Love Over Addiction Michelle Anderson
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Join host Michelle Anderson as she discusses life while loving someone struggling with addiction. The goal of each episode is to leave you with encouragement, hope, and some laughs while you navigate the heartbreaking and rewarding relationship of loving someone with substance use disorder. If you're exhausted from trying to help, lonely, and unsure what to do next - you've come to the right place.
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A Well Designed Happy Life With or Without Them
How would it feel if I said we need to live a life that isn’t dependent on our loved one’s sobriety? And if we can create that kind of life, we can have a happy future if they get sober or not. We can learn to live with or without our partners.
Here’s the loving truth: we hope and pray that our loved ones will not drink too much or stop using drugs and start being faithful. But when we put our lives on hold, hoping they will keep their promise of remaining sober and stopping their bad habits, we are leaving our happiness in their hands.
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What To Do With The Kids If Our Partner Is Drinking or Using Drugs
Knowing what to do when our loved one starts drinking or using drugs around the children can be difficult. Here’s one helpful tip: We don’t need to stick around when they're making bad choices. We can ask them to leave the house. If they refuse or they’re too drunk, we can pick up our keys, grab the kids, and head right out the door.
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Should We Leave?
"Should I leave my partner?"
What a big question. And let's be honest, it's a question that many women in this community have. Let’s first start off by saying thinking about leaving is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re doing the right thing by looking for answers, even though it’s hard.
The state of our relationships is not our fault. We fell in love with someone who really struggles with a very tragic and common issue. We love them. We see their potential. And we would do anything if the ones we love just got healthy.
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If We Struggle With Codependency
Change is necessary if we want to move forward. Some of us enjoy changing, and others will avoid making the changes we know we need to because we're scared (I am raising my own hand).
Change is uncomfortable, and staying stuck in our misery sometimes feels easier - even though it's not always what's best.
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What To Do When We Feel Overwhelmed
When I was married to a good man who suffered from addiction, I was terrified of leaving him. I thought about leaving all the time; I think part of me always knew, we would end up in divorce, but the idea of actually leaving paralyzed me with fear.
There were times I was so upset I would try to will myself to leave, but for many reasons, I was always unable to walk away from a very unhealthy relationship. I thought, “Am I stuck in this marriage forever? Do I really have the courage to take my kids and leave?”
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The Truth About Trusting Them
When our loved ones who struggle with addiction choose to go to rehab or get help, it can bring up all sorts of feelings. We might feel hopeful that maybe THIS time, they will get sober for good. We might feel scared that maybe this won’t work and will be a huge disappointment. We might feel resentful that they are being cared for and looked after while we are left at home working overtime to make up for their absence.
But one of the biggest worries I hear often is concerning trust. How can we ever trust them again?
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Customer Reviews
This podcast has helped me so much
I started listening a few years ago after I was so drained from this and started googling about being married to a man who had an alcohol addiction.
I feel so grateful that those right search terms pulled up a web site that led me to here.
I work from home and listen all day to these podcasts on hard days. I’ve done a ton of work on myself. I’m still in this marriage and I am so grateful that Michelle is so good about saying that it’s okay if you stay and it’s okay to change your mind. I love that. I feel like so many places I’ve turned to for help (friends, family etc) are not understanding. So grateful for this podcast
Saved me!
I just have to say I’m so glad I found you two..as I’m 6 yrs in a relationship with a man that’s a addict and I can tell you listening to Paige I finally have someone that I can relate too because I feel crazy most days because of the manipulation,I feel like I’m loosing my mind with this man and he is in denial that he isn’t using when I have clear evidence which makes me even more crazy in my head …I could go on but I just need to say thank you for this I finally have someone that I can relate too ..and pray daily he will someday come out of this before I have to walk away !
So validating
I have enjoyed this podcast so much. I finally feel like I’m not alone.