak to me. How can I change that?28:21 A script for inviting connection 31:23 How to better attune to your adult child35:11 A script to check for alignment 36:53 There's no such thing as a bad parent41:18 How to listen to your child's feelings and needs without taking it personally49:48 Three nuggets from The Boundaries Masterclass
The end of today's episode features a brief discussion of The Boundaries Masterclass, one of Yvette's available online courses. Feel free to check it out!
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# 37 - When Venting Is Valuable
"Venting" often gets a bad rap.
Even though many people see "venting" as an inherently negative thing, knowing how to vent effectively can actually be an effective way of reclaiming and reconnecting with yourself.
Sometimes, venting is just a pathway to something deeper, and we understand it as a step on our awareness journey.
Other times, we just want to process our experiences out loud with someone who will listen.
Either way, learning how to vent effectively is actually a critical skill to learn so that we can process our experiences in healthy ways without harming others along the way.
In this week's episode, we focus on two main themes:
4:29: How to apply NVC when there is little trust in the relationship21:47: How to vent in constructive and life-affirming ways
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#36 - Getting Grounded in Your Goodness
One of the things that can trip us up on our personal growth journey is to force the process before we're ready.
I can think of so many times when I've been longing to master a skill that I was still practicing, and then criticizing myself for where I was at in the process.
In this week's episode, we discover that the remedy for conditioning that inhibits us and the judgment that comes when we long to be other than where we are is getting grounded in our own goodness.
Questions we'll answer today include:
2:35: How do I tell my AA sponsor that I want a new sponsor?19:17: How can I stop being so hard on myself and become grounded in my own goodness?35:48: How can I help a friend take accountability for the negative impact her actions have on those of us in the friend group?Rate, Review and Follow on Apple Podcasts:
If you're enjoying my "Conversations From the Heart" podcast, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This makes it easier for me to support more people just like you have the kinds of connected conversations with themselves and others that enrich our relationships. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." That way, I can know exactly what you loved most about the episode!
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#35 - How do I get my partner into therapy?
Today's conversation dives into the critical role of trust and communication in professional and personal relationships.
Some of the questions we answer this week include:
How do I handle having trust issues with my realtor? (0:58)How do I get my partner into therapy? (17:41) How do I decide whether or not to take a job opportunity that would keep me away from home? (34:37) —
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Get unstuck
If you find yourself stuck in challenging relationship dynamics, you need to listen! Dr Yvette responds to common challenges by modeling the inner work you can do on yourself and sharing scripts you can use to have deeper conversations. She helps me channel my inner Yvette in challenging situations.
Wonderful weekly calls turned podcast
As a long-time follower, I was thrilled when Dr. Yvette’s wonderful weekly calls, Conversations From the Heart, were turned into this podcast.
I have learned so much from her wisdom and even when I was present for the original call, I still take the time to listen to these podcast episodes. I find it a great refresher to hear the rich conversations again, often picking up things I missed the first time.
Great tools to communicate and relate with others
Hope you learn another perspective to live life!