Do You F*cking Mind?

Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR . 

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    481. The Neuroscience of Self Control

    Why do we have incredible self-control in some areas of life… and absolutely none in others? In this neuroscience episode, we break down what self-control actually is in the brain, and why it can disappear the moment stress, distraction, or emotional conflict enters the picture. We start with a quick brain fact explaining the difference between adrenaline and noradrenaline (also known as epinephrine and norepinephrine) and how these stress chemicals activate the sympathetic nervous system and the fight-or-flight response. Then we dive into the neuroscience of self-control: • What self-control actually means from a brain perspective • Why self-control is a diminishing mental resource • How stress chemicals weaken the brain’s control systems • The push-pull relationship between the prefrontal cortex (your control centre) and the limbic system (your emotional and impulse system) • Why stress and anxiety can shut down the brain circuits responsible for conscious self-control • The role of the anterior cingulate cortex in monitoring internal conflict and willpower I also explore why self-control isn’t about learning new skills, it’s about directing yourself to do things you are already capable of doing. Finally, we look at evidence-based ways to strengthen self-control in everyday life: • Regulating emotions instead of suppressing them • Re-internalising awareness and paying attention to internal conflict • Why meditation improves self-control by strengthening attention and self-awareness • The role of delayed gratification in reducing procrastination • How small daily actions can train the brain to make better decisions If you’ve ever wondered why motivation fluctuates, why stress makes discipline disappear, or how to build stronger habits, this episode explains the neuroscience behind it. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    45 min

  2. 5 DAYS AGO

    480. My sister is overbearing, and how do I know for sure I have chosen the right path?

    Bonjour! On this headnoise episode I answer three of your questions. I cover: How to deal with an overbearing sister who tries to act like a second parent and belittle constantly. How to know for sure if you are on the right path after quitting uni for a different life. How to know if you should move back with your ex, the father of your children, when your relationship is great but you are no longer in love with him AT ALL. Thank you for sending in the questions and keep them coming! send them to info@dyfmpod.com Danke! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    32 min

  3. 1 MAR

    479. What does it really take to know someone? Important questions to ask yourself

    What does it ACTUALLY take to know someone? Can you ever know a person outside of the role they play in your relationship with them? If someone deceives you, does that mean you never really knew them in the first place? And why does chemistry so often convince us we understand someone far more deeply than we actually do? In this episode, I talk about the illusion of knowing and why familiarity, attraction, and emotional intensity can create a false sense of closeness. I dive into limerence, the strange dynamics of online dating, and the way modern dating shows sell us a version of connection that looks convincing… but rarely reflects healthy love in the real world. Let’s goooooo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    35 min

  4. 26 FEB

    478. Is it a red flag, should I pivot and why am I such a people pleaser (Headnoise)

    It's Voice Message headnoise day! I answer 3 of your Voice Messages you sent in! If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠info@dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    25 min

  5. 24 FEB

    477. I'm dating a man 17 years older, how do I get my family to accept? + I'm terrified to lose my best friend to a relationship - Head Noise

    Head Noise: I’m Losing My Best Friend & My Partner Is 17 Years Older Than Me In this Head Noise episode, we talk about two situations that can quietly reshape your relationships — friendship change and family judgement. First, how do you deal with the fear of losing your best friend when they enter a new relationship? We explore: Why the friendship changing doesn’t mean the love is gone How trying to control or hold on too tightly can push someone away The difference between close and codependent friendships Why fear can damage something that doesn’t need fixing How to genuinely be happy for your friend when their life evolves Then, what happens when your partner is 17 years older and your family isn’t on board? i go into: Learning to live with family disappointment Why their concern often comes from protection, not rejection The importance of keeping them in the loop Why telling them sooner rather than later makes things easier This episode is about allowing relationships to evolve without trying to force certainty, and learning to stay grounded even when others don’t fully understand your choices. As always, Head Noise is about responding thoughtfully instead of reacting from fear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    31 min

  6. 22 FEB

    476. How to keep the spark alive in a relationship (or create one from scratch)

    Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    38 min

  7. 19 FEB

    475. My friends fiancé crossed a line, can I let go of resentment and I am a delayed gratification addict (Headnoise)

    If you would like to send in a question email please email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠info@dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ dyfmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DYFM Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Group  Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doyoufkingmind⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠on IG   Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dyfmpodcast⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠alexisfernandezpreiksa⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexispredez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on IG    Follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mindsetrecreationclub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on TT Order your Brain Journal here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mindsetrecreationclub.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    29 min

  8. 17 FEB

    474. My Partner Trauma Dumps And I Don't Know If I Can Stay, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict - Head Noise

    Head Noise: My Partner Trauma Dumps, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict In this Head Noise episode, we unpack three listener dilemmas that all come down to boundaries, self-perception, and finding your voice when things feel overwhelming. We talk about: Whether to stay with a partner who constantly trauma dumps — and how to figure out if the relationship is actually sustainable long-term What imposter syndrome really is at a new job, and how to rewrite your self-talk so it becomes realistic and empowering instead of self-sabotaging Why some people freeze during confrontation, and how to start responding instead of shutting down This episode covers: Emotional compatibility vs emotional exhaustion in relationships Determining if your needs are being met — not just if you care about someone Reframing “I’m a fraud” thinking into grounded, self-supportive internal dialogue The psychology behind conflict freeze responses How to make decisions that protect your energy and long-term wellbeing If you’ve ever felt drained by someone you love, doubted your place at work, or struggled to speak up when it matters, this one will resonate. As always, Head Noise is about cutting through emotional overwhelm so you can make clearer, calmer decisions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    30 min
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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR . 

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  • Creator
    Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    582
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Do You F*cking Mind?

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