76 episodes

Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

Nope! We're Not Monogamous Ellecia Paine

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.8 • 29 Ratings

Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

    Unpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-Monogamy

    Unpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-Monogamy

    What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was wrong? Our guest today has been openly non-monogamous for over 20 years, challenging assumptions about love and intimacy every step of the way. Get ready to question societal rules and create connections that actually work for you.Over the past two decades, Brandon has navigated the intricacies of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. He shares his journey - one filled with hard-won lessons on communication, self-awa...

    • 45 min
    No Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex Magic

    No Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex Magic

    Can sex magic really help you manifest your desires and enhance pleasure? In this candid conversation with Lona, a neo-tantra teacher and sexual bliss coach, we unravel the mysteries behind this esoteric practice. Lona shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, kink, and somatic therapy as gateways to deeper fulfillment. We explore the challenges of her transition from a decade in a monogamous relationship to forging her own path of "no rules" polyamory. Lona explains how she discove...

    • 46 min
    Beyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies Unveiled

    Beyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies Unveiled

    Today, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head.Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships.Adam has a fascinating journey ...

    • 58 min
    The Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72

    The Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72

    Welcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you.Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voic...

    • 1 hr 4 min
    From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71

    From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71

    Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness.In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring p...

    • 47 min
    Polyamory Pitfalls: Handling Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Ali Hendry, Ep. 70

    Polyamory Pitfalls: Handling Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Ali Hendry, Ep. 70

    Jealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling block to a steppin...

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
29 Ratings

29 Ratings

CJ@noshamewithcj ,

Not about convincing you but sharing info

I love the candor and openness of Ellecia and her guests. Everyone brings their own approaches to ways of relating and I love that there is space to have these conversations.

Miss Lissa1 ,

Love this series

Finally figures put how to review, lol. Love love love this podcast! I always get some kind of tip that I can apply to my life. Thanks for normalizing polyamory and thank you for having such honest, emotionally intelligent and valuable information. Keep them coming!

Deirdre Tshien ,

A great listen

Ellecia's candid exploration into relationships beyond traditional boundaries is invaluable. This podcast is engaging and thought-provoking, a great listen for those seeking insights into different perspectives on love and connection. Deirdre

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