Psychologists Off the Clock Debbie Sorensen, Jill Stoddard, Michael Herold, & Emily Edlynn

Money talk can be a real minefield in relationships, especially if you and your partner or spouse have totally different spending habits. If this sounds familiar then you’ve got to check out our latest episode with Dr. Scott Rick, a behavioral scientist and the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts. We tackle questions like whether tightwads and spendthrifts can actually find harmony together and uncover insights from his original research on the psychology of money management in relationships. Tune in to discover how your financial mindset could be impacting your love life and get actionable tips to transform your money management anxieties!

Listen and Learn: 

How our psychology not only influences how we handle money, but the way we handle money also influences our psychology 

Defining tightwads, spendthrifts, and unconflicted consumers

Does research suggest who is more likely to be a tightwad or spendthrift, and are there differences beyond how much money they make?  

The most harmonious versus more conflictual pairings among Tightwads and Spenthroots

Are couples with joint accounts and some financial translucency more likely to have higher marital satisfaction than full transparency?

Scott’s strategies for both tightwads and spendthrifts to manage their spending anxieties

Why letting the tightwad parent handle toy purchases and the spendthrift plan vacations can lead to lasting family happiness

How to teach your kids about money and responsibility while balancing their hobbies and preparing them for real-life financial decisions


Resources:

scottrick.com

Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships

https://www.instagram.com/likelyshopping/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottianrick/

https://twitter.com/scottianrick


About Scott Rick
Scott Rick is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business. He holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon University, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. He has published research in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, economics, and neuroscience. At the University of Michigan, he has won awards for both research and teaching. Rick's research has been covered extensively in outlets such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and NPR. His first book, Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships, was published in January 2024 by St. Martin’s Press.

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291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy

284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia

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If you want the best guidance for your GI issues without exclusive access to a top-tier medical team, join us in this episode with Megan Riehl, co-author of Mind Your Gut: The Science-Based Whole-body Guide to Living Well. You’ll discover how this book brings science-based strategies, and exercises straight to your home, offering tools rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy to manage GI symptoms effectively. Learn about accessible resources and the profound impact of a multidisciplinary team on your health. Tune in to unlock these valuable insights and improve your well-being!

Listen and learn: 

The expansive scope of the gastrointestinal (GI) system and the spectrum of GI conditions

Why the gut is often called the second brain, and how its powerful connection with the brain influences our health in surprising ways

How stress and anxiety fuel GI symptoms and create a cycle of worsening health

The "Dream Team" of GI care

Treating GI with cognitive reframing and decreasing behavioral avoidance

Is clinical hypnotherapy effective for treating IBS and how does it work?  

How a "gentle diet cleanup" can transform gut health—before you dive into restrictive diets

The risks of gut pseudoscience on your gut health 

How the gut microbiome could revolutionize precision medicine


Resources:

https://www.drriehl.com/

Mind Your Gut: The ScienceBased, Whole-body Guide to Living Well

https://www.instagram.com/mindyourgutofficial

https://x.com/DrRiehl

The Gut Health Podcast Kate Scarlata and Megan Riehl

Nerva: IBS & Gut Hypnotherapy 

https://opbmed.com/


About Megan Riehl 
Dr. Megan Riehl is a clinical health psychologist, an Associate Professor of Medicine and Director of GI Behavioral Health at the University of Michigan. Her research and passion for education have resulted in numerous peer-reviewed publications, leadership roles, and lectures. This year, together with digestive health expert Kate Scarlata, they co-authored Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well with IBS and launched The Gut Health Podcast. 

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222. Living With Food Allergies with Tamara Hubbard

260. Health Anxiety with Karen Lynn Cassiday

30. Nutritional Psychology (Part 2) – Eating for Brain Health with the MIND Diet with Diana and Debbie

29. Nutritional Psychology (Part 1) – How food impacts mood, cognition and brain health with Diana and Debbie

39. Chronic Pain with Adrianne Sloan

170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release)

177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne

334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges


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If worry is your constant companion, take heart—you're in good company. Let's clear something up: worrying is as human as breathing. Everyone does it, and sometimes it even helps. But when worry transforms into a monster that steals your sleep, scrambles your thoughts, and holds your decisions hostage, that's when we’ve got a problem. If this sounds familiar, you’ll want to hear this conversation with Ben Eckstein where we unpack his book, Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck. Tune in to learn how to navigate the cycle of worry and find a balanced approach to life's uncertainties.

Listen and Learn: 

The fundamental distinction between "worry" and "worrying" 

How did worrying become part of our human operating system, and when does it stop being helpful?

Why don't our brains dismiss anxiety and focus solely on problem-solving, instead of reinforcing fear patterns?

How to master the skills to coexist with anxiety and thrive despite it

Unexpected insights from "Legend of Zelda" to explain the nuanced approach needed to treat anxiety

The importance of having compassion for the future version of you


Resources: 

Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck

Website: www.bullcityanxiety.com


Instagram: @bullcityanxiety

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bullcityanxiety



About Ben Eckstein
Ben Eckstein, LCSW is a therapist specializing in the treatment of OCD, Anxiety, and OC-Related Disorders. Ben honed his specialty in OCD while working at McLean Hospital's OCD Institute in Boston. He's now the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety & OCD Treatment Center in Durham, North Carolina. Ben is the vice president of OCD North Carolina, the NC state affiliate of the International OCD Foundation. In addition to his clinical work, Ben is a speaker, trainer, and author. His first book, Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, was published in 2023.

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188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer

121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard

77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard


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Ever had to deal with someone who just seems impossible to reason with? You know, the kind of person who always blames others and seems to turn every minor disagreement into a conflict? If you've been there, you’ll want to check out this episode with Bill Eddy, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and an expert in understanding high-conflict personalities and dealing with adult bullies. We talk about the characteristics of high-conflict individuals, the psychological impact on their victims, and effective strategies from his book Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them to navigate these relationships. Tune in and empower yourself with concrete tools and expert advice to diffuse high-conflict behavior effectively and change how you handle bullies in your life!

Listen and Learn: 

Identifying the four main traits of high-conflict personalities 

Do all individuals with personality disorders fit the high conflict profile?

How to identify if you have a relationship with someone with a high-conflict personality

The differences between adult bullies and child bullies

What is the primary motivation for bullying behavior? 

The surprise attack tactic bullies often use and how you can be less vulnerable to them

What is a negative advocate, and how do people end up in that role?

Using the BIFF method in communication to avoid blame cycles and maintain constructive dialogue

Why you should never label the behavior of a high-conflict person or bully? 

Combating bullying in political and online realms and why this demands societal action through education and setting boundaries


Resources:

highconflictinstitute.com

Connect with Bill @highconflictinstitute on socials:

https://www.linkedin.com/company/high-conflict-institute

https://twitter.com/highconflict?lang=en

https://www.instagram.com/highconflictinstitute/

It's All Your Fault! The High Conflict Institute Podcast

Psychology Today Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life


Bill’s books: 

Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them


5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities



Biff: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns



Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder



About Bill Eddy: 
Bill Eddy is Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com.

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308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern

292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg

263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson

186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab

298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab

276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson


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We know how demanding fatherhood can be and how often your mental well-being takes a backseat. For this episode, we bring you the practical advice and encouraging perspectives of Dr. Danny Singley, an award-winning psychologist, to discuss the often-overlooked topic of men's mental health and fatherhood. Danny, who is the director of the Center for Men's Excellence, helps us understand the unique mental health challenges men face, especially during the transition to fatherhood. Expect valuable insights into men's help-seeking behaviors, the importance of addressing emotional needs, and strategies for fostering deeper male friendships. Whether you are a man, a father, or simply want to learn how to support the men in your life better, tune in to learn how we can all take steps toward promoting mental well-being in men.

Listen and Learn: 

Why discussing men's mental health, challenging stereotypes, breaking through societal expectations, and promoting a more inclusive understanding are crucial in today's cultural climate

How men's mental health presents differently

The balance between independence and interdependence for adult males and the challenge of seeking emotional connection beyond their partners

How societal expectations influence men’s reluctance to seek help until prompted by others

How today's fathers are pioneering new ways to be engaged parents despite lacking role models and battling societal standards and cultural norms to be more present and engaged parents

The surprising hormonal changes in new fathers, the realities of postpartum depression and anxiety, and why paternal mental health deserves much more attention


Resources: 

The Center for Men's Excellence

APA Division 51

Chat with an Expert | Postpartum Support International (PSI)

https://twitter.com/menexcel

https://www.facebook.com/menexcel


https://www.instagram.com/men.excel/


The Postpartum Game Plan

Man Park SNL



About Daniel B. Singley, Ph.D., ABPP Bio:
Danny Singley is a San Diego-based board certified psychologist and Director of The Center for Men’s Excellence. His research and practice focus on men’s mental health with a particular emphasis on reproductive psychology and the transition to fatherhood. Dr. Singley won the American Psychological Association’s 2017 Practitioner of the Year Award from the Division on Men & Masculinities. He is Past President of the APA’s Section on Positive Psychology and is currently the President of the APA’s Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities and the President’s Advisory Council for Postpartum Support International. He conducts trainings and presentations around the country to assist individuals and organizations to enhance their level of father inclusiveness and founded the grant-funded Basic Training for New Dads, Inc nonprofit and Padre Cadre social networking application just for dads in order to give new fathers the tools they need to be highly engaged with their infants as well as their partners. In his free time, Dr. Singley likes to cook, surf, read, and trick his two teenage sons into activities so they can’t escape his annoying shrinky questions. 

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Feeling disconnected in a world that's more connected than ever? Then our guest David Robson's insights couldn't be more timely. Through over 300 high-quality studies, he uncovers the scientific explanations behind building strong social bonds. Join us to hear about the shared realities that truly bond us, discover why authenticity is key to forming genuine connections, learn practical tips to navigate the complexities of social interactions, and how to overcome the fear of sharing too much. Tune in for a deep exploration of building a strong social network as we uncover David’s book, The Laws of Connection. 

Listen and Learn:

How David’s outgoing nature conflicted with his shyness, hindering his ability to make new friends, and new research on optimizing connections motivated him to write a book on social connections

The concepts of shared reality and the liking gap, and how these phenomena form the foundation of effective communication and connection

Moving beyond superficial conversations to forge meaningful connections through intentional shared realities

Embracing "defocusing" to improve interactions by recognizing external influences beyond your control

Balancing curiosity and self-disclosure in conversations for genuine connection

The dynamics of requesting help and the mutual benefits of genuine altruism

Resources: 

https://davidrobson.me

The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network

https://www.instagram.com/davidarobson

https://twitter.com/d_a_robson

https://uk.linkedin.com/in/david-robson


About David Robson
David Robson is a science writer and author based in the United Kingdom. A graduate of Cambridge University, he has worked as a feature editor at New Scientist and as a senior journalist at the BBC, and his writing has appeared in the Guardian, the Wall Street Journal, the Atlantic, and many other publications. His previous book, The Expectation Effect, won the British Psychological Society Book Award for 2022. His latest book is The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network (Pegasus)
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