Narcissists manipulate others using toxic ideas. In this podcast, we decode narcissists and how they operate, we expose and deconstruct toxic ideas, and we learn how to negotiate effectively with narcissists. And, last but not least, we learn to break the toxic patterns during and after relationships, disinfect mental wounds and heal, so we can have a happy life afterwards and limit the damage narcissists inflict upon us.
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045. Narcissists Don't Want Us To Build A Life
Narcissists exhaust us. Why? Because they always want attention. That means they don't let us have any space for building anything meaningful. And, as we fail to progress, they probably get frustrated with the fact that we're stagnating, and are oblivious that it is largely because of their behaviour and drama. A bit like trying to full a bucket with holes in it.
So, we can decide what future we want, and whether it is even possible to get that future with them.
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044. Reframing Life, Narcissists, Freedom, Emotions and Pain
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What if "repressing emotions" was the mistake that makes us vulnerable to narcissists? And, even if we avoid them, doesn't it just pollute our lives?
My colleague and friend Yana Govorit (https://www.instagram.com/yanagovorit/), myself and other colleagues worked with hundreds of people during the FourE festival in Almaty, Kazakhstan. We saw multiple cases of people with repressed anger and sadness, closed hearts, and dissatisfaction in their lives.
In this interview, we speak of emotions, the consequences of repressing them, why we repress them, differences in how relationships are perceived in the West and in Central Asia, finding balance, narcissists, healthy boundaries and far more.
Having spent time in Central Asia, I find this group of therapists approaches life with far less "noise" than we do in the West. Their approach has helped me see and think more clearly, be more aligned with myself, and in turn help others. Without them, I would not have been able to articulate any of the ideas in these videos.
Whereas most speak little English, Yana is fluent. I am please to share this conversation with you. Enjoy the Truth Bombs she drops! And let me know in the comments what stood out to you. As always, liking, subscribing and commenting really helps the algorithm notice this content - and I appreciate everyone supporting this channel. Thank you! #emotions #relationship #narcissist #npd
043. Mourn BOTH These People IF You Sincerely Want To Heal After A Narcissist
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Moving on after narcissists is a real challenge. If you're watching these videos, you've probably realised this. And perhaps you wonder "even though I've watched so much and I've learned so much, why am I still stuck? Why am I not seeing progress in healing after a toxic relationship with a narcissist?" Or maybe you're wondering "why do I STILL keep attracting narcissists?"
Well, healing after a narcissist requires us to mourn one person. And few people even mourn that person. (And when we do, it REALLY hurts the narcissist!).
But there's another person whom we must mourn so that we truly move on AND stop continuing to attract narcissists. Most people ever mourn that person, and perhaps that is why they don't move on.
I'll talk about both and hopefully help you be ready to mourn the second one, so you can finally move one and stop attracting narcissists.
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042. Driving a Narcissist Mad With Self-Care And Logic
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We can drive narcissists mad using self-care and logic. In this video, I'll show you how. Toxic people want to make our life worse. So self-care makes narcissists furious, because it prevents them from harming us. Narcissists also hate logic, because logic prevents them from simply imposing their will on others.
So when we combine self-care and logic, narcissists go mad, they can't argue, they are rendered powerless - and we reduce the risk of being manipulated by narcissists and other toxic people. And furthermore, self-care IS the only logical way to behave IF we want a healthy life. Maybe narcissists can even help us choose a healthy life?
So what are the benefits? - a healthier life - boring narcissists out of our life (ultimate narcissist repellant) - the immature satisfaction of seeing them get upset because we start respecting ourselves - developing healthier boundaries.
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041. Why Do We Argue With Narcissists (And How To Stop)
When we know someone is unreasonable, a narcissist or toxic, why do we still argue with them?
Let's examine 3 valid reasons for arguing with someone. 3 reasons why arguing might be a waste of time.
And perhaps the real reason why we might still argue with them, even though we'd rationally know it is a waste of time.
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040. How To Fight Back Against A Narcissist Playing Stupid With Hyperbole
We know narcissists love to play stupid. They'll even confuse us with hyperbole: when someone else uses it, they'll take it literally. And when they use it, they'll sometimes claim it's hyperbole, or it's literal, depending on how we react. But once we learn to recognise hyperbole, we learn which questions to ask to stop them from messing with our heads (and hearts).
Watch on YouTube so you don't miss the visuals: https://youtu.be/KHiNJXIwSug
For all narcissist survivors
Very well done. Will be a favorite podcast.
I’m so glad I found this podcast! Its informative, insightful and well spoken 😊. The host was thorough and efficient. At the same time, he shared information in a way that wasn’t overwhelming. Thank you & great job :-)
Wonderful insights presented in an intimate, intelligent, compassionate, and unique way. Episode 23 about the host’s traveling companion is awesome and hilarious- very relatable. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.