Hotter Than Ever Erin Keating

“I want you to take action towards what you fantasize about.”
On Hotter Than Ever, we've delved deep into the world of online dating, including strategies for crafting the perfect profile and navigating the digital landscape of romance. But what about the lost art of meeting people the old-fashioned way–in real life? 

In this episode, Erin shares her experience stepping outside of her comfort zone and attending two in-person events: a LA matchmaking mixer and a BDSM munch. From navigating awkward encounters to unexpected connections, Erin explores the nuances of stepping out from behind the screen to meet people face-to-face, including:

The transformative power of discomfort: how pushing boundaries leads to personal growthEmbracing the moment, seeking genuine connections, and adopting a “no expectations” mindsetThe importance of exploring your passions and actively pursuing desires, especially in midlifeCultivating a deeper sense of self-love, joy, and fulfillment, regardless of societal norms or expectations


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“Loneliness is the thing that's keeping women from rising and I don't want to see that anymore.” 
As part of her research for The Li.st, Ann Shoket uncovered a staggering statistic: 80% of women in white collar careers are lonely because of their jobs. As heartbreaking as that is, it didn’t surprise Ann, who as the former editor of Seventeen and CosmoGIRL magazines, is no stranger to the loneliness women face as they rise higher up the corporate ladder. Now as CEO of The Li.st, Ann is on a mission to combat the loneliness epidemic for women in the workplace and foster community and connection so that women can show up as their full selves.

Join us for an empowering conversation, as Erin and Ann discuss redefining traditional notions of power, embracing vulnerability, and offer actionable strategies for women to cultivate connections and reclaim agency in their professional lives, including:

Why women often struggle to reconcile their authentic selves with their careers, leading to loneliness or an inability to fully express themselves at work.Redefining power as collaborative, transparent, and inclusive helps create environments where women feel empowered to thriveWhy employers have a responsibility to combat loneliness and create environments that foster transparency and collaboration"Community cultivators" and nurturing “micro-habits” of simple check-ins and offering connections or support.The difference in how loneliness is created/triggered by men and women in the workplaceHow to stop seeking permission and instead gather like-minded individuals to drive change in the workplace

OUR GUEST: Ann Shoket is a CEO, Media Brand Builder, Next Gen Expert, and former Editor-in-Chief of Seventeen magazine. Known for redefining ambition and success for women, Shoket has launched and revitalized media brands like CosmoGIRL and Seventeen. Currently CEO and Owner of TheLi.st, she's reshaping content, community, and connection. Author of "The Big Life," she's also consulted for Good Morning America and judged on America's Next Top Model.

Want more Ann? Find her online at https://www.annshoket.com/ and read her book https://www.annshoket.com/book. Follow her on:
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“You can be a good mom who is available to your kids and who is also experiencing a sexual becoming.”
Starting your sexual awakening journey in midlife can sometimes feel like threading through a maze of practicalities, particularly if you're juggling kids and career. Luckily, Erin is here to take the reins, drawing from her firsthand experience, to guide us through.  From treating her romantic life as a part-time job to embracing solo polyamory with transparency and honesty, Erin offers practical advice on making room for pleasure amidst the demands of parenting and modern life.  In this episode, we explore:

How to carve out dedicated time for your dating and romantic life, treating it with the same level of importance as other aspects of your lifeUtilizing childcare resources to create space for your sexual growth and explorationExploring multiple connections without the constraints of traditional monogamyPrioritizing pleasure tools like masturbation, erotic literature, audio erotica, or sexting apps as a hobby

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Tracy Clark-Flory’s sexual exploration  began at the age of 12, when she ventured into AOL chat rooms, seeking to discover what men wanted sexually. In her memoir, "Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire," Tracy details her personal sexual coming of age through the maze hyper-sexualized media, where she grappled with the conflicting messages dictating her sexual identity. It wasn't until her tenure as a sex journalist and the dawn of deeper relationships that she unearthed a profound truth: there's no universal formula for male desire. This revelation sparked a profound shift, leading her to prioritize her own sexual fulfillment.
Join Erin and Tracy for a conversation spanning the portrayal of sexuality in media to the complexities of sexual experiences, including orgasms and the performance of desire, as we explore:
The clash of feminism and hyper-sexualization in media and its impact on young women's journey to self-discoveryThe pressure women face to conform to performative standards of desirability for menFeminist theory's role in untangling society's conflicting messages about sexualityExposing the myths surrounding pornography and the importance of media literacyFaking orgasms and how to pursue genuine pleasure The intersection of motherhood and sexuality, and the liberating journey towards self-awareness and acceptance that comes with age
OUR GUEST: Tracy Clark-Flory is a journalist, essayist, and author of the memoir “Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire”, an NPR best book of the year. Clark-Flory has written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Esquire, Glamour, The Guardian, and The Washington Post. She is a former senior staff writer at Jezebel and Salon. Her work has shown up in the Best Sex Writing anthology and she has been called “one of the best journalists of our generation writing about sexuality.” She writes a weekly newsletter on sex, feminism, motherhood, and pop culture at tracyclarkflory.substack.com.

Want more Tracy? 
Find her online at https://www.tracyclarkflory.com/ and tracyclarkflory.substack.com. Follow her on Instagram @tracyclarkflory   Read her book Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire

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Sometimes women get stuck in a marriage that is no longer working, but they’re unable to break free due to logistical constraints.  Add a skyrocketing libido and an irresistible crush into the mix, and today’s caller has got herself one h*ll of a scenario. Fear not, because in this episode, we dive into the art of juggling desire and commitment when divorce isn't an immediate option.
Join Erin as she offers candid insights and guidance, illuminating the path towards personal liberation and fulfillment within the confines of marriage, including:

The importance of having open and honest communication with your partner Advocating for your emotional and sexual needs within the relationshipConsidering alternative arrangements, such as separation or evolving the relationship into a different form, even if you’re still married on paperAllowing yourself to explore newfound desires and attractions


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"Unresolved, unprocessed grief really lays a heavy tattoo inside your system."
With more than two decades as a seasoned psychotherapist, Meghan Riordan Jarvis found herself unexpectedly thrust into the throes of her own grief upon the sudden loss of her mother. Through this profound personal journey, Meghan gained an intimate understanding of the very trauma and PTSD she had long treated in her patients. Now, with her podcast "Grief is My Side Hustle" and the bestselling book "The End of The Hour", Meghan is on a mission to foster a culture more attuned to the nuances of grief.

In this episode, Meghan delves into the intricate layers of loss, highlighting the necessity of processing grief. From navigating the unpredictable tides of emotion to unraveling the physiological toll grief exacts on the body, Erin and Meghan offer a compassionate perspective on embracing discomfort and honoring the complexities of the human experience. Join us as we discuss:

Grief as an integral part of the human experience, that transcends background and circumstance.The interplay between emotions and feelings and the subconscious currents that shape our emotional responses.The physiological impact of unresolved grief on the body, from digestive issues to chronic pain, and the importance of holistic healing.Meghan's personal journey through grief and trauma, including her experiences with loss, PTSD, and the transformative power of surrender and vulnerability.Renegotiating boundaries, quiet quitting, and cultivating authentic connections for resilience and grace.

OUR GUEST: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW is an author and speaker, specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. With over 20 years of clinical experience, Meghan's personal encounter with PTSD after her parents' deaths led her to advocate for a more grief-informed culture. Founder of MRJ Consulting, Meghan and her team work with Fortune 500 companies to address grief in the workplace. She is the author of the best-selling memoir "The End of The Hour" and of the upcoming book "Can Anyone Tell Me Why: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss".

Want more Meghan? Find her online at https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ and listen to her podcast Grief is My Side Hustle. Follow her on:
Instagram: @meghan.riordan.jarvis  Facebook: @griefismysidehustle & @meghan.jarvis.12  LinkedIn: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA LICSW  

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