Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser
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  • HEALTH & FITNESS

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 22H AGO

    Marriage 911— Roommates, Not Lovers

    Revive the communication, romance, and sex in your relationship! This May 26-30 I’m hosting four sessions of my FREE online Passion Masterclass. Sign up HERE and learn the 3 Keys To a Great Relationship. There will also be an extensive Q&A to have YOUR questions answered! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “The thrill is gone!” “I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.”  “We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.”  If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43) Make your love life your hobby (06:13) Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28) Big change only happens when we take action (10:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    12 min

  2. 4D AGO

    Marriage 911—After the Affair

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE Relationship Reboot Workshop designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?  Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention. On today’s Best Of episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:18) There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating  (03:29) An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know  (06:49) All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes  (09:40) No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner  (10:33) Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    13 min

  3. MAY 11

    Marriage 911—Verbal Abuse

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE Relationship Reboot Workshop designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:29) Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language  (04:57) Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive  (07:18) Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships  (07:58) Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    10 min

  4. MAY 8

    Marriage 911—Is Divorce the Answer?

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE ⁠Relationship Reboot Workshop⁠ designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:04) Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common  (05:26) Complacency can ruin a relationship  (06:54) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple  (07:42) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    12 min

  5. MAY 4

    Make your Mate a Soulmate: A Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Love Alchemist Arielle Ford

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is my partner truly my soulmate or is it something we create together?" "How do I find the upside of my partner's imperfections?" "How do you rebuild trust after betrayal?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I'm joined by bestselling author and love alchemist Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, Wabi Sabi Love, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, and her debut novel, The Love Thief.  Arielle and I explore the messy, magnificent reality of long-term love, learning to love the perfectly imperfect person in front of you, and dive into why soulmates aren't found, they're made.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:18) About wabi-sabi love and how an ancient Japanese aesthetic can transform the way you see your partner's most irritating habits  (06:11) The physical and emotional toll of running a negative story about your partner (09:14) Why you're going to die with your core wounds and why that's liberating news for your relationship (13:20) Why butterflies are nature's trick and love is a daily behavior and choice (23:09) You probably already have many soulmates in your life right now (31:44) About The Love Thief, Arielle's debut novel based on actual events (38:30) The physical and psychological devastation of intimate betrayal mirrors PTSD (52:13) Today's LoveByte Connect with Arielle: YouTube  The Love Thief by Arielle Ford  @Arielleford_author on Instagram Substack  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    56 min

  6. APR 20

    Love, Loss & Letting Go: a Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Transformational Speaker Kute Blackson

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?" "How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?" "What does real gratitude look like?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender.  We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage  (07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be (12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife (20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible. (36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling (39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy (46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself (01:02:26) Today's LoveByte Sign up here for Kute’s free course on gratitude      If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here    Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    1h 5m

  7. APR 6

    Fall Back in Love on a Birthday Date

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?” “Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?” “What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?” On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it! One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen (06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari (09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses (11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic (18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for (22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic (24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    26 min

  8. MAR 23

    Knowledge Is Not Power: How to Actually Create Lasting Change in Your Relationship

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Do my actions match what matters to me?" "Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?" "Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?" Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!) The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived  (05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former  (04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself  (13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you)   (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change (11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark  (27:48) Today's LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    31 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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