Old Chicks Know Sh*t Podcast Jennifer Arthurton

Judgement- a natural human tendency. We all judge- other people, situations and circumstances and most importantly ourselves. But did you know that judgment can also have a negative impact on our well being and relationships.
My guest today is Sally Arnold, an international mindfulness educator and author. We talk about why humans judge, the impact of judgment on our well-being, and the difference between judgment and discernment. We also explore how the stories we tell ourselves shape our judgments and how becoming aware can help open us up to new possibilities for ourselves. I also share my experience of catching myself in judgment and trying to judge less. j Sally gives us practical tips for detoxing from judgment and cultivating compassion towards ourselves and others. 
Our conversation highlights the importance of awareness and making conscious choices to live a happier and more expansive life.
 
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Sally Arnold is an international Mindfulness Educator, Speaker, Author, Awakened Living Coach, and Parenting Guide. She holds a Bachelors degree in Nursing, a Master's degree in Psychology and has extensive training in mindfulness education.
Sally is the founder of Mindful Compass. Mindful Compass courses and consulting are designed to offer skills to enhance resilience, compassion, and well-being. Mindful Compass curriculum has been taught to diverse audiences including healthcare professionals, attorneys, social workers, teachers, administrators, and general audiences.
Additionally, Sally has taught mindfulness to thousands of children, parents, and teachers. She has worked extensively with parents and families for over 20 years.
https://www.mindfulcompass.com/
https://www.mindfulcompass.com/awakened-living
 

If you have ever listened to the podcast you know that one of my pet peeves is the way older women are represented or rather under represented  in mainstream media,  unless of course  its in ads for retirement plans, meal replacement shakes and bladder leakage products. The common definition of beauty does not include women in their 50’s and 60’s and beyond.
My guest today is on a mission to change that. Robin Bobbe is the founder of Modern Agerer Casting, a casting agency that specializes in finding diverse talent of all backgrounds and ages. After starting a career in the fashion industry as stylist, she then went on the become an actress, a  casting director and then a commercial model in her 60’s. Confronted by the lack of diversity that the model agencies offered, she armed herself with a polaroid camera and began combing the streets in search of the authenticity that reflected more diverse faces.
We chat about:
Her experience and insights in the industry from both sides of the camera
The importance of challenging societal norms of beauty and relevance. 
How she captures the power and beauty of older models through their confidence, self acceptance and authenticity.
Her process for the many reinventions of her career
The importance of constant exploration, creativity and life long learning as the keys to a fulfilling life. 
There are so many great insights and nuggets of wisdom in this episode. If you’ve ever thought, even for second, that you’d like to try your hand at modelling no mater how old you are Robin encourages you to take the first step by reaching out to her. 
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Robin Bobbe is the founder of Modern Ager Casting. She has over 40 years of experience working with professional models and actors as well as non-professionals.
She has worn many hats during her career in fashion, film and photography. Robin started her career as a stylist in Manhattan in the 1970’s. She spent the 80’s acting in Los Angeles and the 90’s behind the camera as an associate producer of documentaries of which one was nominated for an Academy Award. In 1999 she joined Photo Group a large print advertising production company, as an inhouse producer, but it was clear that casting was her real calling.
Street casting became her specialty. She left Photo Group to start her own casting company in 2001 which continues today as ModernagerCasting, stalking her prey wherever she goes.
In 2012, through The Actors Fund she started working with artists living with dementia offering creative activities which she continues to do today.
She credits her 60’s for being her most creative decade yet and come March 30th she’s looking forward to seeing what’s waiting for her on the other side of 70. 
 
https://www.modernagercasting.com/What-We-Do/1

Todays podcast episode is all about  finding your voice and speaking your truth.  
As women, many of us were taught to not speak up, to play nice, don’t rock the boat etc and after years of swallowing our own voice we lose connection with ourselves and our truth. And then when it come to speaking up in our careers, in relationships or even advocating for ourselves in medical situations it can be very difficult.  
My guest today is Doreen Downing a PHD psychologist,  author of the book Seven Secrets to Finding Your Voice and host of the  Find Your Voice, Change Your Life podcast. Doreen shares her personal experience with losing and finding her own voice that has become the driving passion for her work. We discuss what it truly means to find your voice and explore how it's not just about physical vocal expression but also about authentic self-expression in all aspects of life.  
Doreen shares common obstacles individuals face when trying to find their voice and how societal expectations, self-doubt, fear of judgment, and past traumas play a key role. We also talk about the role of self-compassion, mindfulness the power of vulnerability and overcoming fear of judgment as well as practical tips for finding, cultivating celebrating your unique voice.  
 
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Dr. Doreen Downing is a PHD Psychologist, Author, Speaker, and Host of the Find Your Voice, Change Your Life Podcast.
Doreen once suffered from stage fright. In conquering her fear, she found her voice and discovered that being connected to her Essence, the authentic self, is the key to relaxed and confident speaking.
She is passionate about helping others overcome anxiety so they can express the amazing Essence of who they truly are.
https://linktr.ee/drdoreendowning
Free Fearless Speaking Video Series: https://doreendowning.com/video-series/
 
 
 
 

Many of us grew up in environments where we were not taught to express or manage our emotions. We learned how to stuff things down, put on a brave face and soldier on.  And for many of us, myself included it worked quite well …until it didn’t. The transition into midlife with all its changes and upheaval can have a way of bringing things to the surface. And that’s actually a good thing.  
Today on the podcast my guest is Dr Patrick Kilcarr, a therapist of  20 yers who specializes in Emotional intelligence.  He is also the author of “Leading an Emotionally Intelligent Life.”
In this episode we explore what emotional intelligence means,  how we learn it and the profound impact that it can have on both our personal and professional relationships. 
We also delve into the consequences of suppressing emotions and it impacts on the journey of self-discovery and reinvention.
 Some highlights of the conversation include:
How emotional intelligence leads to personal and professional success.
Why emotional intelligence requires self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our emotions.
How we can choose our responses to emotions to empower oursleves to create positive change in our relationships and surrounding.
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Dr. Patrick Kilcarr has been a therapist for twenty years in the DC area, where he offers individual, couples, group and family therapy.  He specializes in Emotional Intelligence and emotional intelligence assessments, and focuses his research on the intersection of risk taking behavior and emotional intelligence. He is a master trainer for Multi-Health Systems Inc., the company that created the most widely used Emotional Intelligence instrument, the EQ-i2.0., which assesses and evaluates emotional competencies in a variety of professional venues.  
Doctor Kilcarr is also the head of Georgetown University’s Center for Personal Development since 1999, and Adjunct Professor at Georgetown University’s School of Health Science, teaching interactive courses on personal development and emotional intelligence.  He has written extensively on emotional intelligence, addiction and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, where he co-authored an award winning book, “The Voices From Fatherhood:  Fathers, sons and ADHD.”
He received his PhD in Developmental Psychology from Maryland College Park’s Institute of Child Study.
https://theeilife.com/patrick-kilcarr/
Leading an Emotionally Intelligent life
Many of us grew up in environments where we were not taught to express or manage our emotions. We learned how to stuff things down, put on a brave face and soldier on.  And for many of us, myself included it t worked quite well …until it didn’t. The transition into midlife with all its changes and upheaval can have a way of bringing things to the surface. And that’s actually a good thing.  
 
Today on the podcast my  guest is Dr Patrick Kildare, a therapist of  20 yers who specializes in Emotional intelligence.  He is also the author of “Leading an Emotionally Intelligent Life.”
In this episode we explore what emotional intelligence means,  how we learn it and the profound impact that it can have on both our personal and professional relationships. 
 
We also delve into the consequences of suppressing emotions and the impact on the journey of self-discovery and reinvention.
 Some highlights of the conversation include:
 
How emotional intelligence leads to personal and professional success.
Why emotional intelligence requires self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our emotions.
Choosing our responses to emotions empowers us to create positive change in our relationships and surroundings
 
 
 
 
Doctor Patrick Kilcarr has been a therapist for twenty years in the DC area, where he offers individual, couples, group and family therapy.  He specializes in Emotional Intelligence and emotional intelligence assessments, and focuses his research on the intersecti

For so many years menopause has been a taboo subject - barely talked about between friends, let alone in mainstream media. I don’t know about you but I never heard the term peri-menopause before about 5 years ago.  And as a result many women have suffered in silence,  weren’t able advocate for their health and felt isolated and alone in their experience.  
 
Today’s guest Laura Okafor-Crane is on a mission to change all that. She is the founder of Perry, affectionately known as the Perry Sisterhood, a platform and information resource for women in peri-menopause, approaching peri-menopause, and post-menopause.  Perry is changing the way we talk about life during and after menopause by providing access to information, resources, expert advice and most importantly, as Laura shares, peer to peer support and community. 
 
After watching her mother struggle through menopause in silence Laura wants to make ensure its a different experience for future generations. Perry is a safe space where women can come together to support each other.  Its about education empowerment  and self advocacy for all women in the menopause transition. 
 
We talk about the lack of awareness and education on menopause in the medical community and how it often leads to to dismissive attitudes and misdiagnosis.
Why community and peer-to-peer support is so important 
How empowering women with knowledge about menopause is crucial for them to make informed decisions now and in years to come
How her expertise in global product management  has been instrumental in the development and growth of  the Perry platform.
 
If you are menopausal, approaching menopause or have questions about menopause this is the episode for you. 
 
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Laura is the founder and CEO of perry – a community app for perimenopause with more than 12k members. perry is a safe space to connect, support and learn during the  menopause transition.
 
Laura  is a FMCG veteran with 12+ years global Marketing experience at Procter & Gamble and Coty. It is her greatest passion to build spaces that serve the underserved. 
 
Having experienced her mother struggling in silence during the menopause transition and being a millennial who approaches perimenopause herself,  she was shocked by how little the support system around fertility and pregnancy matches the support women get when approaching perimenopause - which is close to none.
 
It is her mission to equip the upcoming generation entering the menopause transition with community and education - allowing ultimate self-advocacy.
Laura, being half Nigerian herself, loves Nigerian ‘Nollywood’ movies and lives with her husband and 2 sons.
 
Website:  https://heyperry.com
https://www.instagram.com/ohhelloperry/ https://perry.app.link/podcastguest 
Our book: https://shorturl.at/wO267 
Shaping the face of menopause panel on You Tube:   https://youtu.be/VnYBdDe-6gU

In this episode, I interview  Kim Rahir, a health a fitness coach for women over 40, about her inspiring personal story of overcoming illness and taking control of her life through strength training and physical fitness.  Kim shares how getting strong physically and mentally transformed her life after a devastating multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis.  We discuss the importance of trusting your body, making informed decisions, and the mental health benefits of strength training. Kim emphasizes the importance of physical strength for overall health and quality of life and encourages listeners to see beyond their physical limitations and challenge societal norms around age and capability. 
 
Takeaways
Health and fitness is about more than just losing weight or fitting a beauty ideal; it's about being mentally, physically, and emotionally strong.
Trusting your body and listening to its signals is crucial in making informed decisions about your health.
Strength training has numerous mental health benefits, including reducing anxiety and depression.
Building strength can empower women and challenge societal expectations of aging and femininity.
It's never too late to start strength training and improve your overall health and well-being.



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Kim is a 60 year old mother of three who was diagnosed with MS 10 years ago and decided to ignore her then doctor's advice and muscle her way back to a happy life. This year she became European Champion in Masters Weightlifting in her age and weight category. Her journey inspired her to leave her career in journalism in her 50s and become a health coach for middle aged women - with a big focus on reactivating and rebuilding muscle. Today, she helps women tap into an abundant source of vitality by reactivating and maintaining their muscles, while ditching diet culture conditioning to actually eat to nourish and flourish.



 





How to get in touch with Kim You can have a free Lifestyle Review with Kim at https://kimrahir.com where you will assess your health and fitness together. You can also follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-rahir/ https://www.facebook.com/kim.rahir/ https://www.instagram.com/kim.rahir/ If you want to get in touch directly, you can email Kim at kim@kimrahir.com