Something's gotta give Mary B

Being codependent means having excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a person outside of yourself. Many of us are codependent and don't realize that we are, or maybe we have just accepted that's the way relationship dynamics work. As someone who has always wanted to be break free from relying on others, I had to learn just how deep my codependency went. After embracing my truth, I then made a conscious decision to be independent, and affirming that I am everything and then so...

I grew up in extreme poverty from birth up until the fourth grade. Having a mindset of scarcity and lack was introduced before I knew there were other ways of life. Even learning that there are many other - better- possible ways of life, scarcity still rules over my subconscious. Through the therapy process of EMDR, I am able to face head on the core beliefs that were established in the earliest years of my life- scarcity being one of them- and reestablish beliefs that are in alignment ...

I never had a good, memorable birthday in my childhood. All of the birthday's in my 20's were only 'fun' because I was under the influence of marijuana and liquor. Celebrating my 29th birthday sober was the first time I realized what pain I experienced year after year as a child and how I subconsciously seek that in my present reality. It took a sober eye to piece all of this together and implement change.

I have had three different birth certificates throughout my life and that has seriously impacted my sense of identity. I became every version of what others thought of me until I took the time to find myself.

The number one indicator for how children grow up to thrive is the quality of the mother's happiness. I had numerous women fall into the mother role throughout my adolescent years and each one passed on their traumas. Whether the act was intentional or not, it has affected me profoundly. Doing intense shadow work during my healing stages, I have reflected on my past lives that I experienced with each mother and why I behaved the way I did in my early adulthood. Realizing these hard truth has ...

Core beliefs are formed before the age of five and if new behavioral patterns aren't introduced by the age of seven, your personality has been created. I learned that my spirit did not identify with the woman that I had evolved into. I took a deep dive inward and realized I was subconsciously recreating the havoc of my childhood. My healing journey has been the hardest yet most rewarding journey. Everyone has the power to change but it takes the deepest level of self reflection to do so.