Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Mara Glatzel
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Even Here, Even Now is a podcast is for humans with needs - particularly those who like to pretend that they don’t. The truth is that every human being has needs. Your needs are a fact and not a flaw. YOU have needs, your needs matter, and meeting them is your responsibility. Yet… you’ve likely been taught that pushing your needs to the back burner is the only way to get things done. Even Here, Even Now is devoted to sharing frank conversations and true stories about how real humans meet their needs consistently, messily, and sustainably... during this complicated of polycrisis and rise of facism. Host Mara Glatzel is an author and coach ready to support you in cultivating radiant self-trust by honoring and advocating for your needs. Get more: maraglatzel.com

  1. 6H AGO

    When They Won't Give You What You Need

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Hey friend, welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. This episode is a follow-up to our last conversation about knowing your needs and what they have to do with your self-care and self-trust. And today I am getting into something I hear all the time. I know what I need. I even asked for it. And they said no. So what now? This is such a tender and real place to be. And I want to walk you through it honestly, starting with who is actually responsible for what when it comes to getting your needs met in any relationship. Here is the short version: it is your job to know what you need and to ask for it out loud. It is their job to assess their capacity and respond. And then it is your job to tolerate their response and figure out what to do next. I know. I know that is not the answer most of us want. I did not want that to be the answer either. I spent a long time waiting for someone to just figure out what I needed and deliver it. But taking responsibility for my own needs, really owning it, has been the most freeing thing I have ever done for myself. In this episode I get personal. I share my own experience with a really big, really vulnerable need for physical touch, what it looked like to stop being angry at other people for not meeting that need, and how I learned to get creative about meeting it myself. Including, yes, an electric blanket and a very beloved hot water bottle. I also talk about the dual list practice I use inside Tend: how to get a need met with others, and how to get that same need met by yourself, so you are never completely adrift when someone says no. This is the work. And I am so glad we get to do it together. If you want to go deeper, this is exactly what we work on inside Tend, my 12-week group coaching program. Enrollment is open now through March 20th. I would love to have you. Learn more at maraglatzel.com/tend xMara Hot moments in this episode:  00:00 The question I hear all the time: I need it but they won't give it to me  02:22 Who is responsible for what when asking for your needs  04:50 Your job is to tolerate their response and decide what to do next  07:15 Why so many of us are waiting to be rescued from our own needs  09:29 Why taking responsibility for yourself is actually the most freeing thing  11:50 My big personal example: a voracious need for physical touch  14:08 Getting creative about meeting your needs with and without others  16:31 The dual list practice: met with others vs. met by yourself  18:51 How warmth became my strategy (and why I am now a bath person)  23:32 Why insight is not enough and what actually has to change You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    33 min

  2. 4D AGO

    The Real Reason Self-Care Fails — And How to Actually Meet Your Needs

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! If you've been trying all the self-care things and still feel burnt out, depleted, or like the last person on your own list — this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why prescriptive self-care (the bath, the walk, the list of 10 things) so often fails, and what it actually takes to build a life that nourishes you: identifying your real needs, unlearning the stories that told you those needs were too much, and learning to stay by your own side even when it's uncomfortable. Tune in to hear me jam about...  Why burnout since 2020 has changed everything — and why one bath can't fix it The 3-step process for building self-attunement, self-trust, and self-advocacy Inner child work, emotional literacy, and why most of us were never taught this "Pancaking out" — what self-abandonment actually looks like Why doing this work in community changes everything"You cannot advocate for what you can't identify." This is the foundation of everything I teach. Whether you're new to my work or coming back to the beginning, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Timestamps: 00:00 Understanding Self-Care and Its Challenges 03:39 The Importance of Identifying Needs 06:40 Building Self-Trust and Advocacy 09:55 Developing Skills for Self-Attunement 12:37 Unlearning Cultural Conditioning 15:32 Navigating Discomfort and Self-Advocacy 18:54 Creating Community and Support 21:39 Embracing Your Humanity and Needs You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    34 min

  3. FEB 22

    Have You Been Waiting for *Someone Else* To Give You The Princess Treatment?

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I unpack the online debate about “bare minimum” versus “princess treatment,” and why the tender, specific care I crave, like coffee made exactly how I like it and thoughtful acts of attention, can feel both necessary and out of reach.  I explore why so many of us want our partners to meet our needs without being asked... pointing to burnout (especially for oldest daughters and lifelong caregivers), romcom-driven expectations that love means mind-reading, and cultural conditioning in a capitalist, colonial, white supremacist, patriarchal overculture that teaches people, especially women and those socialized as girls, to minimize their needs to stay safe and belong.  Tune in to hear my own story of being a stranger to myself, chasing self-improvement plan after self-improvement plan, and feeling resentful when others did not “handle it” for me. And, ultimately, how I came to understanding that my needs are my responsibility and I do not have to earn the care that I have ached for.  Anchored in my core philosophy, even here, even now, I focus on small, doable acts of self-attunement and bespoke self-care, and I explain how the being really-really-really good at for caring for others is a transferrable skill. (Meaning, you can learn how to give it to yourself, babe!)  00:00 Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment: The Internet Debate 03:10 Why We Crave Mind-Reading Love (and Romcom Expectations) 05:29 “Your Needs Are Your Responsibility" Even if you're a Burned-Out Caregiver 10:27 Cultural Conditioning, Safety, and the Belief You’re Allowed to Have Needs 13:28 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Knowing: My Burnout Story 19:05 You Don’t Have to Earn Care: Even Here, Even Now 22:43 How to Start Giving Yourself Bespoke Care (Small Daily Choices) 23:38 Invitation to My Free 90-minute Workshop, Princess Treatment, on February 27th! 25:30 Closing: You Deserve This Kind of Care 💞 You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    27 min

  4. JAN 2

    Returning to Sender: Reclaiming Your Life from the Overculture

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this episode of 'Even Here, Even Now,' I dive into one of my favorite concepts concept -- 'return to sender.' Tune in to hear me discuss how we receive and internalize harmful messages from oppressive societal systems over the course of our lives, and emphasize the importance of prioritizing our own needs and authenticity as we reject the messages that do not align with how we *want* to be living. Highlighting the struggle of feeling guilt and shame in prioritizing self-care, I encourage you to recognize and send back toxic beliefs, advocating for a balanced life where self-nourishment supports sustained contributions to others. Timestamps 00:42 Understanding the Over Culture 02:01 Embracing Your (True) Needs, Wants & Beliefs 04:16 The Concept of 'Return to Sender' 06:09 Winter Camp: A Case Study 08:25 Challenging Social Norms 09:55 Personal Reflections and Socialization 12:04 The Importance of Self-Care, especially during the winter season You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    25 min

  5. 12/30/2025

    F*ck New Years Resolutions, Respectfully

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this episode of Even Here, Even Now, I jam about my *concerns* with traditional New Year's resolutions, examining how the overculture pushes us into setting unattainable goals and highlighting the importance of weaving self-compassion into our commitments. It is my deepest hope that this episode supports you in rethinking the winter season as a time of rest and nourishment rather than making drastic changes. You are not a problem to be fixed! You are a human being in deep need of restoration and tender care! Join me as I advocate for setting realistic, deeply rooted intentions based on genuine desires and needs, rather than societal pressures. This episode will provide insights about how to create sustainable, self-loving commitments for the year ahead. Timestamps: 00:00 My Feelings About New Year's Resolutions 🤭 01:37 Wintering and the Timing of Resolutions 04:56 The Big Problem with Resolutions 07:14 Granting Yourself a Fresh Start Anytime You Need it 11:05 Toxic Productivity Culture 18:55 Setting Doable Commitments You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    29 min

  6. 12/27/2025

    No Bad Phases: What the Moon & Seasons Teach Us About Our Fallow Time

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this episode, I reflect on how the winter season and the phases of the moon teach me to embrace periods of rest and transformation. I share my personal journey through challenging times, including a shattered ankle injury that forced me to reconsider my self-worth beyond productivity and navigate the cultural pressures that tie our value to constant doing. The question is, who are YOU when you are not serving others or achieving visible results? Let's get into it :)  There is incredible power to letting go, nourishing ourselves, and setting boundaries during the quieter months and invite you to use this season to set intentions and care for yourself in ways that support a vibrant, fulfilling year ahead. Timestamps  0:00 — I introduce the episode and the theme of reframing winter. 1:54 — I celebrate the value of unseen, internal transformation. 4:34 — I open up about my own “goo phase” and personal struggles. 5:35 — I draw lessons from nature and the moon’s cycles. 7:22 — Who am I when I’m not being productive? 8:41 — I share the story of my ankle injury and its impact on my identity. 11:15 — I examine how society links self-worth to doing, especially for women and those of us assigned female at birth or raised as girls. 13:58 — I encourage finding community and support during introspective times. 19:43 — I talk about committing to one supportive practice for the year 24:21 — I discuss setting intentions for a nourished, vibrant year ahead. You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    27 min

  7. 12/18/2025

    Meeting Yourself in the Dark: Re-Imagining Your Relationship With the Winter Season

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! In this podcast episode, I delve into my life-long journey of transforming my relationship with the winter season. Once dreading the cold and darkness, I have learned to reframe this time of year as as an opportunity for deep self-connection by asking myself the question "what is this season BEST for?"  Tune in to hear me reflect on my past, including my struggles with childhood fears and postpartum experiences of grappling with fear of the dark. I emphasize the importance of how meeting ourselves in the dark fosters self-trust. Towards the end of the episode, I share my own delightfully practical ways to enjoy winter, such as taking a social media break, engaging in cozy activities, and reconnecting with my inner light. The episode encourages YOU to reconsider their approach to winter and find joy and meaning in this quieter, darker time of year. 00:17 Reimagining the Winter Season 01:33 Winter Camp: Meeting Yourself the Dark 02:09 Personal Journey with Darkness 05:14 The Winter Solstice and Seasonal Reflections 06:33 Cultural Expectations vs. Natural Rhythms 09:35 Winter as a Time for Self-Connection 13:13 Practical Tips for a Cozy Winter 19:10 Reconnecting with Inner Light and Warmth 22:13 Invitation to Reflect You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    25 min

  8. 10/06/2025

    Who Do You Want to Be in All of This?

    Send Mara a quick text love note here! Welcome back to Even Here, Even Now. I’m Mara, your host, and today’s episode is a deeply personal reflection on how we navigate overwhelming times, hold space for grief, and find our unique role in the world. I share my own struggles, insights, and the ongoing journey of learning to care for myself while showing up for my community. If you’re someone who feels the weight of responsibility, this episode is for you. (Ahem, eldest sisters to the front.) Timestamps & Highlights: 0:00 – Opening thoughts: waking up to grim news and emotional overwhelm 3:38 – Crying in the driveway. Maybe you need to cry too? 6:41 – The pressure to minimize our needs in the face of the overwhelming need of the people around us 10:55 – The “group project” fear: why it's really hard to trust others to do their part 😬 13:51 – Learning to be honest about our capacity if we want to be in community 17:24 – The unreasonable expectation to be good at everything, and how to let that go 21:04 – My journey into local activism: choosing affordable housing as my “corner” of the work 24:36 – Using my voice and skills to make an impact, and letting go of what isn’t mine to carry (I know, yikes and ugh) 29:13 – The power of doing your one thing: how doing less can actually mean doing more (and more sustainably) Thank you for listening and for being part of this space. Remember, you don’t have to do everything—just your one thing matters. You can't stay on your own side if you don't know what your needs are in the first place. Tend is a 12-week season where you'll learn to notice and name your needs, build unshakeable trust that they're legitimate, and stay by your own side, even when everything in you wants to self-abandon.  Spring cohort starts March 27, doors close March 20—join me at maraglatz

    32 min
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Even Here, Even Now is a podcast is for humans with needs - particularly those who like to pretend that they don’t. The truth is that every human being has needs. Your needs are a fact and not a flaw. YOU have needs, your needs matter, and meeting them is your responsibility. Yet… you’ve likely been taught that pushing your needs to the back burner is the only way to get things done. Even Here, Even Now is devoted to sharing frank conversations and true stories about how real humans meet their needs consistently, messily, and sustainably... during this complicated of polycrisis and rise of facism. Host Mara Glatzel is an author and coach ready to support you in cultivating radiant self-trust by honoring and advocating for your needs. Get more: maraglatzel.com

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