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Join Kierstyn and Tiffany today for a special two-part episode as they tell a personal story that they have recently navigated. In this episode, they will use real-life examples of red flags, love bombing, and more and what they look like in work friendships. Their focus is to help you to watch for them in your own life.

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Friendships are often seen as sources of joy, support, and companionship, but what happens when they turn toxic? Toxic friendships can be just as emotionally draining and detrimental as toxic romantic or family relationships. In this podcast episode, we delve into the world of toxic friendships, shedding light on the importance of recognizing and addressing them.
Perhaps you've been feeling that something isn't quite right in your friendship. It might feel one-sided, with you always giving but receiving very little in return. Maybe there's an overwhelming sense of negativity that lingers whenever you interact with your friend. If any of this resonates with you, then this episode is for you!

During this episode, we explore real-life experiences and tackle a listener's question about dealing with a jealous friend. Jealousy, manipulation, constant negativity, and a lack of support are just a few of the common warning signs of a toxic friendship that we emphasize. It's vital to recognize these signs early on because toxic friendships can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being.

We provide six practical tips for handling toxic friendships. First and foremost, it's crucial to be able to identify these toxic behaviors in your friendship. Once you've recognized the signs, setting clear boundaries becomes essential. Communicating your feelings openly with your friend can also be a powerful step towards resolving issues and potentially salvaging the friendship.

Seeking support from trusted individuals, such as other friends, a therapist, or a coach, can provide you with the guidance and encouragement needed to navigate this challenging situation. Sometimes, considering a bit of distance may be necessary to protect your emotional health, and don't hesitate to prioritize self-care and self-reflection throughout the process. After all, ending a toxic friendship can be just as heart-wrenching as ending a romantic relationship, and healing should always be a priority.

We aim to empower listeners to recognize the signs of a toxic friendship, take action to protect their well-being, and ultimately pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling connections in their lives. Remember, your mental and emotional health should always come first, even when it means letting go of toxic friendships that break your heart.

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BOUNDARY PDF .pdf


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Recent research shows that it's possible to become addicted to a relationship, a phenomenon referred to as love addiction. Picture this: the rush of happiness at the start of a relationship when those feel-good chemicals like endorphins and dopamine flood your brain, making you feel like you're on top of the world. But when things turn unhealthy or the relationship ends, you're suddenly hit with a wave of deep sadness and depression. It's a tough emotional roller coaster to navigate.
For some, especially those with certain personality traits, this roller coaster becomes addictive. The intense emotional highs and lows bring a level of excitement and drama that's hard to find elsewhere, leading to a cycle of breaking up and getting back together. The pattern becomes a way of seeking the intense emotional experiences that make them feel alive and happy. This constant cycle can wreak havoc on other aspects of life, leading to irrational decisions, difficulty focusing on anything else, and neglecting important relationships outside the romantic one.
If you find yourself in this pattern or know someone who does, it's crucial to seek support from a therapist, coach, or other mental health professional. These experts can help address the underlying emotional issues and guide you toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future.
Listener Favorite Moments:
2:45 This situation was chosen for your child
14:17 We promote toxic relationships with extreme highs and lows in the media
16:30 Drug addiction to a human being.That is really hard to break
23:12 The cycle
26:45 it always ends with the promise that it will get better
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Let's dive deeper into what fuels this addiction. A powerful psychological phenomenon known as a trauma bond can play a significant role in keeping us tethered to harmful relationships. This bond is like a cycle of rewards and punishments that manipulates our feelings. It starts with the hope for those small moments of relief from the pain caused by the partner. This hope becomes addictive, making us believe that change is possible, even when the person causing the harm is the one we're hoping will fix us.
A trauma bond follows a three-phase pattern:
1. **Tension Building:** Minor conflicts and emotional distance lead to increasing tension. The victim tries to prevent conflict by appeasing the abusive partner.
2. **Explosive Incident:** The built-up tension reaches a breaking point, resulting in a major conflict or abusive incident. This phase is marked by shock, fear, and sometimes self-blame.
3. **Reconciliation and Calm:** The abusive partner shows remorse, apologizes, and offers reassurances, creating a sense of relief for the victim. These moments of affection or kindness reinforce the victim's hope for change.
Breaking free from a trauma bond is a complex process that often requires external support, like therapy or coaching, as well as the backing of friends and family. Recognizing the patterns and dynamics of the relationship is the crucial first step toward healing.
If you're dealing with a trauma bond, you're likely not experiencing peace. However, even small changes can make a big difference. That's why Kierstyn and Tiffany want to give you access to their "7 Days to Peace" program, available for free for a limited time on their Reclaim You app, which can be found on both the Apple iOS store and the Google Play store.
Listener Question: Is a trauma bond formed when two people share their past traumas? Actually, trauma bonding is quite different. It's a psychological response to abuse where the victim forms an unhealthy attachment to the abuser. For example, think of Stockholm syndrome, where captives develop sympathy or affection for their captors. This skewed perception hinders them from fully understanding the severity of their situation.
If you find yourself entangled in a...

Are you Walking on Eggshells in your Relationship?


Do you ever find yourself struggling to say the right thing in your relationship? Feeling like you're caught in a lose-lose situation? That anxious feeling in your chest when you know you need to bring something up to your partner - it's like you're walking on eggshells. Well, this episode is tailor-made for you.


Listener Favorite Moments:
First and foremost, if you're in a situation where you're concerned about your physical safety, please prioritize your well-being. Seek help from resources like the Domestic Violence hotline. Assuming you're aiming to improve your communication dynamics, here are some insights to consider.


Walking on eggshells can manifest in various ways:
1. Your partner reacts angrily to minor triggers.2. Small issues escalate into disproportionately large conflicts.3. Verbal arguments become frequent.4. You're constantly on edge around your partner.5. Friends and family notice the tension.6. Fights become a regular occurrence.7. Apologies are rare from your partner.8. Responsibility is deflected onto others.9. You fear your partner due to their behavior.10. Your self-esteem diminishes.
**1. Speak Your Truth**: Open communication is vital. Holding back due to fear doesn't help the situation. Of course, safety is paramount; if you're concerned about your well-being, reach out for help.
**2. Create Communication Boundaries**: If your partner is open to change, set up communication boundaries. These boundaries create a safe space for both to express their thoughts and feelings. Examples include clarifying expectations around emotional states or discussing the best ways to handle tough days.
Start conversations with "I" statements to avoid defensiveness. Be specific about the boundaries you're suggesting. Illustrate points with examples for clarity. Remember, this process aims to improve the relationship for both partners.
**3. Make a Plan for Change**: If your partner isn't willing to change, you might need to devise a plan to make yourself feel safer in the relationship. Our "Should I Stay or Should I Go" course in the Reclaim You app can guide you through this difficult decision-making process.
Deciding to stay or leave isn't easy, and it shouldn't be taken lightly. We understand the complexity and emotions involved. That's why we've created a program to help you navigate these tough choices.
Remember, the goal here isn't to assign blame but to create a space where both partners feel safe and understood. Whether you're recalibrating your communication or deciding on the next step, know that you deserve a healthy and respectful relationship.
EPISODE RESOURCE:
Trauma Bonds PDF .pdf
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
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Season 2 is coming to an end and what better way to wrap things up for this season that by sharing the three tiers that we use to support you through your relationship trauma, turmoil and toxicity while on your way to total relationship recovery. We're taking a break for the summer and we'll be back this fall with more episodes to help you on your relationship recovery journey.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️2:48 Client testimonials from working with Tiffany and Kierstyn through the Relationship Recovery coaching ⭐️⭐️5:57 Hollywood Hot Takes: Succession and analyzing all the toxic personalities ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️17:52 Tier One: we're building that foundation and that house because you have to have that good foundation in order to do the work. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️23:35 Tier Two: Clearing the trauma. We help you identify what that is and we teach you how to look for it ⭐️⭐️⭐️26:48 Tier Three : Moving on, we're empowering and giving you tools and resources that you're using all the time. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️30:27 Affirmation of the Week: "Happiness can come from where my heart broke. I stepped forward into the unknown to reclaim the joy that's in my heart."
We can't end this season without saying THANK YOU for your support, shares, and reviews of the podcast.
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You need energy to heal. It's one of our core foundations and is a huge piece to healing. In fact, one of the reasons you may have failed before in the past to do the work to heal is because you didn't have enough energy for it. You're depleted. And just like anything else, if you're completely depleted, you're not gonna be able to do the work. In today's episode we cover why managing your energy is so important, how to take inventory of energy boosters and energy suckers, what routines WE do, and give you tips to help you manage your energy to help you heal.
Join us for a 7 day challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app!
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️ 2:14 Join the 7 Day Challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. ⭐️⭐️2:50 Review of the week- ⭐️⭐️⭐️5:32 Hollywood Hot Take: Kevin Costner blindsided by divorce and leaving Yellowstone. ⭐️⭐️10:08 What's depleting your energy? Learning to say no instead of yes. When we overcommit we end up spending a lot of our time and energy in resentment or trying to find a way out. ⭐️⭐️14:29 Find things you can infuse into your life that give a boost of energy. ⭐️⭐️⭐️16:10 Take inventory of your daily activities and commitments. What things are depleting your energy? What things are boosting your energy. Adjust accordingly ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:12 Be intentional and take time to pause. We are constantly rushing through life and it's leaving us feeling frazzled with no room for anything, let alone healing. ⭐️⭐️⭐️23:41 How to boost your energy: Join our 7 Days to Peace challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. Implement a simple morning routine, practice gratitude, exercise and movement, drink water.....there's a few ideas to get your started. ⭐️⭐️29:03 Affirmation of the week: "I calm myself by taking a deep breath in. I release all my anxiety as I excel. I am at peace."
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Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep138 More Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠