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This podcast is all about Couples and the 3C’s: Communication, Conflict, Connection. These are not skills you automatically have when you get into a relationship, but that need to be developed to overcome the inevitable challenges that will come up. Couples who listen to the podcast say, “are they watching us?!” because of how extremely relatable and practical to your day-to-day life together these topics are! Hosts Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman are authors of The Argument Hangover and their programs and workshops have reached over a million people. They are parents to baby Skye Noël and live in Phoenix, Arizona.

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman

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    • 4.9 • 450 Ratings

This podcast is all about Couples and the 3C’s: Communication, Conflict, Connection. These are not skills you automatically have when you get into a relationship, but that need to be developed to overcome the inevitable challenges that will come up. Couples who listen to the podcast say, “are they watching us?!” because of how extremely relatable and practical to your day-to-day life together these topics are! Hosts Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman are authors of The Argument Hangover and their programs and workshops have reached over a million people. They are parents to baby Skye Noël and live in Phoenix, Arizona.

    5 Ways to Get Out of a Marriage FUNK and Spark More FUN Together

    5 Ways to Get Out of a Marriage FUNK and Spark More FUN Together

    Whether you’ve been in a funk as a couple, or things have just felt pretty routine with your “adulting” responsibilities, this episode will help you SPARK more fun together!
    The truth is, life is short. And we don’t believe we’re meant to just let the weeks pass by and survive our busy schedule. Of course there are challenging days (and you hear us talk about that), but let’s enter into a season of more fulfillment, connection, and play together.
    You will hear 5 very tangible and actionable ways to spark more fun together, so dive on in!
    We often hear couples say, “we get inspired and motivated to create these changes for a few days, and then we forget or get off track.” And that’s exactly why we created the 30-Day Couples Challenge!
     
    Relationship Resources (pick between): 
    Level 1: “Prioritizing Us” is focused on strengthening your connection, communication, and fun Love Deposit ideas. LINKED HERE - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

    Level 2: “Rebuilding Us” is focused on repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage. LINKED HERE -  https://mycoupleschallenge.com/rebuilding

    • 27 min
    Talk About the “Seeds” Before They Become “Weeds” in Your Marriage

    Talk About the “Seeds” Before They Become “Weeds” in Your Marriage

    Talk about things before they become a bigger issue. On our vacation with family, I brought up the topic of intimacy (physical specifically) and it sparked a great conversation between us. Now for many this could be a conversation that isn’t brought up and turns into a bigger issue later. This is when it can turn into a “weed” that impacts your marriage. Or it could be a conversation that causes defensiveness and conflict. Neither of these are positive options. 
    You see, we want to talk about how we’re feeling and what we want BEFORE it starts to affect  you and the connection, trust, or openness you have with your partner. 
    In this episode you will hear us discuss:
    What’s a “seed” in the relationship vs a “weed”
    What happens when we don’t discuss things soon enough
    How to think about bringing these things up and making it a productive conversation
     
    Relationship Resources:
    The Level 1 “Prioritizing Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (you get the popular Family Meeting guide as a bonus gift with this)

    The Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage)

    • 25 min
    Changing Your Attachment Style + Reprogramming the Subconscious With Thais Gibson

    Changing Your Attachment Style + Reprogramming the Subconscious With Thais Gibson

    You’ve likely heard of the now popular Attachment Theory about having a secure, safe, trusting, and connected relationship. If you have, likely what you’ve seen is quite conceptual and you are not sure how to use the information. If you have not heard of this theory it simply describes how you connect and bond with a partner and how that was influenced by your parents (or primary caregiver) as well as other romantic relationships you have been in (primary attachment figures).
    For us Attachment Theory has become so popular online, rightfully so, but without the right experts describing how to use this theory to make a difference in your own relationship, or how to actually change your style. In this episode you will hear from Attachment Theory expert, counselor, PhD, author, and founder of Personal Development School, Thais Gibson! You will hear her cover:
    The 4 Attachment Styles (quickly)
    The 5 Pillars and traits of each style
    How to reprogram your conscious mind (where attachment needs and behaviors come from) with tools like autosuggestion to change your style
     
    Relationship Resources
    Take the FREE Quiz to determine your Attachment Style: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz
    Learn more from the Personal Development School: 
    https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 
    Join our 30-Day Couples Challenges (level 1 or 2) starting July 1st, 2024
    https://www.meetthefreemans.com/challenges

    • 47 min
    Lost in Translation From What’s Said to What’s Heard: Preventing Misunderstandings and Conflicts

    Lost in Translation From What’s Said to What’s Heard: Preventing Misunderstandings and Conflicts

    Many communications between couples can cause misunderstandings. This leads to more expectations and further frustrations and upsets. Then these upsets can turn into conflicts. Though it seems simple to just “listen better”, listening is not the same as hearing. 
    Listening is the requirement for understanding, but even then, it does not guarantee complete and accurate understanding of what was actually meant by your partner. 
    Though much of this has to do with the listener's role, there is also much to say about the speaker and how they deliver the message so as to not create mistranslations. 
     
    In this episode you will hear:
    Mistakes the speaker makes
    Mistakes the listener makes
    5 tips for more productive conversations 
    Plus the psychology principles that can prevent communications from being misunderstood or turning into conflicts.
     
    Relationship Resources:
    1) Join the upcoming 30-Day Couples Challenge “Prioritizing Us”, proven to improve your interactions, help you understand each other more, strengthen your connection, and fill your Love Accounts. https://mycoupleschallenge.com/
    2) For links to our top resources and guides: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

    • 25 min
    Why Some Partners Struggle to APOLOGIZE and How to Get Better

    Why Some Partners Struggle to APOLOGIZE and How to Get Better

    “I’m sorry” - 2 little words that can not only be challenging for some partners to say, but also can mean MANY different things. 
    So in today’s episode we cover:
    Several specific reasons apologizing can be harder for some (self-awareness)
    Why couples can battle over whether the ‘I’m sorry’ is deemed “necessary”
    The different meanings of “I’m sorry” and how to expand your language for more things to say in these moments
    How to get better at apologizing, big or small
    We encourage BOTH of you to listen to this episode and talk about how you can both be better. Because these little moments truly can strengthen your bond or erode your ability to respect each other. We know, strong statement, but respect is tied to this. 

    As you listen, make sure you get our popular Making Up & Moving Forward guide. These repair steps prevent re-triggering a conflict, having to re-hash the details, and ensures you both feel resolved.

    • 28 min
    Marriage Burnout vs the Motivation to Change

    Marriage Burnout vs the Motivation to Change

    “How do I get my partner to _____?” This is one of the most common questions we get. Obviously this is referring to wanting a partner to change a behavior in a certain area of the relationship. Underneath that question is the real question of “what is going to motivate my partner?” 
    If you have ever had this experience of wanting your partner to change something, but they didn’t, you likely felt discouraged or even burnt out. This was likely because you have been asking for things to change for some time now, but nothing did. 
    In this episode you will hear about the process of motivation and being able to achieve a result you have been wanting to have in your relationship. You will get the 6 steps of the decision making process and how to overcome the motivation threshold so that you do not feel that same burnout or discouragement from not seeing a change happen. In the end you will realize there was something even better for you than the goal you initially set out to achieve! 
     
    Relationship Resources:
    1) For use in your "Evaluation Step" from the episode, here is the link to the Family Meeting Guide - https://thecouplesexperience.com/family
    2) Start the level 1 Prioritizing Us 30-Day Couples Challenge and get the Family Meeting guide as a free bonus. - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/
    3) Start the level 2 Rebuiulding Us Couples Challenge - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/rebuilding

    • 34 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
450 Ratings

450 Ratings

tcisfrustrated ,

So refreshing!

Thank you for your light yet direct approach to discussing relationship issues. I feel like I want to listen to every episode at least three times because there is so much to learn. I truly appreciate you and am thankful we found you.

TBuckey ,

Required Listening!

I work in the marriage industry, but the research can be dry and boring. I love how the Freeman’s break down the findings in an engaging way that’s easily digestible and applicable. Highly recommend for those in a relationship, be it married or not. Thank you, Freeman fam!

Lindsayengineer ,

Great advice and information!

I’ve only just started listening to the podcast and I’ve learned so much! I’m noticing things about myself that I didn’t realize before. Great listen!

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