The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.
#575: Seasonal Sadness and What to Do About It
SEASONAL SADNESS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
The darkness of the winter season is upon us and if you have ever struggled with winter sadness or holiday anxiety then this episode is for you. I'm going to share 3 simple strategies that I use that have been game-changing, as well as some mental shifts in how you can think about the seasonal sadness and allow emotional space for your heart and soul to feel all of the feelings this season without being burdened or side-railed by them. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/575
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
* Seasonal Sadness, how to know if it's affecting you (and what to do about it)
* Deepening your experience of joy in the holiday season
* Being present and planning for the next season effectively, without overwhelm
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
WHAT IS SEASONAL SADNESS
Seasonal sadness, also known as seasonal affective disorder (SAD), is a type of depression that occurs at a specific time of year, typically during the fall and winter months when there is less sunlight. It is characterized by symptoms similar to major depressive disorder, including low energy, irritability, difficulty concentrating, changes in sleep patterns, and feelings of hopelessness.
The exact cause of seasonal affective disorder is not fully understood, but it is believed to be related to changes in exposure to natural light. Reduced sunlight exposure during the fall and winter months may disrupt the body's internal clock (circadian rhythm) and affect the production of certain neurotransmitters, such as serotonin and melatonin, which play a role in mood regulation and sleep.
Conversely, some people may experience a milder form of seasonal affective disorder during the spring and summer months, often characterized by symptoms such as poor appetite, insomnia, and anxiety.
Treatment for seasonal affective disorder often involves light therapy (phototherapy), where individuals are exposed to a bright light that mimics natural sunlight. Additionally, psychotherapy and medication may be recommended in more severe cases. If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of seasonal affective disorder, it's essential to seek professional help for an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment.
WHY DAYLIGHT MATTERS
In summary, daylight influences our internal biological processes, including circadian rhythms, hormone production, and neurotransmitter activity, all of which play crucial roles in regulating mood, sleep, and overall well-being.
Daylight has a significant impact on our happiness and well-being due to its influence on various physiological and psychological processes. Here are some key reasons:
Regulation of Circadian Rhythms:
* Exposure to natural light helps regulate our circadian rhythms, which are internal biological clocks that govern our sleep-wake cycle and other bodily functions.
* Proper alignment of circadian rhythms with the natural light-dark cycle promotes better sleep quality and overall well-being.
* Melatonin Production:
* Daylight exposure suppresses the production of melatonin, a hormone that promotes sleep. Reduced melatonin levels during the day contribute to increased alertness and wakefulness.
#574: Intrusive Thoughts and Over-Personalizing Everything
INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS AND OVER-PERSONALIZING EVERYTHING
Do you ever feel like the thoughts you are thinking are making life harder for you?
Like, you're stuck in a cycle of beating yourself up and that self-critical voice just struggles to see you the way the people who love you say they see you? Or maybe you sometimes get a sticky negative thought about yourself, or about your past, and you just can't seem to shake the anxious and mental distraction that is a result?
For years I was frustrated with how many negative thoughts and intrusive thoughts I still had even though I was managing my mind and doing "the work" of positive thinking … but then I learned an entirely different approach to my inner self-talk that made my life feel massively better, even with the negative thoughts that sometimes still sneak in.
If you've ever felt stuck in your own thoughts, this episode is for you. We're coaching on intrusive thoughts and what to do about them, as well as some confidence power hacks to help you stop over-personalizing what other people are saying or thinking.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
* Intrusive thoughts and what to do about them
* How to not personalize or self-intimidate how other people act
* Some simple power hacks that will always shift you from negativity to positivity
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Know that it's normal.
Understand your own brain's patterns
There are some days when my brain is messy and unkind.
I have to fight harder on those days. I have to be on guard. I have to create a fortress.
They come and they go.
They knock, you don't have to open the door.
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, distressing, and often disturbing or unsettling thoughts, images, or ideas that repeatedly enter a person's mind against their will. These thoughts are typically unwanted and can be very distressing, as they often involve violent, sexual, or socially inappropriate content. Intrusive thoughts can be a common aspect of various mental health conditions, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), anxiety disorders, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It's important to note that having intrusive thoughts does not necessarily mean a person will act on them; they are a natural part of human cognition but can become problematic when they cause significant distress or interfere with daily life.
It's important to remember that managing intrusive thoughts is an ongoing process, and different strategies work for different people. It may take time and patience to find what works best for you. Consulting with a mental health professional is often a crucial step in developing an effective coping strategy.
Acceptance: Acknowledge that intrusive thoughts are a common part of human experience, and having them does not make you a bad person. Accept that these thoughts do not reflect your true intentions or desires.
ESTABLISH YOUR POWER POSITION
You are in control, not your brain.
Your brain is not broken, it's actually amazing.
People react and snap - there must be something wrong with me.
It's not you, it's them!
We create narratives and stories in our minds,
#573: How to Have More Confidence in Yourself
Podcast #573HOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELFIf you've ever said any of the following statements, this episode is for you:I've lost my confidence…I just wish I had the confidence to do that…There's no way I could do something like that …I don't know how to have more confidence in myself…I'm not confident enough to…I second guess everything I do…I'm just an overthinker / I struggle with indecisionMy self-esteem has taken a hit…I'll feel more confident after I …..I just need to have more confidence in myself…I wish I had confidence in myself….In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to talk about how to reawaken the confidence inside of you, how to train the confidence muscle (even if its atrophied or you feel like you never had it), and what mistakes that you might be unknowingly making that are chipping away at your confidence instead of strengthening it. This week on the show you'll learn:How to have more confidenceWhat you can do to feel more confident right The mistakes most people make when it comes to confidenceStay tuned to the end for a new coaching opportunity.This will be for you if you:-Are high achieving-Want more out of 2024 than you got out of 2023-Desire a mapped out plan and strategy for success for 2024REVIEW OF THE WEEK:HOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCEEstablish an honest baseline. Where are you starting?Get a vision of what confidence means to you. Commit to "Confidence Work:WHAT'S CONFIDENCE WORK?The 5 Pillars of Confidence-Know Who You Are-Know What You Want-Know That You Matter-Know How to Think-Know Your Future RocksThe Confidence Habits:-Gratitude-Affirmations-Journal-Celebration-PrioritizationMost notably, it's the willingness to think about what you think about. MAKE SURE NOT TO DO THESE THINGS:Notice the patterns that are tarnishing confidence. You might not realize it, but you might be the one chipping away at your own confidence.Many of us are actively destroying our confidence and chipping away at it-taking pictures over and over-not actively reframing a thought or intrusive thought-scrolling-carelessly comparing -trusting other people's opinion over our own-waiting for someone else to affirm you instead of learning to do that for yourself-believing the lies that someone broken or toxic said about you to youStop waiting for confidence.Permit self-indulgent passes on "not helping it" - ie: I'm just hard on myselfStop believing you need to feel confident to be confident. POWER PHRASES FOR CONFIDENCE:I am becoming confident. I am working my confidence muscles intentionally.This is me becoming the most confident version of myself.I have permission to be confident.I give myself authority to trust myself.I am brave and bold and I am going after the life of my dreams.I am where I am and I am on my way to where I want to be.OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE:#446: How to Find Yourself and Your Confidence#546: Confidence Immersion and Faking it Till You Make It MADE FOR MORE IN 2024Coaching Experience2-Part, Happening in DecemberLimited to 100 people.4-hours of workshopping and coaching.Regular cost if done privately, $3335Your cost $297.Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/madeformoreTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you've ever said any of the following statements, this episode is for you.Unknown Speaker 0:08 I just wish I had the confidence to do that. I've lost my confidence. There's no way I could do something like that. I don't know how to have more confidence in myself.Speaker 1 0:21 I've never been confident. I'm not confident enough to I second guess everything I do. I'm just an overthinker my self esteem has taken a hit. I'll feel more confident after I just need that more confidence in myself. Or I wish I had competence in myself. In this episode of The confidence podcast, we're going to talk about how to reawaken the competence inside of you how t...
#572: Take Action and Do Hard Things
Podcast #572TAKE ACTION AND DO HARD THINGSThe secret to success is to have a bias for action. Those who train in themselves to become massive action takers increase their confidence, their self-esteem, their self-concept and their results. This episode will give you mindset hacks to help you train yourself into being a person who takes massive action with ease … and with the results that action brings. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* How to trick yourself into taking more action* Why your avoidance of action is false protection* Micro action habits that generate massive action takingUpdate, we're in Puerto Rico! TODAY I CELEBRATE 11 YEARS OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST REVIEW OF THE WEEKANNOUNCEMENT:No Excuses November is happening now at www.collegeofconfidence.comHAVE A BIAS FOR ACTIONFuture self vision. See yourself as someone who has a bias for action.To have a bias for action you have to:-trust yourself-practice having your own back-get obsessed with micro follow-through-celebrate your immediate actions-believe that you make good decisions-have confidence that there's no such thing as wasted effortThe little things are the big things.How you do one thing is how you do everything.It's what people don't see that will make the things in your life that they do see stand out. WHAT BEING AN ACTION TAKER MEANS-You've decided to stop thinking and start doing.-You've decided to stop watching other people's live and instead make your own great.-You're talking back to the "what if"HOW TO TRICK YOURSELF INTO TAKING MORE ACTIONTrack your actionGet an accountability partnerInvest in coaching Put more skin in the gameMICRO-ACTION HABITS THAT GENERATE MASSIVE ACTIONIf it takes less than 2 minutes take immediate action.Time AssignElevate your standards -Always make your bed-Clean toothpaste in the basin-Do what you want to avoidWHY WE DON'T TAKE ACTIONWe overthink.We let fear win over faith. We get distracted.We don't actually believe it will matter.We're too attached to immediate results.We are concerned by what people will think - when it goes well and when it doesn't go well.We aren't sure what to do.We have a sloppy management of our gift of time. POWER THOUGHTSI take immediate action. I am a doer.I create movement in my life.Little actions create big rewards.I have raised my standards.DO HARD THINGSBe a person who leans into hard.Most people avoid hard, and the avoidance makes it even harder.Approach or Avoid. WILLINGNESS:Be willing to do things others aren't.Start by being willing to have a different relationship with "hard things"All progress starts when you begin to tell yourself the truth.Where are you not being all in?Where are you not committed?Where are you going for "good" instead of "great"? Understand that you can't avoid hard.Hard things, when avoided become different hard emotions - the emotion of disappointment.Hard or hard, which will you pick? Pick the one with the biggest result you want. What have you been unwilling to do?How have you been thinking about "hard things?" -How you think is a form of communication - the communication and inner dialogue you have with yourself MATTERS. OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY:#233: Focusing in the Face of Distraction #191: How to Take Massive Action LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:JenK from IGTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabSpeaker 1 0:00 If you've always wondered how some people seem to always be confident or seem to know what they're doing, and you want to be one of those people, then this episode is for you. I want you to know this, those people aren't special or better or more motivated or more qualified than you. They're just doing one thing differently that yo...
#571: Excuses that Are Holding You Back and How to Stop Making Excuses for Good
Podcast #571 EXCUSES THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK AND HOW TO STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR GOODYou may not be consciously making excuses, but chances are, you're probably holding yourself back with some of these common and sneaky excuses. If you want to stop tip-toing in life and playing smaller than your potential, then it's time to identify and put a stop to the excuses, subconscious or conscious, that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. This episode explores the excuse mentality in depth, our excuse culture and how it leads to micro-quitting, and how to become someone who makes excuses a thing of their past once and for all. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:* Sneaky excuses you might not realize you're making that are keeping you stuck* How to overcome your common and default excuses so you can stop micro-quitting on yourself* The secret to becoming a person who doesn't make excusesREVIEW OF THE WEEK:ANNOUNCEMENT:NO EXCUSE NOVEMBER is starting!Your potential is exceedingly above what you can imagine.Two Problems:* Lack of Vision* ExcusesQUOTES ON EXCUSES:"Ninety-nine percent of failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses." — George Washington Carver"Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure." — Don Wilder"He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else." — Benjamin Franklin"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it." — Jordan Belfort"Excuses will always be there for you, but the opportunity won't." — Unknown"It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one." — George Washington"Your excuses are just the lies your fears have sold you." — Robin Sharma"Don't make excuses, make improvements." — Tyra Banks"The only man who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything." — Theodore Roosevelt"Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing." — Steven GrayhmWHAT EXCUSES DO:They limit us.They hold us back.They make life harder.They create a state of constant micro-quitting."Results, not excuses.""No shortcuts, no alibis.""Embrace the challenge, reject excuses.""Accountability over excuses, always.Excuses are the enemy of progress.""Commit to your goals, not your excuses.""No room for alibis, only room for action.""Excuses limit, determination unleashes.""Zero tolerance for excuses, 100% effort.""Make it happen, no matter what.""Excuses won't achieve your dreams; action will.""No more 'I can't,' only 'I will.'""Success demands no excuses, only dedication.""Excuses are the crutches of the weak; stand strong."SNEAKY EXCUSES:Average Excuses:-I don't feel like it-I don't know how-I don't have enough time-I don't know if I can-They're better than meNot Knowing What to Do ExcuseNot Enough Time ExcuseDon't Feel Like It ExcuseSneaky and Undetected Excuses:-Overcommitting -Perfectionism-Exhaustion / Sleep deprivation-Unprepared -Stretched thin-Not readyOVERCOMING EXCUSES:Change the story you're telling yourself.Raise your personal standards. -What are your standards?-Where are you sloppy?-Where are you living other peoples lives instead of your own?THE SECRETThe secret to being a person who doesn't make excuses is to stop making them.Get curious about the following:-Where have you accepted excuses?-What do you really want? How can you make your vision bigger?-What are your sloppy micro-excuses?-Are you blaming anyone? / Being a voluntary victim instead of an overcomer?OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY#005: Eliminating Excuses#033: No Excuses: Be YouTranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabUnknown Speaker 0:00 Are you tired of working hard, I'm not seeing fast enough results like really hard,
#570: How to Start Your Big Dream and Change Your Life + How I Got Where I Was
HOW TO START YOUR BIG DREAM AND CHANGE YOUR LIFE + HOW I GOT WHERE I WAS
Everything is possible. Everything is learnable. Every problem is solvable. Every effort pays off and adds up. Your dream can happen. Your life can change. BUT you have to start. You have to be willing to do the work, to fail and to keep showing up. This episode will teach you how to get started, and more importantly, how to keep going. You'll hear Trish's full journey and how to train and increase your willingness and bias for action.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
* Willingness, and increasing yours
* How to be a person who starts their dreams instead of just thinking about their dreams
* The steps required to create the life of your dreams
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/Q&A to sign up now.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
WHERE I STARTED
What sets me apart is that I'm willing.
I'm willing to try.
I'm willing to work hard.
I'm willing to fail.
I'm willing to take risks.
I'm willing to be embarrassed.
I'm willing to get up at 4AM.
I'm willing to invest in myself.
I'm willing to not know but try anyway.
I'm willing to manage my mind and work my belief.
Action, concrete action creates results.
* How I got started?
* Where I came from.
* My focus on where I'm going.
* Everything is possible.
* Everything is learnable.
* Every problem is solvable.
* Every effort pays off.
HOW TO BE A PERSON OF WILLINGNESS
Masters never stop until they achieve their goals.
Unshakeable grit is the key to any goal you can envision.
Consuming information is useless unless it's followed by concrete action.
Be sure to subscribe, there's an upcoming future episode on taking action.
Embrace all of the feels.
Determine to be an example of what's possible.
Get an idea.
Take massive action.
JUST START. JUST START. JUST START.
"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." - Zig Ziglar
"Small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events, and great minds discuss ideas." - Eleanor Roosevelt
"Action is the foundational key to all success." - Pablo Picasso
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." - Dale Carnegie
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT
Have a vision. Even if it's to be a person who takes action on life.
I want to squeeze out the fullness of life.
I want to hear "Well done,
Former brokenness and rising above
Hey Trish! My name is Chris and when I found this podcast about a year ago I came to you broken. My grandfather had just passed away from suicide and I was on a down hill spiral. On my way to work one morning I thought I’d give your podcast a try. Desperate and searching for someone to listen or maybe just a friend to sit next to me in my vehicle on my tearful ride to work. It was like you were in the car speaking directly to me. I threw myself into your podcast and starting listening to them backwards. And In a span of about 3 months my life starting finally moving forward. I am dedicated to my mental health and physical well being. You truly are a source of light. Never stop being you! And I won’t forget you when I reach the top.
Soul confidence episode
I loved this episode! I am a member of a different church, the church of Jesus Christ of latter-day Saints, but the truths that Trish speaks to are universal! I love her podcast in general. I have so many episodes saved that I lost count. I feel uplifted and edified every time I listen to her. Thank you so much for the work you are doing. It is truly God’s work, and I feel him with me when I listen to your podcast.
This podcast feels like home
I found this podcast just by searching “confidence” in the search bar. Little did I know, I’d find my next favorite go-to. Trish you do a remarkable job at covering so many different facets of life. Every time I turn on an episode, you are speaking something I need to hear. I recently have felt called to bring God back into my life, my heart, and my business- and Trish you are the perfect messenger to tell me I am right on track with that. Thank you for the way you show up and share your messages, you are changing the world 💫 especially mine