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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?
 
Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.
 
As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life.  But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.

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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl Cheryl Fraser

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 82 Ratings

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?
 
Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.
 
As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life.  But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go.

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    Never Wait Until It’s Too Late

    Never Wait Until It’s Too Late

    Want to know the two saddest words in the English language? “Too late.”  We’ve all experienced it—realizing something too late to repair a relationship. Wishing we hadn’t made that decision that was against our inner ethical compass or there was a sense of misalignment, but now it's too late.
    In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about forgiveness and making amends. 
    Tune in and learn that we all screw up, but it’s our responsibility to make it right. I also tell the story of a beautiful couple with an incredible marriage that came to a tragic end—and the wife was left knowing what it is to be too late. 
    In This Episode, You Will Learn:
    One of the most dignified, loving, and brave things we can do is to own our mistakes, to apologize, and to make amends (02:55)About a real-life couple that I worked with who had a damaging, destructive argument style (04:18)None of us should ever wait until it’s too late to apologize or say ‘I love you’ (05:36)Make parting sacred so you never have to say it’s too late (09:55)This week’s LoveByte (14:59)
    If you are interested in the 2023 session of my 12-week online immersion program for couples Become Passion learn more and get on the waitlist to be notified HERE! 
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
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    • 16 min
    Always Ask ‘Why’ Before You Say Goodbye

    Always Ask ‘Why’ Before You Say Goodbye

    A rift in a previously trusting, loving, open hearted relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can go through. Whether it’s between family members, friends, or lovers, the sense of loss and grief can be absolutely profound—but there is a possibility for redemption, for healing, and for change. 
    In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m telling you about what happens when we make up stories and how a misunderstanding can completely ruin a relationship.
    Tune in and learn about how we all have our own unconscious blocks, projections, and hangups and why you should never say goodbye without understanding WHY.
    In This Episode, You Will Learn:
    A recent conflict I had with a very close friend (06:23)Texting is the best medium to ruin relationships (09:19)A text exchange created a rift in my long-term, loving friendship (17:10)It’s b******t when we love people but we won't get together and talk about what’s bothering us (19:36)For most females, our first major heartbreak is from a female friend (23:46)Love hurts because we're brave enough to let people into our hearts and our lives and our inner circles (32:43)
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
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    • 38 min
    Let Live and Let Go: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

    Let Live and Let Go: A Dharma Talk with Dr. Cheryl

    What do we do when the tough stuff happens? How do we draw on our inner elephant courage and wisdom to help us get through the biggest losses in our life?
    In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll have a front row seat to one of my dharma talks. I’m talking about what we can do during our toughest times, where we can find strength, and the Four Noble Truths. 
    Tune in and learn that no matter what the winds blow into our life, we don't get to be the weather person. We don't get to choose a fair and sunny day every single day, but we can choose to appreciate those days.
    In This Episode, You Will Learn:
    My patient, Janice, is a wonderful example of grace under great duress (03:24)Into our life repeatedly come pleasurable things and unpleasurable things (11:43)The first Noble Truth: Nothing stays the same (15:14)Things change and some of those changes are not going to be what you want (16:30)The second Noble Truth: The cause of our suffering is wanting things to be different (23:50)We can only solve our Dukkha by accepting the truth of what is and letting go (30:03)
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
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    • 32 min
    REAL Couples, REAL Results- My Become Passion Course Starts THIS Friday!

    REAL Couples, REAL Results- My Become Passion Course Starts THIS Friday!

    Wouldn't you like to be happier? Wouldn't you like to have more ease in your home? More playfulness with your sweetheart? Wouldn't you like to take it to the next step?  Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin THIS Friday, November 4, 2022 and go until January 15, 2023
    Today, I’m telling you the real stories of actual couples who have attended my Become Passion program and completely turned their relationships around. You’ll hear about Ed and Jeanine and Jay and Cindy and how they were able to revamp their entire marriages, rediscover their love for one another, and bring back the passion and romance that had been missing for so long. 
    Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
    Q&A:
    My sex life with my sweetheart hasn’t been the same since we’ve had kids—what can we do to spice things up? Making each other priority number one is the best thing you can do to reignite the spark you once had. Make time for love AND lovemaking. Don’t be afraid to schedule dates. Want to learn more? Join my once yearly course, Become Passion — Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime!
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBecome Passion - Create Love that Lasts A Lifetime immersion program waitlist
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    • 34 min
    Bring Passion Back to the Bedroom & Reignite Your Love Life—In Just 12 Weeks: Welcome to Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass

    Bring Passion Back to the Bedroom & Reignite Your Love Life—In Just 12 Weeks: Welcome to Dr. Cheryl’s Passion Masterclass

    In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)
    Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever.
    In this exclusive Passion Masterclass, you’ll learn about Passion and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently. 
    Intrigued? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, click here! We begin November 4th 2022 and go until January 15th 2023
    Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!
    In This Episode, You Will Learn:
    The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting realSensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
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    • 1 hr 36 min
    Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship! It’s Your Love Life—Invest Wisely

    Spend 3 Months with Cheryl Renovating Your Relationship! It’s Your Love Life—Invest Wisely

    Interested in joining the Become Passion Program? Doors close in a few days! The program with Dr. Cheryl starts November 4th. Click here to learn more and to register. This is the only time this year Cheryl is teaching Become Passion!
    It’s a very special week here at Sex, Love, and Elephants because it marks the launch of my 12 week Become Passion couples immersion program. Today, I’m telling you what I know to be true about sex, love, and relationships. Relationships don’t just take care of themselves—they need an investment of time, energy, perseverance, and LOVE.  
    Want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program.
    In This Episode, You Will Learn:
    Relationships are a hard gig (04:32) Sometimes it takes a beautiful example to find the inspiration to love again (08:47)Great partnership takes effort, indulgence, love, forgiveness, and the acceptance of differences (11:52)A brief rundown of my Become Passion program (14:19)If we do nothing, things stay the same—or they get worse (21:00)This week’s LoveByte (22:26)
    Q&A:
    How can I liven up my relationship? My honey and I are so boring—help! Relationships take hard work! Think of your relationship like a hobby and put the effort in that you both deserve. Want more? Check out my Become Passion- Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime course starting November 4 and learn how to bring the spark back to your love life. 
    Want to learn more about Buddhism and Love relationships? Check out my book Buddha’s Bedroom 
    Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com
    Let’s Connect!
    About MeWebsite - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page  YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz
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    • 24 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
82 Ratings

82 Ratings

p27/wq ,

No better show about relationships

I love this show! She tells us smart and understandable ways to improve our relationships and happiness. She is an engaging speaker too!

SquareBearAir ,

Love the info, not the ads!

I’ve been following Dr. Cheryl’s newsletters for years and love the info and opportunity to check-in and unload my unhelpful beliefs about relationships, so I’ve been stoked to have these podcasts go more in-depth. My one request is to cut back on advertising the groups. Sometimes these episodes can feel equal parts ad and awesome info. I want the info, and don’t mind the promotion, but I’d recommend it only needs to happen for a brief moment at the beginning or end of the episode. Your info is awesome, and it’s easier for me to engage if the group promotional stuff isn’t sprinkled in. Just my 2 cents, but I super appreciate your help and insight!

Zuluknight ,

Absolutely amazing!!!!!!!

The best podcast ever listen to hands down

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