The Subconscious Expert

Rebecca Haydon, Mindset Coach & NLP Trainer

The Subconscious Expert is a podcast about the subconscious mind, identity and self leadership for powerfully ambitious women who know what they want next and are ready to become the version of themselves who can actually hold it. You’re doing well, your business works, you’re smart, driven and you already know a lot and yet, behind the scenes, you can feel that something about the way you’ve been operating doesn’t quite fit anymore. Maybe consistency still feels harder than it should, maybe success feels heavier as things grow, maybe you lead everyone else powerfully, but struggle to lead yourself with the same clarity and self trust or maybe you can feel a bigger level calling you, and you want to meet it without burning out, overthinking, or losing yourself in the process. This podcast is for that moment. I’m your host, Rebecca Haydon NLP Trainer and Subconscious Business Mentor. I work with the subconscious side of business growth, identity, and leadership. I work with women building businesses at different stages and the patterns underneath are rarely as different as you’d expect. What’s happening at a subconscious level is what we work with here. Each week on The Subconscious Expert, we unpack subconscious patterns, identity shifts, and self-leadership skills that shape how you: • lead yourself • make decisions • handle responsibility and visibility • hold more success • sustain the level you’re stepping into These episodes are grounded, practical conversations rooted in NLP, subconscious work and leadership, supporting you to trust yourself more, feel clearer about what to do, and lead in a way that actually feels solid to live inside. This is the kind of work that shortens the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, the kind that changes how you show up day to day and the kind that lets your next level feel like something you can stand in. If you’re ready to build a life and business that matches who you’re becoming, you’re in the right place. New episodes weekly. You can connect with me on Instagram @_rebeccahaydon_ and if you want to explore working together, visit rebeccahaydon.com.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    268. Always the Most Capable One? That Might Be Your Mindset Block!

    Mindset blocks don't always look like fear or doubt. Sometimes they look like being the most capable person in the room. Laurie came to me as a self-described "anti woo-woo" woman who had no interest in the fluffy mindset stuff. She wanted someone to tell her what to do so she could tick it off and move on. But she also knew something was off. The reps weren’t converting. The results weren’t matching the effort. And deep down, she suspected the problem was her. What did we find? Patterns she’d been running since she was six years old. A need to appear capable at all times. A refusal to accept help that went so deep she’d wrestle with jars alone rather than ask her partner sitting two feet away. In this client success story, Laurie shares how doing parts work changed her business, her capacity to receive, and, unexpectedly, her entire personal life. She sold her flat. She met someone. Got a Rottweiler. And she used to be terrified of even the smallest, fluffiest dogs. But the bit that surprised her most? That’s what we will get into in today’s episode! Topics covered on Mindset Blocks:What happens when you're doing all the right things, but your mindset blocks are silently running the show?Why did a 6-year-old version of Laurie start packing her own bags, and how was that pattern still controlling her business decades later?What does being a "hyper-independent woman" actually cost you in business and relationships?Can parts work actually resonate with someone who doesn't really believe in mindset work?When does ambition stop helping you and start working against you?What does refusing help with small things reveal about how you run your business?How did removing one mindset block lead to selling a flat, a new relationship, and a Rottweiler? Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Connect with Laurie Macpherson:Website: www.lauriemacpherson.comLinkedIn: Laurie MacphersonInstagram: a...

    40 min
  2. 3 FEB

    267. Your Identity Shift Feels Like Sh*t? Good. Keep Going!

    You did the work. You made the identity shifts. So why does becoming your "higher self" feel less like power and more like... boredom? Or grief? Or just plain weird? Here's what no one tells you about an identity shift: it doesn't always feel good. Sometimes it feels like death. And that space between your old identity and who you're becoming? I call it the void. And it's where I see so many people quit, not because the work isn't working, but because unfamiliar feels unsafe. In today's episode, I'm getting into what's actually happening beneath the surface when you're in the void. Why your nervous system might be pulling you back to chaos (even when you wanted calm). Why that "bored" feeling might actually be your true self showing up. And I'm walking you through NLP techniques and subconscious reprogramming practices to anchor into your next-level identity when the self sabotage behaviour kicks in. If you've been doing the deep work and wondering why it feels harder than everyone makes it look... This one's for you! Topics covered on Identity Shifts: Why does stepping out of your comfort zone feel like something's wrong with you?What is "the void" and why do so many people quit right before their identity shift clicks?Why does your old identity get louder the closer you get to change?Is that "bored" feeling actually your nervous system recalibrating? Or have you lost your spark?How do you stop self sabotaging when your brain keeps pulling you back to old patterns?What does parts work look like when a protective part won't go quietly?Which NLP techniques actually help you anchor a new identity (not just visualise it)?Why has your success been built on panic? And what happens when you finally create safety? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/your-identity-shift-feels-like-sht-good-keep-going

    28 min
  3. 27 JAN

    266. Your Subconscious Mind Has an Identity Ceiling and Here's How to Find It

    Your income cycles between the same numbers every month. £3K, £7K, £2K, £8K, repeat. You get momentum for two weeks, then something drops on day 15. Every single time. You can post three times a week comfortably, but four posts triggers "this is too much." You think these patterns are random, they're not. Your subconscious has an identity ceiling and that ceiling has specific numbers, trigger points and thresholds where your brain reads "threat" and creates the drop to bring you back. In today's episode I'm breaking down the exact mechanism behind your identity ceiling, why your subconscious keeps snapping you back to almost there, and how to find your specific numbers so you can finally see what's been running the show. I'm showing you how studies prove that 70% of lottery winners lose their windfall within a few years because their identity didn't catch up to the money, and why the same mechanism is cycling your income, consistency, and visibility. This episode is about awareness. We're making the invisible visible. So grab something to write with, because you're finding your numbers today. Because you can't reprogram your identity ceiling until you can see where it's sitting. Let's break the pattern. Topics covered on Your Identity Ceiling Has a Number: Why your income cycling, consistency drops, and visibility pull backs aren't random (and what's actually creating them)How your subconscious operates like an elastic band, constantly snapping you back to your identity anchor pointThe real reason 70% of lottery winners lose their money within a few years (and why the same mechanism is running your business)Why your capability has nothing to do with your ceiling (and what actually determines where you stay stuck)How to find your three numbers: income anchor, consistency anchor, and visibility anchorWhat happens in your brain when you exceed your identity ceiling (and why it reads as threat)Why awareness of your ceiling changes everything before you even reprogram it Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

    30 min
  4. 20 JAN

    265. Stalking Her IG Again? Stop Comparing Yourself to Others With This NLP Technique

    You're scrolling Instagram again. You see her. The one who's always launching something new, making the kind of money you want, living the life you dream about. And before you know it, you're 45 minutes deep comparing yourself to others, analysing their content, checking their engagement, and feeling heavy as hell. This comparison spiral is not costing you only time but your self trust, your self belief, and your ability to build the business you actually want. In today's episode I'm breaking down the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in comparison mode, what it's doing to your subconscious mind, and an NLP technique called perceptual positions that completely flips the pattern. I'm showing you how to rewire your brain to use other people's success as evidence for what's possible, instead of proof that you're not enough. This episode is different! We're doing the technique together, so find somewhere you can actually do this work. Because successful women entrepreneurs aren't the ones constantly checking what everyone else is doing. They're the ones backing themselves fully. Let's break the pattern. Topics covered on Stop Comparing Yourself To Others: Why comparing yourself to others is actually your subconscious keeping you safe (and what it's really protecting you from)The three limiting beliefs driving your comparison spiral and how they're teaching your subconscious you can't be trustedHow comparison destroys your self belief and keeps you invisible (even when you think you're being productive)The exact NLP technique I use to flip comparison into evidenceWhy studying successful women entrepreneurs from the wrong place keeps you stuck in "learning mode" foreverHow to rewire your brain to interpret other people's success as proof it's possible for you tooWhat becomes available when you stop checking what she's doing and start building self trust instead Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-this-nlp-technique

    24 min
  5. 13 JAN

    264. Why Self Belief Is More Important Than Strategy (Subconscious Secrets)

    There's one trait I see in every genuinely successful entrepreneur I work with and it's not what you think. It's not strategy, work ethic, or even talent. It's deep, subconscious self belief that operates independently of circumstances. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self belief actually is (versus what most people think it is), the subconscious mechanism behind it, why most capable people don't have it, and exactly how to build it if you don't have it yet. Plus, I'm taking you through a powerful subconscious exercise to uncover what's actually blocking you from trusting yourself fully. This is the foundational work that changes everything in your business. Topics covered on Why self belief is the defining trait of successful entrepreneurs: What self belief actually is versus confidence (and why the difference matters)The subconscious mechanism behind self belief and how threat responses show up in businessReal examples of how self belief (or lack of it) shows up in business behaviourWhy incredibly capable people still don't trust themselvesThe role of identity in self-belief and why you'll sabotage anything that contradicts your current identitySubconscious exercise: Uncovering your actual beliefs about your goalsHow to build genuine self belief through evidence accumulation and subconscious reprogrammingWhat becomes possible when you develop deep self trust Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-self-belief-is-more-important-than-strategy-subconscious-secrets

    34 min
  6. 09/12/2025

    261. Why Manifestation Isn’t Magic... It’s Just Good Subconscious Programming

    Are you writing your affirmations 55 times a day and wondering why nothing's changed? Let me tell you something... Yes, manifestation techniques work, but not for the reasons TikTok tells you. It’s just good old subconscious programming. In today's episode, I'm breaking down the viral manifestation methods everyone on TikTok is obsessed with right now: the 369 manifestation method, future journaling, vision boards, the 55x5 method, and acting as if. I'm going to tell you how manifestation works and explain what's actually happening in your brain when you do these manifestation techniques because it's not the ritual that creates the magic but the good old subconscious mind programming. So next time someone tells you they scripted their dream partner and he showed up in three weeks, you'll know it wasn’t moon dust. It was the neuroscience of manifestation. I'm not here to kill the magic. I want you to keep it. But I also want you to stop outsourcing your power to a ritual and start using your mind like the powerful tool it actually is. Because when you understand the mechanics, you stop waiting for alignment and you start creating it. Topics covered on Why Manifestation Isn’t Magic... It’s Just Good Subconscious Programming: How does the 369 manifestation method actually work, and when does it completely fail?What’s happening in your brain when you’re scripting or doing future journaling, and why are most people doing it wrong?Why is your vision board collecting dust instead of creating results?Is the 55x5 method just a short-term dopamine hit?How does "acting as if" become embodied instead of just pretending (yes, your nervous system knows the difference)?What is your reticular activating system, and what role does it play in every manifestation technique?What’s the actual process that creates lasting results, and how is it different from viral manifestation methods? Connect with Rebecca Haydon: Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTube Find the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-manifestation-isnt-magic-its-just-good-subconscious-programming

    28 min
4.9
out of 5
19 Ratings

About

The Subconscious Expert is a podcast about the subconscious mind, identity and self leadership for powerfully ambitious women who know what they want next and are ready to become the version of themselves who can actually hold it. You’re doing well, your business works, you’re smart, driven and you already know a lot and yet, behind the scenes, you can feel that something about the way you’ve been operating doesn’t quite fit anymore. Maybe consistency still feels harder than it should, maybe success feels heavier as things grow, maybe you lead everyone else powerfully, but struggle to lead yourself with the same clarity and self trust or maybe you can feel a bigger level calling you, and you want to meet it without burning out, overthinking, or losing yourself in the process. This podcast is for that moment. I’m your host, Rebecca Haydon NLP Trainer and Subconscious Business Mentor. I work with the subconscious side of business growth, identity, and leadership. I work with women building businesses at different stages and the patterns underneath are rarely as different as you’d expect. What’s happening at a subconscious level is what we work with here. Each week on The Subconscious Expert, we unpack subconscious patterns, identity shifts, and self-leadership skills that shape how you: • lead yourself • make decisions • handle responsibility and visibility • hold more success • sustain the level you’re stepping into These episodes are grounded, practical conversations rooted in NLP, subconscious work and leadership, supporting you to trust yourself more, feel clearer about what to do, and lead in a way that actually feels solid to live inside. This is the kind of work that shortens the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, the kind that changes how you show up day to day and the kind that lets your next level feel like something you can stand in. If you’re ready to build a life and business that matches who you’re becoming, you’re in the right place. New episodes weekly. You can connect with me on Instagram @_rebeccahaydon_ and if you want to explore working together, visit rebeccahaydon.com.

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