86. Beyond Anxious/Avoidant: Real Skills for Real Love w/ Jack Bohannan

Why do we keep attracting the same relationship dynamics—and how do we change them? 

This week, Cat sits down with relationship guide, Jack Bohannan, to reframe attachment theory as a useful map rather than an identity. We unpack why “you attract your unfinished business,” the value of disappointment, and how somatic cues can point to truer boundaries, needs, and desire. 

Jack’s Somatica-informed approach focuses on creating safe, new relational experiences so your body can learn a different outcome. Expect nuance on masculine/feminine without boxes, sovereignty inside commitment, and keeping attraction alive by giving each other space to grow.

We cover:

• Attachment styles as guidance, not destiny
• Relational reflexes, upper limits, and self-sabotage
• Reading the body: contraction vs. openness as a compass
• Friendship, difference, and long-term desire
• Discernment: what’s mine, what’s theirs, and what to name out loud

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