711 episodes

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back.

Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about.

Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

Over It And On With It Christine Hassler

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back.

Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about.

Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

    Letting Go of Grief and Confusion with Amy

    Letting Go of Grief and Confusion with Amy

    This episode is about releasing grief and confusion and allowing ourselves the time and space to heal. Today’s caller, Amy, is 25-plus years past when she decided to have an abortion and is triggered by everything going on with Roe vs. Wade. We talk about it as an example of how grief never really goes away. She would like guidance about how to move past her shame, guilt, and lingering grief. If you are someone who has chosen to have an abortion or had to, I hope you find comfort in this episode.
     
    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode361]
     
    Sometimes we have to slow down to speed up as we may be triggering our trauma with too much personal development work. Too much good work can trigger trauma and we may be doing too much of a good thing. When we grow up in chaos, our nervous systems become overloaded and personal development work can trigger it.
     
    Trauma is too much, too soon, too fast. When we work on ourselves too much it can trigger our trauma bell. Even though personal development is good, to our nervous system it feels like an overload and too much to process.
     
    One of the biggest tips for healing trauma is when we are in any kind of overload, we take a pause and ask ourselves what we need at the moment. It can take practice. The better we get at it the more we start to be able to get out of the trigger. When we are conditioned at operating with a hyper-aroused nervous system, pausing and pacing ourselves is the key to healing.
     
    I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat or listen to my Coaches Corner with Jill to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.
     
    Consider/Ask Yourself:
    Did you have an abortion at some point in your life and still carry around guilt and shame but are ready to let it go? Do you judge other women who have made a similar choice? Are you willing to let go of the judgment? Do you suffer from confusion and lack of clarity? Could you be doing too much personal development work? Is it working against you?  
    Amy’s Question:
    Amy would like some deep healing for her 16-year-old inner child who made a decision that she continues to guilt and shame herself for.
     
    Amy’s Key Insights and Ahas:
    She completed the Inner Child Workshops 1 and 2. She had an abortion at 16. The recent Roe vs. Wade conversations trigger her. She was brought up in the Catholic religion. She wants to heal her inner child. The father of the child didn’t take responsibility. She feels as if she sinned and that God will punish her. She has never fully grieved her loss. She feels she has released the soul of the baby back to the universe. She has three children. She would like clarity about her journey.  She is passionate about life and confidence coaching. She feels unworthy of being a coach. She has integrity. She has beautiful things to offer people.  
    How to Get Over It and On With It:
    Make a date to do the empty chair process with herself and the soul of the baby then invite her 16-year-old self into the joys of motherhood. Take a pause when she feels overwhelmed or triggered. Give herself some space and not feel as if she has to process everything at once. Keep doing the work but not in a way that overwhelms her.  
    Takeaways:
    Slow down to speed up. Are you triggering your trauma with too much personal development work? Do you need to slow down and give yourself some space?  
    Resources:
    Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
    Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
    Christine on Facebook
    Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
    @ChristinHassler on Twitter
    @ChristineHassler on Instagram
    @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
    Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show
    Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
    Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the

    • 36 min
    CC: What exactly happens on my Signature Retreat?

    CC: What exactly happens on my Signature Retreat?

    If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine and Jill about what happens at Christine’s Signature Retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you.
    More info about the retreat here: 
    https://christinehassler.com/signatureretreat/

    • 41 min
    A Midlife Marriage Crisis with Marc

    A Midlife Marriage Crisis with Marc

    This episode is about standing up for yourself in a relationship. Today’s caller, Marc, feels a shift in his 20-year marriage. He is willing to work on the relationship but his wife is avoiding it. This episode is relatable to many people because we discuss why he doesn’t take a stand for himself and how it takes two people to make a relationship work.
     
    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode360]
     
    Many midlife crises happen because people find themselves in a place where they can’t suppress anymore. Often, their kids are older, they are set in their careers, and their life is a bit more predictable, then all of a sudden they find it difficult to suppress what they feel they have missed out on.
     
    When an individual feels they’ve sacrificed a lot of their life in parenthood or the like, a sense of selfishness or entitlement bubbles up and they go in the opposite direction of where they have been. And, a person who is more reactive and triggered shouldn’t be leading a relationship because they will lead the relationship to a dead end.
     
    Sometimes our less obvious wounds are more impactful. A lot of time the person who holds the more feminine pole in a relationship often wants the masculine pole to lead, to come to us and let us know when things are off.
     
    I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.
     
    Consider/Ask Yourself:
    Are you in a relationship and you feel you are pulling more of the weight and are doing more of the work but your partner isn’t? Are you unclear about where you stand in a relationship? Are you in limbo waiting for someone to tell you if the relationship is moving forward? Do you avoid standing up for yourself and what you want? Did you have a parent you couldn’t afford to lose so you tiptoed around them and the wound is impacting your adult relationships?   
    Marc’s Question:
    Marc noticed a shift in his 20-year marriage. He feels as if he is in limbo. He is asking for guidance on what his next steps should be.
     
    Marc’s Key Insights and Ahas:
    He has been married for 20 years and has two teenage kids. He feels a shift in attitude from his wife. He is going to therapy but his wife isn’t. He is putting a lot of work into what steps to take next. He is not sure he wants to stay in the marriage. His wife may be premenopausal. He and his wife put the kids first over each other. His father abandoned his family when he was young. He doesn’t want to continue being in limbo. He has questions to ask his wife but is afraid of what the answers may be. His wife hasn’t been there for him during some difficult times. He recognizes he has some blind spots but thinks he has been a good husband. He feels unappreciated. His mother wound is affecting his relationship with his wife.  
    How to Get Over It and On With It:
    Realize he is a constant reminder of the things his wife isn’t facing. He deserves clarity from his wife. Stand up for himself and the marriage. Work with his inner child and let him know that he will be okay, no matter what happens.  
    Resources:
    Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
    Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
    Christine on Facebook
    Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
    @ChristinHassler on Twitter
    @ChristineHassler on Instagram
    @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
    Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show
    Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
    Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.
    Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

    • 35 min
    CC: Reair: EP 45: Stop Living a Checklist Life with Frankie

    CC: Reair: EP 45: Stop Living a Checklist Life with Frankie

    Control is something we all struggle with. We think we have 100% control over life, but we don’t. We do have choices and dominion but we don’t have total control. Our egos like to have certainty and to have a plan, which is rooted in fear. It is scary not to know what is coming next. If we try to control every aspect of our lives, we often miss out on all the beautiful opportunities the universe has for us.
    Sometimes the opportunities come in the form of challenges, which are not to punish or test us but to help us grow. During these times it is important that we do not go into victim mode. It is also important that when we go through uncertainty we don’t try to immediately fill up that space with something new.
    Sometimes we just have to sit in the discomfort of uncertainty to see what it is there for to teach us. If we don’t deal with our Expectation Hangovers they will keep repeating and the same types of disappointments will keep coming up.
    It’s OK if you don’t have it all figured out. A quarter-life crisis is normal. It is the time when many of us step into our personal life journey. Challenges are what build our grit and character.
    I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.
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    Consider/Ask Yourself:
    Are you having a quarter-life crisis or an Expectation Hangover? Are things not going according to plan? Do you relate to living off a checklist? If things don’t get checked off are you hard on yourself? Is external achievement and validation important to you? Are there things you say you are surrendered about but you’re not? Are you still trying to make things happen or have you just resigned? Frankie’s Question:
    Frankie would like to know how to move into a place of acceptance about where she is in her life.
    Frankie’s Key Insights and Aha’s:
    She has a should list and a checklist in her head She has a deep strength within her Her identity comes from what she can achieve She is hard on herself more than she is compassionate Love for her is connected to validation and praise How to get over it and on with it:
    She should consider who she would be at 49 if her life had no struggles She can pray without asking for something Her self-talk needs to move towards love and acceptance She can delve deeper in her spiritual practice She should update her story about who she is supposed to be Assignments and Takeaways:
    Listen to my story in my very first Over It and On With It Process your emotions through release writing and the temper tantrum technique in Expectation Hangover. Do not pray for things but pray to be shown the way. Be nice to yourself. Ditch your checklist. Resources:
    Christine Hassler
    Christine Hassler Podcasts
    Christine Hassler Free E–book
    Expectation Hangover
    20 Something 20 Everything
    @christinhassler on Twitter
    @christinehassler on Instagram
    Christine@christinehassler.com
    Jill@christinehassler.com

    • 35 min
    Making a Big Decision About a Big Change with Catherine

    Making a Big Decision About a Big Change with Catherine

    This episode is about making a big decision. Today’s caller, Catherine, is considering moving in with her boyfriend but isn’t sure whether or not she is ready. She would like guidance on how to make a big decision. We discuss how she can use the intuitive decision-making process to become clear about what she wants and the learning opportunities of relationships.
     
    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode359]
     
    When we feel that we have to make every decision on our own, it can keep us from speaking our needs in relationships. To break the pattern of feeling like you have to do everything on your own requires speaking your needs and asking for help and support. In the masculine-feminine dynamic when we are doing things on our own, not in collaboration, we can lean a bit too much into our masculine energy.
     
    It is important to stretch ourselves, but not stretch ourselves so much that we snap. If we want continued progress in our life we stretch ourselves just enough where we feel the stretch but we don’t snap.
     
    An issue-based relationship is where the chemistry is really hot and heavy early on but what is really attracting the partners is unresolved issues. You may find yourself attracted to someone who is like your mother or father or who triggers your insecurities or biggest wounds. We tend to draw in relationships that have tons of red flags but the passion and chemistry keep us going back for more.
     
    The learning opportunity of issue-based relationships is to heal the wound that attracts us to a person in the first place.
     
    I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.
     
    Consider/Ask Yourself:
    Is there a big decision you are considering making? Do you want to make a change but you don’t know if it’s too extreme or a great challenge? Are you someone who likes to have certainty in your life? In a relationship, have you tried to change the other person rather than taking full responsibility for how you are showing up?  
    Catherine’s Question:
    Catherine would like guidance about her relationship and about whether or not she should move in with her partner.
     
    Catherine’s Key Insights and Ahas:
    She has been dating her partner for five months. She is concerned about the stability of the relationship. Her intuition is nudging her to take an adventure. She and her partner live hours apart. The relationship has been a bit rocky. She changed her expectations of men after research. She is unsure about how to lean into her femininity. She is afraid to trust. There is a lot of change presenting itself to her. She is learning things during her decision-making process. She tends to make all-or-nothing decisions. She is looking to take responsibility for her part in the relationship. She is ready to receive love.  
    How to Get Over It and On With It:
    Do the intuitive decision-making process and listen to her body. Make agreements with her partner about how they will live together. Clean up her end of the relationship.  
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    Resources:
    Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
    Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
    Christine on Facebook
    Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
    @ChristinHassler on Twitter
    @ChristineHassler on Instagram
    @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
    Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the

    • 34 min
    CC: Reair: EP 32: Getting Over Moodiness

    CC: Reair: EP 32: Getting Over Moodiness

    Do you exhibit a type of behavior or personality trait you don’t necessarily love about yourself? It could be moodiness or it could be being extremely judgmental or it could be an emotional state you have a tendency to default to like sadness, worry, anger or fear. Women often have a difficult time dealing with anger because we have not been encouraged to express it. We may default to sadness which limits us from reaching our passion and our fire. We suppress our emotions and any big emotion we suppress will eventually leak. Anger becomes irritability, sadness becomes depression and shame comes out as insecurity. Suppressed emotions can also lead to physical ailments. It is not healthy to suppress our emotions. 
     
    Today’s caller Monica acknowledges her own moodiness and is wondering if it is something she can change or if it’s a fixed personality trait. She suppresses her anger and doesn’t speak her truth. If there is something about you that does not feel good to you, like moodiness, you can change it. You just need to uncover why it’s there in the first place. Moodiness can be a messenger that you may be suppressing pent up anger and frustration. It is liberating to express your anger and be free of the moodiness. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat.   
     
    Consider/Ask Yourself: 
     
    ● Is there something about you that you would like to change? Is it an inherent part of your personality or do you believe you can change it? Are you willing to do the work to change it? 
     
    ● Do you experience times when you are irritable or snap at someone? How do you express your anger? 
     
    ● Do you feel self-expressed? Do you fully feel your feelings?   
     
    Monica’s Question: 
    Monica recognizes she is a moody person and would like to know if she is able to shift out of it or if it is part of her personality.   
     
    Monica’s Key Insights and Aha’s:
    ● Her moodiness stems from suppressing her anger  
     
    ● When she speaks her truth she feels shut down 
     
    ● She has trouble expressing herself  
     
    ● She doesn’t like conflict 
     
    ● She becomes the victim, as a coping strategy   
     
    How to get over it and on with it: 
    ● Realize her irritability and bluntness are actually inner anger leaking out 
    ● She should do the Temper Tantrum technique and 32 days of the Release Writing technique, which are in her copy of Expectation Hangover 
    ● She should step away from the conversation and get her anger out, on her own   
     
    Tools and Takeaways: 
    ● Identify the ways you may be leaking. Know where you are suppressing and how you may be expressing it in other ways.    
     
    ● If you sense you may have anger you have yet to acknowledge, start Release Writing. 
     
    ● Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, in particular, the Adult Temper Tantrum and Release Writing techniques. 
     
    ● Speak your truth and process your raw feelings to eliminate suppression.    
     
    Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter@christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

    • 36 min

Customer Reviews

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DawnElizabethEllis ,

I’m Grateful

Christine, I want to thank you for all you do. When I found your podcast, I was deep in the pain from leaving a 35 year abusive marriage. I had spent a lifetime trying to lift the fog of the gaslighting, attempting to heal my “little me” wounds through a marriage to a man who’d continue to wound me. I listened and I learned and I used your content to improve my critical thinking skills around my experience. I journaled and took your podcast topics into therapy and Grief Recovery. I continue to do so, and I cannot thank you enough for shining your light into all my dark places. You’ve shown me my part in it, you’ve lit the path to self-forgiveness, and inspired me to create a heart space for self-love. Dear Lady, thank you. 💚

Iz2008<3 ,

Good intentions but has gone down the new age/disinformation rabbit hole

I’ve historically found value in a lot of Christine’s episodes, but I became so disappointed in how she started talking about Covid, vaccines, the 2020 election, and the global/American turmoil that has been happening without pause since Covid started. She seems to have taken a “neutral” stance on major national/global affairs….or, to my knowledge, hasn’t talked about most of these issues at all. Around the 2020 election, she said something to the effect of not understanding why Biden and Trump supporters can’t be friends anymore on a podcast episode??? This isn’t a debate about pizza toppings. One candidate actively desired to subjugate most of the population—anyone who’s not a white, Christian, straight man—while the other, while by no means perfect, espouses women’s rights, LGBTQ+ rights, anti-racism efforts, caring for the environment, etc. I’ve become so disillusioned by the “spiritual”/ personal development teaching that “there’s no such thing as right and wrong,” which Christine seemed to support, though maybe I’m wrong about that…or that it’s not “spiritual” to take sides. Actually, there IS such a thing as right and wrong, and, at some point, if people with influence aren’t willing to speak up and take sides (for example, mass shootings in America, Roe, etc.), that silence is implicit support for the oppressor….they’ve chosen their “side” even if not announcing that publicly…that’s how I’ve started to view almost all the leaders in the spiritual/personal development space. Most of them don’t seem to be willing to take a stand and “rock the boat.”

Lemons&Love ,

Life changing

Its like God has taken me on a life / self exploration curriculum through the podcasts that have come my way over the last couple years! First few podcasts in this “podcast syllabus” focused on fundamental personal growth ideas like thoughts vs feelings, bringing me now Christine’s podcast which just feels like that grad level course, going so deep and putting to work everything I’ve learned thus far! Thank you for your work Christine!

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