19 episodes

Are you navigating a breakup or divorce? Are you wondering if you are dealing with something more serious, like narcissistic abuse, emotional, or physical abuse? Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you wonder if you will be able to heal and feel whole again? If these resonate you are in the right place.

Each week Kierstyn and Tiffany provide you with practical resources and tools to help you overcome the obstacles you are currently facing. We have open and honest conversations around abuse of all kinds, gaslighting, codependency, trauma bonds, infidelity, co-parenting with a toxic ex, parent alienation, and much more. Not only do we have conversions around the hard things that accompany relationship turmoil, but we also coach you on how to heal from it & find yourself again.

The Relationship Recovery Podcast gives voice to survivors of relationship trauma. Because we have walked it ourselves, we create a unique experience to help you not only heal but thrive in all areas of your life

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The Relationship Recovery Tiffany Denny & Kierstyn Franklin

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 17 Ratings

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Are you navigating a breakup or divorce? Are you wondering if you are dealing with something more serious, like narcissistic abuse, emotional, or physical abuse? Are you struggling in your relationship? Do you wonder if you will be able to heal and feel whole again? If these resonate you are in the right place.

Each week Kierstyn and Tiffany provide you with practical resources and tools to help you overcome the obstacles you are currently facing. We have open and honest conversations around abuse of all kinds, gaslighting, codependency, trauma bonds, infidelity, co-parenting with a toxic ex, parent alienation, and much more. Not only do we have conversions around the hard things that accompany relationship turmoil, but we also coach you on how to heal from it & find yourself again.

The Relationship Recovery Podcast gives voice to survivors of relationship trauma. Because we have walked it ourselves, we create a unique experience to help you not only heal but thrive in all areas of your life

For show notes & resources:
https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcasts
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    Your Questions Answered-Live Listener Q&A-EP119

    Your Questions Answered-Live Listener Q&A-EP119

    Do you have questions about your relationship? Is it toxic? What are red flags in dating? What is love bombing?

    Well, you aren't alone!

    In this special episode, we answered our listener questions, and odds are, at least one of your questions was answered by Kierstyn and Tiffany as they coached people navigating relationship turmoil live.

    Want your question answered? Don't worry! We will be doing this periodically, so make sure you are following us on Instagram to have your questions answered in the future:

    www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery

    Listener Favorite Moments:
    2:19-3:30 Q&A About partner says he’s doing work, but she’s not seeing changes…change takes time, ask him questions, look into other modalities for support.

    10:40-13:17 Q&A About feeling guilty for moving out…emotionally abusive = manipulated/groomed to feel guilt for that, set boundaries, get support, internal work.

    14:16-17:18 Q&A Dating Red Flags: Intuition, trusting yourself, dating again, and thinking everything is a red flag

    13:30-18:00 Q&A about red flags and if NPD is a personality disorder…love bombing, notice how they treat others, lots of ups and downs, jealousy. Don’t need a diagnosis of NPD for it to feel off.

    23:50-25:24-Q&A about having the strength to go no contact…explanation of trauma bond (physical and chemical)

    Episode Resources:

    We just announced that we are now accepting applications to our new mentorship program, Accelerate.


    Accelerate is a 3-month mentorship for women who want to curate more peace, happiness, and confidence to accelerate their healing in community.

    Over three months, we will be doing intentional work to help you reconnect with your body, mind, and soul. If you are craving connection and want to level up your healing, then 'Accelerate' is perfect for you!

    Here is a snapshot of Accelerate:

    We are calling in 10 people to take this journey with us. We feel strongly that this group needs to be full of people who have positive energy, are willing to support each other, and are committed to doing the work to accelerate their healing journey.

    The Accelerate mentorship consists of:

    5 Group healing sessions
    2 individual healing sessions
    Messaging support group
    Care package

    Accelerate starts August 9th, 2022

    When you join Accelerate, you will experience:

    Community
    Deep connections
    Meditation Journeys
    Tools to add to your toolbox
    A new support system
    New friendships
    An accelerated pathway to healing

    During our time together, we will do a deep dive into the following topics:

    Learning to trust yourself to make decisions again
    Learning to trust others
    Fining peace again
    Caretaking other's emotions over your own
    Feeling like you failed and how to shift the mindset
    Shame
    Dealing with a difficult ex
    Parental alienation
    Co-parenting
    Dating after divorce
    Finding yourself again
    Coping better with loss and loneliness

    The Accelerate mentorship is packed full of so much goodness and will help you reconnect to the YOU that was lost through the turmoil you have experienced.

    In Accelerate, our goal is to work with you to achieve the things you can truly control… ourselves, our responses, our actions, our boundaries, and our healing.

    If this is calling to your soul, click below to fill out the application:

    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/accelerate

    Applications will close August 7, 2022.

    More Resources:
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com

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    Can You Determine Divorce by Length of Years?-EP118

    Can You Determine Divorce by Length of Years?-EP118

    No Matter Where You Are On Your Journey,
    It’s Helpful To Know When The Risks Of Divorce Are Highest

    When you look at the data on divorce and see the years of a marriage when divorces are likely to take place, a fascinating picture comes into focus.

    First of all, we take data with a grain of salt. Every marriage is different. Random events pop up.

    Love, commitment and understanding aren’t events written on a calendar like a dentist appointment.

    They are the foundations of a relationship and the shakier they are, the higher the risk of divorce.

    Divorce risk according to the length of time you’re married ebbs and flows. There are safe years and hard years.

    There are times when the hope things will get better is stronger than the feelings of satisfaction and fulfillment.

    What stands out is how tough the early years are. The adjustments that are so essential to a marriage can be impossible for some people to make.

    No wonder so many marriages crash and burn so quickly.

    10% of marriages fail in the first two years.

    It’s heartbreaking. It’s also a vivid reminder of how important it is to apply the lessons of a first failed marriage to make a second marriage a success.

    If you marry later in life, does this mean you’ve got a better chance of making it through these first two years? We’ll take a look at this in our podcast.

    Let’s spend a few minutes together to see how the risks of divorce rise and fall over the course of a marriage. Even if this doesn’t directly apply to your situation, knowing about these risks gives you helpful insights.

    Here's some listener favorite moments:
    1:18-3:12 Bonus Tip - We all continue to grow and evolve.
    8:21-9:21- The first year of marriage is a high risk for divorce…easy to just part ways. Things aren’t too complicated, finding out more about the person, self-sabotage.

    12:55-17:35- Kierstyn shares personal experience with her marriage in the 5-8 year range. Personal growth as individuals, rubber-band and effect, 7 year itch etc...

    18:38-19:58- Marriage in 30's is up, and divorcing in 50’s which is pretty common. Greater risk of cheating in 50’s according to statistics

    21:55-23:15-“50% of marriages end in divorce” caveat. Focus on individual marriage instead of relying solely on data

    You might want to check out one of our most requested relationship tools.

    “Should I Stay Or Should I Go” is a 4-week intensive.

    It helps you put your relationship in perspective so you can make good decisions about the future.

    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

    Secure: Attachment Styles-EP117

    Secure: Attachment Styles-EP117

    Even If You Don’t Believe You Can Feel Secure In A Relationship Today,
    This Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Prepare For Tomorrow

    One of the fascinating things about attachment styles is our ability to move from one style into another.

    We aren’t stuck and we aren’t doomed.

    Intentional behavior, the right practices and tools can move us from where we are to where we’d like to be.

    And the attachment style where most of us would like to be is The Secure Attachment Style.

    Membership is not exclusive.

    Feelings of security, self-confidence and clarity can be restored if they’ve been lost. They can also be nurtured if they’ve never been present.

    Changes can be made. Things can get better.

    We understand that moving out of an abusive or toxic relationship might seem impossible.

    It’s not. This is because we have tools that let us move from one attachment style to another.

    But let’s confront the realities. Let’s not underestimate the challenges that come with stepping out of an attachment style that’s Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant or Fearful-Avoidant.

    Building the self-esteem that’s needed for this takes courage.

    After all, we’re dealing with a lifetime of behaviors. Attachment styles are formed early in life. The process actually begins in infancy through nonverbal and emotional interactions.

    The right practices and tools can help. So can patience and time.

    The Secure Attachment Style doesn’t come with a lifetime guarantee.

    We need to be intentional to stick with this style because events can send us reeling.

    Toxic relationships and trauma are just two of the culprits.

    Intentional behavior is the key to keeping your Secure Attachment Style.

    So, what are these tools and best practices to use so we can move forward?

    Let’s spend a few minutes together to find out and see what to do.

    In this special podcast, you’ll discover…

    What it takes to have a secure attachment style.
    The best tools to help you regulate your emotions.
    The role of self-esteem and self-compassion.
    How a divorce is most likely to impact your kids.

    So, get comfortable, find a quiet place and join us for this podcast.

    No matter how discouraged or hurt you might feel, please keep in mind that things can get better. There are steps you can take to put the pain behind.

    Here’s some of what you’ll discover in this special podcast…

    [o3:49] When and how the influences of an attachment style begin.

    [o5:00] Why being intentional helps so much when it comes to keeping you in a secure attachment style.

    [06:30] Which emotional triggers are most likely to jolt you out of one attachment style into another.

    [09:14] A technique to help you avoid the messiest problems of co-parenting or parallel parenting.

    [11:42] Why it’s never too late to show your kids what it’s like to be truly secure.

    [12:37] Why securely attached adults tend to believe that romantic love will always endure.

    [14:52] The key behaviors of The Secure Attachment Style.

    Episode Tools & Resources:

    Secure Attachment PDF:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115

    Additional Resources:
    Fearful/Avoidant Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep116
    Anxious/Preoccupied Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115
    The Dismissive/ Avoidant Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep114
    4 Attachment Style PDF:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113
    Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

    More Resources:
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com

    Follow us:
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    Fearful-Avoidant: Attachment Styles-EP116

    Fearful-Avoidant: Attachment Styles-EP116

    High conflict relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Many of them involve a divorce, either a divorce that’s underway or one that you’ve recently gone through.
    The tactics and tools we’re sharing with you to use during a divorce can be used in any high-conflict relationship.
    Divorcing somebody with a personality disorder is one of the toughest things you’ll ever go through.
    It can spin out of control in a heartbeat. You can easily stagger from something that’s difficult into something that’s a full-blown disaster.
    But there are common-sense steps you can take to soften the blows.
    These steps give you a proven strategy. You can quickly turn your weakness into strength, your fear into courage and your uncertainty into confidence.
    No matter how cruelly you are being treated, this strategy will change things for the better.
    We’ve seen these changes for the better take place again and again with our coaching clients. You can use this strategy right away to make your own situation easier to deal with.
    Let’s look at how you can successfully navigate through a high-conflict divorce.
    In this podcast you’ll discover…
    Why you need a strategy when you divorce somebody with a personality disorder.
    How to soften the blows of all the emotional terrorism you’re subjected to.
    How to be intentional and why this is so helpful.
    What to do when there are kids.
    Why not carve out a few minutes to join us for this important podcast? Please make yourself comfortable, find a peaceful spot and get this valuable information.

    Here’s some of our Listeners Favorite Moments:
    8:10-13:22-Characteristics of fearful avoidant, where it comes from, tendency to end up in abusive relationships.

    13:05-14:30-tend to end up in abusive relationships due to repeating pattern from childhood…you do what you know, unless you seek help.

    17:35-18:45- Feels like tug of war…anxious and then pushes them away. The appearance of little respect for partner. The connection between BPD and fearful-avoidant.

    23:08-23:55-Healing the traumatic pieces around childhood to help move to a more secure attachment style.

    24:53-25:33-If you’re the more secure partner with a fearful-avoidant, be aware of not jumping in to rescue/care take, or self abandon.

    Episode Tools & Resources:
    Fearful/Avoidant Check List:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep116
    Anxious/Preoccupied Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115
    4 Attachment Style PDF:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113
    Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

    More Resources:
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com

    Follow us:
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    Anxious-Preoccupied: Attachment Styles-EP115

    Anxious-Preoccupied: Attachment Styles-EP115

    What To Do About The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style?

    You’re at a big advantage when you know about the 4 different attachment styles.

    You can navigate relationships with more clarity, you can move to a more secure place and you can turn negative behaviors into positive ones.

    Naturally, this doesn’t happen overnight.

    But with some intentional work you can make progress more quickly than you might think. This is one of the benefits of knowing about these styles.

    What do we see with people with The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style?

    Many feel underappreciated.

    Something else that’s easily noticed is how things in life that should seem normal, and in fact are normal, don’t appear normal at all.

    People in this attachment style often seem to stir up jealousy.

    They worry a lot. There are negative reactions – when there’s no need for these reactions to take place.

    Little things that don’t matter much blow up. They cause all sorts of pointless drama and hurtful tension.

    One of the reasons for this is low self-esteem. But there are other forces at play which we’ll share with you on this podcast.

    Let’s spend a few minutes together to see what The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style is all about.

    In this podcast, you’ll discover…

    Why roughly 1 in 5 people fall into this style.
    Why some people worry so much about abandonment.
    Why perfectionism and insecurity so often go hand in hand.
    How to move beyond the clinginess that can derail a relationship.

    So, relax, find a comfortable spot and join us on this podcast.

    Here’s some of what you’ll discover…

    The connections between feeling loved and wanting to be a perfectionist.

    What to do when you feel you're on an emotional roller coaster that never stops.

    Why it’s so common to constantly feel insecure about where you stand in the relationship.

    The strange similarities between a relationship and a car accident.

    Why being in a relationship with someone who’s highly secure doesn’t mean this security will automatically rub off on you.

    How to break the habit of always questioning your self-worth.

    What to do about your thirst for reassurance.

    Episode Tools & Resources:
    Anxious/Preoccupied Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115
    4 Attachment Style PDF:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113
    Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

    Episode References:

    More Resources:
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com

    Follow us:
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    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

    Avoidant- Dismissive: Attachment Styles-EP114

    Avoidant- Dismissive: Attachment Styles-EP114

    Discover The Characteristics Of The Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style
    Attachment styles mean so much.
    So, we’re giving you an in-depth look at each of the 4 different styles. This week the focus is on the Dismissive-Avoidant Style.
    What’s in it for you? How can knowing these different styles help?
    You’ll be much better at opening – and closing – relationship doors when you know your own attachment style.
    The result is a more secure attachment style. One you’ll find authentic and supportive.
    In this podcast, the second in our special series, you’ll discover some of the Dismissive-Avoidant Style’s most common indicators.
    One of them is a trait we normally consider something good.
    Independence.
    But like most things in life, independence can be taken to an extreme.
    Too much independence leads to emotional distances. It creates identities that never seem to mesh into close relationships.
    But this overdose of independence is just the tip of the emotional iceberg.
    Let’s take an in-depth look at the other characteristics of the Dismissive-Avoidant Style.
    In this podcast, you’ll discover…
    What specific problems the Dismissive-Avoidant Style can easily ignite.
    Why negative feelings are ignored and how this usually makes things even worse.
    The curious reason why limits are placed on commitment.
    The most helpful things to do if you feel this is your attachment style.
    So relax, find a peaceful spot and spend some time with us on this podcast.
    Episode Tools & Resources:
    Dismissive-Avoidant Checklist Tool:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep114
    4 Attachment Style PDF:
    https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113
    Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
    More Resources:
    www.therelationshiprecovery.com
    Follow us:
    Instagram: www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery
    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

Customer Reviews

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17 Ratings

17 Ratings

老师Joel ,

You guys are Guru’s!!

I love you guys!! Please continue delivering such great content. 🧡🧡🧡

keepinganonymousfornow ,

Very helpful!

This has been very helpful as I navigate my upcoming divorce from someone with narcissistic personality traits.

RedFlamingo24 ,

Amazing women helping others going through tough times

Kierstyn and Tiffany are wonderful. They help so many people through educating them on relationship recovery and related topics.