Soberly Speaking

Julia Rangiheuea
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

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  1. 1 day ago

    Addiction Is the Language of Pain with Psychotherapist Paula Williams

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  This week, I’m joined by award-winning psychotherapist Paula Williams to explore why we can continue behaviours we know aren’t good for us, even when we desperately want to change. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), Paula explains the different parts of ourselves and why one part can want to let go while another still clings to a behaviour. We discuss people-pleasing, replacing one addiction with another, relapse and the ways addiction can shape an entire family system across generations. And what does recovery look like when sobriety is no longer the end goal, but the beginning? Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    Addiction Is the Language of Pain with Psychotherapist Paula Williams

  2. 6 days ago • Subscribers Only

    The Policewoman Who Found Recovery (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  Nisha calls herself The Cockney Copper on social media. She’s a police officer, and the first I’ve ever had on Soberly Speaking. Nisha grew up as a South Asian woman where generational trauma was never spoken about. Emotions were swept under the rug, and keeping up appearances was everything. When she felt like she didn’t belong, alcohol became her way of finding connection. Even after getting sober, that feeling returned when she joined the police force and found herself surrounded by work drinks and socialising. Eventually, she relapsed. We talk about relapse, how to emotionally regulate when your job exposes you to some of the darkest parts of the world every day, and how Nisha navigated recovery through miscarriage and baby loss.

Follow Nisha on Instagram: @cockneycopper Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    The Policewoman Who Found Recovery (Subscriber Exclusive)

  3. 16 Aug

    Debt, Multiple Relapses & Going All In on AA: Alex’s Story

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  “I was a horizontal drinker” Alex’s relationship with alcohol and substances had always been extreme, but when a business partner left him tens of thousands of dollars in debt, the financial pressure catapulted his drinking and coke use to another level. Before long, he was hiding whiskey under his pillow so he could wake up, drink, and pass out again. Alex’s journey with sobriety has been anything but linear. After becoming physically dependent on alcohol, he suffered a seizure while trying to go cold turkey and relapsed multiple times. Even after finally quitting alcohol, Alex admits he wasn’t happy in sobriety. After travelling to Colombia for an ayahuasca ceremony, Alex relapsed and brought his drinking back to the UK. When he eventually sought help, he made the decision to go all in on AA, something he had never truly done before. Follow Alex on Instagram: @recoveringalkialex Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    Debt, Multiple Relapses & Going All In on AA: Alex’s Story

  4. 9 Aug

    When the Perpetrator Is Family: Aunee’s Story (Part 2)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  This is the second and final part of Aunee’s two-part interview. We continue our conversation as Aunee opens up about the depths of her alcohol dependence, including constantly blacking out and reaching a point where she had no care for her children. She reflects on the neglect her children experienced, and how her eldest two never really got to have a childhood. Aunee was eventually tapered off alcohol by her father before entering detox and then spending months in rehab. She finishes this two-part series by reflecting on how she went from being a victim of abuse to becoming an abuser herself, and the trail of destruction that followed. Follow Aunee on Instagram: @Brown_Girl_In_a_Bottle Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    When the Perpetrator Is Family: Aunee’s Story (Part 2)

  5. 3 Aug • Subscribers Only

    From Meth Addiction to Motherhood: The Relapse Sam Never Saw Coming (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  How do you go from dealing meth, to getting sober for 12 years, only to have alcohol come in and destroy everything? That’s exactly what happened to Samantha. Growing up, Sam always felt like she had a racing mind. Alcohol was the first thing that made her anxiety disappear, but when meth and GHB entered her life, it felt like she had finally found something powerful enough to quiet the noise. What started as weekend partying quickly escalated into something much darker. Samantha went from using drugs to buying and selling large quantities, until a SWAT raid changed everything and she found herself facing federal charges and serving time in prison. But Samantha survived. She rebuilt her life, overcame her meth addiction, and spent the next 12 years sharing her story through inspirational talks and supporting others on their own recovery journeys. Then she became a mother. And during that season of her life, Samantha found herself facing her deepest battle yet. Follow Samantha on Instagram: @seefitliving Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    From Meth Addiction to Motherhood: The Relapse Sam Never Saw Coming (Subscriber Exclusive)

  6. 3 Aug • Subscribers Only

    How His Son’s Autism Diagnosis Saved Joby’s Life (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  Most people have a certain image of someone addicted to crack cocaine. Someone earning almost a million dollars a year probably isn't it. Joby was building a successful career in a high-pressure industry, and to keep up, snorting cocaine became part of the job. It made him feel awake, sharp and unstoppable. But cocaine wasn't enough forever. It became crack cocaine. Then meth to keep him going. Then heroin just so he could sleep. Everything changed when his son was born. At five years old, Joby's son was diagnosed with autism, and in that moment, Joby realised he had a choice to make. If he wanted to be the father his son deserved, his addiction couldn't come first anymore. Today, Joby is sober and dedicates his life to giving back. He's a passionate advocate for the autism community and the Special Olympics. Follow Joby on Instagram here: @JobySanchezOfficial RPSAPPAREL.com donates 10% of all profits to Autism Society of Texas. Every purchase helps support autism advocacy, awareness and resources for the community. Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    How His Son’s Autism Diagnosis Saved Joby’s Life (Subscriber Exclusive)

  7. 2 Aug

    When the Perpetrator Is Family: Aunee’s Story (PART 1)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  Aunee still remembers the nightie she was wearing as a little five-year-old girl when her uncle first introduced her to the “tickle game”. What was presented to her as a fun game she could play with someone she trusted was something much more sinister. This continued for years, and the ripple effects have been lifelong. Aunee’s story explores the devastating impact of generational trauma, complex mental health challenges and alcohol dependence, and how the pain of her own childhood trauma impacted not only her life, but also the lives of her three children. In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Aunee reflects on the painful reality of how unresolved trauma can shape the lives of those around us, sharing how she went from being a victim of abuse to recognising the ways her own trauma eventually led her to cause harm to others. Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    When the Perpetrator Is Family: Aunee’s Story (PART 1)

  8. 28 July • Subscribers Only

    How Verna Escaped 20 Years of Domestic Abuse (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Join our Patreon: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking⁠  Violence is all Verna has ever known. Growing up, she never witnessed a healthy relationship. Her parents were abusive towards each other and towards her. So when she met her former partner as a teenager, the warning signs didn’t seem unusual. Even scraps of his affection felt like enough. What followed was 20 years of domestic abuse. It began with emotional abuse and coercive control before escalating to physical and sexual violence. For years, Verna didn’t realise she was living in an abusive relationship. Everything changed when she attended a women’s community group and learned about DV. For the first time, she recognised what had been happening behind closed doors.  Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, addiction, drug use, mental health, suicide and recovery. If this episode raises anything for you, please reach out to a trusted support person or contact a crisis support service in your area. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠ Lifeline Australia provides 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14 ⁠https://www.lifeline.org.au⁠ 1800RESPECT provides support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. Call 1800 737 732 ⁠https://www.1800respect.org.au⁠ Creator & Host- Julia Rangiheuea Creative Director - Beaudene Perussich Image & Logo- Jasmine Rule In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    How Verna Escaped 20 Years of Domestic Abuse (Subscriber Exclusive)
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

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  • Creator
    Julia Rangiheuea
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    166
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Julia Rangiheuea
  • Show Website
    Soberly Speaking
  • Provider
    Julia Rangiheuea