Has sexual intimacy become viewed as "optional" in your marriage? If your spouse came to you before you got married and said "Just so you know, when we are married, I am never going to be sexual intimate with you" would you have still got married? Of course not, because BOTH men and women know that sexual intimacy is vital to a happy and healthy marriage. So why do some many people (low desire spouses) treat sex as "optional" after they get married? So many good husbands reach out to us sharing a similar frustration: they constantly hear that emotional intimacy comes first, so they work hard to meet their spouse's emotional needs. They help around the house, become more intentional with communication, plan date nights, show affection, attend counseling, read books, listen to podcasts, and genuinely try to become a better husband. Yet despite all their efforts, little or nothing changes when it comes to the sexual connection in their marriage. Over time, many of these husbands begin to feel discouraged, rejected, and confused. They wonder why they are putting so much effort into the relationship while their desire for greater sexual intimacy seems to remain unmet. Some feel as though sexual intimacy has become "optional" in marriage and that they have slowly been transformed from a husband into an errand-running roommate who has been placed into the "friend zone." Recently, we received a powerful email from a listener who expressed these exact feelings after spending years investing time, energy, and money into improving his marriage. His message resonated because it reflects the reality and frustration that many spouses experience but often don't know how to talk about. In this week's episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we read portions of his email and dive into this difficult but important conversation. Why do so many husbands feel like they are doing everything they've been told to do, yet still feel disconnected sexually? Has the message of emotional intimacy been misunderstood? Is emotional connection always the missing piece, or are there times when other issues need to be addressed? What responsibility does each spouse have in creating a thriving intimate relationship? Join us as we discuss these questions, share our thoughts on the listener's concerns, and talk about how couples can move beyond frustration, resentment, and unmet expectations to create a marriage where both emotional and sexual intimacy are valued, prioritized, and nurtured. 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE. 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!
