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How do queer spaces help to shape people's lives? 

Why are they so important to the LGBTQ+ community?

What is the impact of losing these spaces?

Lost Spaces explores these questions (and more!) through conversations with members of the LGBT community.

Each week host K Anderson sits down with a different guest to discuss a space from their past, why it was important to them, and how it helped shape who they are.

Expect conversations about coming out, going out, and getting down.

And snogging strangers on sweaty dancefloors. We can't talk about gay history without that coming up.

Lost Spaces: Memories from Gay Bars, Lesbian Clubs, and LGBTQ+ Parties lost queer spaces

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How do queer spaces help to shape people's lives? 

Why are they so important to the LGBTQ+ community?

What is the impact of losing these spaces?

Lost Spaces explores these questions (and more!) through conversations with members of the LGBT community.

Each week host K Anderson sits down with a different guest to discuss a space from their past, why it was important to them, and how it helped shape who they are.

Expect conversations about coming out, going out, and getting down.

And snogging strangers on sweaty dancefloors. We can't talk about gay history without that coming up.

    'All These Gay Men With No Shirts On...' - with Van Hechter

    'All These Gay Men With No Shirts On...' - with Van Hechter

    I love the kind of people that can go through a whole bunch of bullying, a whole bunch of othering, a whole bunch of shit in their life and still come out the other end and be like 'this is who I am, take it or leave it, I'm not changing for anyone'...

    And those are exactly the vibes that this week's guest, singer/songwriter Van Hechter, was putting down when we got together to talk about his lost space, KOX, which was in Montreal, Canada, and which he started going to whilst he was still in high school.

    Takeaways


    The KOX nightclub in Montreal was a significant place for the queer community in the 1990s. KOX provided a vibrant and inclusive atmosphere for people to express their true selves.
    Van Hechter reflects on his time in the closet and his relationships with both men and women.
    The catacombs at KOX offered a different vibe, attracting closeted men and providing a sense of secrecy and understanding.
    Van's experiences at KOX have influenced his current work as a performer, as he aims to recreate the feeling of acceptance and self-expression he found at the club.
    There was a fear of AIDS during that time
    Van Hechter had a conflicted relationship with his father after coming out, but eventually found forgiveness and acceptance.


    Self-acceptance and embracing one's uniqueness are important for personal growth and happiness.

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    • 42 min
    'A Gay Man in New York' - with Colin Drucker from Alright Mary Podcast

    'A Gay Man in New York' - with Colin Drucker from Alright Mary Podcast

    One of my favourite things about queer people is that they make shit happen. 

    Ok, ok, so that's a massive generalisation. And here's another one...  

    Straight people (apologies to any that are reading this) are not forced to put themselves out there and meet people and make new connections in the same way that queer people are.

    So they don't have to go through all the effort of plucking up the courage to go to bars and clubs on their own, and then talking to strangers and trying to appear charming. How exhausting!

    But, that is exactly what this week's guest, Colin Drucker from the drag race recap podcast Alright Mary, did in his early days in New York City way back in the mid-00s.

    Every weekend he would drink a cocktail or two at home, get on the subway, and made his way to his lost space, Splash, where adventures abounded....

    Takeaways


    Moving to a new city can be both intimidating and exciting, requiring resilience and adaptability.


    Navigating the challenges of finding a job and a place to live in a big city requires resourcefulness and a willingness to take risks.
    Personal experiences and relationships can shape our perceptions and behaviors, even in the context of a new environment. Trying to please others and be seen as good enough can lead to exhaustion and inauthenticity.
    Using alcohol or drugs as a crutch to feel more comfortable in social situations can have negative consequences.
    The desire for connection and to be chosen can drive behavior in sexual encounters.
    Anxiety can have a significant impact on daily life and relationships.
    Finding healthy ways to manage anxiety, such as therapy or medication, is important.
    Colin reflects on his experiences at Splash, a gay nightclub in New York City, and the expectations he had for his life as a gay man.
    He shares his journey of letting go of societal expectations and finding new priorities.
    The conversation highlights the importance of resilience and the unpredictability of life's outcomes.



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    'That's Where Cruising Tends To Happen...' - with Marcus McCann

    'That's Where Cruising Tends To Happen...' - with Marcus McCann

    So, this week we’re doing something a little different. Rather than visit a lost space we’re setting out to answer the question ‘is the ancient art of cruising about to be lost?’.

    I know that's a fairly dramatic question, but there are a number of factors - like hook up apps and the over-gentrification of our cities - that seem to threaten these little discreet woodlands or private beaches from offering a secret place for people to meet and do the things that they do...

    Anyway, to help me answer this question I am joined by Marcus McCann, who is the writer of the book Park Cruising: What Happens When We Wander Off the Path. And, after writing a whole book about cruising I think he may know a thing or two about the subject.

    If you've ever wanted:


    tips on how to improve your cruising skills
    to know what the biggest lessons that come from mastering the art of cruising are
    understand the impact the pandemic had on people going out in nature

    then I think this is the episode for you!

    If you want to grab a copy of Marcus's book Park Cruising: What Happens When We Wander Off the Path then you can find it:

    ⁠Amazon UK⁠

    ⁠Amazon USA⁠

    Bookshop.org

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    • 43 min
    'Every Letter Of The Alphabet Mafia...' - with Karl Dunn

    'Every Letter Of The Alphabet Mafia...' - with Karl Dunn

    LA. Los Angeles. City of Angels.

    It's not really known to be the easiest of towns to live in. But, i think that's part of what makes it so exciting, right? Not to completely plagiarise a popular song, but if you can make it there then... you know the rest...

    And this is what brought Karl Dunn, who has just released his first book How To Burn A Rainbow: My Gay Marriage Didn't Make Me Whole, My Divorce Did, to town.

    In amongst all the newness, and networking parties with fellow wannabes, there was a reliable, dependable small gay bar in Venice Beach called Roosterfish where Karl could escape the inanity of tinseltown and just be in a place where (here I am about to steal lyrics again) everybody knew his name....

    If you want to grab a copy of Karl's new book 'How To Burn A Rainbow: My Gay Marriage Didn't Make Me Whole, My Divorce Did' then you can find it:

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    Amazon USA

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    • 49 min
    'I Felt That Way About Pulse' - with JJ Ivey

    'I Felt That Way About Pulse' - with JJ Ivey

    So, if you're reading these show notes I'm going to go ahead and make the assumption that you know about the Pulse nightclub shooting that happened in Orlando in 2016.

    And I'm also going to assume that you've heard some of the stories from survivors and families of victims about the impact of that night.

    But, now that we're a few years on and people's attention has moved elsewhere what happens to those feelings that are sitting there for people that were impacted by that night?

    What if Pulse was your safe space?

    How do you move on whilst never forgetting the importance of that space?

    Well, for actor / writer JJ Ivey, who turned up to Pulse every Tuesday for karaoke night, there are still a mix of emotions.

    They're obviously really grateful for what that space facilitated for them, but they're still figuring out how to grieve it properly.

    What I appreciated most about this week's conversation is that JJ was really open about some of the messiness of their emotions and how they are continuing to make sense of something that will never make sense...



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    Takeaways


    Finding a supportive community and embracing one's true self can lead to personal growth and acceptance.


    The mean gay phase may stem from fear and the pressure to be perfect.
    It's important to be aware of our actions and considerate of others in public spaces. Pulse Orlando provided a welcoming and non-judgmental environment for JJ Ivey, marking a shift in their mean and sassy gay phase.
    Exploring drag allowed JJ to discover their non-binary identity and embrace different aspects of their gender expression.
    Finding a group of friends who accepted and supported their authentic self was crucial for JJ's personal growth and happiness.
    Gender euphoria, rather than dysphoria, can be a valid and important aspect of one's gender identity. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, and it's never too late to learn more about yourself.
    Tragedies like the Pulse nightclub shooting can have a profound impact on individuals and communities, challenging their sense of safety and forcing them to confront their own mortality.
    It's important to embrace the good in people and build connections with others, even in the face of tragedy and uncertainty.
    Finding strength in community and supporting one another can help navigate the challenges and complexities of life.


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    • 44 min
    'I Didn't Have Any Gay Friends' - with Rudy Jeevanjee

    'I Didn't Have Any Gay Friends' - with Rudy Jeevanjee

    I've been thinking a lot lately about how your life can just happen to you. And, if you're not careful you can wake up one day wondering how you ended up there.

    But then, there are times when we take the bull by the horns and throw caution to the wind (and all the other cliches that you can think of), even if we know we might fail.

    Anyway, I had a wonderful reminder of that strength and courage that we can summon this week when I spoke to the cabaret performer Rudy Jeevanjee.

    Rudy found, through the Cocoa Butter Club, (which hosted regular nights at lost London space Her Upstairs), his people AND his purpose. What more could you ask for?

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    Takeaways


    Realising one's sexuality can happen at a young age, and it is important to create a safe and accepting environment for young people to explore their identities.


    Early sexual experiences can shape one's understanding of their sexuality and impact their journey to find inner peace.
    Navigating relationships and the gay scene can be challenging, and it is important to find spaces and connections that feel genuine and supportive.


    The clubbing scene can provide a sense of belonging and freedom for LGBTQ+ individuals, but it may also lack inclusivity and representation.
    Performing can be a transformative experience that allows individuals to express different aspects of their identity and gain confidence.


    Embrace and celebrate all parts of yourself, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone.


    The queer scene has evolved and changed over time, and individuals may have different experiences and preferences within it.




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    • 43 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
39 Ratings

39 Ratings

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4466775 stars!!!

Beautiful conversations that feel like love letters, they’ll make you laugh and cry. Each one will launch you into a story about a queer person and how one place has shaped who they are.

emperorrowdy ,

Great Documentation, But Not Great Representation

Everyone kind of comes from the same opinion, and god forbid you vary outside of that. The host assumes that everyone is/has to be queer in a postmodern theory sense and bullies gay/queer people for not towing that line.

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