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In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

The Adult Chair Michelle Chalfant

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In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

    Emotional Mastery with Dr. Joan Rosenberg

    Emotional Mastery with Dr. Joan Rosenberg

    We all experience emotions, but most of us don’t really understand what emotions are. These feelings can drastically alter our day, our life and our experience in the world, yet they’re intangible and often messy and confusing. It’s no wonder many of us try to avoid them altogether. 
     
    Well, get ready to have your mind blown and to see emotions in a whole new light in this brilliant episode with Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Dr. Rosenberg began her study of emotions when she was trying to figure out what made some people confident in life, and her finding was surprising: confidence didn’t just come from a sense of self-esteem but from our ability to handle uncomfortable emotions.
     
    As she dug deeper into the human emotional experience, she uncovered a world of surprises around our understanding of emotions and how we can better process, experience and master our emotions. 
     
    We talked about why emotions are so uncomfortable for us (it’s not why you think), what a compliment really is and why it matters so much, what drives fear, anxiety and grief, our fears around emotions and how we get stuck in emotion. Dr. Joan also shares her formula for feeling, experiencing and expressing the eight core emotions in an authentic way that helps them truly move through us.
     
    Listen to discover:
    The unexpected key to building confidence "The Rosenberg Reset" formula to build confidence The 3 things that cause our uncomfortable feelings to linger (it's not the feelings themselves!) Steps to build more confidence  The true power of a compliment (this one left me speechless) What's actually underneath fear and anxiety   Why we need to both feel AND express our emotions As much as I talk about emotions, I was still left speechless more than once in this episode as Dr. Rosenberg got to the heart of what is really beneath certain emotions and my perspective was shifted in so many ways. This is a truly empowering show that will help you live a more balanced and confident life.
     
    “We need to learn as humans how to feel our emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    “The ability or the capacity to handle unpleasant feelings really is the foundation of confidence.” - Dr Joan Rosenberg
     
    “I think of confidence as the deep sense that you can handle the emotional outcome of whatever you face or whatever you pursue.” - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "We're one interconnected whole...The brain is always feeding information to the body, and the body is always feeding information to the brain." Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "It comes down to handling short-lived bodily sensation waves." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "100% of the time that sensation morphs and vanishes if they stay with it." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "We metabolize feeling by feeling it and expressing it." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "If you want to stop your ruminating thoughts, you have to feel the emotion that's underneath the rumination." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "I think of the ability to speak up as the superglue to confidence." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "A compliment is a reflection of you back to you." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "What looks like arrogance is insecurity." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    "Disguised grief is the gap between what we wanted, what we needed, what we felt we deserved and what we really got." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
    Dr. Joan Rosenberg
    https://drjoanrosenberg.com/  
     
    “90 Seconds to a Life You Love” (Dr. Joan Rosenberg book)
    https://www.amazon.com/Seconds-Life-You-Love-Authenticity/dp/1478999764  
     
    Dr. Joan Rosenberg TED Talk
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKy19WzkPxE  
     
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    https://theadultchair.com  
     
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    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
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    https://theadultchair.com/events/
     
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    https://theadultchair.com/certification



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    • 59 min
    Healing our Abandonment Wound with Susan Anderson

    Healing our Abandonment Wound with Susan Anderson

    Rejection is one of the greatest fears we have as humans. Even simple rejections like not making the team or being chosen for a job – things we know aren’t personal – still sting deeply. Why does rejection seem to hit at the core of who we are?
    Susan Anderson began asking this question when she went through a personal experience of abandonment. The love of her life left her suddenly for another woman, and although she was a practicing psychotherapist with immense knowledge of the human mind, she still found herself in emotional crisis and doubting herself and her worthiness. 
    As she dug more into this topic, she discovered that we as humans have a primal abandonment wound – a universal experience that begins when we are born and go from deep union and connection with our mother to a feeling of being separate. This creates deep shame and causes us to search for belonging and worthiness throughout our lives.
    And this is why rejection hurts so much: it triggers this deep fear that we might not belong and we might not be worthy. 
    In this fascinating and important episode, Susan shares her discoveries on the topic of abandonment, why we experience it the ways we do and how a whole host of other issues in our lives can stem from this wound. We discussed why healing abandonment trauma looks different from healing other traumas, the five stages of healing and the tools (all of which are part of The Adult Chair® model) that can heal it.
     
    Listen to discover:
    The hidden shame we all have and the root of it The different defences we put up against shame How to raise our awareness to our abandonment wounds Why healing from abandonment looks different from other forms of trauma healing Steps to healing abandonment wounding How working with abandonment wounding can help with people pleasing, codependency and self-sabotage  5 stages of processing abandonment hurt  The primal wound of abandonment is also an opportunity for primal healing. When we learn to love and accept ourselves as worthy and recognize how deeply connected we truly are, we not only heal our abandonment wound, but we can change almost anything in our lives.
     
    "The loneliness is sort of a secondary feeling. The primary is the primal fear and the shame of maybe never being worthy of keeping someone." - Susan Anderson
     
    "The personality itself is a defence against the shame." - Susan Anderson
     
    "When we look at a relationship that ends, it is a retraumatization of what we experienced as a child." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "The history that leads to a strong reaction in adulthood to abandonment could be very subtle." - Susan Anderson
     
    "You have to take this step, and you go through it...The pain is there, but you go through it, and you get to the other side." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "Your adult self can now develop an intense, loving, reassuring relationship with your inner child."  - Susan Anderson
     
    "It turns this awful emotional crisis that's so painful into an opportunity for something that's probably long overdue, which is self-love." - Susan Anderson
     
    "Doing these steps, you will become an even better, stronger, more self-loving person on the other side of it...even stronger than you were prior to this abandonment wound." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "The kind of self-love that we're developing is deeper, more mature self-love...the kind of love you give yourself because you respect yourself so much." - Susan Anderson
     
    "We have to stop looking outside of self and turn our attention inward. That's where healing, that's where love, that's where hope, that's where peace, that's where all the things are that we're looking for outside of ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "When the adult gets strong and is in command, it limits all of this self-sabotage." - Susan Anderson
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
    Susan Anderson Website (all workshops and resources can be found here)
    https://www.abandonment.net/ 
    https://abandonmentrecovery

    • 52 min
    Developing a Soul Practice with Graham Chalfant

    Developing a Soul Practice with Graham Chalfant

    Anyone who knows me knows I LOVE deep conversation, and in this show, I’m letting you in on a beautiful conversation I had with my husband during one of our weekly coffee chats. This was totally unplanned, but as our chat turned into a conversation about the soul, connection and spiritual practice, I felt such important information coming through and hit “record” so all of you could join us in thinking about how to live a more grounded and loving life.
     
    As humans, most of us live from the place of ego. We stay busy to push down our feelings of loneliness and separateness and miss the presence of something bigger that’s in front of us at all times. When we connect into this deeper part of self, we find comfort, inspiration, ideas and unconditional love. 
     
    So, how do we do this? I believe it’s through a “soul practice” of stillness. Stillness is different from meditation, which is quieting the mind to observe our thoughts. Stillness, on the other hand, is stopping all the “doing” and chatter of life and tuning into the deeper parts of our being – our soul. 
     
    While this might seem like something reserved for the monks or Zen masters, we can ALL make this a part of life – without quitting our jobs, skirting our responsibilities or even really changing our schedule. In this episode, I share what my soul practice looks like and how I work stillness into my day, one minute at a time.
     
    Listen to discover:
    Steps to connect with your soul Why even meditation can be driven by the ego How to integrate “micro-moments” of stillness into your day The importance of stopping the constant "doing" and instead just "being" The source of inspiration and comfort How to live a more heart-centered life connected to something bigger True stillness is not ego-driven or another task to cross off our list. It's letting go and just “being” so that something more can come in. 
    When you get to the end of this episode, I challenge you to sit in stillness for just one minute (and I literally mean 60 seconds!) and make space for your soul. It’s the place I’m striving to live from more and more each day.
    “The soul is never not with us. The human body is a garage for the soul.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “The ideas come when I sit in these moments of stillness.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    “For me at least, and I think many other people, the meditation feels like more doing. So, even though it’s quieting the mind, you’re doing something.” - Graham Chalfant 
     
    “Micro-moments of stillness create relaxation in the nervous system.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    “One of the fastest ways to slow yourself down is to slow your breath down.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    “The revolutionary part is that this is the “‘not doing.’” - Graham Chalfant 
     
    “When sitting in stillness, we are able to connect with that thing that we all have come from.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    “If you’d stop doing and stop running so far ahead, the comfort’s right here.” - Graham Chalfant
     
    "We're looking for that connection home again, and home is right inside of all of us."  - Michelle Chalfant
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership (May Theme: How to stop negative thinking) 
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
     
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com  
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
     
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification 
    https://theadultchair.com/certification



    STAY CONNECTED
     
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
     
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/ 
     
    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
     
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

    • 36 min
    Healthy Sexuality, Healing Sexual Trauma and Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr. Holly Richmond

    Healthy Sexuality, Healing Sexual Trauma and Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr. Holly Richmond

    Let’s talk about sex, baby! Our sexuality is a core part of ourselves and the human experience, but for too long, we’ve treated sex as a taboo subject. Well, in this episode, we’re “going there” and hopefully breaking down some walls and shame in the process.
     
    My guest on this episode, Dr. Holly Richmond, is a marriage and family therapist, sex therapist and somatic (body-based) therapist who helps individuals and couples heal trauma and find greater intimacy and connection with themselves and each other. In this episode, we talk about why sexuality (and talking about it) is healthy and necessary and how we can create healthier and more passionate sexual connection, even in long-term relationships.
     
    We also talk about what sexual trauma is (and why it includes more than just assault or abuse), how it affects our sexual development and how we can reclaim our sexual selves and the pleasure we deserve.
     
    Listen to discover:
    What happens to sexual desire in long-term relationships Why there is so much shame around talking about sex How to talk to kids about sex and the risks of being exposed to porn too early What sexual trauma is and how it impacts us Healing from childhood sexual trauma How to reclaim pleasure and reignite passion at any age Sexuality is so much more than the physical relationship we have with another person. It’s our experience of passion in the world (“eroticism” refers to our life force, not just our body), and it tells us so much about ourselves. This is why it’s so important to stay connected to this part of ourselves no matter our relationship status, if we’re young and in love or if we have been with our person for years. I hope this episode gives you the freedom to acknowledge, love and prioritize this part of yourself and to live a more passionate and embodied life. 
    “The seat of human sexuality, the seat of desire is novelty.” - Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “A lot of western culture, sex and shame go hand in hand.” - Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “Sexual trauma is any experience that feels violating in a sexual way.” - Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “If someone is being sexually coercive, that is a sexual trauma for some people.” - Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “We have to take the whole construct of ourselves into the equation.” - Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “We’re taught to judge the body.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “Eroticism means life force.” -  Dr. Holly Richmond
     
    “So many of us suffer in silence, and we need to start talking about this. Sex is not a bad word.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
     
    Dr. Holly Richmond Website
    https://drhollyrichmond.com 
     
    Dr. Holly Richmond Facebook
    https://m.facebook.com/DrHollyRichmond 
     
    Dr. Holly Richmond Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond/ 
     
    “Reclaiming Pleasure” (Dr. Holly Richmond book)
    https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com 
     
    Dr. Holly Richmond Course
    https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com 
     
    Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast 
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4 
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
     
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com  
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
     
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification 
    https://theadultchair.com/certification



    STAY CONNECTED
     
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
     
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/ 
     
    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

    • 42 min
    How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk, Negative Beliefs and Addiction with Brian Pennie

    How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk, Negative Beliefs and Addiction with Brian Pennie

    When Brian Pennie was just a few weeks old, a medical condition nearly killed him, and the surgery the doctors performed to save his life was done without anesthesia, a common practice for young infants at the time (based on the faulty belief that infants couldn’t feel pain). Though Brian doesn’t consciously remember the surgery, his body remembered, and this early childhood trauma would define how he approached the world for the next several decades of his life.
     
    From this experience, he learned that the world was a painful, dangerous place, and he developed anxiety at a very young age. When he was a teenager, he finally found an anesthetic to numb the pain from so many years ago: heroin. He spent 15 years addicted to the drug until he found himself in the hospital, unemployed and worried he was brain dead, and he finally let go and surrendered. 
     
    That moment of surrender led to an awakening in his life where he was able to connect with something bigger and experience the beauty in the world after years of numbness. He began studying meditation, neuroscience and the ways our thoughts, beliefs and self-talk shape our reality, and he was able to heal addiction at the source by healing the trauma and anxiety that he had been trying to escape.
     
    In this incredible episode, Brian tells his powerful story of addiction and healing and then breaks down the science behind how he healed and how all of us can use meditation, breathwork, positive self-talk and inner child work (hello, Adult Chair® tools!) to rewire our brains – whether we’re struggling with addiction, depression, anxiety, trauma or low self-worth. 
     
    Listen to discover:
    Brian's story of medical trauma, addiction and how he got clean How stopping negative self-talk transformed his path in life The science of stress and fear and how the breath can help us control this What self-talk is and how we can use it in an empowering way How to challenge your beliefs and how this changes your internal dialogue The link between self-talk and emotions Action steps to break the cycle of negative self-talk Little ways to start breaking out of depression The key to getting over addiction issues Brian shares his story with so much vulnerability and authenticity, and he truly embodies The Adult Chair life. This episode will move you, inspire you and show you how we can change the story we’re living by changing the story we’re telling ourselves. 
    “I don’t remember the operation, but my body remembers.” - Brian Pennie
     
    “I never had the general anesthetic as an infant, but when I was 17, I had done heroin for the first time, and I found my anesthetic.”  - Brian Pennie
     
    “The narrative of my life was ‘I cannot cope with anxiety. I need drugs to survive’…I wanted to escape me." - Brian Pennie
     
    "That was the moment when I put up the white flag, and in order to move forward, I had to fall down...I surrendered, and I believe that was the start of all the changes in my life." - Brian Pennie
     
    “I couldn’t see the thinker because the thinker was me.”  - Brian Pennie
     
    "Awareness is the catalyst for change." - Brian Pennie
     
    "By changing your beliefs, you change your internal dialogue, you change your self-talk. By changing your self-talk, you change how you feel, you change the consequences of your actions and ultimately change your life." - Brian Pennie
     
    "Watch that absolute thinking that says we ‘never ever.’ It keeps us stuck. It keeps us limited." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "The more I worked with my internal state and my emotions, things started to change." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    "We do a lot of inner child work with The Adult Chair. It's powerful, powerful work." - Michelle Chalfant
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
     
    Brian Pennie Website
    https://www.brianpennie.com 
     
    "Bonus Time" (Brian Pennie book)
    https://www.amazon.com/Bonus-Time-surviving-discovering-everyday/dp/0717186350 
     
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    • 1 hr
    How to Live with Happiness Daily with Monique Rhodes

    How to Live with Happiness Daily with Monique Rhodes

    If you’ve been around The Adult Chair® for a minute, you’ve heard me say that happiness is an inside job. We are so prone to believe that joy comes from our external circumstances, which leads us to strive and strive for what we think will finally make us happy and blame others for our unhappiness. But the reality is that nothing outside of us will be able to make us happy if we don’t first cultivate a sense of joy and peace within.
    My guest today, Monique Rhodes, discovered this truth when she went on her own journey of understanding what makes some people happy in life while others suffer. Though today she works as a happiness strategist and calls herself “annoyingly happy,” this wasn’t always the case. After a difficult childhood and a number of tragedies, she ended up in the hospital after attempting to take her own life, which led her to explore a wide range of cultures, philosophies and practices to figure out if happiness was something she could actually create in her life. And it turns out, she could! 
    In this episode, Monique shares the practical habits she uses every day to cultivate a sense of happiness in her life and why they make such a difference in our mental state. These are all simple, free and fast practices that work by shifting our minds towards the positive and helping us see the good that already exists in our world. 
     
    Listen to discover:
    The strategies that helped her go from depression to daily happiness  Practical tools to increase happiness  What meditation is and what it isn’t  The cause of suffering How taking responsibility for our lives changes everything  Building healthy social connections for happiness  How to get out of a funk or take steps toward happiness if you’re feeling depressed We’ve all had that experience where we finally get the job, the house, the relationship, the body or whatever it is we’ve been wanting only to find that nothing about our lives really changes; we still feel sad, depressed or lonely. This is proof that our mental state is what drives our happiness, not things! 
    Using the practices in this episode, you can turn up the positive in your life, which will help you find joy no matter your circumstances and help you be more present with the good things that do happen in your life – the icing on the cake of an already happy and peaceful life.
     
    “Where we live is in our mind, and when was the last time that we cleaned out our mind?” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “We believe that happiness and suffering comes from our external circumstances. But it doesn’t. It comes from that mind that we just do not take care of.” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “We have emotional reactions that are triggered usually by things that happened in the past.” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “A meditation practice every day is a game changer.” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “With meditation, consistency is way more important than intensity.” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “Commit to something that you’re willing to commit to, and if you don’t have 10 minutes out of a whole day, you really gotta think about your life.” - Michelle Chalfant
     
    “I think being happy is our birthright.” - Monique Rhodes
     
    “You can find gratitude in anything. You just have to look.” - Michelle Chalfant 
     
    LINKS & RESOURCES 
    Monique Rhodes Website
    https://moniquerhodes.com/ 
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership (April Theme: Emotional Regulation)
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ 
     
    MORE ADULT CHAIR
    The Adult Chair® Website
    https://theadultchair.com  
     
    The Adult Chair® Membership
    https://theadultchair.com/membership/
     
    The Adult Chair® Events
    https://theadultchair.com/events/
     
    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification 
    https://theadultchair.com/certification



    STAY CONNECTED
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    • 53 min

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My go to!

Where would I be without this incredible podcast?! I recommend it to EVERYONE!

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Always good and always helpful. Grateful for so many episodes thank you

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My Daily Listen

A friend introduced me to the Adult Chair podcast 6 months ago and learning to use the tools of the adult chair has helped me so much in my recovery walk that it has become a part of my daily ritual in the morning. Many, many topics touch on what I have and am still struggling with. Through learning to sit in my emotions, I am learning to let go of some real heavy stuff I’ve carried around and treat myself and my loved ones with more compassion. Thanks Michelle

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