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Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation Shelby Milford
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5.0 • 30 Ratings
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Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation) and/or domestic abuse. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beyondthehighroad/support
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From Lack to Abundance:How to Heal Generational Trauma as an Alienated Parent
⚡️Zing, Zing, ZING, yall. This one may be long, but I barely came up for air. If you’re ready for a 50 minute episode that’s chock full of tips, tricks — and yes, ZINGERS — to move you from a place of lack to a place of abundance THIS IS IT⚡️ . ………..In this episode of the 'Beyond the High Road' podcast, host Shelby Milford focuses on breaking free from a lack mindset and generational patterns of scarcity. Shelby details how parents experiencing alienation can overcome feelings of lack and embrace abundance by changing their beliefs and looking forward rather than backward. The episode underscores the importance of challenging limiting beliefs, adopting productive morning routines, and surrounding oneself with positive influences. Shelby also emphasizes the necessity of taking active steps rather than just consuming information passively. Additionally, practical advice on how to implement this mindset shift, supported by personal anecdotes and examples, outlines a clear path for listeners to start creating a fulfilling, abundant life despite their challenging circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:13 Upcoming Webinars and Feedback
02:37 The Importance of Reviews and Ratings
03:35 Living in a Lack Mindset
05:26 Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma
09:48 The Power of Self-Belief and Overcoming Obstacles
14:37 Embracing Failures as Learning Opportunities
22:46 The Value of Self-Worth in Professional Growth
26:04 The Role of Money in Life
28:05 Overcoming Fear of Rejection
29:26 Self-Improvement and Honesty
30:41 The Power of Words and Mindset
32:02 Dean Graziosi's Inspiring Story
35:03 Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth
36:53 Creating a New Future
44:00 Morning Routines and Success
47:48 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events
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Who or What Do You Allow To Define You As An Alienated Parent?
In episode 87 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses overcoming mental barriers and focusing on solutions rather than problems, inspired by a recent challenge she faced while shopping for her daughter's birthday card. Shelby emphasizes the importance of personal perspective in addressing adversity, particularly in the context of parental alienation. Through quotes from Dan Sullivan, she explores the concept that problems are often self-created in our minds and advocates for taking control of one's own mindset to better serve ourselves and our children.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:55 Finding Inspiration and Overcoming Brain Fog
02:31 The Struggle of Choosing the Perfect Card
03:59 Realizations and Reflections in the Car
05:40 Dan Sullivan's Quotes and Their Relevance
06:44 The Concept of Self-Created Problems
08:47 Focusing on Solutions Instead of Problems
19:24 The Importance of Boundaries
23:20 Redefining Your Relationship with Your Child
27:54 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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How to Navigate Shi*ty Days & Difficult Choices As An Alienated Parent
In episode 86 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford delves into an unexplored yet ubiquitous topic: handling s****y days and the difficult choices they present, especially while living apart from your beloved children.
She opens up about her own experiences, including the complexities of her relationship with her daughter and father, especially around her birthday. Shelby shares insights on how she navigated feelings of disappointment and frustration, highlighting the importance of acknowledging s****y situations without allowing them to dominate one's emotions. Through personal storytelling, she emphasizes the importance of :
recognizing the power of choice
Be conscious about how we perceive & respond to our circumstances
acknowledging and owning our feelings, even in the face of adversity.
Shelby encourages her audience to apply this perspective to their challenges, promoting a sense of empowerment and resilience. She emphasizes the value of giving equal airtime to positive possibilities and owning the power of personal choice to navigate through life's inevitable ups and downs.
The episode concludes with a reminder for listeners to engage with the podcast community through Facebook live sessions, ratings, and reviews.
00:00 Welcome to Beyond the High Road Podcast
00:33 Navigating Shitty Days: A Personal Tale
01:39 Birthday Blues and Family Dynamics
04:33 Confronting Narcissistic Traits in Family
06:59 The Fallout of Changed Birthday Plans
08:48 Choosing How to Respond to Life's Challenges
19:59 Empowerment Through Choice in Difficult Times
26:50 Finding Growth in Adversity
35:45 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude
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Drama, Defamation, & Scandal: Confronting Scrutiny As An Alienated Parent
In episode 85 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the challenges of feeling scrutinized and misunderstood, a topic inspired by her personal experiences and conversations with fellow alienated moms.
She reflects on her own journey, starting from a point of feeling misunderstood to focusing on personal resilience in the face of criticism. Shelby highlights two influential books: 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k' by Mark Manson, which helped her adopt a carefree approach to criticism, and 'The Courage to Be Disliked', which premises on Adlerian psychology, advocating for the detachment from others' opinions for personal happiness.
The episode further delves into the importance of not allowing fear or the need for external validation to dictate one's actions, encouraging listeners to pursue their passions despite the potential for scrutiny or disapproval. Shelby's message is one of empowerment, urging her audience to embrace their unique identities, pursue their passions, and not to be silenced by fear or judgment.
Finally, she addresses an incident where she was publicly criticized on social media, using it as a case point to illustrate how to deal with negative scrutiny without compromising one's self-worth.
00:00 Welcome to Episode 85: Navigating Scrutiny and Misunderstanding
00:29 Exploring the Roots of Feeling Misunderstood
02:54 The Journey of Self-Discovery Through Audible Books
06:48 The Impact of Mark Manson's Work on Self-Empowerment
09:18 Discovering 'The Courage to Be Disliked' and Adlerian Psychology
17:02 Facing Scrutiny and the Power of Self-Expression
26:56 Dealing with Criticism and Embracing Your True Self
40:29 Concluding Thoughts: Embrace Your Voice and Overcome Fear
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Books: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck
The Courage To Be Disliked
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SPECIAL EDITION: What REALLY Matters To You?
This is a recording from the Facebook Live on Friday when we had a little story time! I thought y'all would benefit from it too. In the episode, I share a memory from a dark period of time for me (Mother's Day 2017), and then tie it together with this week's theme.
I hope you love it. ♥️
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Are You Playing The Long Game? Auditing Influence As An Alienated Parent
In episode 84 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the challenges and emotions surrounding family-oriented holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day, especially for target parents of alienation. Shelby shares personal anecdotes about the significance of these holidays and the memories associated with them, reflecting on how such times can be particularly difficult. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and validating these difficult emotions but encourages listeners to also focus on self-healing and empowerment. Shelby advises on auditing one's life for negative influences, whether it be people or social media, and suggests making intentional choices about whom and what we allow to influence our mindset and actions. She highlights the distinction between fighting against something versus fighting for something, advocating for a proactive and positive approach in life, including the path toward reconnection with our children. Shelby's message underlines the significance of self-care, adjusting one's mindset, and the power of influence in overcoming the challenges of parental alienation and enhancing one's overall well-being.
01:00 Welcome to Beyond the High Road: Navigating Emotional Seasons
01:22 Reflecting on Mother's Day and Seasonal Memories
03:52 Embracing the Emotional Journey of Motherhood
04:45 Navigating Parental Alienation: Insights and Support
05:58 The Power of Influence: Shaping Your Beliefs and Actions
06:32 Redefining Challenges: Fighting For vs. Fighting Against
08:44 The Impact of Social Media and External Influences
19:52 Auditing Your Life: Identifying and Managing Influences
26:52 The Impact of Social Media on Perception and Action
27:49 Embracing the Role Beyond Alienation
28:26 The Power of Self-Advocacy and Community Support
30:23 Choosing to Fight for Reconnection
31:56 The Long Game: Patience, Persistence, and Unconditional Love
33:22 Self-Care and Inner Work: The Foundation of Empowerment
34:53 Redefining Success: From Immediate Wins to Long-Term Goals
39:31 Influence and Environment: Curating Your Circle for Growth
42:01 Mother's Day Reflections: Beyond Traditional Expectations
44:08 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement
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Customer Reviews
You Told My Story on Today’s Show
I just wanted to take a minute to thank you for sharing your experience with the trauma, loss, and ambiguous grief of parental alienation. On your latest episode when you shared your experience with paying child support to your ex who had a totally inequitable salary/worth than you….girl, same! I will never understand how our family court system continues to fail so many families! Anyway, thank you for your vulnerability, support and encouragement. I appreciate you! Respectfully, Jess
wow, well, you’ve you done it again, my girl! You told my story today and have reminded me exactly what I’m trying to do which is create purpose out of my pain. I can’t even tell you how much of a HOPE shot today’s show was, thank you so much!
This Podcast Changed my Life
Through my journey of parental alienation I have sought out information, resources and support in many places. It was not until I found Shelby’s podcast that I felt that someone truly “got me.” Shelby’s complete transparency and vulnerability in sharing her own parental alienation journey has made me feel less alone and isolated. Her explanations of difficult concepts like disenfranchised grief and her tools on how to navigate life, rebuild your self esteem and find peace are perfectly en pointe and have truly changed my outlook on my own life. While there is nothing that can take the pain of alienation away, Shelby has helped me move on and live my life in a way I thought was no longer possible. Thank you Shelby, from the very bottom of my heart.
A1
I found this podcast only a few weeks after looking searching false allegations and parent alienation…in that short time Shelby’s topics and the manner in which she lays it out have become an invaluable resource that I look forward to listening on my to/from/ during work. Thank you Shelby for your strength and courage! Bless you, your listeners, and all!
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