The NAUGHTY GYM Show April and Scott

In episode 24 we try to break down the issue of expectations in consensual non-monogamy.

It is all too common for one partners to have different (or no) expectations about events or non-monogamous life in general. These differences can too often be the source of bumps along the journey into more sexually open relationships.

We attempt to define expectations, explain why the are usually not a benefit, how they can derail happiness at events, and how to reimagine how you think and mentally prepare for events in the lifestyle.

And finally we offer our advice and how we think you can decrease your chances at leaving an event disappointed by learning shift your focus away from sex and more toward developing connections.

This episode was going to be April flying solo but she quickly calls Scott in when the wheels fall off. We discuss a few things that have been swirling around in that beautiful brain of hers. Everything from starting a non-monogamous commune to getting led to Jesus on the pickleball courts.

We interview journalist, sex coach, and CrossFit coach, Gabrielle Kassel. She has written extensively for major publications about sex, fitness, and the intersection of the two.
We cover topics like her career, whether she's faced backlash for her personal life, non-monogamy, trans athletes, and more.

We talk with Coach Cara about the ins and outs of the illusive unicorn. When a couple decides to open up their relationship one of the most common initial fantasies is to bring in a 3rd female... often called a unicorn. In this podcast, three experienced consensual non-monogamists discuss the realities and difficulties of making this happen and how to handle it if it does. 

Here's the questions we tackle... 

What is a unicorn?

How hard is it to find a unicorn?

How do you attract a unicorn?

How should men treat a unicorn?

How should women treat a unicorn?

How should a unicorn respond to couples?

How to take care of a unicorn after play. 

We interview Victoria and her husband Ryan about their new venture, Birds Of A Feather Matchmaking. This is the industries 1st matchmaking service for people in various forms of open relationships. 

Is this for you? Do you need help making connections? Are you too busy to scroll through dating apps and want to outsource this part of your love life? Or how about some coaching on how to setup your profile? Or how about having a date with someone who evaluates your interpersonal skills? Birds of a Feather solves these problems for you. 

It is incredibly interesting learning about the incredible amount of detailed work that goes into this process. And if you have the cash, this may be just what you've been looking for. April and I both think this service will be incredibly beneficial for many people. 

We sit down with Casual Swingers Podcast creators, Mickey and Mallory, while we are together in Nashville, to discuss our ideal play partners. Each of us answers a series of questions, very candidly, about what characteristics our perfect play partner would have. 

We tackle age, weight, height, hair, grooming, occupation, religious and political leanings, play styles, play scenarios, relationship status, and sexuality. Mix these insightful and raw answers with a lot of laughter and a few surprises and it makes for a great conversation between friends. 

As a bonus at the end, we all reveal 1 unfulfilled fantasy that we each have. In some cases this comes as a surprise to our partners!