Fix Yourself First with Dr. Kristie Kristie Overstreet

Discussions about trauma are everywhere. That's because almost everyone has gone through a traumatic event at some point. Everyone deals with it and reacts to it differently. Yet what unites us is the idea that trauma results in dysfunction in how we respond to it. and the fact that the trauma response is a sign of strength, not weakness.

In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald, a Ph.D. trauma researcher, author, and certified life coach. She spent over a decade researching trauma, grief, and resilience. She has written several scholarly articles and three books on trauma and mental illness.

I love her research methodology and how she simplifies even the most difficult concepts. Get ready for this discussion on how the trauma response is never wrong, and how we need to frame and look at trauma differently going forward.


What we discuss:The trauma response is never wrong.What led her to work in trauma?The trauma response is a strength response.Misconceptions about the trauma response.How does trauma affect relationships?Understanding your partner’s emotional state.The importance of personal accountability and acceptanceFor more information on Unbroken, check out Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald and her work

https://alchemycoaching.life/
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Ever feel like your relationship is harder than it’s suppose to be? That no matter how hard your try it feels like you just can’t make it work?

You could be missing one of the lessons I’m sharing with you after 16+ years of working with couples.

In this episode we’re going to take on the 5 lessons.

It can be overwhelming to be in a relationship. But when difficulties arise, they make you feel helpless. You certainly could use a few lessons to support you as you show up to be your best self. It is very possible that as you alter and become your healthiest self, maybe you'll be in a better position to decide what has to be decided for your own wellbeing.

Covered in this episode:
How to deal with problems in your relationship.“We can't expect someone to stay the same, we don't stay the same.”Be realistic in your expectations of your partner.Believe their actions and words.The power of trust.The importance of emotional safety.How powerful is selfishness?
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How can you communicate more effectively in your relationships? Start by accepting that you have no control over anyone else. You only have control over yourself, and that means being fully and authentically responsible for how you communicate.

Your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and experiences effect how you show up in your relationships.

Are you taking what someone says personally? Are you taking responsibility for what comes out of your mouth? Are you playing the victim? Do you get caught up in tit-for-tat arguments?

In today’s episode, Dr. Kristie will walk you through five specific actions you may start taking to improve your communication skills in relationships.


Covered in this episode:
What are the best ways to communicate with your partner?How to take radical responsibility in communication?The problem with personalizing.Playing the victim.Knowing what your wants and needs are.Speaking up for your needs.The importance of communication and working through issues.Links mentioned:

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Achieving your goals doesn't always require hard work, determination, or willpower.What's more important is your process or steps to complete the goal.

Although you have had willpower in the past, did you achieve your goal?

You've put a lot of effort into it and worked really hard on it, but did you achieve your goals?

Did having determination make your goal happen?

Even if you put forth a lot of effort and have a strong sense of willpower, you know that you don't have a doable process that suits you and your unique self.

In this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about the five simple strategies for staying accountable that she uses to achieve personal and professional goals.

Covered in this episode:
How to achieve your goals without working so hard, having the determination, or the willpower?The power of adopting a consistent mindsetSetting realistic and doable goals.Setting up and having the visuals will help you create the steps to achieve your goalsMake it easy to accomplish steps or processes to meet your goal.Give yourself permission to ask for outside help.
Links mentioned:

https://drkristieoverstreet.com/iim
IG: @kristie_overstreet
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Do you ever get so lost in overthinking that you can't focus or make good decisions?

Whether you're worried about what you said, that fight with your partner that y'all haven't worked out, fear that your job will be cut, or about what could happen to your children?These are areas that do deserve attention especially when problems need solving, but getting stuck in your overthinking will buckle you.

Overthinking will continue to get in the way of your progress if you let it. You can't emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually afford to continue your habit of overthinking.

In this episode, Dr. Kristie will share the tools you can use the next time you get caught in your overthinking patterns.


Covered in this episode:
What is overthinking?Common reasons that lead us to overthinkHow we get stuck in the past, present, and future state of overthinking?Proven tools to help you stop your habit of overthinking
Links mentioned:

https://drkristieoverstreet.com/iim
IG: @kristie_overstreet
FB: @DrKristieOverstreet

Sexual desire, arousal, and differences in desire happen, especially through changes in our life experiences. Dealing with these issues can cause shame, embarrassment, and anxiety.

The messages we've received through the years contribute to our self-talk, especially when it comes to our sexual selves. We begin to believe that something is wrong with us or that our desire is directly connected with our ability to love our partner and many other myths that negatively affect our sexual self-esteem.

In this episode, Dr. Kristie will explain why the three most widespread myths about desire differences exist and why you should stop believing them.

And by being conscious of these characteristics of desire differences, you can change your internal script and rewrite the belief about your sexual self in relationships.

t's time we make sex less hard to discuss and such a heavy topic.


Covered in this episode: What are the three most common myths around desire differences?What three layers make up sexual desire?Exploring your sexual template.How do you relate to yourself and your partner in these different areas of intimacy: body, mind, heart, spirit, and connection?Sexual arousal is the physical part of sexual desire.Emotions that cause problems with arousal and sexual arousal disordersHow we wrongly connect love and desire?
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Free Women's Workshop: 5-Step Method Emotional + Physical IntimacyIG: @kristie_overstreetFB: @DrKristieOverstreetReady to learn more about how to recognize and rewrite your sexual templates? Check out this article Rewriting Your Sexual Template