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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT, specializing in the Narcissistic Personality--Overt and Covert Narcissists. She offers in-depth knowledge about the origins and dynamics of the narcissistic personality and strategies and practices for those who have been psychologically and emotionally abused by toxic narcissistic personalities through her global podcasts and her books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life.

The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT

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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT, specializing in the Narcissistic Personality--Overt and Covert Narcissists. She offers in-depth knowledge about the origins and dynamics of the narcissistic personality and strategies and practices for those who have been psychologically and emotionally abused by toxic narcissistic personalities through her global podcasts and her books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life.

    Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers - Practice Self Care and Self Love

    Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers - Practice Self Care and Self Love

    Growing up as the daughter of a narcissistic mother you didn't learn about self care or self love. It was not part of your emotional or psychological vocabulary from the beginning. You remember the constant anxiety and terror you felt with every step your narcissistic mother took toward you. You recall her terrifying eyes as she stared you down. Some of these mothers use physical abuse as a way of indocrinating their daughters; others use psychological verbal abuse, telling you from your first memories how ugly and stupid you were, that you would never amount to anything, that mother would always win. Narcissistic mothers control by way of constant intimidation, criticisms and outrageous demands that cannot be fulfilled. Often these mothers have their spouses under their control.
    Daughters of narcissistic mothers have no respite. They are always in fight or flight mode---the sympathetic nervous system. They can never let down and relax because they don't know when the narcissistic mother will begin one of her cruel offensives. These non-mothers often pick a golden child and demand that the other children follow suit. They can never measure up because the system is rigged in favor of the narcissistic mother and the golden child. 
    After the battles of growing up the daughter of the narcissistic mother has difficulty with her sense of a solid identity. She feels guilty because she didn't meet her narcissistic mother's expectations (which were imossible). There will come a time when you become aware that your mother had a serious psychological  problem.
    Daughters of narcissistic mothers deserve to learn and practice Self Care and Self Love. This is part of our true natures. You are entitled to experience a sense of deep inner peace, to use your imagination spontaneously, to appreciate the magic of music, to be able to sleep with peace and a sense of security, to have full use of your unlimited creativity, to express your affection and love for others.
    Self care begins with thinking about what is essential for you each day. It is learning how to quiet your mind, to get exercise that keeps you physically and psychologically strong, to find friends that are truthseekers like you who support your new life, to seek knowledge that fascinates you, to write spontaneously what is in your inner life and comes through naturally, to seek knowledge that fasinates you, to spend time outdoors and listen to the birds, watch the movement of the winds and the playing of the skies around you.
    As you make the practice of self care an integral part of your days, you will begin to appreciate yourself more and finally you will know self love. 
    You think of the little child that survived the narcissistic mother, of her bravery borne of great durress, of how often she cried, of the incredible way that she saved her precious self. I am deeply moved by and love these special daughters.
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    • 6 min
    High Level Narcissists - Their Bottomless Well of Psychological Emptiness

    High Level Narcissists - Their Bottomless Well of Psychological Emptiness

    "In narcissistic personaities the experience of emptiness is most intense and almost constant..." (Otto Kernberg, M.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality). 
    "The narcissist's experience of emotional emptiness is beyond sadness. It is a severe and intractable wounding,..., a pain...savage and deep. The psychological (inner) landscape of the narcissist is bleak. (Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, Linda Martinez-Lew, Ph.D., LMFT). 
    As a result the high level narcissist is a very restless human being, always surveying his/her external environment for narcissistic supplies: adulation, praise, self-indulgence, the company of highly attractive men and women, sexual escapes, the pursuit of material indulgence, the company of highly attractive men and women, seeking raw power to control others, manipulation of those whom they experience as competitors. 
    "The successful narcissist creates an intricate system of positive feedback in the form of friends, associates, partners, spouses---who perpetually fufill his endless needs." (From Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your LIfe). The narcissist is incapable of having a real relationship with another person. He/she doesn't have a relationship with himself/herself. Everything in his/her life is externalized and the most prized possession of all is the elaborate golden image that he/she creates and perpetuates all of his life.
    Deep inside the narcissist experiences himself/herself as psychologically empty. These powerful feelings are unconscious to him.her. At the core the narcissist is full of self loathing, living as a false self, unable to be real, to reciprocate feelings of affection or love. Emotionally he/she is shallow and incaapable of creating or sustaining any authentic human relationships. 
    Narcissistic emptiness in many ways drives the high level narcissist's obsessive greed. 
    High level narcissists are extraordinarily greedy. Greed is an extreme desire and pursuit to obtain more than what one needs, especially material largesse. They are never satisfied with what they have and are very competitive with other narcissists. 
    They always must be at the very pinnacle, the top of the mountain, the guy or girl who takes home all of the marbles (even if he/she steals them from others.) In our current narcissistic society, voracious greed has become acceptable to many people. 
    High level narcissists surround themselves with a charmed circle of people who provide him/her with unending narcissistic supplies: praise, adoration, continuous kudos, even worship. These individuals are obsessively loyal to the narcissist as long as they can fuse with his/her grandiosity, extreme self entitlement and delusional world. 
    When you learn and understand the dynamics of the high level narcissistic personality, you have gained knowledge, insight and power. Now you understand what makes these individuals function, why they react with such venom and their feverish search for narcissistic supplies to fill up the bottomless pit of their psychological emptiness. 
    Learn how to emotionally detach from the high level narcissist and maintain your psychological boundaries. You are entitled to respect and being treated as a separate human being who has intrinsic value, integrity, dignity and wisdom. 
    Practice self care each day: rest and sleep that you need and deserve, revitalizing experiences with Nature, meditation as you understand this, movement and exercise that works for you, using your unique creative gifts. 
    Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon:
    https://tinyurl.com/46befxue
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    • 7 min
    The Rise of the High Level Predatory Narcissist

    The Rise of the High Level Predatory Narcissist

    The high level predatory narcissist is often found at the upper echelons of power in private and public sectors. To most people they are unrecognizable in this role. These individuals are beyond clever and cunning. They are masters of image, disguise, theatre, seduction. Many attend the finest universities, have the highest credentials in many professional fields. They are exalted in our current society by many, bestowed honors and awards for their important work and looked up to as role models by their peers, followers and friends.
    High level narcissistic predators are a special breed. They have climbed and succeeded to the pinnacle of their professions. Almost everyone is fooled by them. Their main focus is in wielding power and manipulating others with great skill through clandestine means. There are no limits to their ambitions. They place themselves strategically to achieve the maximum influence over others whom they view as pawns in their dirty games. 
    They learned the art of sizing up people early, have mastered all of the social skills and ways of flattering people into falling for them. They act like team players but behind the scenes they use associates to plot against those who would block their path. They spread lies, create ugly scenarios, defame and plot against those who get in their way. 
    The truth comes from those who have shared their private lives with these individuals. It is exhausting and difficult. Partners and spouses finally discover that they can no longer tolerate the abuse and suspect that there is too much immoral and unethical behavior. They must sever these toxic relationships to save themselves and their children. Divorces from these high level predatory narcissists are ugly to the max. 
    Those who go forward are relieved and finally free of the psychological imprisonment, secrecy and extreme oxidative stress that they have endured for decades. 
    Protect yourself from these highly destructive individuals who have a fixed personality disorder that is not inclined to change. 
    Put the emphasis on yourself. Practice self care each day - get the rest and sleep that you deserve, eat high quality nourishing food, organic if possible, good hydration, movement and exercise your way, a form of meditation as you understand this, spend time with Nature the great healer and restorer, reawaken your unique creative gifts. 
    Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon:
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    Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: 
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    • 7 min
    Tell the High Level Narcissist - "I Can't Be Played."

    Tell the High Level Narcissist - "I Can't Be Played."

    Being "played" means exploited by someone who has no intention of forming a real relationship with you. The high level narcissist makes no commitments, is highly controlling and you become expendable. 
    You were a true believer in the limitless power of the high level narcissist. You believed his/her pledge to bind up the psychological wounds of your childhood nightmare. This was your rescue, your salvation you told yourself.
    Seeking temporary pleasure of elation, acting out behaviors, you fell hard for the narcissist's artfully wrapped promises, the ancient tale of romantic triumph, the flying carpet of self indulgence.
    You rose higher and higher in the thrall of the high level narcissist's hypnotic potion that drove you to fateful distractions: detours and switchbacks leading to endless circles of vapid nowheres. You were lost to yourself countless times, feeling the painful weariness, thinking you could not move forward another step. 
    Now you see through the delusions, demands, denials and dark secrets of the high level narcissist.
    You stand awakened. Your psychological and emotional stamina hold you steady and true. You tell the high level narcissist with your actions, thoughts, creativity, psychological groundedness, spiritual clarity: "I Can't Be Played." 
    Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon:
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    • 4 min
    Narcissistic Power Couple

    Narcissistic Power Couple

    The narcissistic power couple is thriving in today's celebrity obsessed, social media saturate culture. We find narcissistic power couples in all professions: entertainment, politics, high tech, medicine, law, the corporate world. The power couple consists of two high level narcissists who are either married or partnered with one another. 
    The mos timportant aspect of their identity is their tandem perfect image, the dul personas that they present to the world. Narcissistic power couples are often physically very attractive, very sealthy, grandiose, completely self entitled, glamorous, sicoally adept, well connected to power soruces. 
    Together they create a synergy that magnetizes people to them.
    High level narcissistic power couples are both competitive and complementary to one another. They propel one another to dizzing heights of poer, wealth and material acquisitions. With two high level narcissists the glow of their presence is enhanced and the breadth of their power and fame radiates and rsonates, cutting a generous wide swath.
    Together they charm, deceive, seduce andintimidate those who would dare to unseat them. They play dirty and nice, depending on their mutual goal to control, manipulate and diminish others. They are ultra frenetic climbers who step on others to acquire and maintan unlimited power.
    Narcissistic power couples laead lives that are set apart from most of us. They are whisked off on private helicopters and private jets to exclusive venues all over the world. They accululate greater aggregates of wealth and power because they have close contacet with the "right people" who make sure that their timing for making profits is always precise. 
    The inner world of the high leve narcissistic couples is shallow, vapid, rancorous, without meaning These individuals are burned out cases, devoice of genuine human warmth and empathy. 
    Their "act" is worn, pathetic, empty and enert: a psychological wasteland. 
    You are the opporiste of the high level narcissistic couple.  You possess great integrity and are genuine, compassionate and empathic. Your conscience is well developed and you are true individual of fine charcters. 
    Remember to take very good care of yourself: Get good rest and sleep--you deserve these times of respite and healing, eat pure food, organic if you can, good hydration, movement and exercise that works for you; express your feelings through spontaneous writing, lovely music to both calm and uplift you. Discover a form of meditation that works for you: spending time with Nature, a gentle yoga practice, rediscover the beauty, transformative power of great art. Pracice self care and self regard as often as you can. You are blessed; let your Light shine! 
    Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon:
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    • 9 min
    High Level Narcissists Triple Down on Their Ever-Present Hubris

    High Level Narcissists Triple Down on Their Ever-Present Hubris

    Hubris in man is ever-present. Wherever there is pride there is hubris. The story of the angels cast into Hell for their hubris remains with us. 
    The word hubris comves from the ancient Greek, meaning extreme pride and extreme overconfidence. 
    Hubris is outrageous. Aristotle defined hubris as shaming the victim
    The high level narcissist gains pleasure from his/her hurbristic acts. He/she is not called out on these dark deeds if they hold sway and power, if they are high placed sociall and economically. 
    Those who are married to or partnered with or children of hubristic high level narcissists are victims of their extreme psychopathology. 
    You spend years and decades married to one of these individuals go through a series of leaving them, returning and continuing the cycle to the incresing stress, psychophysiological imbalances, mood and anxidty disorders, chronic insomnia, re-traumatization from childhood. 
    When high level narcissists are shamelessly bad they will never admit they are wrong. All that matters is getting their way every time. When cornered they double and triple down on their lies, dceits, manipulations, exploitations and gain pleasure from domonating their spouses, ex-spouses, children, siblings business associates. Unlike you they have no shame---never did and never will. They are always right no matter their horrific misdeeds and betrayals.
    They draw around them a golden circle of followers and hangers on who are loyal to them no matter what the issue. They feed off of the high level's extreme pride, economic largesse and social power.
    The high level narcissist has no reason to change. This is a fixed personality disorder. 
    When you awaken and decide that you must separate out from the high level narcissist, this is a great moment of insight and mental and psychological clarity. 
    With great perseverance, wisdom and resolve you recognize that you are entitled to move forward as a separate, unique individual who deserves the full use of all of your creative gifts, to develop relationships based on self respect and integrity. . You are moving into the parasympathetic pathways of restoration, healing and the fulfillment of your original, true, creative self.
    Click the link below for Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon:  
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    • 8 min

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455 Ratings

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24 yrs of being unaware

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I’ve been dealing with so much pain for a long time. Blaming myself for so much. Through research I have realized he could be a CN but this podcast has made me come to terms with my cognitive dissidence and realize this is exactly what I had in my life for 27 years…i am free now and will live a very full life.

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