Shrink For The Shy Guy

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
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Shrink For The Shy Guy

Everyone has some level of fear in social situations. For you it might be meeting someone new, networking, dating, sales conversations, presenting, public speaking, or business meetings. In order to get to the next level in your life, create better relationships, find love, earn more money, or advance in your career, you must overcome fear, social anxiety, and self-doubt. In order to be outstanding, you must have confidence. That's where Dr. Aziz comes in. After struggling with shyness and social anxiety for 9 years, he decided to take life into his own hands and master confidence. A decade later, he is the world's leading expert on social anxiety and social confidence. He received a doctorate in clinical psychology from Stanford and Palo Alto Universities and now works as a confidence and success coach with people from all over the world. This show contains the profound and immediately life-changing information he teaches high-paying clients every day. Learn from the best about how to overcome social fear, gain confidence in dating, public speaking, sales presentations, business meetings, and all of life.

  1. Taking The Sting Out Of Rejection (Part 2)

    2 DAYS AGO

    Taking The Sting Out Of Rejection (Part 2)

    Welcome back to part two of Taking the Sting Out of Rejection! In this episode, Aziz guides you through a transformative process to deflate the drama around rejection and reconnect with a deep sense of okayness within yourself. Learn how to shift rejection from a source of shame and self-doubt to neutral information, while embracing a powerful truth: you don’t need any one person or situation to feel whole. With a guided practice, Aziz helps you find safety and peace within your body, letting go of the grasping and fear that rejection often triggers. This episode offers a hands-on approach to healing and liberation from rejection’s sting. Stay tuned until the end for a deeply grounding exercise. And if you haven’t yet listened to part one, make sure to start there for the full experience!-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   If you haven’t yet listened to Part One of this series, stop right here and go back to that episode. It's essential for fully grasping what we're going to explore today. In Part One, we uncovered the automatic reactions you have when you face rejection, and we talked about why those reactions happen. Now, in Part Two, we're going to shift the focus to how you can take the sting out of rejection and move forward with confidence and peace. Rejection is Information, Not a Reflection of Your Worth The first key takeaway is to see rejection as information, not as a judgment on who you are. When someone says "no" or doesn’t respond, it’s easy to spiral into thoughts like "I’m not good enough" or "I’ll never be successful." But the truth is, a no is just a no — it doesn’t define you or your value. Whether it's a small no, like someone turning down your invitation, or a big no, like a breakup after years of dating, the feeling of rejection activates our default emotional patterns, which often involve self-criticism and despair. These patterns are automatic, but they are not the truth. The Drama We Add to Rejection When we face rejection, we often turn the experience into a dramatic story. The first step in reducing the sting is to acknowledge the drama we add to it. Often, when we hear "no," our minds jump to conclusions: “I’m not good enough.” “I’ll never be successful.” “Bad things will happen because of this rejection.” These thoughts create a lot of emotional turmoil, but they are just our personal drama. Confidence is the ability to act without adding drama. It’s not about pretending to be invincible but about moving forward without letting the emotional charge of rejection take over. Let Go of the Need for Rejection to Go Your Way One of the most powerful ways to deflate the drama is to let go of the intense need for rejection to go a certain way. Rejection often hurts because we attach so much need to the outcome. For example, when you reach out to someone to be your friend or to date, you might think: “I need this person to like me” or “I need them to say yes, or else I’m unworthy.” But the truth is, you are okay whether they say yes or no. When you feel the need for a certain outcome, it creates anxiety and desperation, which is felt by others and can create an aversion response. Instead, shift to a place of emotional neutrality — you want the connection, but you don’t need it to be okay. Reframing Rejection with Compassion To truly heal from rejection, you have to meet it with compassion. When you experience the sting of rejection, instead of beating yourself up, offer yourself deep empathy. For example, when you feel rejected, acknowledge the discomfort with self-compassion: "I know it feels like I need this connection right now." "But I can also be okay without it." By practicing this, you’ll start to realize that your worth doesn’t depend on getting a "yes." In fact, you are enough just as you are, whether someone ac

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  2. Taking The Sting Out Of Rejection (Part 1)

    NOV 12

    Taking The Sting Out Of Rejection (Part 1)

    Rejection—it’s the sting we all dread. Whether you’re battling social anxiety, people-pleasing, or simply trying to navigate life’s challenges, the fear of rejection can keep you trapped. But what if you could take the sting out of rejection for good? In this episode, we explore the hidden patterns behind our fear of rejection, why it feels so painful, and how it secretly shapes our lives. Aziz shares key insights from his recent virtual event, guiding you to uncover your default rejection pattern (DERP). This is the first step toward transforming your relationship with rejection and unlocking true freedom. Stay tuned for part two, where we’ll dive into actionable tools to help you thrive in the face of rejection. Don’t miss this chance to reclaim your power and live boldly!------------------------------------------------------------Do you find yourself going to great lengths to avoid rejection? You may have learned, like many people with social anxiety, to keep a low profile—avoiding speaking up, not drawing attention to yourself, and staying under the radar just to avoid feeling rejected. But here's the truth: by avoiding rejection, you’re not really protecting yourself—you’re limiting your life. Today, let’s talk about how to take the sting out of rejection so you can move past the fear and boldly live your life, no matter what. The Hidden Cost of Avoiding Rejection When you’ve got social anxiety or you struggle with people-pleasing, the fear of rejection often controls your decisions. It’s not about actively getting rejected—it’s about keeping your life small so that rejection never happens. But here’s the problem: while you may be successfully avoiding outright rejection, you’re still feeling rejected on a deeper, emotional level. You might feel unworthy, invisible, disconnected, or as if you’re missing out on life’s opportunities—even when no one has actually rejected you. This is the hidden cost of constantly avoiding rejection. It creates an emotional cage where you’re safe from the outward pain of rejection, but the inner pain of feeling unworthy or disconnected becomes your constant companion. The Path Forward: Move Toward Rejection, Not Away From It So, how do you break free from this trap? The key is to stop running away from rejection and instead move toward it. This doesn’t mean you should seek rejection on purpose, but it means you need to take the actions that align with your true desires—even if some rejection might happen along the way. As hard as it is to hear, the reality is that rejection is inevitable if you want to truly live your life. The more you stretch out of your comfort zone—whether that’s putting yourself out there socially, expressing your opinion, or going after a career opportunity—the more likely you are to face some form of rejection. And that’s okay. How to Take the Sting Out of Rejection: A Mindset Shift To truly take the sting out of rejection, you have to change your relationship with it. It’s not about eliminating the bad feelings that come with rejection; it’s about understanding where those feelings come from and how you can respond to them differently. Recognize the Default Pattern: When you face rejection, what’s your first reaction? For many, it’s an overwhelming sense of failure. You might think, “I’m unworthy,” or “This means I’ll never be good enough.” But these thoughts are part of a default pattern—a learned response that you’ve created over time. Pause and Reflect: When you get rejected, instead of reacting with shame or self-criticism, take a moment to slow down. Reflect on your emotional response. What are you telling yourself about this rejection? Are you internalizing it as proof that you’re not good enough? Use the Pain as a Reminder: Instead of letting rejection crush you, see it as a reminder to practice a new way of thinking. Just like I use physical pain as a reminde

    21 min
  3. The Process Is The Purpose (Principle 3)

    NOV 5

    The Process Is The Purpose (Principle 3)

    Welcome back to Shrink for the Shy Guy! In today’s episode, we dive into the third principle of sanity and victory: The Process is the Purpose. We often chase outcomes, believing they’ll bring lasting happiness, but what if the true magic lies in the journey itself? Whether it's fitness goals, career achievements, or personal growth, embracing the process can transform your life. In this episode, I’ll share personal stories of striving and thriving, and reveal how shifting your focus from results to growth can lead to greater joy, peace, and success. Discover how to reframe your goals, find purpose in the present, and become the person you’re meant to be—one step at a time. Let’s reclaim sanity and achieve victory together.--------------------------------------------------------------------------   Welcome to Today’s Episode: The Process is the Purpose Hey there! I'm excited to continue our exploration of the eight principles of sanity and victory. Today, we’re diving into the third principle: The Process is the Purpose. Recap of Previous Principles Before we get into this principle, let's quickly recap the first two: I Am the Captain of My Ship: This principle emphasizes taking ownership of your life and choices instead of feeling like a victim of circumstances. Surrender is the Ultimate Life Skill: This is about letting go of control and aligning with the flow of life, accepting that while we can take action, we don’t control everything. The Process is the Purpose Now, let's unpack the third principle. Here’s the little text I wrote to remind myself about this principle: The outcome is the carrot the divine uses to inspire. It is not the true purpose and it will not bring the permanent happiness you imbue it with. Withdraw the glamour from that fantasy and fully embrace the process. The process is the magic alchemy that transforms you into the next version you're meant to be. Seek out the discomfort, savor the victories, and feast on your life today. Understanding the Principle At its core, this principle is about shifting your focus from outcomes to the experiences and lessons found in the process. While we all have goals—be it personal, professional, or relational—focusing solely on the end result can lead to frustration, anxiety, and a sense of unfulfillment. The Pitfalls of Outcome Obsession When we become too fixated on the results we want, we risk losing sight of the joy and growth available in our day-to-day experiences. This can lead to stress, overwhelm, and even burnout. You may find yourself striving for a particular outcome, believing that once you achieve it, you will feel permanently happy. However, this is often an illusion. A Personal Example Let me illustrate this with my own experiences. In 2018, after overcoming chronic pain, I got back into physical fitness and strength training. I set a goal to get a specific physique, thinking that achieving a certain look would bring me happiness. I meticulously tracked my calories and macros, constantly worrying about whether I was on track. This mindset led me to a place of tension and stress. I labeled that time in my life “The Summer of Striving.” I was so fixated on the outcome that I missed out on the joy of the process. Conversely, during a recent training period, I shifted my perspective. I realized that the joy of working out wasn’t just in the end result but in how strong and capable I felt each day. I focused on the process of becoming fitter and stronger rather than obsessing over the specific outcome. This mindset transformed my experience into something enjoyable and rewarding. The Importance of Embracing the Process So how can you apply this principle in your life? It starts by recognizing that the process itself—everything you learn and experience along the way—is the true reward. Embrace the discomfort and challenges that come with growth. Instead of rushing towards the finish line, find ways t

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  4. The Strange Secret About Being Likeable

    OCT 30

    The Strange Secret About Being Likeable

    Are you ready to learn the strange secret to becoming truly likable? We’re diving deep into what really draws people to you—and it has nothing to do with techniques or tricks. It's not about "doing" anything specific but about "being" a more open and authentic version of yourself. Forget feeling like you have to go on a big self-improvement quest just to be liked. We’ll explore why you don’t need to be more interesting, successful, or good-looking to create meaningful connections. Instead, the key is in letting people see the real you—letting go of control and being vulnerable. I’ll share stories and insights on how being transparent and letting yourself be known can radically change the way others see you. Whether you’re struggling with social anxiety, self-doubt, or just want to build deeper connections, this episode will show you how simple, authentic changes in how you show up can make you instantly more likable. Join me as we uncover the real pathway to connection and likability!   ---------------------------------------------------------   Let’s start by reflecting on how you see yourself. Do you think you’re likable? Some people may feel generally positive, while others might think, “No, I’m awkward or unlikable.” Some may say, “It depends,” especially based on who they’re with. If you’re around someone you find attractive or intimidating, you may feel less likable. The root of this often lies in your self-identity. If you perceive yourself as unlikable, it can be challenging to connect with others. And when you’re in situations where you want to impress someone, that anxiety can lead to trying to control how others perceive you, which ironically makes you less likable. The Trap of Control When we feel we need someone’s approval to feel okay, we’re likely to tense up or even act in ways that are not true to ourselves. We may hold back or even overshare in a bid to win someone over. This need for control can create barriers to genuine connection. The Secret to Being Likable So what’s the strange secret to being likable? It boils down to this: let yourself be seen and known by others. This means embracing vulnerability and authenticity. When you let others in—showing who you truly are—you create space for connection. Practical Examples of Vulnerability Being Honest About Your Feelings: If you’re feeling nervous or excited in a new situation, acknowledge it. Sharing your feelings can help others relate to you. Engaging in Meaningful Conversations: Instead of playing it safe, be willing to share a bit about your life or ask deeper questions. Vulnerability fosters connection. Accepting Imperfections: Share your quirks and flaws. People are often drawn to authenticity, not perfection. Learning from Experience I recently hosted a retreat for participants in my year-long mastermind program, where we focused on creating connections through vulnerability. During our sessions, people shared their fears and insecurities, leading to powerful moments of connection. One participant expressed her struggles with comparing herself to her successful brother. When she bravely shared her feelings, it opened the door for deeper understanding and connection, enhancing their relationship. The Journey to Authenticity I remember a pivotal moment in my life when a mentor told me that people don’t like you for being perfect; they like you for being real. It took me years to embrace this lesson fully. The journey to being genuine and transparent is ongoing, but it’s incredibly rewarding. Action Step: Embrace Transparency Your action step this week is to practice transparency. Look for an opportunity to reveal something about yourself that you wouldn’t normally share. This could be a challenge you’re facing, a goal you’re pursuing, or simply how you feel in the moment. Choose someone you trust and feel comfortable with to share this vulnerability. Closing Tho

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  5. Surrender Is The Ultimate Life Skill (Principle 2)

    OCT 23

    Surrender Is The Ultimate Life Skill (Principle 2)

    I'm excited to share with you the second principle of sanity and victory—a concept that can help you feel more free from anxiety, stress, and worrying about what others think. These principles are designed to bring you a sense of peace while empowering you to create the life you want, which is the ultimate victory. In this episode, we dive into the power of surrender. What does it mean to surrender, and how can it become the ultimate life skill for you? I'll explain the meaning behind this principle and how it helps you flow with life, free yourself from unnecessary suffering, and stay calm, even in challenging circumstances. I'll also show you how to avoid the trap of thinking you need everything to go a certain way to feel okay, and how to let go of that need for control. If you're looking to feel less weighed down by life's demands and more empowered, this episode is for you. So, let's explore how surrender can bring you more freedom and joy, and set you up for victory.   ---------------------------------------------------------------   As a reminder, sanity, in this context, refers to a sense of peace and the ability to flow with life without sabotaging your well-being. Victory, on the other hand, is about breaking through challenges and becoming who you are truly meant to be. These principles are here to guide you towards both. Principle #2: Surrender Is the Ultimate Life Skill "Surrender to the divine flow is the ultimate life skill. Not my will, but thy will. I remember the fundamental error that I need something out there to be exactly a certain way in order to feel okay in here. Peace is available right now. I'm okay either way. All I need is within me now. I accept the current painting as it is and calmly walk into an entirely different room." Unpacking the Principle Surrender vs. Giving Up: When we hear the word "surrender," it’s common to associate it with defeat. However, true surrender means submitting to a greater force, allowing life to unfold without forcing our will upon it. It’s about trusting the process and recognizing that we don’t always need to control every aspect of our lives. The Divine Flow: This principle encourages you to connect with the divine flow—whether that’s a spiritual belief, the universe, or simply the natural progression of life. Understanding that life is happening for you, not to you, can alleviate the burden of needing everything to go your way. Accepting Reality: One of the biggest challenges we face is the belief that we need certain outcomes to feel okay. This fundamental error leads to suffering. We often say, “If only this person liked me,” or “If only I had that job,” then I would be happy. This attachment to specific outcomes traps us in a cycle of anxiety. Finding Peace Now: The statement "peace is available right now" reminds us that we can find calm within ourselves regardless of external circumstances. By shifting our focus inward and acknowledging that our worth does not depend on external validation, we can cultivate a sense of peace. Accepting the Current Painting: Imagine your life as a gallery filled with paintings representing different aspects of your existence. Instead of fixating on the ones you dislike, accept them as they are and choose to explore other rooms in your gallery. This metaphor illustrates the importance of recognizing your current circumstances without being bogged down by them. Applying the Principle in Your Life Now that we’ve unpacked this principle, let’s explore how you can integrate it into your daily routine. Time for Action: Embrace Surrender Your action step today is to practice surrender. Here’s how you can do this: Reflect on Your Attachments: Identify areas in your life where you feel anxious or stressed. Ask yourself what specific outcomes you’re attached to and how they affect your emotional state. Practice Acceptance: Take a moment to sit quietly and breathe deeply. Repeat the mantra,

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  6. 8 Principles of Sanity (And Victory) - Number 1

    OCT 15

    8 Principles of Sanity (And Victory) - Number 1

    Join Dr. Aziz as he shares powerful tools, insights, and practical steps he's discovered over 15+ years of helping people conquer their fears and embrace their bold, authentic selves. In this special series, you’ll dive into the "Eight Principles of Sanity and Victory," designed to help you master your mindset, reclaim control, and thrive in all areas of your life. Each episode breaks down one principle, packed with real-life examples, action steps, and practical strategies you can apply immediately. Whether you're battling self-doubt, fear of rejection, or just want to feel more in control of your life, you’ll find inspiration, guidance, and encouragement here. You are the captain of your ship, and it’s time to steer it toward the life you truly deserve. Let's do this!   -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   Hello and welcome! I’m thrilled to have you here today as we embark on an exciting journey over the next few episodes. We’ll be exploring the Eight Principles of Sanity and Victory—powerful tools designed to help you reclaim your life and build a profound sense of confidence. So, whether you’re seeking to overcome anxiety, enhance your relationships, or find greater purpose, you’re in the right place. The Journey Begins Before we dive into the first principle, I want to take a moment to share the purpose behind this series. My mission—Operation Divine Liberation—is to empower as many people as possible to live fully and authentically. It’s about moving beyond survival mode and into a life of thriving, where you don’t just survive to the end, but truly experience every moment as rich and fulfilling. A Call for Support Now, I need to ask you for a small favor. If you’re finding value in this podcast, I would greatly appreciate it if you could leave a review. Your feedback helps me reach more people and spread this mission further. Thank you for your support! Introducing the Eight Principles Today, we’ll kick off our exploration with the first of the Eight Principles of Sanity and Victory. This principle emerged from my journey of self-reflection, especially as I approached 43 years of age. It’s a reminder that as we navigate life’s challenges, we can choose to steer our own ship rather than be tossed around by the waves of circumstance. Principle #1: I Am the Captain of My Ship "My suffering isn't in my circumstances, but in how I'm steering. I alone am responsible for my state." This principle is foundational for several reasons: Personal Responsibility: It reminds us that we have the power to choose our responses to life’s events. Whether you’re facing rejection, failure, or feelings of inadequacy, you can control how you navigate those emotions. Perspective Shift: When we claim our role as the captain, we start to see our challenges not as burdens but as opportunities for growth. It allows us to step back and realize that our suffering often comes from our reactions rather than our circumstances. Empowerment: Acknowledging that we are in charge of our lives is liberating. It frees us from the narrative that we are victims of our situations, allowing us to take proactive steps toward change. Navigating the Waves of Life Let’s break this down further. When faced with failure or rejection, it’s easy to slip into a negative mindset and view ourselves as inadequate. You might find yourself saying, “I’m not enough” or “I’ll never succeed.” These thoughts can feel overwhelming, but it’s crucial to remember that they are just thoughts—not facts. What to Do Instead: Recognize Your Feelings: Acknowledge the feelings of inadequacy when they arise, but don’t let them define you. It’s okay to feel this way; what matters is how you respond to those feelings. Take Ownership: Instead of blaming external factors, take a moment to reflect on your actions and choices. Ask yourself: “What can I

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  7. Failure, Rejection, And Not Enoughness (The Gruesome 3)

    OCT 9

    Failure, Rejection, And Not Enoughness (The Gruesome 3)

    Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! You are brave for clicking on this one because today we're tackling the gruesome three—failure, rejection, and not-enoughness. As we approach Halloween, it's time for some real horror stories—those emotions we avoid like the plague, yet they shape so much of our lives. Forget the bat-like creatures from horror movies; the fear of failure, rejection, and feeling like you're not enough are way scarier and far more avoided. But you're here, and that’s already a bold step. This episode will shed light on these dreaded feelings, helping you realize that you're not alone and that the experience isn't as terrible as it seems when we look at it together. We're diving deep into how personalizing these feelings makes them so much worse and how to shift your perspective to make them more manageable. These emotions—failure, rejection, and not-enoughness—are what hold so many of us back from living the life we truly want. The good news? They don’t have to. Let's dig into these feelings, challenge them, and see what’s really going on beneath the surface. Thanks for joining me on this brave journey! Visit DrAziz.com to learn more and register for my upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now.   ------------------------------------------------   You’re brave. You clicked on this episode, even though the title probably made you wince: Failure, Rejection, and Not Enoughness. These aren’t just abstract concepts; they’re feelings we all try to avoid. But if you’re listening today, that means you’re ready to face them, and that takes courage.Halloween might be around the corner, but forget about spooky movies with bat-like creatures jumping out to scare you. The real horror? Facing failure, rejection, and that sinking feeling of not being enough. People will line up to watch a horror movie, but when it comes to willingly diving into their fears of failure or rejection, that’s a different story.So, let’s dive into these “Gruesome Three.” By the end of this post, you’ll not only understand why they have such a hold over you, but also how to soften their grip and start living more freely. When Was the Last Time You Felt One of These? For many, it’s probably quite recent. Maybe it’s happening right now as you’re reading this. These feelings don’t need dramatic events to show up. You can feel like a failure just by not checking off everything on your to-do list. Rejection can come from someone taking too long to text you back. And not enoughness? That can hit just from looking in the mirror.For some, these feelings come and go, but for others, they can be a constant, suffocating presence. I know, because I lived there. When I had severe social anxiety, it was like living in a soup of failure, rejection, and not enoughness. And the worst part? The more I avoided those feelings, the more power they gained. The Insanity of Avoidance Most people’s unspoken life plan is to avoid failure, rejection, and the feeling of not being enough. Seems logical, right? But here’s the catch: these feelings find a way to creep back in. Even if you don’t get rejected by someone because you avoid social situations, that feeling of not being enough might sneak in when you see someone else confidently talking to others.So we think, “Well, if I avoid these feelings, I’ll be fine.” But avoidance isn’t freedom. It’s a life lived in fear. The Insane Setup We Create We’ve set ourselves up with impossible expectations: Every action I take should go exactly as I want. Every person I interact with should respond the way I want them to. If not, I’m a failure and I need to feel awful about myself.It’s an insane setup. We’re demanding perfection from ourselves and others, and when that doesn’t happen, we slide down into a pit of shame and self-criticism. But here’s the key: it doesn’t have to be that way. A New Way Forward Instead of avoid

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  8. The Only Obstacle To Building Confidence

    OCT 2

    The Only Obstacle To Building Confidence

    Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! Are you ready to discover the one obstacle standing between you and extraordinary confidence? It might feel like there's a mountain of things in your way, but today, we're breaking it down to just one. Once you understand this obstacle, you'll see how to overcome it and create the confidence you've always wanted. In this episode, Dr. Aziz explores the root of what's truly holding you back—your own perception of what's possible for you. He'll help you challenge the beliefs and feelings that make confidence seem out of reach, and guide you towards taking the actions that will transform your life. Plus, learn more about the upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now, where you can immerse yourself in powerful strategies to accelerate your confidence journey. If you're ready to break free from discouragement and build the bold, confident life you deserve, this episode is for you. Let’s dive in and uncover what’s really possible for you! Visit DrAziz.com to learn more and register for the virtual event.   -----------------------------------------------------   I’m excited to share something that might surprise you: there’s only one obstacle standing in the way of you building an extraordinary level of confidence. That’s right, just one.  While it might seem like there are countless reasons preventing you from feeling confident, the truth is, they all boil down to this one key thing. Stick with me, and by the end of this post, you’ll feel energized and empowered, ready to create the confidence you’ve always wanted. The Root of Your Confidence Struggles "Do you feel full, freely confident in every aspect of your life?" I’m talking about work, relationships, social situations, and dating. If your answer is anything less than "hell yes," it’s time to ask why. Often, when we ask ourselves this question, we don’t get a clear answer in words. Instead, it’s more of a feeling—a heavy, discouraged, or hopeless feeling. In psychology, this is known as learned helplessness. It’s the belief that no matter what you do, nothing will change, so you might as well give up. This hopelessness doesn’t have to be extreme to hold you back. Even a small amount can zap your energy, prevent you from taking action, and make every step toward confidence feel like an uphill battle. The Real Obstacle: Your Perception of What's Possible The only thing truly blocking your confidence is your perception of what’s possible for you. If you believe that building confidence is impossible, or that it will take too long, you’ll inevitably undermine your efforts. Every setback will feel like proof that you’re incapable, and every rejection will reinforce the idea that you’re just not good enough. But here’s the truth: the issue isn’t your appearance, your social skills, your upbringing, or your personality. The real problem is your belief that those things define what’s possible for you. As long as you hold onto that limiting belief, you’ll be stuck in a cycle of inaction and discouragement. Shifting Your Perspective to Unlock Your Confidence To break free from learned helplessness, you must change your perception. Start by asking yourself: Do I believe that it’s possible for me to create an extraordinary level of confidence? Not just in theory, but for you. This isn’t about whether others can do it—can you?If your honest answer is no, it’s time to challenge that belief. There’s someone out there with your exact challenges who has achieved what you desire. Someone with your height, your upbringing, your experience level, or whatever other limitation you think is holding you back. So why not you? The secret to building confidence is simple: take action, even if it’s uncomfortable. Confidence isn’t something that appears out of thin air—it’s built through doing. Lean into those small, uncomfortable actions. Whether it’s saying

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Everyone has some level of fear in social situations. For you it might be meeting someone new, networking, dating, sales conversations, presenting, public speaking, or business meetings. In order to get to the next level in your life, create better relationships, find love, earn more money, or advance in your career, you must overcome fear, social anxiety, and self-doubt. In order to be outstanding, you must have confidence. That's where Dr. Aziz comes in. After struggling with shyness and social anxiety for 9 years, he decided to take life into his own hands and master confidence. A decade later, he is the world's leading expert on social anxiety and social confidence. He received a doctorate in clinical psychology from Stanford and Palo Alto Universities and now works as a confidence and success coach with people from all over the world. This show contains the profound and immediately life-changing information he teaches high-paying clients every day. Learn from the best about how to overcome social fear, gain confidence in dating, public speaking, sales presentations, business meetings, and all of life.

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    Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
  • Years Active
    2014 - 2024
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    572
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    Explicit
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    © 2024 2014 Dr. Aziz Gazipura
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    Shrink For The Shy Guy

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