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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

The Confidence Podcast Trish Blackwell

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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

    #412: How to Actually Like Yourself 

    #412: How to Actually Like Yourself 

     

    How to Actually Like Yourself



    PODCAST #412































    To learn how to actually like yourself, you have to first figure out who you are and spend time with yourself. This podcast episode peers into how to go deep in self-identity and how to trust who God created you to be. When you know that the Maker made you the way you are and that what He makes is good, then you can trust that He wants you to actually like yourself. The best part is that when you like yourself, you are more effective at everything you do in the world - from achievements to relationships, to just living life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/412















    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    Some of the reasons why we don't like ourselves (and what that is doing to us)3 ways to start liking yourself - all of which you can do right nowWhat happens when you actually like yourself 







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 























     

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    Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next.







    Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    Heart of Gratitude, kbdaffy, 5 stars







    The confidence podcast was recommended to me from a friend and since my first listen, I've been all in! Living most of my life convinced I was a victim had me suffocating because of self-criticism, isolation, anxiety and depression. My own mind had been my most limiting factor - I just didn't know how to do anything about it. I wanted to believe I knew God didn't want these thoughts and feelings to rule my life but I had no idea how deeply rooted a lot of my limiting beliefs were. I never would have believed that listening to one podcast episode could impact my life so greatly. I'm now part of the COC and doing coaching sessions with Trish. I can honestly say I have never thought about the power of my own thinking as intentionally as I am now. I've never experienced true peace in God's love until this year. Trish, you are one incredible human and God knows I'm so grateful for you and the work you do. Keep on encouraging and being you! God bless. 





















     

    WHY WE DON'T LIKE OURSELVES







    -We're stuck in toxic comparison







    -We think we'll like ourselves when…. (Conditional liking)







    -We are so stuck on "there" that we don’t live in our "here"







    -We don’t know ourselves - we are too busy to have a relationship 







    -We still believe toxic words from other people about who we are







    -We put our identity in what we do, not who we are





     

    Not actually liking yourself is a handicap in life.







    It prevents you from showing up as your real self, as fully alive and as capable to play the role in the world that you were ...

    • 31 min
    #411: How To Speak Up For Yourself With Confidence

    #411: How To Speak Up For Yourself With Confidence

     

    How to Speak Up for Yourself with Confidence



    PODCAST #411































    You have a voice, it's time to use it. When we don't use our voices, and don't speak up for ourselves or for what is right, the world suffers, as do we. It's time to start speaking with confidence, even if you have never done so before. This podcast episode will hold your hand and then give you the push you need to start speaking up and rising up with confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/411















    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    How we have lost our voice, and the desperate need for it in the worldHow to have a voice and to start using itHow to Speak up to Others (who intimidate you, who manipulate you, who look past you)How to Speak up for Yourself (to yourself, to your past and to your future) 







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 







    Ready to stop caring what people think? Join us for our free online masterclass -we have live sessions this week. Don't you think it's time to be free from being held back because of the stories you tell yourself about what others think of you?  Get your free seat at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring















     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 













    Just started listening … wow.







    Emma aaa







    This podcast is 11/10. She goes above and beyond in each topic she talks about. I take her advice and run with it in everyday life. Success is ALWAYS guaranteed. Love you, love your word, love the show. 













     

    WHY HAVE WE LOST OUR VOICE?







    Don't let what someone said steal your destiny from you.















    It's time to stop aligning yourself with what people have said about you and instead identify yourself by what God says about you. (And He says that you have purpose, you are unique, you are his masterpiece, you are his child, you have specific talent, you are loved, and you are never alone.) 







    Typically, there is a moment in our past that we felt unsafe after using our voice. 















    -you got made fun of; told that there was something wrong with you







    -you said something awkward







    -you didn't have parents or role models who built you up







    -you heard more prohibitory language than affirmative language in your house







    -you felt overshadowed by another personality you grew up around







    -you learned that the people around you weren't listening, so you felt like it didn't matter







    -you spoke up, but an abuser in your life didn't listen







    Speaking up and using your voice doesn't feel safe.







    But it is less safe to stay silent and to sulk in the shadows of life.





     

    What got me started?







    I knew I had a moral obligation to start speaking up - through writing first, and then speaking. I felt the pull on my soul and in my desire, but it was too hard to do. I was tremendously uncomfortable and resistant with it - the thought filled me with shame.I saw someone else be brave and it inspired me.

    • 35 min
    #410: How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

    #410: How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

     

     

    HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP

    PODCAST #410























    Beating yourself up?







    Pull back the curtain of your heart and let's have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself. 







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    How to recognize when you are beating yourself upThe 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up 







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 

























    WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP





    Beating yourself up seems like the most common way to tackle our problems but instead, it hinders your growth. Here are some reasons (aka fears) why you are beating yourself up.







    Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!) 







    Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn't taught and wasn't built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!) 







    Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!)







    Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn't healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!) 





     

    STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING

     

    Use these strategies to stop beating yourself up today.

     

    So What Strategy

    -So what, everything will work out just fine and now I get to pivot and learn

     

    Even If, I Will Statements

    -Even if this is botched and I'm behind, I will still be loved, etc. 

     

    Journaling

    -21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, get yours free at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal

     

    Becoming a Student of Life

    -Growth mindset, learning in everything, trusting God with your transformation, celebrating growth, letting Jesus be my teacher and learning to surrender 

     

    HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP













    1. Be a friend to yourself - slow down, be present, be nice. 







    2. Put a higher value on kindness







    3. Remember that being mean doesn't work 







    4. Focus on more positive self-talk







    5. Write out a daily truth or verse







    6. Practice patience with yourself and others







    7. Accept your challenges as opportunities







    8. Get an aerial view - there's no right way to do anything, there's always a pivot







    9. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox 





     

    OTHER EPISODES OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST YOU WILL LIKE



    How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, Episode #345

    www.trishblackwell.com/345

     

    Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work, Episode #277

    www.trishblackwell.com/277 

     

     

    ANNOUNCEMENTS:

    • 35 min
    #409: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Others

    #409: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Others

     

    How to Stop Being Jealous of Others

    Podcast #409































    Jealousy rots the bones, but it doesn't have to rot yours anymore. This podcast episode dives into how to stop being jealous of others so that you can get on with your own life and thrive where God has planted and placed you. Too often we don't call ourselves out on jealousy, envy or comparison, and it tarnishes our spirit, our joy and our confidence from the inside it. It's time to get serious about cleaning out our hearts so that we have space to live with joy, not jealousy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/409







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chit-chatting about:















    The sneaky ways that jealousy shows up in our lives - and why we never call ourselves out for it - it's time to be honest, y'all!10 ways how you can start eliminating the impact of jealousy in your life right nowThe 2 ways jealousy can destroy a relationship: and how to make sure it doesn't hurt yours







    FREE COACHING:



    One of the things that drive us deeper into jealousy is our obsession and distraction over what people think of us. You've heard me coach on this topic on podcasts before, but I want to go deeper than that with you - I want to invite you into my Masterclass on How to Stop Caring What People Think. We're re-launched it and I don't want you to miss out on it. 

     

    There are classes being offered today and tomorrow ---- come on, I know you want to come to hang out with me beyond the podcast. Now's your chance! 

     

    Sign up for FREE here >>>> How to Stop Caring What People Think:

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    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    Life Changing!! By LizKU124







    Trish and her podcast have changed my life. Her positivity, fresh perspectives, insight, knowledge and experiences have helped me to grow as a person and become less anxious and more confident. She adds in the perfect amount of spiritual content to supplement her teachings, and I know that whenever I start my day with The Confidence Podcast, it's going to be a great day. Thank you Trish for your ongoing encouragement that you share and for helping me to become a better, more confident version of myself! 













     

    HOW DOES JEALOUSY SHOW UP?







    Comparison







    Inadequacy







    Dieting







    Relationships







    Low self-esteem







    Feelings of insecurity 







    Uncertainty







    Worth issues







    Different statements that express jealousy that you might not expect:







    I just feel behind ...







    I should be doing more ....







    They seem to have it all together ...







    They know what they're doing ....







    I wish I had it as easy as ....







    Must be nice ... 







    They're so lucky ...







    Jealousy turns our eyes outward - and sets our hearts up for a state of constant comparison.







    Comparison detracts us from being able to be present, engaged and confident.







    Bottom line: If you want to be confident, you have to ruthlessly eliminate jealousy from your heart





     

     

    HOW TO ELIMINATE JEALOUSY







    1. Pay attention to where it pops up in your life.







    2. Call it what it is .... don't flower it up.







    3.

    • 39 min
    #408: How To Appear More Confident Than You Actually Are

    #408: How To Appear More Confident Than You Actually Are

     

    How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are

    Podcast #408













































    Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey - so it's natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don't have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/408







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    How to appear more confident than you actually are or feel like you areThe secret to being confident, but not arrogant Building a confidence bank for your brain







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 







     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

     





    Amazing Podcast, 5 Stars by Shelby Eichstadt







    This lady has CHANGED MY LIFE. I have been listening to this podcast for the past two years and I cannot emphasize how much Trish has helped me in my personal growth/mental health/eating disorder recovery journeys. I have done YEARS of therapy and was in inpatient treatment for an eating disorder and I can honestly say this podcast has helped me in probably more ways than those other things. Trish speaks to me in a way that I feel like no one else can relate. Like half of the time I am like, are we like the same person lol. If you haven't listened, you NEED to. This lady knows what she's talking about and can give you PRACTICAL ways to deal with life challenges. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast. Thank you Trish for all that you do. You are making an impact in this world. 













     

    QUICK BONUS COACHING MOMENT:







    We're going to go back to the basics here, and we're going to have a conversation around how to get your neurons firing together so that your brain and thoughts get wired in the way we want --- with a powerful, victorious mindset.







    It starts with a base layer: belief. I believe I can do hard things.







    Next, up the pyramid ...I will not avoid doing hard things, because I understand that hard things are part of life.







    Then, the next ascending layer...I am good at doing hard things.







    Finally...







    I like to do hard things. 







    Get the full coaching hour immediately when you join the College of Confidence.Also - our newest course, Turning Your Trials into Triumphs is getting rave reviews, like what Amber recently said:







    "Your trials to triumph course is phenomenal. Like wow. In all my therapy never have I have had anyone speak with such conviction while embodying Christ. So grateful for my rock bottom(s!) ... it led me here!"







    Enroll today at www.collegeofconfidence.com





     

    HOW TO APPEAR MORE CONFIDENT THAN YOU ACTUALLY ARE







    Do people that appear extremely confident really feel that way? Is it an act? Do they ever feel what I feel? 







    You don't have to be the best.







    You don't have to know what you're doing.







    You just have to be yourself.







    You will appear most confident when you are most yourself and most ...

    • 35 min
    #407: How To Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

    #407: How To Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

     

    How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

    Podcast #407























    Putting pressure on yourself doesn't work. In fact, it's a surefire way to wreck your confidence, spiral in overthinking, and lose your joy to comparison and jealousy. Putting pressure on yourself is a false prophet that we have convinced ourselves will lead us to the success crave. But maybe our definition of success is skewed? Maybe there is a way to live free from the pressure, the guilt, the anxiety, the comparison, the feeling behind, and feeling inadequate?  This podcast episode will dive into exactly that and more. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/407















    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:















    Why we put pressure on ourselves in the first place, and why it's not just not working, but reverse workingThe connection between pressure and guilt5 things you can do today to start shifting the internal conversation in your mind





















     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:













    One Step at at Time - 5 Stars







    Miss E Room 135







    Trish1 I am a teacher and thoroughly enjoy the luxury of having summers off. However, as much as I look forward to summer break I always find myself in a weird place as it forces me to process my emotions and face myself. That began as reading my Bible daily and lifting weights consistently. Early on in June I stumbled upon your podcast and am SO THANKFUL for it. I binge listened to the first couple of weeks and now have made the College of Confidence and Tuesday podcast part of my weekly routine. I often say Amen girl! Am feeling so uplifted as I hear your words! 













     

    WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES IN THE FIRST PLACE













    We think we aren't motivated if we don't.







    We think we're behind or not enough.







    We think our feelings dictate ours lives, not vice versa.







    We aren't doing the thought work we need.







    We aren't making time to think and journal and be coached.







    We aren't stretching our belief systems to believe in change. 







    Ultimately, we are in a constant state of dissatisfaction. 















    How do you know if you're putting too much pressure on yourself?















    -you wake with anxiety







    -you let your failures or fears keep you from trying







    -you don't think you're good enough







    -you feel stressed out all the time.







    -you have unrealistic expectations







    -you always want more or feel like you should do more







     -you can't relax 







    -you think your life will be better when you just achieve the next thing





     

    WHY DOES THE PRESSURE NOT WORK?







    It chokes our confidence. 







    It directs us to chase the wrong definition of success.







    It subconsciously communicates to us that we aren't naturally motivated - we don't trust ourselves.







    It speaks more of pessimism than of optimism. 







    It makes us feel like we're behind where we should be. 





     

    HOW DOES IT ACTUALLY REVERSE-WORK?







    It tarnishes the real definition of success - and our ability to live life well.

    • 34 min

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Life Changing

I am so thankful to have come across your podcasts. My husband and I live in the Midwest and have been discussing the prospect of moving out west for many months now. It is a dream of ours to take on a big adventure and new city all on our own, but this means leaving my family behind in the Midwest. After listening to your podcasts for about a month now, I boldly and courageously told my husband that the move is a “go” and we are preparing whole heartedly for a move in a few months. Thank you for pushing me to follow my dreams and to use confidence in order to do so. If it’s possible, I’d love for you to do a podcast how to stay confident in who you are even when everything changes (aka moving/leaving family).

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Trish, your podcast is one that i listen to and immediately feel peace like a good therapy session. I am inspired to show up just as i am and take chances just hearing all the struggles and thoughts you have that mirror what i feel. Your vulnerability is inspiring! Thank you for going first and revealing god through your words!

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