Spoil Your Baby

Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum
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As a mom, neuroscientist, and a long time expert to parents, almost every expert has it wrong when they say 'don't spoil your baby.' Up until the age of 3, your only job is to spoil your baby with affection, attention, and protection. I promise you it's the best chance for the long term mental health and success of your child. On my podcast, I will interview the leading experts to explain why you need to SPOIL YOUR BABY as well as those that may disagree for a spirited debate. I will also give you the most up to date science-backed tools and tips that will help you to raise your baby for lifelong health and success.

  1. vor 7 Std.

    TAKEAWAYS from Trust Your Instinct with Gabrielle Ferrara | #59

    Why is "normal" infant sleep so often labeled as a problem needing medical intervention? Gabrielle Ferrara began her professional life dedicated to mental health counseling and social work, holding a Master’s in Social Work and licensure as a clinical social worker in both New Jersey and Florida. She initially planned to return to her full-time therapy job after having her son, never anticipating motherhood would completely uproot her career path. When her son’s personal sleep journey began to get "a little hairy" at four months old, she discovered Greer's work. Listening to the resources gave her the language and the tools to quiet the intense pressure and noise she was receiving about sleep training, allowing her to trust her intuition about what her baby needed. This transformative personal experience motivated her to enroll in the first cohort of the Nurture Neuroscience practitioner program. She saw this as an opportunity for self-education and to be among other like-minded professionals and parents with similar values, with the hope of translating the knowledge into a professional career. In her consults, she found her primary job was offering education and reassurance to parents who constantly ask, "Is what my baby doing normal?". Her own path has been challenging, as her son has nearly every medical red flag or sleep disruptor, including reflux, oral ties, low ferritin, and snoring. She has faced significant pushback from the medical system, which often promotes a medicalized behaviorist approach, prescribing "self soothing" even when physical symptoms are present. Gabrielle emphasizes that for families facing complex sleep issues, responsive co-sleeping or bedsharing is often the only way to get enough sleep to function. She uses her combined therapeutic and personal experience to help parents navigate these complexities and balance their child's medical needs with their nurturing needs. Key Takeaways The majority of consult work involves reassuring parents that their baby’s needs and behaviors are developmentally normal.We must reject the overwhelming mainstream messaging that sleep training is the only viable solution for infants.It is crucial to normalize the grief parents feel when the reality of infant sleep doesn't match cultural expectations.Some families rely on responsive co-sleeping or bedsharing as the only practical solution while addressing underlying health issues.Parents need support to stand confidently in their attachment-based choices against external pressure and medical pushback. THIS EPISODE REVISITS THE KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM OUR EPISODE 47 - Trust Your Instinct: Quieting the Sleep Training Noise feat. Gabrielle Ferrara - Go listen to the full episode if you want to learn more. Resources Gabrielle Ferrara is a Nurture Neuroscience Practitioner and Consultant. She holds a Master's in Social Work (MSW) and is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in New Jersey and Florida. Website: https://www.gabrielle-ferrara.comInstagram: @nurtured.mom.nurtured.baby https://www.instagram.com/nurtured.mom.nurtured.baby Ready to Connect with Greer? "Nurture Neuroscience" Website: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE - "Nurture Your Baby's Stress": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE - "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    8 Min.

  2. 29. Juni

    TAKEAWAYS from Beyond Perfection with Talia Shapero | #58

    Is it possible to improve our sleep and reduce anxiety, even when navigating the exhaustion of new parenthood? Talia Shapero's journey to becoming an adult sleep coach began with her own years-long battle with insomnia. This sleep struggle became significantly worse after the birth of her son. Even when her baby started sleeping through the night, Talia found she was unable to. This chronic lack of quality sleep severely impacted her cognitive, physical, and emotional health, leading to intense anxiety and a dysregulated mood. Fortunately, her medical practitioners were insightful, suggesting that addressing her sleep issues might alleviate her anxiety, recognizing the crucial bi-directional relationship between mood and sleep. Talia was diagnosed with true insomnia and underwent Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), which she describes as truly transformative. The treatment improved her overall well-being—she was feeling better, eating better, and became a more engaged partner and parent, gaining resilience, patience, and love to give to her family. Through this experience, she realized that many people lack knowledge about sleep and struggle silently. Motivated by her personal success and the universal need for solutions, Talia earned her certification to help others as an adult sleep coach. Key Takeaways Focus on the quality of sleep as much as the quantity, and anchor your morning wake time for circadian rhythm consistency.When a full nap isn't possible, schedule "daily pauses" by lying down horizontally, screen-free, to refresh and restore your mind.Optimize your body's sleep-wake cycle by ensuring you receive bright light exposure in the morning and limit bright light in the evening.Develop a purposeful and relaxing wind-down routine before bed to signal to your brain and body that it is safe to relax and anticipate sleep.Aim for "good enough" sleep instead of seeking perfection every night, recognizing that sleep is not static and will fluctuate. THIS EPISODE REVISITS THE KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM OUR EPISODE 40 - Beyond Perfection: Getting "Good Enough" Sleep feat. Talia Shapero - Go listen to the full episode if you want to learn more. Resources Talia Shapero is an Adult Sleep Coach. She can be found through her website, TaliaShapero.com, and on Instagram and Facebook at @TaliaShaperoSleep. Talia regularly posts tips and information, and she offers a free 20-minute, no-obligation call for those struggling with their sleep. Website: https://www.taliashapero.comInstagram: @taliashaperosleep https://www.instagram.com/taliashaperosleepLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/talia-shapero-7a5688a1Facebook: Talia Shapero Adult Sleep Coaching Services https://www.facebook.com/taliashaperosleep Ready to Connect with Greer? "Nurture Neuroscience" Website: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE - "Nurture Your Baby's Stress": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE - "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    12 Min.

  3. 22. Juni

    TAKEAWAYS from Conscious Connections with Tracy Gillett | #57

    What if "spoiling" your baby with affection, attention, and protection is actually the best path to their long-term mental health and success? Tracy Gillett, a natural parent, felt alone in her early parenting choices like full term breastfeeding and bed-sharing. This led her to create the Raised Good summit, offering a community where parents find confidence, education, and support. The summit highlights research and experts, empowering parents to trust their intuition and parent consciously. Key Takeaways Spoil babies with affection, attention, and protection for long-term mental health.Natural parenting, backed by science, empowers trusting your intuition and conscious choices.Find confidence and community through events like the Raised Good online summit.Understanding a child's nervous system helps interpret behavior and promote healthy development.Extended breastfeeding offers immense benefits; let go of societal expectations and embrace it. THIS EPISODE REVISITS THE KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM OUR EPISODE 33 - Conscious Connections: Holistic Baby Care & Family Bonds, with Tracy Gillett - Go listen to the full episode if you want to learn more. Resources Raised Good online summit: https://raisedgood.com Guest Bio: Tracy Gillett is the founder of Raised Good and hosts its sixth annual online summit. As a natural parent, she started the summit to build a community for parents seeking confidence, education, and support in their alternative parenting choices. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    12 Min.

  4. 15. Juni

    TAKEAWAYS from Discipline and Development with Dr Vanessa Lapointe | #56

    Why is traditional discipline actually causing anxiety and behavioral problems in our children? Dr. Vanessa Lapointe began her career as a practicing psychologist and mother, having been trained in a behaviorist approach that taught her to squash any unwanted behavior to make it stop. She quickly noticed a profound mismatch between this training and the reality of the children coming into her clinic. Dr. Lapointe observed that many referrals were anxiety-based, and it seemed that the very discipline methods being employed by parents were actually causing the anxiety and leading to challenging behaviors. This realization prompted her to conduct a deep dive into child development, including studying the work of Gordon Neufeld. Her key transformation involved moving away from punishment-focused methods, recognizing that the "downstream fallout" from harsh discipline creates more disruption in children's lives than a compassionate approach. Dr. Lapointe now operates from the developmentalist perspective, focusing on the antecedent—what happens in the environment before a behavior occurs—rather than the consequence. She explains that because babies' brains are immature and lack the necessary wiring for self-regulation and impulse control, their "bad behaviors" are actually developmentally appropriate expressions of overwhelm or excitement. Dr. Lapointe emphasizes that we must approach parenting with compassion, humanity, and heart, ensuring our children can grow up in the way nature intended, without having to recover from their childhood. Key Takeaways Traditional behaviorist discipline, which focuses on stopping behavior, often leads to negative outcomes like anxiety and continued disruption later in life.Focus on the antecedent (the environment and stressors before the behavior) rather than the consequence (punishment) to nurture healthy development.Misbehavior does not exist; all challenging behavior is simply communication of a child's needs or an underlying stress response.Boundaries for babies should define how we hold ourselves within, not how we keep the baby out or make them wait.Compassionate parenting gives us the opportunity to heal our inner child by retemplating our own childhood experiences and emotional reactions. THIS EPISODE REVISITS THE KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM OUR EPISODE 46 - Discipline and Development: The Zero to Three Guide feat. Dr. Vanessa Lapointe - Go listen to the full episode if you want to learn more. ResourcesBooks:Discipline Without DamageParenting Right From the Starthttps://drvanessalapointe.com/child-discipline-booksWebsite: https://drvanessalapointe.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanessalapointeInstagram: @dr.vanessalapointe https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointeX (Twitter) https://x.com/DrVlapointe Guest Bio: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is a mom, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. She holds a doctoral degree in psychology, and practiced as a psychologist for nearly 20 years, before devoting her full-time energy to connecting with parents and other “big people” around the globe in 2023. Founder of The North Star Developmental Clinic, Dr. Vanessa has long been supporting families and children in her developmental clinic alongside her team, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system. Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    12 Min.

  5. 8. Juni

    The Roots of Resilience: Healing Birth Trauma feat. Annie Brook | #55

    How do the first impressions of birth and early infancy shape our nervous systems and relationships for a lifetime? Annie Brook is a somatic psychotherapist and educator who helps families understand the profound impact that birth and early caregiving have on lifelong wellbeing. Growing up as a premature baby herself, Annie spent time in an incubator and later navigated infant depression and sensory-motor difficulties. Her personal journey of healing led her to discover that the body holds memories of birth trauma long after they are "forgotten" by the conscious mind. In this episode, Annie explains that babies have no context for medical interventions or difficult births, which can leave deep impressions on the primitive brain, showing up as fears of abandonment or invasion. Through her work, she helps children and adults tell their "birth story" using somatic tools, play therapy, and movement. By unwinding these early impacts, parents can move from guilt to understanding, allowing for a fresh approach to behavior and deep relational healing. Key Takeaways Birth is an impactful memory phase that shapes the nervous system, even if the conscious mind doesn't remember the event.Difficult behaviors in children, such as hypersensitivity or being "clingy," are often communication of a buried birth story.Somatic psychotherapy helps adults and children access and release early trauma by focusing on the "felt sense" of the body.Birth trauma often affects the "relational field," influencing how we connect with parents and partners throughout our lives.Healing begins with non-judgmental listening and helping the "baby self" know it is no longer alone. Resources Annie Brook's Website: https://www.anniebrook.comThe Brook Institute on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebrookinstituteAnnie Brook's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anniebrooktherapyAnnie Brook's YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@thebrookinstitutewithannie9097 Guest Bio: Annie Brook, Ph.D, LPC, MSME (ISMETA), is a therapist, author, and educator in the somatic community. She founded the Brook Institute for Somatic Studies and Psychotherapy in 2001 and specializes in helping adults and children get to the roots of difficult behaviors by unwinding the impacts of birth on the nervous system. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    30 Min.

  6. 1. Juni

    The Healing Power of Nurturing Touch and Infant Massage feat. Sylvie Hetu | #54

    How can the simple act of infant massage transform your baby's health and your bond forever? Sylvie Hétu has spent over 30 years leading the way for infant massage around the world. Her journey is tied to the story of Vimala McClure, who saw the power of touch in an orphanage in India. Sylvie realized that this old tradition could solve a big problem today: many babies aren't touched enough and spend too much time in car seats or strollers. She helps parents who feel lost or shy when they bring a new baby home. She uses a gentle, five-session plan to help parents move from feeling worried to feeling sure of themselves. Her work changed how we think about baby care by focusing on love and talking through touch rather than just worrying about sleep or food. She builds a safe place where parents can find a "village" of support again. This allows them to listen to their own gut feelings and see their babies as real people from day one. We think her story shows how simple touch can build a foundation for a healthy life. Key Takeaways Massage helps a baby's body work better and helps them sleep longer by lowering their stress levels.IAIM classes use a slow approach so parents can learn at their own pace and feel more confident.Nurturing touch is like a first language that helps parents understand the subtle signals their babies are sending.These classes bring parents together to create a supportive community and fight the feeling of being alone.Parents can start right now with "resting hands" to help calm their baby and feel closer to them. Resources International Association of Infant Massage Website: https://iaim.net International Association of Infant Massage Canada Website: https://www.iaim-aimbcanada.org Guest Bio: Sylvie Hétu is an international trainer and certified infant massage instructor with the International Association of Infant Massage (IAIM) for over 30 years. She pioneered infant massage in Canada and has taught in countries all over the world, including South Africa, Japan, and Hungary. She also served as the president of the IAIM for 12 years. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum/ FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    36 Min.

  7. 25. Mai

    The Womb as the First Home: Shaping Lifelong Mental Health feat. Dr Catherine Monk | #53

    How does a mother’s internal world during pregnancy shape a child’s lifelong mental health? Dr. Catherine Monk began her career as a clinical psychologist driven by a deep interest in development. She wanted to understand how our early backgrounds shape who we become as adults. This curiosity led her to the epigenetics revolution, where she discovered that experiences actually get embedded into our biology. Her personal journey was also shaped by seeing her own mother struggle with significant postpartum depression. This experience fueled her passion to become a pioneer in the field of maternal mental health. She faced the challenge of a medical system that traditionally focused only on a baby’s anatomy rather than their brain development. Dr. Monk worked hard to bridge the gap between psychology and obstetrics to show that the fetus is not passive. Her key transformation involved proving that the womb is truly the first influential home. She emphasizes that maternal well-being is the foundation for a baby’s stress and emotional regulation systems. Today, she helps parents find their own agency through simple buffering tools. Her goal is to ensure that the next generation gets the best start possible through science and compassion. Key Takeaways The fetus is an active participant in development, responding constantly to the mother’s internal biological and emotional signals.Incredible brain activity occurs in utero, with 40,000 new synapses forming every second during the peak of the third trimester.Maternal stress can alter the connectivity between the amygdala and prefrontal cortex, affecting a child's future emotional regulation.Unpredictable or chaotic maternal mood signals in pregnancy can prime the fetus’s sensory systems to be overly vigilant.We can buffer stress by practicing mindfulness, using a worry book for sleep, and focusing on our capacity to be alone. Resources Dr. Catherine Monk at Columbia University: https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/profile/catherine-e-monk-phd Perinatal Pathways Laboratory Website: https://www.perinatalpathways.org Dr. Catherine Monk's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-monk-1956473 Guest Bio: Catherine Monk, PhD, is the inaugural Diana Vagelos Professor of Women’s Mental Health in the Department of Obstetrics & Gynecology and Professor of Medical Psychology in the Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons and Research Scientist VI at the New York State Psychiatric Institute. Dr. Monk is also the founding director of Women’s Mental Health @Ob/Gyn. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    37 Min.

  8. 18. Mai

    Pregnancy After Loss: Finding Connection in the Midst of Fear feat. Kristin Mundy | #52

    How can we continue to mother our children and find deep connection even after experiencing profound loss? Kristin Mundy was born to be a doula. She started as a "mother's helper" when she was just a kid and spent years working in education and as a nanny. About eight years ago, she felt a "light bulb moment" and decided to become a full-time doula. Her life and career changed forever when she went through her own heartbreaking journey of loss. After a miscarriage and the stillbirth of her daughter, Vienna, Kristen realized that our society really drops the ball when it comes to supporting grieving parents. She faced the massive challenge of navigating a medical system that didn't always listen and a world that is often afraid of grief. She then went through another loss with her son, William, before eventually welcoming her rainbow baby daughter. These experiences led to a major transformation in her work. She shifted her focus to bereavement and pregnancy after loss, helping other moms navigate the "gap in care" she experienced herself. Kristen learned that even when a baby isn't here physically, you never stop being their mother. She chose to bond deeply with her babies despite the fear, and she now helps others find that same connection. She teaches us that grief is just love with nowhere to go. By sharing her story, she gives mothers permission to take up space and honor their unique paths to healing. Key Takeaways Grief is essentially love that has nowhere to go, and it is vital to acknowledge this deep connection even after a loss.Mothers have full permission to continue mothering their children who have passed by creating rituals, memories, and space for them in the family.Pregnancy after loss is a unique trauma that requires specialized support to help mothers manage valid fears and anxieties every single day.Connection with a baby is possible and important even during a high-risk pregnancy because that time together is a miracle regardless of the outcome.Finding a village that can sit with you in your pain is essential because society often struggles to support those navigating profound grief. Resources The Doula Life's Website: https://www.thedoulalife.ca The Doula Life's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.doula.life Guest Bio: Kristin Mundy is a doula who specializes in bereavement and pregnancy after loss. She is also a childbirth educator, a loss mom, and a mother of a rainbow baby. She has been a full-time doula for over eight years and is dedicated to bridging the gaps in care for mothers navigating loss and the journey thereafter. Ready to Connect with Greer?"Nurture Neuroscience" Website:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting":https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book:https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution

    39 Min.
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As a mom, neuroscientist, and a long time expert to parents, almost every expert has it wrong when they say 'don't spoil your baby.' Up until the age of 3, your only job is to spoil your baby with affection, attention, and protection. I promise you it's the best chance for the long term mental health and success of your child. On my podcast, I will interview the leading experts to explain why you need to SPOIL YOUR BABY as well as those that may disagree for a spirited debate. I will also give you the most up to date science-backed tools and tips that will help you to raise your baby for lifelong health and success.

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