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    • 4.6 • 5.6K Ratings

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.

    Let's learn about monkeypox!

    Let's learn about monkeypox!

    Look out, it’s a nibbler! A woman hates the way her new boyfriend kisses her. He nibbles on her lips even though she tells him to knock it off. Is this a worthy reason to dump him? 
    A married gay man and his husband are newly polyamorous. But the caller wants absolutely nothing to do with his husband’s boyfriend. The boyfriend keeps making friendly overtures, like inviting the caller to parties. Can the caller maintain a social wall keeping invaders out? Should he? 
    On the Magnum, learn a thing or two about monkeypox with Dr. Ina Park. Dr. Park, author of Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History and Surprising Secrets of STDs, explains how and why this new virus is something for gay men to pay particular attention to. 
    Meanwhile, a mid 50s woman keeps scoring and getting ghosted by much younger men. Is there something she’s doing wrong? Or right? 
    Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064

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    • 49 min
    With Jamie Barton and David Drake

    With Jamie Barton and David Drake

    A gay Irishman had a terribly unpleasant experience, when the man he was screwing twerked and gyrated until it felt like his dick was about to fall off. Is this a thing that’s happening? Or only on the Emerald Isle? 
    A singer is worried that rough oral sex could harm her vocal cords. But she shouldn’t worry because Dan somehow roped in Jamie Barton, a very delightful mezzo-soprano opera singer to offer her professional reassurance. 
    On the Magnum, Dan chats with former ugly duckling, current total hottie comedian David Drake. They talk about mining your personal life for comedic material, and whether getting jacked at a massage parlor constitutes cheating. Fun!
    And, a caller is convinced that some bad actors are hiding behind the poly label to justify cheating. Is she right? She just might be right!

    (She’s right.)
    Q@Savage.Love      206-302-2064

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    • 55 min
    "Sides" with Dr. Joe Kort.

    "Sides" with Dr. Joe Kort.

    Kissing?! Blecchhh! A 33 year old woman is a bit of a late bloomer. She has just started dating, and likes to have sex. But the kissing? It disgusts her. Her shrink told her she just hasn’t met the right guy. But she knows better. She doesn’t like to kiss and that’s that. How can she tell her fellas this? 
    A bi woman is into daddy dom/little girl play. But she was incensed to see a warning on Porn Hub comparing her harmless kink to child pornography. Porn Hub is riddled with far darker stuff. Why Porn Hub, why?!!
    On the Magnum, Dan chats with the good Doctor Joe Kort, who coined the term “sides.” Sides are gay men who aren’t into anal sex (but do plenty of other things.) They talk about the weird reaction sides get from both gay and straight folks, and also about first loves, the unwarranted herpes stigma, and meet sleazys. You should listen to this conversation but we warn you- you’re gonna feel good…
    And, a woman wants Dan to call her dad and berate him for getting in so many toxic relationships and then complaining about it to his daughter. Will Dan call her father? 
    Q@savage.Love     206-302-2064


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    • 51 min
    With Ryan O'Connell

    With Ryan O'Connell

    Believe it or not, a straight male dom is struggling with how to be selfish in bed. As a dom, he learned to please his sub and obtain consent every step of the way. But his current girlfriend wants him to do whatever he wants. He just doesn’t know what that is…
    A mother overheard her daughter’s friend say she was bi. The mother wanted to pounce and avow her support and acceptance, but she said nothing. Should she say something super-nice next time? 
    On the Magnum, Dan chats with kindred spirit Ryan O’Connell from the Queer as Folk reboot. They talk about sex and dating with cerebral palsy and what to make of being fetishized for a disability. They also war over who coined “cumspringa” first. (It’s Dan.) Ryan is whipsmart and we all love him. 
    A woman has been with her boyfriend for 10 years. He’s straight as an arrow…when he’s sober. When he drinks he talks about wanting to be with men. He refuses to acknowledge that he has a touch of the queer in him. How can the caller get him to embrace this about himself and have him understand that it doesn’t really matter? 


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    • 52 min
    Talkin’ Broadway with Jesse Tyler Fergusson

    Talkin’ Broadway with Jesse Tyler Fergusson

    A woman has been with her boyfriend for one year. She knew he was into cam girls from the beginning of the relationship. But lately he watches cam girls all the time- even when they are having sex. Now that he is choosing cam girls over the caller, she’s beginning to wonder if there might be... a problem. 
    A man is coming to the end of his 9-year relationship with his girlfriend. But she is about to have surgery on her leg, and will need a lot of help. Is this a terrible time to break up? Can he leave her in the care of her adult children who live with her? 
    On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emmy and Tony-nominated actor, author, and producer Jesse Tyler Fergusson about Broadway, casting gays, and meddling, jealous ex-girlfriends.
    A gay man still has some photos up on social media of him and his ex. Some of his friends say he should take them down- it looks like he hasn’t moved on. Other advise him to keep them up- it shows high emotional IQ that he is still friends with his exes. What should he do? 

    We know what YOU should do. Call!
    206-302-2064 or record your question and send it to Q@savage.love


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    • 51 min
    Pegging WILL be in the Oxford English Dictionary.

    Pegging WILL be in the Oxford English Dictionary.

    A bi man in a monogamous heterosexual marriage keeps having his sexuality questioned by gay friends. It’s super annoying! Should he even bring up his bisexuality? Should he feel miffed? 
    A woman with a newish boyfriend wants to try some consensual non-consent. Specifically, she wants to be woken from a deep sleep to him having sex with her. He readily agreed saying he would also like to be woken up mid-blow job. But how do they negotiate this ahead of time? When he’s sleeping so peacefully, she looks at him and chickens out. 
    On the Magnum: Pegging WILL be in the Oxford English Dictionary. Or so says Dan’s new inside man. In the noble quest to enshrine the word “Pegging” in the world’s most respected record of the English language, Dan brings on Jesse Sheidlower, former editor at large of the OED to explain why some words get in and some don’t. Nerds rejoice! In your FACE Bill Savage! (This is one of Nancy’s favorite Magnum conversations just so you know.) 
    Ok, is it true that men don’t like it if you put out too quickly? Because she let him have rough sex with her and she really enjoyed it, and they seemed to be really vibing and he kissed her goodbye, but now he’s TOTALLY GHOSTING her! 

    It’s hard out there. 
    voicemail@savagelovecast.com     206-302-2064

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    • 52 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
5.6K Ratings

5.6K Ratings

Rob P H ,

Don’t overlook this podcast

I do not always agree with Dan Savage but I will say that I do 99% of the time but then again no one that I like and respect I agree with all the time. I’m such a spec for this land it’s ridiculous. This is one of the best podcast on sexual relations for anyone to listen to even though it is pointed primarily to the heterosexual audience everyone can learn some thing from this podcast even if you are a thoroughly highly sexual person he’s interesting is poignant he’s to the point and I’m glad there’s someone like him out there in the world

andrea mapel ,

Super cringe advice on anything trans/nb/etc

Dan Savage needs to stop taking questions he isn’t qualified to answer and direct people to folks who are in closer proximity to expansive gender experiences. Pretty dismal attitude and likes to make fun of basic liberal behavior while being one himself. Not heartwarming, honestly embarrassing

Tweety_411 ,

Hooked since 1st listen!

Without any exaggeration whatsoever, I could listen to Dan’s podcast all day and night. Thank you and keep up the great work, foxy zaddy Savage ❣️

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