Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Mara Glatzel
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Even Here, Even Now is a podcast is for humans with needs - particularly those who like to pretend that they don’t. The truth is that every human being has needs. Your needs are a fact and not a flaw. YOU have needs, your needs matter, and meeting them is your responsibility. Yet… you’ve likely been taught that pushing your needs to the back burner is the only way to get things done. Even Here, Even Now is devoted to sharing frank conversations and true stories about how real humans meet their needs consistently, messily, and sustainably... during this complicated of polycrisis and rise of facism. Host Mara Glatzel is an author and coach ready to support you in cultivating radiant self-trust by honoring and advocating for your needs. Get more: maraglatzel.com

  1. MAR 29

    What Are You Actually Willing to Do to Have What You SAY You Want?

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend. This is the last public Daily Touch. After today these recordings are moving inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, where they will be waiting for you every week alongside calls, community, and my full support. But I wanted to go out with something real. Because here is what I notice. So many of us go around all day saying we want things. We want to feel different. We want to feel better. We want this to be easier. And then we talk about it with our friends, we listen to podcasts about it, we think about it into oblivion. And we tell ourselves that counts. That we are doing something. I love you and it does not count. Thinking about something is not the same as doing something. And I know that feels harsh but I also know that you already know this, which is probably why you are here. This Daily Touch is a tough love conversation about the gap between the life you say you want and the one tiny, unsexy, undramatic step you are actually willing to take in that direction today. Not a 37 point plan. Not a complete overhaul. One thing. Something small and doable and real. You are going to spend the energy either way. What if just a tiny dose of it went somewhere different? If you want to keep going, come inside Tend. The Spring cohort is enrolling now and doors close Sunday March 29th. I would love to have you: maraglatzel.com/tend See you on the other side. xMara You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    8 min

  2. MAR 28

    Yes, Things Might Fall Apart: A Daily Touch on Building an Unshakeable Relationship With Yourself

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Welcome back to the Daily Touch. I am going to tell you something that most people in my position would not say. When you start saying the true things, when you stop micromanaging everyone's perception of you, when you stop making yourself as easy as possible to love, things might fall apart. Some of them might... and I am not going to shellac over that. But here is what I know. If you have been routinely abandoning yourself in order to keep the peace and hold it all together, you do not have a steady foundation to fall back on when life gets hard. And life will get hard. The relationship you have with yourself is the only one you take with you everywhere, into every conversation, every board meeting, every relationship, from the day you are born until the day you die. It is your most longstanding relationship. And most of us are taking it completely for granted. That is what this Daily Touch is about. Building something inside yourself that nobody can take away. Even when the walls come down. If you want help building that, that is exactly what we do inside Tend. Doors close Sunday March 29th: maraglatzel.com/tend You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    8 min

  3. MAR 27

    You Don't Need a Hell Yes to Take a First Step: A Daily Touch on Readiness

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend, welcome back to the Daily Touch. Today we are talking about readiness. Specifically, the version of readiness most of us are waiting for. The hell yes. The moment when every single part of you is on board, confident, prepared, and certain. The moment when you finally feel ready. Here is what I know after fifteen years of working with clients through every kind of transition imaginable. That moment does not exist. I have never once seen it. What I have seen is people who are scared and uncertain and still take the step anyway. So if you have been hovering, waiting for the perfect sign that you are ready, this one is for you. 51% is enough. An ounce more in the camp of yes than no. That is workable. That is enough to begin. If this is landing and you are sitting at 51% wondering about Tend, doors close Sunday March 29th. Join us here! xMara You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    7 min

  4. MAR 26 ·  BONUS

    One Small Thing: A Daily Touch for When You're Too Burnt Out to Know Where to Start

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend, welcome to something new. The Daily Touch is a short audio transmission I created for Tend, my 12-week group coaching program, and I am sharing it here because I think you need it too. If you are so burnt out that you cannot even ask yourself what you need, this one is for you. If you have been telling yourself you are too far gone, too exhausted, too behind to start, this one is for you. If you have been waiting for the perfect moment to finally get back to yourself, this one is especially for you. Because here is what I know. There will always be something to put your care on the other side of. The road to your radiant aliveness is not paved by one massive overhaul. It is paved by one small, doable thing. And then another. And then another. So that is your dare today. One thing. Under ten minutes. That is it. If this resonates and you want more of this kind of support, the doors to Tend are open through March 29th. Come do this work with me: maraglatzel.com/tend xxMara You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    8 min

  5. MAR 19

    The Needy Woman Trope Is a Lie: Reclaiming Your Needs and Becoming Your Own Secure Base

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. I want to talk about the needy woman. You know her. She is the trope. The hungry ghost who wants and wants and wants and is never satisfied. The one who is a bummer to be in a relationship with. The one whose needs are framed as the problem. Here is what I know after more than a decade of doing this work: Your needs are not the problem. Your needs are the solution. And honestly? You might actually need to be a little needier. In this episode I am getting into why so many of us were conditioned from such an early age to divorce ourselves from our needs, what happens when we stuff all of that down for years (hint: it does not go away, it just waits behind a very full closet door), and what the tornado of unexpressed need actually is and where it comes from. I also share something really personal about my own journey. I used to be someone who left every party and immediately called a friend to ask, was I okay? I used to pick myself last. I used to white knuckle everything around me trying to create safety from the outside in. And I want to tell you what changed. Because getting into right relationship with your needs is not just about learning to ask for things. It is about becoming your own secure base. It is about reaching your hands into that tornado and holding the youngest part of yourself and saying, I am not afraid of you. I am not going anywhere. That is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together. I also share something new I am adding to Tend this spring called the Daily Touch, and between now and when enrollment closes I will be releasing a daily audio transmission right here on the podcast so you can get a taste of what it feels like to be supported in this way. Come find me. I want to hear your yeah-buts. You can reach me at mara@maraglatzel.com, on Instagram at @maraglatzel, or drop a comment on YouTube. Mara EPISODE TIMESTAMPS 💞 00:00 The needy woman trope and why it is a lie  02:29 How we are taught from childhood to suppress our needs  04:51 What happens when you stuff your needs away for years  06:47 The tornado of unexpressed need and where it actually comes from  09:03 Why we need someone to reach in and hold us in that place  11:31 What happens when we have no role models for expressing needs  14:34 Becoming your own secure base and what that freedom actually feels like  16:45 The moment I could no longer make myself fine  20:31 Why people are afraid to do this work (and what I say to that)  24:42 The oldest sister problem and how deep the grooves of over-functioning go  29:20 Introducing the Daily Touch and what is coming this week You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    41 min

  6. MAR 16

    When They Won't Give You What You Need

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. This episode is a follow-up to our last conversation about knowing your needs and what they have to do with your self-care and self-trust. And today I am getting into something I hear all the time. I know what I need. I even asked for it. And they said no. So what now? This is such a tender and real place to be. And I want to walk you through it honestly, starting with who is actually responsible for what when it comes to getting your needs met in any relationship. Here is the short version: it is your job to know what you need and to ask for it out loud. It is their job to assess their capacity and respond. And then it is your job to tolerate their response and figure out what to do next. I know. I know that is not the answer most of us want. I did not want that to be the answer either. I spent a long time waiting for someone to just figure out what I needed and deliver it. But taking responsibility for my own needs, really owning it, has been the most freeing thing I have ever done for myself. In this episode I get personal. I share my own experience with a really big, really vulnerable need for physical touch, what it looked like to stop being angry at other people for not meeting that need, and how I learned to get creative about meeting it myself. Including, yes, an electric blanket and a very beloved hot water bottle. I also talk about the dual list practice I use inside Tend: how to get a need met with others, and how to get that same need met by yourself, so you are never completely adrift when someone says no. This is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together. If you want to go deeper, this is exactly what we work on inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program. Enrollment is open now through March 20th. I would love to have you. Learn more at maraglatzel.com/tend xMara Hot moments in this episode:  00:00 The question I hear all the time: I need it but they won't give it to me  02:22 Who is responsible for what when asking for your needs  04:50 Your job is to tolerate their response and decide what to do next  07:15 Why so many of us are waiting to be rescued from our own needs  09:29 Why taking responsibility for yourself is actually the most freeing thing  11:50 My big personal example: a voracious need for physical touch  14:08 Getting creative about meeting your needs with and without others  16:31 The dual list practice: met with others vs. met by yourself  18:51 How warmth became my strategy (and why I am now a bath person)  23:32 Why insight is not enough and what actually has to change You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    33 min

  7. MAR 12

    The Real Reason Self-Care Fails — And How to Actually Meet Your Needs

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! If you've been trying all the self-care things and still feel burnt out, depleted, or like the last person on your own list — this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why prescriptive self-care (the bath, the walk, the list of 10 things) so often fails, and what it actually takes to build a life that nourishes you: identifying your real needs, unlearning the stories that told you those needs were too much, and learning to stay by your own side even when it's uncomfortable. Tune in to hear me jam about...  Why burnout since 2020 has changed everything — and why one bath can't fix it The 3-step process for building self-attunement, self-trust, and self-advocacy Inner child work, emotional literacy, and why most of us were never taught this "Pancaking out" — what self-abandonment actually looks like Why doing this work in community changes everything"You cannot advocate for what you can't identify." This is the foundation of everything I teach. Whether you're new to my work or coming back to the beginning, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Timestamps: 00:00 Understanding Self-Care and Its Challenges 03:39 The Importance of Identifying Needs 06:40 Building Self-Trust and Advocacy 09:55 Developing Skills for Self-Attunement 12:37 Unlearning Cultural Conditioning 15:32 Navigating Discomfort and Self-Advocacy 18:54 Creating Community and Support 21:39 Embracing Your Humanity and Needs You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    34 min

  8. FEB 22

    Have You Been Waiting for *Someone Else* To Give You The Princess Treatment?

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I unpack the online debate about “bare minimum” versus “princess treatment,” and why the tender, specific care I crave, like coffee made exactly how I like it and thoughtful acts of attention, can feel both necessary and out of reach.  I explore why so many of us want our partners to meet our needs without being asked... pointing to burnout (especially for oldest daughters and lifelong caregivers), romcom-driven expectations that love means mind-reading, and cultural conditioning in a capitalist, colonial, white supremacist, patriarchal overculture that teaches people, especially women and those socialized as girls, to minimize their needs to stay safe and belong.  Tune in to hear my own story of being a stranger to myself, chasing self-improvement plan after self-improvement plan, and feeling resentful when others did not “handle it” for me. And, ultimately, how I came to understanding that my needs are my responsibility and I do not have to earn the care that I have ached for.  Anchored in my core philosophy, even here, even now, I focus on small, doable acts of self-attunement and bespoke self-care, and I explain how the being really-really-really good at for caring for others is a transferrable skill. (Meaning, you can learn how to give it to yourself, babe!)  00:00 Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment: The Internet Debate 03:10 Why We Crave Mind-Reading Love (and Romcom Expectations) 05:29 “Your Needs Are Your Responsibility" Even if you're a Burned-Out Caregiver 10:27 Cultural Conditioning, Safety, and the Belief You’re Allowed to Have Needs 13:28 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Knowing: My Burnout Story 19:05 You Don’t Have to Earn Care: Even Here, Even Now 22:43 How to Start Giving Yourself Bespoke Care (Small Daily Choices) 23:38 Invitation to My Free 90-minute Workshop, Princess Treatment, on February 27th! 25:30 Closing: You Deserve This Kind of Care 💞 You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    27 min
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Even Here, Even Now is a podcast is for humans with needs - particularly those who like to pretend that they don’t. The truth is that every human being has needs. Your needs are a fact and not a flaw. YOU have needs, your needs matter, and meeting them is your responsibility. Yet… you’ve likely been taught that pushing your needs to the back burner is the only way to get things done. Even Here, Even Now is devoted to sharing frank conversations and true stories about how real humans meet their needs consistently, messily, and sustainably... during this complicated of polycrisis and rise of facism. Host Mara Glatzel is an author and coach ready to support you in cultivating radiant self-trust by honoring and advocating for your needs. Get more: maraglatzel.com

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