62 episodes

100% real talk with your two new Korean adoptee besties! Hana and Ryan, Korean adoptees from Melbourne, Australia, talk about anything and everything adoption related, including race, gender, birth family search and reunion, and more.

Original podcast music by Domus.

Adopted Feels Hana and Ryan

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 21 Ratings

100% real talk with your two new Korean adoptee besties! Hana and Ryan, Korean adoptees from Melbourne, Australia, talk about anything and everything adoption related, including race, gender, birth family search and reunion, and more.

Original podcast music by Domus.

    Eli Harwood (aka Attachment Nerd) on Adoption, Attachment and How to Heal

    Eli Harwood (aka Attachment Nerd) on Adoption, Attachment and How to Heal

    You may know Eli Harwood from her popular Instagram account Attachment Nerd, but what you may not know is that Eli is also a brilliant adoption-competent therapist who spent two years living in Seoul working with Korean adoptees at the beginning of her career. (And you can trust us, adoption-competent therapists are our jam!)

    We talk about how Eli ended up working with the international adoption community, the barriers for some adoptive parents in supporting adoptees, what kinds of stuff can come up when adoptees spend time in our birth countries, childhood trauma and attachment wounds, and finally, the importance of hope in the healing process.

    A licensed therapist, author, and educator, Eli has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Her new book, Securely Attached, a guided workbook to help heal insecure attachment patterns, is now available. Eli also has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants!

    • 1 hr 5 min
    Where the hell have Hana & Ryan been? Awkward musings on failure, transitions, & big life choices

    Where the hell have Hana & Ryan been? Awkward musings on failure, transitions, & big life choices

    It’s been a minute but we’re back! And we’ve missed you! Catch up with us from Hana’s car as we reflect on the past year, and have an (awkward but very real) convo about career changes, perceived failure, and navigating big life transitions.

    • 26 min
    Conversations with Friends: Part 1 with Leah Nichols

    Conversations with Friends: Part 1 with Leah Nichols

    Friendship might seem like a random topic for an adoptee podcast, and this series - of which the current episode is the first - is an experiment, tbh, like a lot of things we do here. But lately we’ve been thinking about it a lot.

    Maybe it’s because of the pandemic and the isolation that many of us felt, maybe it’s because Hana moved to Korea and had to make new friends - multiple times, or maybe it’s because of a larger cultural conversation around the role of friendship in our lives, alongside and in addition to fulfilling romantic and familial relationships. Friendship is also at the heart of our podcast - for 3 years now, we have been interviewing people, writing and recording stuff as a way of continuing our own conversations about adoption (and other random shit) over thousands of miles.

    In this conversation, the three of us talk about how we define a friend, what friendship means to us, what it takes to maintain friendships, whether it’s harder to make new friends as you get older, and more.

    Korean adoptee Leah 양진 Nichols is an award-winning filmmaker and designer currently based in Seoul. She works to expand models of kinship, increase access to collective histories, and champion the compatibility of trauma and joy. She is best known for her short film 73 Questions (2017) which won the 2018 Social Impact Media Awards (SIMA) Creative Activism Award.

    • 1 hr 1 min
    Susan Stam wants you to stay with your feelings... just a little longer

    Susan Stam wants you to stay with your feelings... just a little longer

    What are you afraid to feel? Fear? Sadness? Anger? Whatever it is, adoptee coach Susan Stam (강선영) wants you to stay with it. And then stay with it a little longer.

    Adopted from Korea at the age of 4 years and 7 months to the Netherlands, Susan works as a coach specialising in relinquishment and adoption-related issues with AFC (Adoptee and Foster Care) Netherlands, founded by Hilbrand Westra (our Episode 17 guest!). But the path to becoming a coach wasn’t easy; Susan struggled with her own issues, including a hypersensitivity to rejection so strong that she could "smell it", relationship addiction, and insomnia - issues that only started to heal after she became conscious of her relinquishment and adoption trauma.

    In this conversation, Susan talks about her own journey and then shares some strategies for when we feel triggered, for getting out of our heads and into our bodies, for learning to connect to our feelings rather than numbing or pushing them away, and for setting boundaries when you’re a self-confessed people pleaser. And then, Susan catches us off guard by turning the questions back on us, and we both get real about some shit!

    Get ready for vulnerability, feels, and some super practical tips that we hope you will find useful!

    To learn more or to get in touch with Susan, visit
    www.afcnederland.nl

    Bonus gifts from Susan!
     
    Susan’s personal k-pop playlist:
    https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3fdlzhOhucBpEgyGPWE4xG?si=73a55990c17e4c9d
     
    Susan’s go-to kimchi jjigae recipe:
    Susan uses Maangchi’s recipe (http://www.maangchi.com/recipe/kimchi-jjigae) with a few tweaks:
    • Always make your own stock!
    • Substitute red radish if you don’t have Korean radish or daikon radish
    • Use preserved anchovies in oil instead of salt (to taste)
    • Omit sugar

    • 1 hr 18 min
    Ra Chapman is changing the Australian arts scene, one production at a time

    Ra Chapman is changing the Australian arts scene, one production at a time

    We had SO MUCH FUN with this guest and we think you will too. Korean-Australian adoptee Ra Chapman is a writer, actor and dramaturg. She has strong ties with the adoption community and works closely with Asian-Australian and diverse artists.

    Ra is one of those people who has been on our list of guests to invite for a long time, but we were just waiting for the right moment—and here it is! Ra’s debut play, K-BOX, which won the 2021 Patrick White Playwright Award, will premiere at the Malthouse Theatre next month (and we are so freakin’ proud of her!).

    K-BOX is a surreal comedy with an Australian Korean adoptee main character named Lucy. Lucy has just quit her job, dumped her boyfriend, and turned up on her adoptive parents' doorstep needing somewhere to crash. She's depressed, she's a mess, and she's stumbled across an old cardboard box that was once full of childhood memories but is now completely empty.

    Lucy and her parents haven’t always seen eye to eye on everything, but when a K-Pop star mysteriously wanders into their lives and starts asking destabilising questions about her Korean roots, new fault lines are exposed in the family unit that become impossible to hide.

    In this episode Ra talks about the inspiration for K-BOX, as well as her transition from acting to writing. Then Ra shares her experience as an Asian Australian actor and writer, and her thoughts on diversity and representation in the Australian arts scene. Plus, we make our acting debut reading a short excerpt from K-BOX, we learn some industry lingo, such as “meat puppet”, and much more.

    K-BOX opens at the Malthouse Theatre, in Melbourne, Australia on 2nd September 2022. Book tickets here! https://www.malthousetheatre.com.au/tickets/malthouse-theatre/k-box/

    • 1 hr 10 min
    Hana's Korean language learning journey: 10 lessons

    Hana's Korean language learning journey: 10 lessons

    Today we're in for a treat! An outcome of some gentle encouragement from me (Ryan), in this episode Hana shares a beautifully written account of her Korean language learning journey thus far. In the loose form of a listicle - because we can't resist a good list on this podcast - here's 10 'lessons' Hana has learned about, well, learning one's original language as an adoptee, how it differs from learning a foreign language as a hobby, the frustrations and joys, the pressures and the rewards. And of course, on brand, this episode gets deep into some feels.

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
21 Ratings

21 Ratings

SaySeo ,

Invaluable to the Adoptee Community

Hana & Ryan have great chemistry while navigating a whole range of complex adoptee topics with care and respect. As credit to their current and previous contributions to the adoptee network, they are able to host some really amazing guests who help us understand a broad cross-section of adoptee feels.

SFAus88 ,

Incredible

I don’t say this lightly, hearing stories of other adoptees and Hana’s and Ryan’s personal experiences has been life changing.

Clari2612 ,

Where have you been all my life?

Thank you with all my heart. Your podcast is amazing and has filled a space in my heart. I am learning so much and also nodding my head to the experiences you and your guests have shared. You are incredibly generous to openly and honestly share your stories and the stories of others.

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