346 episodes

For 18 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast.

Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday.

Listen to this podcast in New York Times Audio, our new iOS app for news subscribers. Download now at nytimes.com/audioapp

Modern Love The New York Times

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.3 • 8K Ratings

For 18 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast.

Each week, host Anna Martin brings you stories and conversations about love in all its glorious permutations, dumb pitfalls and life-changing moments. New episodes every Wednesday.

Listen to this podcast in New York Times Audio, our new iOS app for news subscribers. Download now at nytimes.com/audioapp

    Modern Love at the Movies: Our Favorite Oscar-Worthy Love Stories

    Modern Love at the Movies: Our Favorite Oscar-Worthy Love Stories

    The New York Times’s film critic Alissa Wilkinson has a theory about movies: They’re all about relationships. No matter how big the action, the suspense and tension we experience when watching a film is often really about the feelings between the characters.

    But romantic relationships often fall back on old tropes, like the long-suffering wife of an ex-cop who can’t resist that one last, risky case. (We all know her; she leaves teary voice messages urging him to be safe.) Some of this year’s Oscar-nominated films give us fresher portraits of love. Alissa and our host, Anna Martin, discuss the relationships that defy convention or easy definition, and push us to reconsider how we think about human connection, in three of those movies: “Poor Things,” “Maestro” and “Past Lives.”

    • 31 min
    A Politics Reporter Walks Into a Singles Mixer

    A Politics Reporter Walks Into a Singles Mixer

    The New York Times political reporter Astead Herndon went speed dating in a swing state to ask daters fun questions like: How early do you tell a prospective date whether you lean red or blue? When do you talk about your stances on issues like abortion or gender equality? It’s hard enough to find someone you click with. Then add election-year tensions into the mix, and things get even more complicated.

    Today: Our host Anna Martin speaks with Astead Herndon, host of the weekly politics podcast “The Run-Up" about the not-so-distant worlds of politics and dating.

    • 23 min
    Author Read: Un-Marry Me!

    Author Read: Un-Marry Me!

    Dave Finch reads his Modern Love essay, “On the Path to Empathy, Some Forks in the Road."

    To hear our conversation with Dave, listen to the episode: “Un-Marry Me!”

    • 8 min
    Un-Marry Me!

    Un-Marry Me!

    We’re kicking off our new season this Valentine’s Day with a story from a Modern Love veteran.

    David Finch has written three Modern Love essays about how hard he has worked to be a good husband to his beloved wife, Kristen. As a man with autism who married a neurotypical woman, he found it especially challenging to navigate being a partner and father. To make things easier, Dave kept a running list of “best practices” to cover every situation that might come up in daily life. His method worked so well that he became a best-selling author and speaker on the topic.

    But almost 11 years into their marriage Kristen suddenly told him she wanted to be "unmarried." Dave felt blindsided. He didn’t know what that meant, or if he could do it. But Dave wasn’t going to lose Kristen, so he had to give it a try.

    Valentine’s Day Bonus: How does politics affect your love life? Hear Anna Martin discuss this tomorrow on “The Run-Up,” a weekly politics show from The New York Times. You can search for “The Run-Up” wherever you get your podcasts.

    • 27 min
    I Married My Subway Crush

    I Married My Subway Crush

    Zoe Fishman couldn’t stop thinking about the man she called her “subway crush.” For years, she saw Ronen on the train and admired him from afar.

    When they finally connected, it turned out Ronen felt the same, and they began a blissful life together. But when their story took a devastating turn, Zoe had to grapple with longing for Ronen at a distance again.

    For the final episode of our season, we hear about the joy and loss that showed up in Zoe’s life, and the remarkable way she learned to live with both of them.

    Zoe Fishman is the author of several novels, most recently “The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.”

    • 28 min
    Author Read: I Married My Subway Crush

    Author Read: I Married My Subway Crush

    Zoe Fishman reads her Modern Love essay, “The Subway Crush Who Crushed Me."

    To hear our conversation with Zoe, listen to the episode: “I Married My Subway Crush.”

    Zoe Fishman is the author of several novels, most recently “The Fun Widow’s Book Tour.”

    • 12 min

Customer Reviews

4.3 out of 5
8K Ratings

8K Ratings

Ohio B. ,

Thank You!

I absolutely love this podcast. Such a refreshing relief from true crime and politics. Thanks Anna!

Pstpst into the void ,

Week old leftovers

I used to love this podcast and look forward to new episodes, but have been disappointed by the newer format and the pieces chosen. It is now like week-old leftovers-fine, but definitely not as good.
Why is the interview always dropped before the actual article reading? Did we run out of actors who like this podcast for performative readings? Too much unnecessary narrative by new host, and just overall saddened by the turn of format

olivecat ,

I marry me

This episode neglected to mention the elephant in the room. Dave is autistic and is no more of a issue in the marriage to be solved, than Kristen. Yes, Dave branched out and found his own set of interests. So? Still, they are two married people, one autistic and one allistic . The autism is the story, not the numerous years of speaking engagements and a book that was written. The fact that the autism was glossed over missed the entire point.

Top Podcasts In Society & Culture

iHeartPodcasts
This American Life
New York Times Opinion
Vox Media Podcast Network
Freakonomics Radio + Stitcher
Vox Media Podcast Network

You Might Also Like

The Boston Globe
WBUR
This American Life
NPR
TED Audio Collective / Youngme Moon, Mihir Desai, & Felix Oberholzer-Gee
Slate Podcasts

More by The New York Times

The New York Times
New York Times Opinion
The New York Times
The New York Times
New York Times Opinion
The New York Times